The Puzzle

What do these events have in common?

A woman doesn’t show up to pick her child up from school in Ohio

A stolen Michigan license plate in Cresent Springs, Ky

A robbery of a Fla. pharmacy

A car accident in Mlbourne, Fl that ends in a police shooting

The Background

Michael (43) and Angela (37) Hild married in 2001. But in 2004 Angela Hild was filing for divorce. However after 6 months she dropped the divorce case. By 2007 Angela Hild was enrolled in college. And in college she talked and wrote about her life. And about the abuse she alleged to have recieved from her husband. In college she also met a young girl fresh out of high school. That girl allegedly had a problem, she said that she was being stalked. And it was Angela who told her that no one should be afraid and walked her to her car in the parking garage.

At some earlier point Michael Hild was being arrested in Michigan and was shot by police during the arrest. He lost his leg at that point. Police say he was known to sometimes hide weapon in the prosthetic leg. Michael Hild had spent time in prison on burglary charges, and in Feb. of 2008 he returned for a probation violation. He had been released in July of 2008.

By August 17 Angela Hild had filed for a temporary protection order against her husband.

August 21, the Angela Hild dropped her 5 year old son off at school in Dayton, Ohio. And she didn’t show up to pick him back up. Police say their investigation showed this was not a mother who would not show up to pick up her son. And that they had not had calls on her before. Her family feared the worst.

Days later Angela Hild’s car was found in the parking lot of a Dayton Ohio apartment building.

A license plate disappeared from a vehicle in Cresent Springs, Ky and that plate would show up later.

On Aug. 23 Hild’s vehicle was involved in an accident in Melbourne, Fla. and fled the scene. When police attempted to stop his vehicle, they say he got out and pointing a gun at the officers he fired. Hild was shot and killed by the officers. On Hild’s vehicle were the plates that were reported stolen in Cresent Springs, Ky. Police also say they have video of a man with a limp in a Fla. drug store and that drug store was later robbed. They are attempting to determine if Hild was involved.

One of Hild’s friends has told police that Hild called them and told them that he had dumped Angela’s body in Erlanger, Ky. Police have been searching but at this point have not located her remains.

On Monday Oct. 27, 2008 airport workers were trimming weeds and came across skeletal remains. There has not been a definite identification that the remains are Angela Hild as yet. The remains have been transferred to Frankfort, Ky. to the state examiner and attempts will be made to identify the remains.

The remains have been identified as Angela Hild.

Who’s Thinking of the Child?

Her name is Mary Elizabeth Nunes and she is 12. She was born in 1996, the same year that her parents were divorcing or got divorced. Since then there have been battles. By the time she was 7, her mother had filed a complaint of sexual abuse against the father. However, authorities were unable to substantiate that complaint.

By the age of 8 there were more complaints of abuse and by this time there were complaints of violence against the mother. Those charges have not been fully investigated, but maybe not for the reasons you might think. With that complaint Dr. Genevieve (San Martin) Kelley gave a videotape to authorities that she alleged proved the allegations of abuse. Authorities are not saying what was in the videos, but attention began turning toward Dr. Kelly and her relationship with Mary.

That was in 2004 and also in 2004 Mary was found to have health problems.

She has also been diagnosed with arterial venous malformation (AVM) – an abnormal collection of blood vessels and vascular formations that cause migraines, leg weakness, and complications that require specialized medical treatment and observation.

That was in 2004, and also in 2004 Mary, her mother Dr. Genevieve San Martin, M.D Kelley and her stepfather Scott Kelley first moved to Colorado, then they vanished.

There is a lot of concern for Mary, both for mental health and physical health reasons.The US Marshalls have been trying to locate the family and the family has been profiled on America’s Most Wanted several times. Various charges have been filed against Genevieve San Martin Kelley and her husband Scott Kelley for the disappearance.

