Sweet Sentiments

“I have no doubt that we are meant to be together forever, you are everything to me and without you I would be lost in this crazy world.”

“He needs someone who’s faithful, only his lips may she kiss.” A stanza of a poem

Both messages were found on the MySpace page of Bekime “Becky” Elshani and believed to have been written to her by Daniel Dereere.

Something was worrying the parents of 22 year old Bekime “Becky” Elshani, so on Monday they called police. A part of their concern may have been the history.

Becky lived with 25 year old Daniel Dereere (I have also seen it spelled Dereer, I’m not sure which is correct.) And as it is sometimes put “there was a history.” Last May the two had an altercation, possibly over telephone calls that Becky Elshani had received from her ex-husband. And according to reports, Becky Elshani struck Dereere in the face. Later in Oct. there are reports that Dereere and Becky were at a party and Becky felt that Dereere was too intoxicated to drive. She attempted to get his keys from him, but when she did he tased her. She reported to police it was about 20 times. Both incidents were charged, both went to court and both were dismissed.

Some reports indicate that Becky Elshani may have been seeing her ex-husband late last year. And that Dereere was upset over that. So the way he expressed himself was to reportedly hack into her MySpace page and post nude pictures of her online. She filed charges on that and it was due to go to court last week. But the two reconciled.

Her father says that he didn’t see the anger in Dereere. So it may have been the information that a friend has alleged that Dereere had also threatened Becky and said that if he couldn’t have her, no one could. That he would kill her, then himself.

The couple were at her parents home on Saturday and Becky stepped outside the home. She may have stepped outside to meet with her ex-husband or Dereere may have thought she was meeting him. The two argued that night. That is the last night that Becky was seen.  

Her parents called police and asked them to check on Becky on Monday. And police went to the home. They report that as they arrived they heard a popping sound. They made entry into the home and found Daniel Dereere dead from an apparent suicide. Police report there was no sign of Becky in the home, there was no sign of a struggle and Dereere did not leave a suicide note.

But when police checked Dereere’s vehicle they say they found blood, tests are being run to determine if it was Becky Elshani’s blood. Police believe that it may be a sign of foul play.

Bekime “Becky” Elshani was last seen last Saturday. She is described as 5’5″ and 110 lbs, white female. Police have been conducting aerial searches of areas that Dereere was known to frequent for camping and family and friends have been conducting ground searches.

Police say the ex-husband is not a suspect in Becky’s disappearance.

Police are asking that if anyone saw Becky Elshani or Daniel Dereere that weekend they would like them to make contact with police.

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The words are romantic, the sentiment sweet. But even back when this was written there are hints of what was to come.

“We are meant to be together forever” leaves me to question what happens if one decides to leave? What does forever mean to him and what if forever doesn’t last?

“You are everything to me” Everyone has other things in their lives, if that person is focusing to the extent that they believe you are all- what happens if you change your mind?

“Only his lips may she kiss” to me the line just oozes possessiveness.

Yes, receiving those messages would have been flattering at first. But when you really think about such messages they seem more ominous. Sweet sentiments are easy to say and even can be easy to write. But you also have to look at the actions behind the words.

Talking to her ex-husband caused an argument that became violent. Yet she cared enough about Dereere to try to stop him from driving drunk. And for that, she got tased.


Searches are still being conducted for Becky Elshani. Premier Helicopter company has volunteered a helicopter and pilot to the search and newschannel 13 is also volunteering. More ground searchers are needed.




  1. Trey said,

    April 7, 2008 at 1:37 pm

    Getting tased for trying to save your hubby’s life, I call that a clue. A warning sign, a red flag, a hint, a taste of things to come.

    Why has our culture become so accustomed to the violence that preceedes violent and deadly assault? Why do people put up with this type of acting out?


  2. jolynna said,

    April 16, 2008 at 4:32 pm

    I just googled and they still haven’t found her. 😦

    Unfortunately, women often grow up reading the kind of romance novels and soaps that make words like Dereere’s seem romantic, not dangerous. I even think there is a high associated with the intensity of being with that kind of man as opposed to more stable guys.

    I lived past my days of being attracted to the “Heathcliff” types.

  3. Trey said,

    April 16, 2008 at 5:25 pm

    Jolynna, that is an interesting comment. I think we can become imprinted on an ambivelent other, and spend our life trying to be good enough to win them over. And when they do pay attention to and accept us, it is indeed a high. A very different feeling from steady, dependable love! Maybe in the same way that my commute to work is very different from the high of a roller coaster.

    Sadly, relationships with some people is much closer to a runaway train than a roller coaster, though they feel the same till the crash.

    In the same way, we can become imprinted on an other who resents and mistreats us. We can spend our lives looking for that familiarity too. If it goes really deep, we can seek to provoke it. Not that ANYTHING justifies abuse or murder, but it can feel intense and recognizable and the best we know.

    If we are stuck on winning someone over, we cannot appreciate the person who is always there. They are well and solidly won, and the emotional payoff is more subtle and longer lasting than the intensity and brief spark of winning over the unavailable other.


  4. Tara said,

    April 17, 2008 at 12:10 am

    I think that even if Dan does end up being guilty…you should all be a little more considerate to his friends and family. He hasn’t been proven guilty- so this may possibly be the last little time he has with a decent name. He is somebody’s son…people out there love him, and your cruel comments could leave some grieving family member or friend to also make bad decisions out of grief and pain. Let them grieve, keep your opinion-soaked comments to yourself. Your hurting other people. What if he was your son? Do any of you even have kids? I would think not, and if so- out yourself in his mother’s shoes. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

  5. Trey said,

    April 17, 2008 at 1:28 am

    Tara wrote: “He hasn’t been proven guilty- so this may possibly be the last little time he has with a decent name.”

    Tara, I am not familiar with the case, but if his good name is on its last legs because he murdered someone, I say good riddence to his good name! And what about the time he has enjoyed a “good name” after he killed someone? Seems like he owes some bad name time to make up for it.

    “your cruel comments could leave some grieving family member or friend to also make bad decisions out of grief and pain.” That is an attempt to Rescue by making the grieving family members helpless victims who were forced to make bad decisions. We are all responsible adults, and nothing that someone else says can make us otherwise.

