He was out on bond

Terry Stoess, 49, and his unnamed girlfriend is reported to be between the ages of 35-40. They resided together with the girlfriend’s mother Bobbie Eagle, 72. Neighbors have said they didn’t know the family well as they had only moved into the neighborhood within the last year.

Two weeks ago the girlfriend took out a restraining order against Terry Stoess. She reported that the two had been in an argument and Stoess had hit her on the arm. She tried to get to a phone to call her sister- but allegedly Stoess pulled the phone cord out of the wall. When she attempted to use other phones, the same thing happened.

Allegedly Stoess threatened to kill her then left the home.The girlfriend then noted that Stoess’s gun was missing.

Stoess was arrested the same day on charges of terroristic threats and 4th degree assault.  He was out of jail on bond the next day.

Fri. night a friend stopped by their home. Inside the home she found three people with gunshot wounds. Terry Stoess and the girlfriend’s mother Bobbie Eagle were pronounced dead in the home. The girlfriend was alive but in critical condition.

Police say the girlfriend’s mother had multiple gunshot wounds and Terry Stoess had one. His wound is believed to have been self inflicted.

Police and neighbors have said police have been called to the home for domestic issues in the past.

I did not see any indication as to whether Stoess had returned to the home after the restraining order. But police were checking out a vehicle located a block away which may have belonged to one of the household members.

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Out on Bond. How I hate that phrase. Yes, I know that prior to a trial all persons are presumed to be innocent and thus are eligible to be released if they can post a bond (or sometimes on their own recognizance.)

But we are talking about an angry person. Many times a rage filled person, made angrier by their arrest. An angry person who knows their victim’s home address, workplace and schedule. And often knows who they will seek out for support and safety.

Some communities have electronic monitoring that a judge can order for a person accused of some crimes- including domestic violence. Some do not. Sometimes it is offered and sometimes not.  Sometimes it helps to ask if it is available.

If someone is arrested for domestic violence offenses, be prepared. They will get out quickly. Sometimes mere hours after the arrest. So a decision to seek a safe place does have to be made and acted on quickly.

As a crime victim (yes, domestic violence related incidents are crimes) you have certain rights. Victim rights can differ from state to state. Ask what your rights as a victim are. If you have had someone arrested for DV, ask if you can be notified if/when they get released on bond. 


The surviving girlfriend’s condition has been upgraded from critical to serious.

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She went to work

Mary Lynn Babb, 30, was reportedly going through some tough times with her estranged husband Thomas Daniel Babb. She had gotten a personal protection order against him, but through it all fellow employees say she kept a positive attitude.

At the newspaper office where she worked she was known as a model employee, smart and hard-working. Only at the office 6 months, she had recently been named employee of the month. It was at that office on Tuesday about 4:30 PM, while she was in her vehicle in the parking lot that her estranged husband allegedly  rammed her SUV with his truck.

Allegedly he pushed her vehicle across the parking lot and caused it to flip on it’s top. And witnesses have said that with her still in the vehicle, Babb got out of his truck, walked up to the SUV , and shot 2 or more times. Reportedly Babb then fled the scene, but witnesses had gotten his license plate number.

Mary Lynn Babb was taken to the hospital, where she was later pronounced dead. She was the mother of a 4 year old little boy. Police believe her estranged husband was waiting in the parking lot for her.

Allegedly, after leaving the office Babb went to his parents home. And reportedly he drove the vehicle in a ditch there and caught a ride from a passerby that was not aware that police were hunting for him.

Police found the vehicle and then found his with the person with whom he had caught a ride. They surrounded the vehicle and he was reportedly taken into custody without incident.

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One more child who will grow up without a mother. At four, he will have difficulty understanding what death means. He will still want his mother. And he will grow up with only vague stories and pictures instead of memories of his mother being with him at key moments in his life.

His mother will not take him to school his first day. She won’t kiss him before his first date. She won’t be there when he gets his driver’s license, or worry if he breaks curfew. She won’t see him go to prom or get married or hold her first grandchild. And he will miss her through all of those things, even though he may not be sure of just exactly what he is missing.

When afraid, do get a protection/restraining order. But do not assume the other party will abide by it. Take shelter, either somewhere he won’t know where to find you or in a shelter.

Going to work is something most have to do. But if possible take a leave of absence, a vacation, or a different job. If that is not possible, change where you park or consider taking a cab that will drop you right at the entrance to the building. Use different exits in and out of the building. Vary your routes to and from work. Carry a cell phone. And above all, use that protection order- if you think you see the other party- call police. Every time.


At the arraignment Babb was charged with 7 counts including felony murder, open murder and aggravated stalking. Babb’s attorney has filed a motion for a forensic examination, possibly requesting a competency or psychiatric exam.

Babb had previously been charged with sexual assault and beating his wife and was out on bond.


The question is being asked- how did Babb have a gun? A prior felony conviction prohibited Babb from having possession of a weapon. And the protection order that she had taken out banned Babb from not only contacting her, but also banned him from possessing a weapon. Police say they have not identified the murder weapon, but they are processing several.


A good article that explores the control issues common to DV.


Thomas Babb ordered to undergo mental evaluation.