Missing Poster    AMW  AMW

I will be the first to say that I believe that sometimes sexual abuse is not detected the first and sometimes even the second time it is investigated. And I also believe that no child should be sent to their father’s if it is found that he is sexually abusing the child. However, it has never been proven that the father was abusing the child. The mother moved the child to Colorado during the second investigation effectively stopping the second investigation. And she also submitted a videotape that put her care of the child in question. Going on the run doesn’t solve the problem, it just adds problems.

So while my first instinct might be to wonder if perhaps the mother might have taken the correct action, I stop to think. If the child has been sexually molested as the mother first alleged in 2003, wouldn’t she wish to get the child into sexual abuse treatment? She is a doctor, isn’t that what doctors recommend? A child who has been sexually abused needs a stable home life. Something that would be impossible to provide on the run, never knowing when they would have to run again. A child with physical health problems needs a doctor who is familiar with the child’s medical history and access to their previous health records. Again, impossible to provide when on the run.

If the child was not subjected to sexual abuse, then she was subjected to the trauma of psychological abuse and alienation of her feelings toward her father. I believe that psychological abuse is every bit as traumatic to a child as physical abuse and often has longer lasting results.

Born into a failing marriage, custody disputes and allegations by the age of 7 and 8, then on the run between the ages of 8-12. What does this do to a child? However this works out, whatever has been done to the child, a full investigation needs to be done and the child will need professional care.

Please check out some of the links on this case. They contain pictures of the mother, the stepfather, and of the child. They also contain information about things to be on the lookout for and more information on the events of the case. Then keep an eye out for the child, please.

The tip on this case came from Crime Scene Blog and more info can be found there. I want to thank him for the tip on this one.

Loss of Temper

Many times you will hear victims of domestic violence say “he/she wouldn’t really hurt me, doesn’t want to harm me, they just lost their temper.” What they mean is they lost control of their temper. And that loss of control can lead to unintended consequences.


It started with a wife looking for her husband. And she found him. Allegedly she found him with his brother. At a party and with another woman. And that of course led to an argument. The dispute allegedly spilled out into the neighborhood street.

But the wife called her cousin and asked to be picked up, to be removed from the situation. When the cousin arrived, she got in the vehicle and attempted to leave. Allegedly the husband and his brother also got into their vehicle. And they allegedly chased the vehicle the wife was in. Allegedly they also used their vehicle to ram the vehicle the wife and her cousin were in. Then allegedly the husband got out of the vehicle he was in and jumped on top of the vehicle his wife and her cousin were in and began beating on the windows. The cousin who was driving attempted to drive off.  

The husband reportedly fell off of the vehicle and hit the roadway. And the vehicle may have driven over him, though that doesn’t seem clear. The husband was pronounced dead.

The cousin drove about a mile away from the scene then abandoned his vehicle, fleeing on foot. He turned himself into police a few hours later. He was arrested on suspicion of a hit and run accident. Police have stated that had he remained at the scene, he most likely would not have been arrested as he was apparently a victim. The cousin reportedly told police that he left the scene because he was in this country illegally and feared being deported.

I have not seen whether police have confirmed about the brother and the husband using their vehicle to ram the vehicle his wife was riding in, or who was driving or whether there are any charges there.

Most of the domestic violence deaths I have seen did not appear to be planned. They appear as though someone loses their “temper”, also called loss of control. And where there is a loss of control, they may not mean to harm- but that doesn’t mean they won’t. A loss of control that includes violence means they may be unwilling or unable to stop before someone is harmed.

Once the loss of temper includes violence, the violence will usually happen again and again. And the nature of violence and loss of control is that it escalates. Every loss of control incident contains a risk of danger to the victim, because a loss of control is just that- they have lost control and may not be able to stop.

Once violence begins a couple cannot change that alone. They will need assistance. Many experts recommend counseling- sometimes for the abuser and sometimes for both partners. Many others recommend anger management. But no counseling or anger management will help unless the abuser is willing to admit the problem, be willing and committed to change- for the long term. In many cases, it is best just to leave. If/when they work out their violence problems, then it can be reevaluated.