    Besides, nobody posted anything cruel at all. What was posted were facts about the case and thoughts about the implications of the report. Nobody wrote “Dan is a murdering psychopath” or “Too bad he killed himself so he could not get the electric chair.” Those would be mean posts, but nobody made them.

    “Do any of you even have kids? I would think not, and if so- out yourself in his mother’s shoes. You should be ashamed of yourselves.”

    I bet some of the people who have posted have kids. Maybe even some of the people who posted had their kids murdered. Not me, I have 4 kids, but none murdered. Telling other people to be ashamed is called shaming. What do you think I have to be ashamed about?

    It is interesting, but none of the comments say anything critical about him. Mine never even mentioned him by name! That is very interesting to me, that you come to Rescue someone who was not criticized. What is the point you are trying to make?


  6. Tara said,

    April 17, 2008 at 11:50 pm

    The basis for my reaction: Dan’s mother is my next door neighbor… and Dan was my boyfriend my freshman year in high school. I’ve watched her break down in tears- recalling happier memories from years before. Dan was a bright, talented young man. Insecure- yes, but he had a lot going for him. The way that you talk about him tasing her- the police believed that she stretched what really happened. AND- if you did know the case, you’d know that the couple had a history of hurting each other- and getting the authorities involved. This may have been a long time coming- but either way, it wasn’t just him. Unfortunately- he may have taken it too far. (if indeed, he is guilty.) It just seemed to me that your comments left no hope that maybe he could be innocent, and I’d hate for a family member to read something like that. Dan may have been in the wrong- but that’s not his family’s fault. They don’t need more reasons to hurt.

  7. April 18, 2008 at 6:33 am

    Thank you Tara. Now we have listened to you and it is my turn.

    “comments could leave some grieving family member or friend to also make bad decisions out of grief and pain.”

    Sounds somewhat like a threat. Threats, even on the internet is illegal and will not be tolerated here.

    You are wrong in that I did give consideration that his parents are grieving. Yes, I can understand that. And yes, my words can cause additional pain. However, from what I understand their loss was at their son’s choosing. And they were able to have the formalities and honor him in their own ways.

    But there is another family who is torn between grief and yet wishing they had hope. Fearing they don’t. This other family is searching for their loved one. And they don’t believe that her disappearance was voluntary. They fear the worst, yet they have been denied the formalities to honor their loved one.

    Yes, his family probably wishes this would just go away and everyone would forget about it so they can mourn in peace. But as long as Becky is missing, many will be talking about it and many will be searching for her. It won’t go away until she is found. And when she is found, whether it be this week or 5 years from now, it will still be coming up.

  8. Trey said,

    April 18, 2008 at 2:54 pm

    “The way that you talk about him tasing her”

    But I never talked about Dan tasing anyone. Please read my comment again, carefully this time. I wrote that being tased by your partner, in general, is a sign and a warning to get out of the relationship. I stand by that statement. It was a general statement and did not refer to Dan but to anyone who tases their spouse. Do you think that tasing your spouse or “loved one” is a sign of a good relationship?

    “It just seemed to me that your comments left no hope that maybe he could be innocent,”

    There is no hope that he may be innocent in my comments because I never addressed him by name. I am not familiar with the case, so I did not comment upon it. I did comment upon the behaviors described, but not the people that were alleged to have done it. If you re-read what I wrote, you will see that.

    “I’d hate for a family member to read something like that. Dan may have been in the wrong- but that’s not his family’s fault. They don’t need more reasons to hurt.”

    “Unfortunately- he may have taken it too far.”

    See, I think that tasing took it too far. I think that cussing your partner takes it too far. My wife and I have a rule, nobody cusses the other. If your report is accurate, they both took it too far by hitting and cussing each other. It went way too far before anyone got hurt.

    I would be ashamed and appologize if I wrote anything hateful about Dan, or anyone else for that matter. But I did not. We do agree that whatever Dan did wrong, it was his responsibility, not his family’s. And we agree that they do not need any more reasons to hurt, that is why I did not give them any.


  9. hisfamily said,

    April 22, 2008 at 5:50 am

    Happy Birthday Danny! I Love You

  10. Theresa said,

    April 23, 2008 at 4:23 pm

    I am the mother of Danny and I have that Poem and it is not written in Danny’s handwriting. It’s amazing how many people seem to have the answer to this tragedy. I am Danny’s mother and I know alot more about him (I hope) than the rest of you. NONE of my family members have made threats!!!!!!! My son was to be 25 years old on Friday. He was an adult. I am sure there are many things that transpired between Becky and Danny, good and bad. Please let my son rest. We pray and hope that Becky will be found soon, hopefully alive. Danny was a good, soft hearted, loving kind soul. I don’t understand why all this had to come about. I loved and will always love my son, I’m his mother, my son committed suicide and of course we know the rest of the implications. I pray that he didn’t do anything. Being his mom I can’t believe that he would. He is gone now and put your energy where it is needed! God Bless, Theresa P.S. If anyone has questions and I have an answer please feel free to ask. Like I said before this is a horrible thing for all parties involved. I also know a different side to the taser.

  11. April 23, 2008 at 5:03 pm

    Theresa, my sympathies on the loss of your son. It is always difficult when a family member chooses to end their own life when you know how much they were loved and how much living was available to them.

    The reference to a threat was to a specific poster and was not directed to your family. I am sorry if it appeared like it was.

  12. hisfamily said,

    April 24, 2008 at 6:00 am

    hi auntie its heather, i just wanted u to know i love you!! and i pray for all this everyday.. i will call you soon.