I take no pleasure in this young man’s senseless death. The wife was attempting to flee and had the right to do so. But there is no pleasure in the loss of a life.


Early am on Thurs. a call for help. Dorothy Faulkner, 49 and her husband Damion Faulkner, 36, were rushed to the hospital. Police were told that the couple had awakened shortly before 6 am by an hispanic male with spiky hair, a stocky build, approx. 6 ft. tall. An intruder. According to statements the intruder fled without taking anything from the home. The couple’s two children were in bed asleep during the attack and only woke at the sound of breaking glass.

At the hospital, Dorothy Faulkner was pronounced dead of several stab wounds. Damion Faulkner was treated for minor injuries and released. And it was time for his police interview. By that time police had had time to review some of the evidence and they  have said that the evidence did not match the intruder story.

Hours later Faulkner confessed. He told police that he and his wife had been having financial and relationship problems. And he admitted to stabbing his wife. He also admitted to stabbing himself in an attempt to stage the crime scene to support the intruder story.       

I’m too young of course to remember the Great Depression, but during history class I heard the stories. The fall of the stock market, those who had invested in a panic and the number who committed suicide rather than admit to their family and friends that they were now broke.

Things are different now. The stock market hasn’t crashed, banks are not closing. But the economy is definately on a downswing. People accustomed to one standard of living, now struggling, sometimes unable to maintain that standard.

In the thirties, men often made most of the families financial decisions, were the family providers and saw themselves as protectors of the family. Now it is usually the couple that makes those decisions, the couple that are the providers and protectors of the children. And because both couples made the decisions, this can lead to blaming each other. I fear that as the economy remains on the down swing that we may see more of these or worse.

Financial problems threaten that self-esteem that was gained by being successful. Often there is depression associated with financial problems. And the associated hopelessness, the feeling that nothing will ever be good again, the feeling of being inadequate and unable to provide can prevent a person from seeing any hope of light at the end of the tunnel, any solution to the financial problems.


Twenty four year old Christa Ann Alexander was pregnant, the baby was reportedly due in Dec. Reports indicates that she was newly married to Couty Alexander, 23 (I’ve also seen his age reported as 22)  that they married in Mar.
Couty Alexander had recently completed emergency medical technican school and began working as a EMT. Both Couty and Christa were reported as active members of a church, Couty Alexander had served as a missionary both in the US and abroad. They have been described as a quiet couple, and it has been said that Christa rarely ventured out without her husband.
Sat. nite/Sun AM Couty Alexander reported to his job and served out his shift. At 5:51 am, after he returned home he called 911 and reported that he had just arrived home and found his wife dead. Neighbors have told media the home appeared to have been ransacked. Police have said that it appeared that Christa Alexander may have been shot.
By Sun. evening, Couty Alexander had been arrested for the murder of his wife.
Police say that Couty Alexander had told them that he found Christa dead when he arrived home from work, but they say that he later told told them she was dead before he had left to go to work. He allegedly told them that she was gathering clothing from the closet when he fired a shot and hit her in the head. Police charged Alexander with 2nd degree murder. Police say they have recovered the murder weapon.
By Monday charges had been upgraded. In addition to the 2nd degree murder charge, Alexander has also been charged with  1st degree feticide for the death of the unborn child. He was also charged with obstruction of justice, that charge is for allegedly attempting to stage the crime scene as a burglary.
Police say Alexander has confessed to the shooting. I have not seen any reports indicating a motive.
Newly married, adjusting to being two is stressful. A new job is stressful. Wife with hormone’s surging also a stressor. Life priorities changing from individual thinking to family thinking- also stressful. Thoughts of increases in bills due to the addition of a new, dependent life, becoming a new parent- also stressful. Yet many couples have started this way and made it through.
As I said, no one has yet mentioned why he allegedly shot her, but when I think of the stressors, when I think of what happens in a DV murder, and I think of her getting clothing from the closet I wonder. Had there been an argument, the kind of argument where one party says “I am leaving”? Many couples have that kind of argument at least once. Sometimes it lasts, sometimes it doesn’t. But if that is what it was, Christa won’t be coming back, because her opportunity to think through an argument, her right to make a decision about her life was taken from her. And in the process of taking Christa’s life, her child also lost it’s right to a life, it’s right to grow up and make it’s own life decisions.