  13. Theresa said,

    April 24, 2008 at 10:45 am

    Gppd Morning,
    Hi Heather. Since, I am not savy to the computer, I was never added to Danny’s friend list because I wasn’t signed up on Myspace.com at that time. I retract what I said about the poem, my daughter showed me the poems that Danny had written to Becky. My mistake………..Trey you talked about Danny’s good name, until something like this happens in your life or someone close to you, you could never understand, as I never understood before. As far as I’m concerned my son will ALWAYS have a good name in my heart. There are soooooo many things that go along with this case that we may never know about. It breaks my heart everyday, Just like the Elshani’s, not knowing, no closure. Yes, I have my son, but there are soooooooooo many unanswered questions. Will we ever know the truth?????????????????????? I hope that people will focus on looking for Becky. As children grow up they keep so much from their parents, as they should. They are building there own life and as parents you can only hope and pray that they will make the right decisions. No one in their right mind commits suicide. They feel hopeless, helpless and feel that they are of no good to this world and that there is no way out. I wished my son wouldv’e called me. Where their drugs involved? Becky or Danny? All these questions can drive a person in sane, so I try (doesn’t always work) to focus on the good things that my son did and there where many. I talked to Becky a couple of times over the years and she seemed like a real sweety. I knew they had theyr’e problems, but who doesn’t? There is nothing good that has come out of this! I am ever so thankful for the love of my family and friends that have helped me and supported me in my times of grief. God is the only one that knows and I believe he has forgiven Danny and that Danny is up in heaven snowboarding. God Bless You All, Theresa

  14. April 24, 2008 at 3:42 pm

    Theresa, there is never anything good that comes out of things like this. You are his mother and you loved him and that is as it should be. When he was young and did something that had to be corrected, you corrected him- but still loved him. He was adult now and you are right, adult children don’t often call their parents to talk about the advisability for their decisions. But you still have the right to love them. And I am sure that in his life he has done things that made you proud. That is ok too, he was your son. By his age, I would guess you have many beautiful memories of him. Cling to those memories.

  15. hisfamily said,

    April 24, 2008 at 7:52 pm

    i just miss my cousin and hate hate hate not having any answers… it all seems so unfair.

  16. Trey said,

    April 24, 2008 at 9:11 pm

    Theresa, I did not intend to hurt your feelings or cause you pain and I regret doing so. I will not comment on this matter further out of respect for your love for your son. Thank you for sharing your feelings about what I said, I appologize and will not repeat that mistake.

    God bless and keep you.


  17. Theresa said,

    April 25, 2008 at 1:02 am

    Dear Trey,
    You really seem like a nice young man. I am happy that you and your wife have good morals. I am not angry. This is America, you have a right to voice your opinion as do I. Apology accepted…God Bless, Theresa

  18. the sister said,

    April 25, 2008 at 1:48 am

    I don’t believe any of this, she was a fighter, if Daniel did something terrible to her I believe she put up a very good fight. I was the last one to see her, I picked her up from the tasing incident and he realy hurt her that time. And the ex husband called the cops first,cause he was worried about Becky, I was there with my fiance we showed the cops where Becky and Daniel lived and I heard the gunshot, it sounded muffled, and the cops ran up, and I immediatly knew something wasn’t right. noone has the right to take anyones life, and there is an investigation with a few things right now that do not match. Daniel sent a letter to his brother ( POSTMARKED ON SUNDAY!) and said he can have all his belonings, and the brother has been transferring thousands of dollars into his own account and other interesting things …seems as though someone knows something and is not saying anything! I just hope my sister is alright, Dan took his own life, Becky didn’t want to go, he didn’t have to take her down with him! Thou shall not kill, I do not believe he is in heaven. Bekime’ We love You! Your in our prayers.

  19. hisfamily said,

    April 25, 2008 at 3:13 am

    what does danny’s money have to do with any of this? i do hope all is well with ur sister, but because our family is takeing care of anything of dannys is none of ur business.

  20. April 25, 2008 at 3:20 am

    The Sister. I am so sorry for what you and your family is going through. I know you have been doing what you can to locate Becky and I had hopes that you would be successful. Still, just because you haven’t found her yet, doesn’t mean that you will not find her. It just might take more time, so don’t give up hope yet.

    BTW it isn’t unusual for a person planning suicide to either leave a letter telling what they want to do with their possessions or to mail a letter outlining their wishes.

  21. Trey said,

    April 25, 2008 at 4:46 am

    Hey Theresa, I will pass onto my wife the part about being young. She will love it! Thank you for your gracious forgiveness.


  22. Theresa said,

    April 25, 2008 at 12:17 pm

    Dear Sister,
    I am glad that you are defending Becky as I am defending my son. I am his mother, what does one expect me to say? That he is a murderer and he is going to rot in hell!!! I do not have the power and wisdom to make that decision. It is only God that knows!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We know nothing. Do you honestly think that Danny would call us and tell us that he was going to kill himself. Do we know yet that Danny hurt Becky? You seem to know alot more about my son’s finances and letters than I do. Heck, I didn’t know when the letter was postmarked. I do know that someone besides a family member did try to get into his checking account. I wish that Danny would have gotten help, left Colorado or something to avoid this terrible tragedy. I know you long to find your sister and I pray that she will be found alive. The family of Danny’s feels nothing but sadness for your family and of course for the loss of my son and the disappearance of Becky. We have no ANSWERS, we have no secrets. If there was something that would help we would call the detectives on the case. We had NO control over what has transpired. It is awful, sad, painful, horrendous and too unreal to think about, but unfortunately we have to deal with it on a daily basis. I am sorry for what your family is going through, but I too and many others in my family are grieving for the loss of our son, brother, nephew, grandson, cousin, aunts and uncles. Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Please, I beg of you don’t say that my son is in hell unless of course you are God and you have the book of Life in front of you. Anger will get no one anywhere. Are we going to be angry and sad, of course, but please be careful about what you say about my son, I have not said one negative thing about your sister or her ex-husband Wes. Like,I said before there has not been any confirmation that Danny hurt your sister, yes there is some evidence that I am not going to put on this site, but you are aware of it. God Bless You and may the hatred in your heart about my son slowly fade as the days go on. Theresa

  23. April 26, 2008 at 4:17 am

    Right now I think it is important to remember that both Becky’s family and friends as well as Danny’s family and friends are grieving. Both will be angry. And both are in fear. Yes, both are in fear. For Becky’s well being and a need to find out what happened to her. But for Danny’s family, they also fear having it shown that he has taken someone else’s life. That is hard at any time, but even more difficult when you are already grieving.

    Now I am not privy to the police findings, and I don’t ask that people share more than they wish to. But from my reading of the articles, police do seem to believe that Becky did not leave due to her own wishes and that foul play is a possibility. And her family is upset and frustrated that they have not been able to find her. And angry at the person they believe to have caused her disappearance. So it is probably pretty understandable that they will not be wishing well, the person they feel is responsible.

    Many times in absence of the person thought to be guilty of a crime, family will turn their anger to the persons closest to the person they believe to be guilty. But I do believe in this case, had the family had prior notice or the ability to stop this they would have. So to blame family for grieving a loved one, or to blame them for what occurred is just as wrong as believing that no one should blame the person thought to have killed someone, just because they are no longer able to speak up for themselves.

    Please recognize that both sides are hurting right now, and that both sides have experienced loss.

  24. Theresa said,

    April 26, 2008 at 1:10 pm

    Dear Home Sweet Home,
    The letter that you wrote is so very accurate. I am a loving, caring person and it is so hard to go through this. I could not have come up with the words that you used as graciously as you did. Thank you so much. God Bless You for your compassion for all parties involved. Theresa

  25. the other sister said,

    April 28, 2008 at 3:50 am

    I am another sister of becky’s, we all love her and miss her very much. She is loved by many, she is a beautiful young woman. I have just come across this site. We all have many questions and all want answers. As far Dan’s financial matters go, they ARE our business, when it could have something to do with her disappearance. We don’t care about his money, it has nothing to do with that. It has to do with other things which(out of respect) I will not post on here. We will let the detectives do their job with this, as the saying goes the truth comes out in the end. Our main objective is to find Becky, and we will not stop until we do,and bring justice to her for all parties involved!! God Bless… WE LOVE YOU BECKY!!!!!!!

  26. April 28, 2008 at 4:54 am

    The Other Sister, I sincerely hope that you find her soon, and find the answers. I know this has to be wearing on all your family members.

  27. Theresa said,

    April 28, 2008 at 5:13 pm

    Dear other Sister,
    I understand that everything has to be looked into. Your father talked to me for 6 hours on the phone and insinuated that Dan was possibly doing fradulent business with checks, he told me he was seen buying cleaning products, he told me that Dan would not let him into his apartment one day. He told me that Wes was Becky’s drug dealer and couldn’t understand why the “weasel” as he put it was leading the search party. He told me about the 19,000.00 check which we knew about, it was for his RX8 which someone was going to buy. Which the police have. There was a check at Danny’s apt. for 20 some thousand which no one bothered to grab, which was also for the RX8. Danny had not deposited either one as he was not sure if he was going to get rid of it. I am not afraid to let the truth out as I know it. It will all (hopefully) come out in the end. My biggest fear is not ever knowing the Real truth. This haunts me everyday. I also know that my son was generous to your family and I think that is wonderful as that is the way Danny was. Again, we mean no harm or disrespect, we too want closure to this nightmare. Yes, I have Danny’s ashes, but by no means has this brought closure to my world. I pray that there will be some answers soon. God Bless, Theresa P. S. All of this is so tiring, not only is my son gone, but he is being picked apart piece by piece, yes, I understand that it has to be done. According to your father, Danny was at his house on March 31st the day that he died. He also said Danny was there all the time. I just don’t understand!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  28. hisfamily said,

    April 28, 2008 at 10:20 pm

    i think that theresa has been thru enough, and been NOTHING but honest to the world on this site and to the many involved. she talked 4 six hours to the father when she DID NOT have to do that. but she, like her son and hell our whole family r good honest people.

  29. the sister said,

    April 29, 2008 at 1:25 am

    Well I just got some of her other belongings delivered to my home, including her wedding dress that Daniel hid in the office, for her and Wes’ wedding, ( with jewelry and clothes)You don’t know how that feels being her closest sister, the point is, Daniel in the end was a sick person, I have no hate for the family, but him I do. At this time it has hit me seeing all her belongings…just being dropped off to me! Like ” yeah Daniel killed becky, heres her stuff” It’s just wrong! That cannot be forgiven, he didn’t have to throw her off somewhere up in the mountains ( like we believe) as if she was nothing. Psychotic human being.

  30. hisfamily said,

    April 29, 2008 at 5:30 am

    funny the sisters know it all. danmy wasn’t sick he was heartbroken…

  31. Theresa said,

    April 29, 2008 at 11:51 am

    I’m just curious. If your sister was living with my son, why would she be marrying Wes?

  32. Theresa said,

    April 29, 2008 at 1:12 pm

    Until the Homocide detectives tell me that my son did it, I will not believe it. Do you know what defemation of character is? Have you heard the term, Innocent until proven guilty. I am sorry that Becky is still missing and I’m sure you and your family miss her terribly, but who are you to call my son a Psychotic human being. There are two sides to every story and we will never know them, we may find out some things, but did you live with Danny and Becky? I didn’t. I want proof of all these allegations, not just hateful words. My son spent the week of Easter with his brother and nephew and they had a wonderful time, he hated to leave. I also know that he called Becky every single day. How strange he got home and all this happened. As far as I am concerned there is only One person who knows everything and that is GOD. God is the Judge

  33. April 29, 2008 at 6:36 pm

    Some people do find it hard to understand how one person could choose to kill a person they said they loved. They need a label. If it isn’t illness, then what is it? Just plain meanness? A person without regard for love or the right for another to live? A controlling person who would choose what she had the right to do? Oh yes, heartbroken…a person who would rather see her dead than allow her to choose another?

    Denial in the family I can understand. You don’t want to believe that your loved one can harm another. And until it is final and formal, you won’t believe it. I actually do understand that. But innocent until proven guilty? First of all, that is a court term and this isn’t a court. People do form opinions outside of court. Second there won’t be a court, because the alleged perpetrator chose to take his own life rather than face questions and a court. Third, in order to prove defamation- you have to prove that what was said was without basis. Can you do that? And I do believe there was blood found in his car? And witnesses to his statement that he would kill her then kill himself (which we know without doubt that at least part of it happened) And that is just the things that I know about.

    The Sister came here and spoke of something that brought a fresh wave of pain, grief and frustration to her. And you respond with an attack? Are you attempting to control her right to speak out in her grief? If anyone could understand that grief, I would think it would be you. You lost a loved one. You grieve. Do you always choose your words carefully, right after you get hit with something new? Does it really make you feel better about your loss to prevent another from speaking out in their grief?

    The Sister, I don’t know all that you are going through and selfishly, I hope that I never have to learn. For me, to fear but not know- to not know if or when you will ever know to me that seems harder than knowing. With no end, no resolution….