Be On The Lookout

It is spring and a weekend. The weather is getting better, in many areas the sun is shining. We all tend to get out more at times like this, whether it is working in the yard or getting out and about. During your travels this weekend, even during your time next week I ask you to be on the lookout for three faces (pdf).

Not much has been announced about the background for this story. Anna D. Ellis, 38, is divorced and lived in Indianna and she has custody of her two daughters. According to reports she allegedly has suffered from some mental illness and recently attempted suicide. She reportedly has been taking medication for her illness.

On Thursday police recieved a call from Anna Ellis’s ex-husband. According to reports the ex-husband came home and found Anna Ellis in his home about 6:50 am. Allegedly she attacked him with pruning shears. He managed to get away and made the call to police. Police discovered that Ellis had taken the children from school about 9:30 am and she and the children have not been seen since. It is not known if Ellis has her medication with her. She reportedly does have access to weapons.

There is concern for the children’s safety.

Anna Ellis is described as white, 5’11” and and weighs about 115 pounds with blonde hair and blue eyes. She was last seen driving a 2008 Honda Pilot with Arizona license plate 771VRH.

The ten year old daughter is described as white with blonde hair and green eyes. She is about 4’6″ and about 90 lbs. The nine year old daughter is described as white with blonde hair and blue eyes and is about 4’5″ weighing about 85 lbs.

(Pictures at links)                                                                                                                                                  

If you don’t live in Arizona, why should you be concerned or on the lookout? With travel today this family could be anywhere in the country within 2 to 3 days. Or she could be enroute to elsewhere. Or she could be hiding out somewhere. So while the chances that you might come across her may be slim- it is possible.

What should you do if you suspect that you have come across a wanted person? Don’t approach and don’t ask questions. If they are in a vehicle, make note of the make, model and license plate as well as the direction of travel. Make contact with local police and advise them of your suspicions and the info you have.

If they determine that the person you suspect is the wanted person,  they will attempt to apprehend in a way that is as safe as possible for all involved.

A big thank you to Robert for the tip on this one.


Anna Ellis was located in Colorado on Fri. 5-2. She was arrested on an assault warrant. The children were with her and reportedly unharmed.

It’s not always simple

Benjamin Duling, 34, and his girlfriend Shelly McGrade, 35, have been described as quiet and that they worked a lot. They lived in a home surrounded by woods, more than 100 yards from another residence. The couple had two children ages 1 1/2 (I have seen the child listed as 2) years and 5 years old. Shelly McGrade was also the mother of two children from a previous relationship.

Friday night a near neighbor says she got a knock on the door. Allegedly there had been an altercation between Benjamin Duling and Shelly McGrade. Police were notified and when they arrived at the neighbors home, the 5 year old child, the 1 1/2 year old child and Benjamin Duling were there. At the home that Duling shared with McGrade, they found Shelly McGrade lifeless.

Police report that Benjamin Duling was injured when they arrived and it is believed he suffered those injuries during the alleged altercation with Shelly McGrade. He was taken to the hospital, treated and released. Duling was taken into custody for a time, but then was released. The 2 younger children are believed to have been present during the fight, but police say they were not physically harmed.

Police are investigating but as of last media report there have been no arrests. Police have declined to say if there was a weapon involved or the cause of Shelly McGrade’s death, though they do admit there was visible injuries. An autopsy has been scheduled. Police have said there does not appear to have been anyone else involved in the altercation other than McGrade and Duling. And they have said the manner of death does appear to be homicide.