    You can still honor your sister. And you are doing that with every search you made, with every time you deal with a new issue, with every time that you remember her. You don’t have a grave to go to, it is true. But you can pick a place to go to, a place that can be where you remember her. Where doesn’t matter. But a place where you can sit and remember, a place where you can leave flowers for her.

    I know right now, there are times that you probably feel that you cannot make it past this. But you can. I kinda have a theory (not everyone shares my theory, lol), but a person is never really gone as long as someone remembers them with love. As long as that shared love remains on earth, a part of them stays too.

    Time doesn’t really make it easier. But time does allow you to get used to it, if that makes any sense. So hang in there, take it one day at a time. Know that when you get through each day, that you are one day closer to being used to it. Believe it or not, the time will come when your memories will bring you pleasure, not tears.

  34. the other sister said,

    April 29, 2008 at 10:00 pm

    To his family,
    First of all we don’t everything, apparently you know more than us, Secondly Becky was married for a short period of time(before) Daniel was in the picture everyone knew that including Daniel. My family took Daniel in when he moved to Colorado. They treated him like a Son, Where was he for Holidays??? MY PARENTS HOUSE. I talked to Daniel often by phone and when I visited my parents he was always there. So don’t comment on things you don’t know about. We are grieving too!! Each day it gets harder for us with no answers, no Becky to be found. Then others come drop off Becky’s possessions exactly 1 month today that she’s been gone, claiming Daniel put them in a crawl space and they were cleaning out the old office?? Are we supposed to think Becky’s in Hawaii having a great old time?? Lets get the facts straight with what we know.. We all know that most stories like this don’t end up as a happy ending. Yes and it is strange that he comes back from Texas and goes postal isn’t it??? and isn’t it strange that we found an email suggesting that he get BECKY out of his life?? So keep your opinions to yourselves as we are speaking through facts, and if you can’t handle it , then get off this site!!!! My whole familly was very close to Daniel We all loved him too and we did know him.God Bless (your gonna need it).

  35. hisfamily said,

    April 29, 2008 at 10:45 pm

    the elshani family has done nothing but talk shit about danny, and my family has said not one ill word about becky. blood in the truck.. they were together 6 years rite?? go figure… and why was danny the only one on the lease to THERE apt??

  36. April 29, 2008 at 11:29 pm

    I do have a question. If the situation was reversed, if Danny was missing and Becky killed herself just as police arrived to ask about it…. how many good things would you have to say about Becky?

    LOL, what is it supposed to mean about he was the only name on the lease? Every couple handles financial arrangements differently. I know of a lot of couples who do that. Sometimes it is that arrangement because only one was available to sign the lease. Sometimes one person doesn’t want to make that committment. Sometimes it is because the lease signer has the better credit. And sometimes it is because that is the way that finances are divided in the household. The point is, that was the couple’s decision and what they chose.

    As far as bad words about Becky, what justifies murder? Because I don’t believe that anyone deserves to be killed unless it is in defense of self or others. And I would also question why if you believed that happened, why you didn’t call police at the time and prevent all of this?

  37. the other sister said,

    April 30, 2008 at 12:20 am

    to home sweet home and his family,
    First of all the police were called, in the state of colorado it has to be 72 hrs that a person is missing before they do what’s called a “welfare check” on the person, they reported it sat, that’s why Monday they went to the APT to check on Becky and we know the rest from there. As far as our whole family “talking shit ” about Daniel, my other siblings are younger they are angry they don’t understand. I am the older. I never said anything about him(see previous post) I wrote my whole family loved him. how is that talking shit?? He played xbox with my 7 yr old brother, played basketball with my 9yr sister. Even now with all this going on my 7 yr old brother asks where is Daniel we were on level 2 he was supposed to help me get to the next level. Their love is unconditional, they are young they don’t have hatred inside them. They ask where is Becky?? How do you tell a 7 and 9 yr old what happened?? I Why was he the only one on the lease? I don;t know all the answers. Like I said today is exactly 1 month that Becky’s been gone.We are all going through hell. Insults aren’t going to bring Becky or Daniel back. My father cried for 3 days straight not just for Becky, but Daniel too. You think your the only ones feeling pain? How about our family, her friends etc.. You ask what if the situation was reversed and it was Daniel missing? Our family would be doing what we are doing for Becky right now SEARCHING!! Asking questions ETC.. What have you done to help us?? thats right NOTHING!! Daniel always said to all of us YOU ARE MY FAMILY!! At least you had the ability to bury your loved one, mourn you have your closure you know what happened.( WE DON”T )the blood in the car?? It will take months for the results to come back! So lets not even go there. There are 2 sides to every story, we only know what we are told like Theresa said they were 2 adults. They want their parents and family to be proud of them, they are not going to tell us things that would make us view them differently. Once again please don’t comment on things you don’t know, as we only comment on facts that we are told. We are a big family and I can’t control how others feel. Becky we all love you and miss you!!!

  38. vielsa said,

    April 30, 2008 at 3:21 am

    I am one of the Elshani sisters and all I have to say is everyone got it wrong! Daniel is portrayed like some innocent character when we know he was a selfish and evil person. Love? He loved her and cared for her so much that he took her life yeah that makes perfect sense. He was a cold, heartless, hateful person! If he wasn’t then where the hell is Becky?????? No one has the right to take someone’s life except for God, last time I checked Daniel didn’t have that right and I know he is paying with his soul right now! Just like those maniacs we see on television, who commit hateful crimes no human being can fathom. He was 24 years old, capable of making decisions and he chose to take my sisters life. If he had a death wish he should’ve just ended his own life which he did like a coward. Suicide is always the easy way out, I guerss Danny boy was a real man huh? He was sure he wanted to kill Becky but had no backup plan, genius!!!!! I mean he could’ve at least made it to America’s Most Wanted, that would’ve been the highlight of his life. By the way, I am sick and tired of everyone saying Daniel didn’t kill her! I think we know now who “Danny Boy” really was. He fooled everyone and killed the one person that ever gave a crap about him, apparently he complained about not having good family ties at all. This would explain his unhealthy attatchment to my sister. She was guilty of one thing, she knew the evil in Daniel but chose to love him anyway, for this, I believe her soul is in heaven, sorry Daniel you are suffering somewhere not so pleasant. She did get away from you after all!!! Good job Becky, we love you and miss you deeply, we will reunite! As for Daniel, well, we feel nothing for you and we will find Becky and everyone including your family will understand the darkness behind your selfish actions. At least Becky will be remembered in a positive light and she will be loved by many people as time goes on, her beautiful personality will live on and never be forgotten. She is the hero in this tragedy and I am sure she didn’t give up easy when Daniel harmed her, just like the Devil he caught her off guard and ended her life. He obviously didn’t feel very good about himself, hmmm wonder why. Now he’s gone and so is Becky but the difference is she will not be remembered for such a cruel act. Love you Beck!