According to the Senior Assistant Attorney General

Strelzin said prosecutors will review the evidence and “determine whether any criminal charges will be brought.” Some homicides lead to immediate arrests and others can take years to resolve, he said.                              

It’s not always simple. Before police can dismiss the investigation or if necessary make an arrest they have to be able to prove what happened Friday night. Fingerprints and DNA would be expected to be in the home from both Duling and McGrade. But there are other tests that can be used, though some of those tests might take time. An autopsy also has to be performed.

I was interested in the fact that police have termed Shelly McGrade’s death to be a homicide. Homicide is defined by the

The killing of one human being by another human being.

Although the term homicide is sometimes used synonymously with murder, homicide is broader in scope than murder. Murder is a form of criminal homicide; other forms of homicide might not constitute criminal acts. These homicides are regarded as justified or excusable. For example, individuals may, in a necessary act of self-Defense, kill a person who threatens them with death or serious injury, or they may be commanded or authorized by law to kill a person who is a member of an enemy force or who has committed a serious crime. Typically, the circumstances surrounding a killing determine whether it is criminal. The intent of the killer usually determines whether a criminal homicide is classified as murder or manslaughter and at what degree.


So basically at this time, police are not saying what happened.


Thank you to Amanda for providing an update.

According to reports, the couple was arguing in the kitchen of the home and the children were present. Shelly McGrade was stabbed in the neck and the back. Duling received an injury to his hand during the altercation. Duling has been arrested and charged with 2nd degree murder. The younger children reportedly did witness the attack and efforts are being made to obtain counseling for them. The older children were away from the home. Duling was with his two young children until his arrest, now all of the children are reported to be with relatives.

National Crime Victims Rights Week

                                     Justice for VICTIMS. Justice for ALL. National Crime Victims' Rights Week 2008 Resource Guide Online Now.

Yesterday Neal’s Mom left a message on behalf of her son and grandchildren, and I liked it so well I asked permission to borrow her words.

First, it reminded me that April 13-19 th is National Crime Victims Rights Week. This week is set aside to honor crime victims, promote victims rights and the ones who advocate for them.

Second, it is a reminder that domestic violence is a crime. And that victims of domestic violence do have rights, and resources. All that is waiting for the victim who reaches out a hand. With help, domestic violence victims can become survivors.

Now on to Neal’s Moms post:

In honor of Victims Rights Week, here is the official song of victim’s groups like Justice for Homicide Victims and Parents of Murdered Children:

We Are the Survivors

There are those of us whose mothers have been taken from our arms.
There are those of us with children we could not keep safe from harm.
There are those of us who’ve lived to see our fathers lose our lives.
And each and every one of us survives.


We are the survivors, left behind to carry on.
We are the survivors, joined together we are strong.
We will speak out for our loved ones who were not given a choice.
We are the survivors, hear our voice.

Maybe some of us have brothers who were here, but now they’re gone.
You can ask about our sisters, because their memory is strong.
We are sons and we are daughters, we are husbands, we are wives.
And each and every one of us survives


We are the survivors, left behind to carry on.
We are the survivors, joined together we are strong.
We will speak out for our loved ones who were not given a choice.
We are the survivors, hear our voice.

With a part of us that never heals, and our fear of the unknown.
There’s a strength in knowing through it all, you’re not alone


We are the survivors, left behind to carry on.
We are the survivors, joined together we are strong.
We will speak out for our loved ones who were not given a choice.
We are the survivors, hear our voice. 

The song “We Are Survivors” was written by Richard Wright in 1993, in honor of his father. It was performed by Kim Tewksbury. They donated the song to the Parents of Murdered Children. If you click over to their site you can listen to the song being performed.

Thank you for leaving this post Neal’s Mom.

We do all have a voice. And it is time to become an advocate. To speak out against domestic violence, to lobby for more effective laws and to become proactive.