  39. vielsa said,

    April 30, 2008 at 3:39 am

    This is in response to the comment regarding the blood found in the vehicle: If there is any question about the blood that was found in Daniel’s vehicle I suggest you contact the Colorado Springs Homicide Dept. immediately. Obviously Daniel was a cold killer and that’s why all that blood was in his vehicle, why else would there be blood in there? Oh shit… maybe he was a hunter, why didn’t I think of that??????? You people are confused about the facts and you are being ignorant when you second guess the investigation that was performed. I know it’s hard to believe Daniel was a flat out killer but when Becky is found everyone will have to face what he did to her. The truth will come out, we know Daniel wasn’t smart or clever enough to cover tracks. As a matter of fact he was a very weak person with no regard for human life, we don’t need people like that in this world anyway.

  40. April 30, 2008 at 4:15 am

    Vielsa, do you feel certain that he killed himself out of remorse, out of a desire to join her or a fear of being caught? Because I confess, I had kind of had a different thought.

  41. vielsa said,

    April 30, 2008 at 4:24 am

    Well happy to see my words reached you! I believe Daniel killed himself out of fear of being caught. He tried to actually get away with it by dumping her clothes in random places and cleaning the blood in the vehicle. I am sorry but even if he didn’t mean it, a normal person would have had so much guilt they would’ve turned themselves in! He had the nerve to eat dinner with our father after he did what he did to her. How can someone look into the eyes of a young gir’s father knowing he killed her and continue to digest a big meal, knowing the father would never see his daughter again? I bet he asked for more bread!!!!

  42. April 30, 2008 at 4:42 am

    Actually Vielsa, I have my own reasons for trying to keep things calm in a difficult situation.

    But my thoughts on his suicide are a bit different than yours. I read in the article that someone had heard him say that he would kill her then himself. If that is so, then he had no reason to fear being caught, he had plans for that. He also didn’t need to hide her body.

    I first thought it might have been remorse, until I heard about the letter to the family. Usually if remorse is involved, and esp. if there are plans to harm themselves there will be a confession and the location would be disclosed. Full disclosure and requests for forgiveness hoping for atonement.

    I mean I am just wondering. But if Becky’s body is found, is there someone who he wouldn’t want to be able to cry over her body? Someone who he wanted to keep her away from? He waited until police arrived right? So was the question he didn’t want to answer was it the location of her body?

  43. vielsa said,

    April 30, 2008 at 5:01 am

    The peson he was jealous of was Becky’s ex husband. If he didn’t want someone to cry over her body it would be for this reason. I don’t know what part u didn’t understand, he tried to GET AWAY WITH WHAT HE DID! It’s so obvious he was just a coward and couldn’t speak with the police because he knew they would question him. He probably thought he was never going to get caught and when cops showed up he freaked out. It takes one hell of a person to decide to kill someone and I can’t believe he was ever in my house! Honestly, his work is not something mysterious or brilliant, it’s simple, Colorado is full of mountains that’s why we can’t find her. He wasn’t a mastermind, if he was he’d be here.

  44. Theresa said,

    April 30, 2008 at 10:20 am

    I truly don’t know what to say. Your father was kind to me, but also said many things that I was not able to handle. Sorry, does that make me weak???? Yes…I can’t imagine what your family is going through. Your Dad spoke of the little ones. Again, I am sorry. Daniel did have a family and was very loved, but he lived in Colorado Springs and your family was his adopted family. We haven’t helped because we don’t know anything that would help. What type of help are you looking for? I wish we could offer something that would help in finding Becky. I am at a loss for words, all I can say is that I am sorry about all of this and it breaks my heart. As parents we never think that something like this would happen to our children. I don’t know what I could say that would make this all easier to fathom. I will not make any comments on the words spoken about my son. I hope you all understand that. Does it mean I’m in denial? No, it just that he’s my son, my flesh and blood. Does any loving parent talk ill of there children? There dead children? I just can’t……………Does it bother me what the implications are? Of course, it does. It makes me sick to my stomach. But, being a parent we want to think the best of our children. I hope I am making sense. Again, I truly am sorry for all of this and I believe that the Elshani family, each and everyone of them are suffering and hurting immensely. God Bless and Keep You. Theresa

  45. Trey said,

    April 30, 2008 at 2:43 pm

    “Does any loving parent talk ill of there children?”

    Loving healthy parents talk ill of their children’s choices all the time. We look for the problems they are having, the struggles they face, the things that we need to help them work on. That is what good, healthy parents do.

    Good, healthy people also fight the temptation to turn their lost family members into saints. It is easier to do so, but it does harm to their memory. My mother, God rest her soul, I sure miss her. But she could be mean as a snake, she held a grudge like gold, she worried far to much about her appearance, and I love her with all my heart. I do not have to turn her into someone she was not to miss her. It should be that way for all of us, that we can miss and honor our lost without distorting the realisty of their lives.


  46. Theresa said,

    April 30, 2008 at 3:31 pm

    Dear Trey,
    When people pass we only want to remember the good things about them, sure there are certain things we remember, but we want to focus on the good times, at least everyone I have talked to has told me that. Are you saying that I’m not a good, healthy parent by not admitting to something that has not been conclusive.. Alot, of you did not know my son, some did and I will always keep him close to my heart and no matter what the outcome is I will always love Danny. As, I have said many times before I am his mother. You can all pick me apart. I am not saying that Danny didn’t have anything to do with this, I am just saying that I am his Mother and I will always remember him as a loving, kind, hardworking, generous, young man.

  47. Trey said,

    May 1, 2008 at 3:36 am

    Theresa, I just come out and say what I mean to say, I am good that way. You posted a question, and I posted an answer to it. Honestly, I remember my lost loved ones as they were, it is an honor to them. I have no interest in picking you apart, but you posted, and I responded. That seems OK to me.


  48. vielsa said,

    May 1, 2008 at 4:50 pm

    What a lovely place to express myself, where should I begin? Oh I know, my sister Becky is still missing. One month and no answers. I wonder if it’s the fact that her body is lying lifeless somewhere or if her soul is wondering somehere to direct someone to her that makes me feel sad. I don’t know which one hurts more. For all you people who didn’t know my sister you should know she was a great person. For some reason when I think of her now, I am reminded of when she was a child. These memories are bright and they make me feel happy and sad at the same time. Becky grew up to be 22, but that child was always in her and it was reflected in everything she did. If someone told her during her teenage years that her life would end so early she would’ve never believed it. She had too many dreams of becoming a singer and living life to the fullest. She would’ve laughed in your face if you told her that. I cannot believe she had to be taken away from us. We will never get to see those dreams be fullfilled or her desire to have a great life. She wanted a family, a dog, and of course a good husband. How could this happen to her? I ask myself this everyday and I have no answers. There are people that take their own lives or wish to die, she felt none of those things. Why do good people have to leave this world and the bad ones continue to commit crimes and make this world an evil place? Becky touched so many people’s lives including Daniel’s to the point where he couldn’t live without her. Well he wasn’t the only one that needed her! She has sisters and brothers that needed her more. Becky we love you and miss you, we will find you. If you ever have a place to rest I will visit you everyday, right by your side, telling you jokes and I will “try” to sing your favorite song. I Love and miss you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 Vj

  49. vielsa said,

    May 1, 2008 at 5:21 pm

    Whoever wrote in the above comment, “Danny wasn’t sick he was heartbroken” is seriously confused about heartbreak! Heartbreak does not mean you murder your lover. My suggestions are as follows: ZOLOFT, PAXIL, LEXAPRO, PROZAC, LUVOX. This list can continue if need be. CAll your doctor if you are feeling heartbroken!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  50. May 1, 2008 at 5:55 pm

    Vielsa, those are beautiful words about your sister. No, I didn’t know her. But from your description I think I would have liked her.

    Why does one heartbroken person choose to grieve then move on, and another heartbroken person choose to kill themselves and/or the other? I have looked at psychological, spiritual and common explanations and I confess, I still don’t understand it. I do know of the devastation it leaves behind. And I don’t have answers to that either.

    I do know that you can eventually come to terms with this, but each person gets there in different ways. And they must give themselves time to get used to the pain, time to develop the desire for that peace. Right now, all you are feeling is the pain. Even the memories hurt. I can tell you that in time, you will be able to look at those pictures of her and those memories and not cry. In time you will be able to look at them and think how lucky you are to have those treasured memories. But you do have to give yourself time.

  51. vielsa said,

    May 2, 2008 at 1:20 pm

    Thank you for your thoughtful message, I feel relieved to know their are good people such as yourself that can comprehend the sadness my family is feeling. I cannot look at her pictures, it makes me feel overwhelmed with loss and then deep sadness. I wish every time she called, even when I was in the middle of something I would’ve answered. I wish I told her I loved her more and that she should enjoy every moment. Without knowing she would be taken from us, I did not get to say these things to her. I wish I could’ve been there to protect her that night her life was taken. I can only imagine the fear she felt when she realized her last moments here in this world. While lying in pain, I wonder what her last thoughts were. In my heart, I know they were thougths about how much she loved us and she tried to hang on to life. I know she thought of childhood days and how fun life was with us. I know she was lying there thinking she wanted to see us one more time, to be with her as she passed. Becky, I wish I was there to hold your hand, I know you were so scared of what was happening to you, and at that moment you realized how much you loved us. I know this because you are my sister and I felt what happened to you. I want you to know you are closer to me than ever, and I can’t wait for the day when we see eachother again, I know you will be more beautiful than I ever remebered. I will have to live with this emptiness and sadness as long as I live, it’s so painful to wake up and know that I will never hear your voice and give you a hug. We were always close in age and I always wanted to let you in on things in my life but didn’t. Life was just beginning for you, and you were growing up. I waited for this time to share things with you because you were older and could understand me. I remember wishing that you would get older faster so I could share things with you that you wouldn’t have understood at that time. You made it to that point and now I can’t share my thoughts and experieneces with you. You grew into a woman, and now you’re in heaven, not with us. I know you are looking over me and you know what’s going on in my life now, I don’t need to worry about telling you those things. Sometimes when I am driving, I feel like you’re sitting in the seat next to me, especially when I play your favorite song…” IF YOU”RE NOT THE ONE”. I love you so much and I would give anything to pick up the phone and call you or for you to tell me a joke. Some people get over these things, I never will. No one, no guy, nobody will ever fill the place I have for you in my heart. I love you so much… I know you loved fairies, and now you are one of them soaring the skies, protecting us. We love you! Vjollca

  52. May 2, 2008 at 6:36 pm

    Vielsa, every time someone dies, it is human nature to think back and regret any time we were short with the person, angry or whatever. And also human nature to regret it. When you didn’t have time to speak to her, didn’t she call back again at some point? I believe she understood after all, we all get busy at times. We all regret words that are not said, and sometimes we forget that some things are understood without words. Love is one of those things. Love is one of those things that are felt, but not always said.

  53. Marc Blundell said,

    May 2, 2008 at 8:13 pm

    Dan was my bestfriend when he lived in Michigan. I can say without a doubt he was a very caring giving person. He may have had a few acceptance issues but he wasnt a crazy cold hearted anything. Im only going to talk about character because thats all I have the right to talk about. Hed do anything for anyone without question. The “Other” family minus Vielsa should try a little harder to be more respectful to Dans family. Together BOTH families are going through alot right now so instead of fighting work together, thats the only way youll be able to get any answers.


  54. the sister said,

    May 3, 2008 at 4:29 am

    I ” The other family” am simply opinionizing. Everyone knows they agree with the fact that someone who kills a person, is crazy or mental, but since you are his “friend” your denying this, which is very common in a situation and like this. I have said before, I do not hate his family, but him I do have hatred for. Goodness sakes, this is my sister we are talking about…she’s taken away from me and my family cause some psychopath obsessed guy did something to her, and we have no clues, at least leave us a suicide letter, telling us where her body is… he’s all cozy on top of a mantle in his itty bitty ashes, but wheres my sister? that is selfish, he really thought he could get away with this and live life….Wow! This world is unbelievable and undeniably corrupted!!!