Sweet Sentiments

“I have no doubt that we are meant to be together forever, you are everything to me and without you I would be lost in this crazy world.”

“He needs someone who’s faithful, only his lips may she kiss.” A stanza of a poem

Both messages were found on the MySpace page of Bekime “Becky” Elshani and believed to have been written to her by Daniel Dereere.

Something was worrying the parents of 22 year old Bekime “Becky” Elshani, so on Monday they called police. A part of their concern may have been the history.

Becky lived with 25 year old Daniel Dereere (I have also seen it spelled Dereer, I’m not sure which is correct.) And as it is sometimes put “there was a history.” Last May the two had an altercation, possibly over telephone calls that Becky Elshani had received from her ex-husband. And according to reports, Becky Elshani struck Dereere in the face. Later in Oct. there are reports that Dereere and Becky were at a party and Becky felt that Dereere was too intoxicated to drive. She attempted to get his keys from him, but when she did he tased her. She reported to police it was about 20 times. Both incidents were charged, both went to court and both were dismissed.

Some reports indicate that Becky Elshani may have been seeing her ex-husband late last year. And that Dereere was upset over that. So the way he expressed himself was to reportedly hack into her MySpace page and post nude pictures of her online. She filed charges on that and it was due to go to court last week. But the two reconciled.

Her father says that he didn’t see the anger in Dereere. So it may have been the information that a friend has alleged that Dereere had also threatened Becky and said that if he couldn’t have her, no one could. That he would kill her, then himself.

The couple were at her parents home on Saturday and Becky stepped outside the home. She may have stepped outside to meet with her ex-husband or Dereere may have thought she was meeting him. The two argued that night. That is the last night that Becky was seen.  

Her parents called police and asked them to check on Becky on Monday. And police went to the home. They report that as they arrived they heard a popping sound. They made entry into the home and found Daniel Dereere dead from an apparent suicide. Police report there was no sign of Becky in the home, there was no sign of a struggle and Dereere did not leave a suicide note.

But when police checked Dereere’s vehicle they say they found blood, tests are being run to determine if it was Becky Elshani’s blood. Police believe that it may be a sign of foul play.

Bekime “Becky” Elshani was last seen last Saturday. She is described as 5’5″ and 110 lbs, white female. Police have been conducting aerial searches of areas that Dereere was known to frequent for camping and family and friends have been conducting ground searches.

Police say the ex-husband is not a suspect in Becky’s disappearance.

Police are asking that if anyone saw Becky Elshani or Daniel Dereere that weekend they would like them to make contact with police.                        

The words are romantic, the sentiment sweet. But even back when this was written there are hints of what was to come.

“We are meant to be together forever” leaves me to question what happens if one decides to leave? What does forever mean to him and what if forever doesn’t last?

“You are everything to me” Everyone has other things in their lives, if that person is focusing to the extent that they believe you are all- what happens if you change your mind?

“Only his lips may she kiss” to me the line just oozes possessiveness.

Yes, receiving those messages would have been flattering at first. But when you really think about such messages they seem more ominous. Sweet sentiments are easy to say and even can be easy to write. But you also have to look at the actions behind the words.

Talking to her ex-husband caused an argument that became violent. Yet she cared enough about Dereere to try to stop him from driving drunk. And for that, she got tased.


Searches are still being conducted for Becky Elshani. Premier Helicopter company has volunteered a helicopter and pilot to the search and newschannel 13 is also volunteering. More ground searchers are needed.


Christopher Lukacs, 27, and Ambre King, 29, resided together as boyfriend and girlfriend. King was the mother of two children, a boy age 7 and a girl age 4. Lukacs is reportedly the father of the 4 year old girl. Also allegedly in the home was another mother and her two children. She was also allegedly Lukacs girlfriend.

On March 25 th, King’s father reportedly recieved a call saying that Lukacs was beating his daughter Ambre King. He went to the home to pick up his grandchildren. And what he allegedly saw there would make a strong man cry, let alone any grandfather. According to at least one media source, he found his 4 year old granddaughter naked and bleeding.

Police were called and an investigation was completed. The case was taken to the Grand Jury. And Lukacs was arrested for one count of felonious assult and rape. 4 charges of rape. Prosecutors say this was not the first time the little girl had been raped. Investigators believe that the rapes began in Dec. of 2007 and that she had been raped “repeatedly” since. The investigation also revealed that at least one attack on her had resulted in her being taken to the hospital for vaginal injuries. Allegedly the story the parents gave for her injuries was that she had fallen on some Legos. But for some reason there was never any investigation, followup or report and the little girl was sent back home with her parents. Both the prosecutor and the hospital have pledged to investigate why.

Christopher Lukacs was reportedly a known sex offender. He was convicted of gross sexual imposition in 2000 for an assault on a 12 year old child. If you check Lukacs name on the National Sex Offender registry, it says that he is compliant with his registration, his most recent photo is from 03-10-08. And he was still on parole.

Prosecutors say that was not all the investigation revealed. Prosecutors say that Ambre King knew of the abuse and did not report or take steps to protect her daughter. She has been arrested on a charge of endangering children.

The prosecutor has made another pledge in this case

“The ever- increasing abuse of children in our community is unacceptable,” Deters said. “I want to be very clear on this subject. If you choose to rape a child, you had better be prepared to spend the rest of your life in jail.”


National Sex Offender Public Website

For many many years, a person could rape a child, serve his time, get out of jail or prison and deny it ever happened. He could meet new people and prey on other children. But now there is a tool to help prevent that. It is called the National Sex Offender Public Website. If you have children, I suggest you use it. If you don’t have children, but plan on it, it is a good idea to use it. Even if you are just dating someone it is a good idea to use it. Remember a tool is only useful if it is used.

Now my understanding from what I am seeing and hearing is that Lukacs was already on the sex offender list when the child’s mother had the 4 year old child. Whether she knew about his sex offender status or not, I have no way of knowing. But I am guessing she probably knew, if not from him telling her, she may have had some inkling from the correspondence coming to the home.

 Now it is possible that she didn’t know about the abuse. But according to info from the investigation and probably the hospital visit, it is believed that she knew. She knew and remained with Lukacs. She knew and her child continued to be raped. She knew and did not have him arrested.

Yet on Mar. 25th, she calls her father because she is being beaten. Now I have no way of knowing, was she being beaten because she was trying to prevent the rape? If that was why she was beaten, then why didn’t she call police instead of her father? The only way to assure that her child’s father did not rape her, would be to report him, move away and get some help for her daughter.

Did she fear having her children taken away? If she had reported the abuse her children could not have been removed from her because someone else abused her children, as long as she did not participate and reported it as soon as she became aware of it.

Did she perhaps fear that she would be beaten more severely if she reported the abuse? If she had reported the abuse, he would be in jail and not able to beat her.

Many times a woman will have reasons for staying with an abusive man. There are even some excuses I can reluctantly accept. A woman is an adult and does have the right to make her own decisions about her life. But every woman should remember that if she makes a decision to remain in an abusive situation, she is sentencing her child, who doesn’t have the right to make decisions- to a life of violence.

But IMO there is never any acceptable excuse for any parent to remain with a person who is abusing the children. Never. Not even if they are the child’s parent. And not even if they love them.


At the time the grandfather came to the home, the children of the other mother are aged 4 and 1 year old, and they reportedly begged to go with him. After the allegations against Lukacs, the mother sent those children to Georgia to live with relatives. Due to a concern for those children, authorities are now working with Georgia authorities to investigate if they had been abused.

According to the prosecutor, evidence of the sexual abuse was apparent.

Reportedly on Lukacs sex offender status, he was due to report earlier this year and failed to do so. He was arrested for that and that charge is pending.

He was also charged with domestic violence on Mar. 31 on the allegation that he hit Ambre King in the face on Mar. 25.

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