  55. the sister said,

    May 3, 2008 at 4:31 am

    I ” The other family” am simply opinionizing. Everyone knows they agree with the fact that someone who kills a person, is crazy or mental, but since you are his “friend” your denying this, which is very common in a situation and like this. I have said before, I do not hate his family, but him I do have hatred for. Goodness sakes, this is my sister we are talking about…she’s taken away from me and my family cause some psychopath obsessed guy did something to her, and we have no clues, at least leave us a suicide letter, telling us where her body is… he’s all cozy on top of a mantle in his itty bitty ashes, but wheres my sister? that is selfish, he really thought he could get away with this and live life….Wow! This world is unbelievable and undeniably corrupted!!!

  56. Marc Blundell said,

    May 3, 2008 at 4:59 am

    No not everyone agrees that someone who kills someone is crazy or mental, and im not denying anything the evidence leans one way but noone knows for sure yet. And when you talk about someones son so negative you are attacking his family without even knowing it, or maybe you do. Im not here to start shit with anyone, im not even trying to defend Dan so much, hes just the only one I knew. If I had known your sister maybe itd have been different. “come on people now, smile on your brother, everybody get together, try to love one another right now” lots of people have redone that song but to be relevant im going with Nirvana.

  57. hisfamily said,

    May 3, 2008 at 9:26 am

    thank you marc for ur kind words, i am dannys cuz and haveing a real hard time with this. i needed that.. i miss him so much and know that this wasn’t danny.. just like they know thier family, i know mine.. thank u again

  58. Marc Blundell said,

    May 3, 2008 at 5:54 pm

    Im sure your having a hard time, its not an easy thing to try and wrap your mind around. Are you a Michigan cousin or Colorado cousin? If youd ever like to talk about Dan hit me up on myspace myspace.com/sir_marcus_a…myspace.com/sir_marcus_alan, anyone for that matter. I havent been in touch with Dan the last few years and id like to hear what he was up to

  59. vielsa said,

    May 4, 2008 at 2:03 am

    When someone’s child hurts another human being, I feel it’s the parents responsibility to apologize to that family. “His Family” states there is no obligation there to speak for a few hours. Actually, a few hours isn’t long enough! The least “His Family” could’ve done was to search with us instead of searching through his belongings and items he left behind to take back home. They should have lead the search! After all, they all claim they knew “Danny” so well… Ok, if this is true, any clues on where Becky might be? If you all are family then you can think like Danny also, no one volunteered any information even if it could help in finding Becky. If anything, they were not cooperating with questions that were being asked by detectives. Sounds supportive, right? Everyone here defends Daniel, what about Becky who is in nowhere land and can’t be laid to rest? At least you all got to say by to Daniel, and you have his ashes. All of you claim you knew Daniel soooo well through and through, well if this is true, why didn’t any of you get him mental help? Now you all talk about what a geat person he was. Did you know he felt like he had no one and begged my dad to let him be a part of the family? If you were all so close then how could you let Daniel live his life that way? Didn’t anyone sense something was wrong with him? Bottom line is, there is a huge obligation for saying sorry, sorry isn’t enough. What is Becky did that to Daniel? Exactly.

  60. vielsa said,

    May 4, 2008 at 2:11 am

    One more thing, please stop acting like you’re the only one’s hurting! Oh and the whole attitude thing. What is the attitude for? Disappointment with what Daniel did, I would hope. If the situation were reversed, I’d be searching for Daniel right now, that would be the right thing to do. Becky told me to tell all of you who speak selfishly to get over yourselves!

  61. the sister said,

    May 4, 2008 at 3:33 am

    Yes, from what I heard his brother who is in Michigan was talking to the detective being very rude and straight up nasty! To an investigator….This is probably that same family member that is transferring thousands of dollars into his own account! That is america after all, only caring about money. He’s taking the car and living wealthy off of daniels shady money that is just disgusting to me! I haven’t heard of him here, he’s probably on a vacation with his brothers funds!
    Well I love u all my sisters writing on here, We are one real family! We miss you Bekime’ I will see your soon!
    Oh yeah and Nirvana is the devil, look where it took Dan!

  62. the sister said,

    May 4, 2008 at 3:35 am

    By the way….The brother, I was told is in Texas, I didn’t mean michigan

  63. May 4, 2008 at 4:28 am

    Ok, I think we all need to take a breath. First of all, Daniel is the one thought to have harmed Becky. Not Daniel’s family. We all need to keep that in mind.

    Second, yes they are hurting too. They know for sure what happened to Daniel. They know what he is being accused of, and no they don’t really want to believe it. When they hear of evidence coming out that points to Daniel, I am sure that hurts them. However, it is reality. As the saying goes, sometimes reality bites.

    Third, at some point or other they all have shared time with Daniel. Some of them liked him, some of them loved him. As I believe some of you have said- you spent time with him and even liked him. Your feelings about him were blown away quickly because of the allegations of what he has done to your sister. Their’s may take more time. But even if they come to believe in the allegations- he was still their loved one first. After what happened to your feelings about him it may be hard to believe that anyone can still feel love for him, but the love of a mother sister brother doesn’t change. They can and do still love him. And though they hope that he didn’t do what he is accused of, they are not saying they approve of it nor have they tried to justify it.

  64. vielsa said,

    May 4, 2008 at 2:26 pm

    This is to the last comment on Home Sweet Home. You are absolutely right when you talk about loved ones and how that love is unconditional. You must know from experience or you have a close family. Some people aren’t that fortunate to experience something so powerful. I never knew how intense that love could be until the day I felt Becky was gone. I never knew what pain was until I looked up into the sky and saw gray clouds swirling around and the wind singing, wondering where Becky was, afraid she might be a part of that scene. I know Daniel’s family loves him no matter what he did, if I were his family I would feel the same. There is nothing wrong with that, what would be wrong is not caring for him after what he may have done. No one came on this site to hurt or attack Daniel’s family. We simply wanted to express what we were feeling about the entire situation which in turn, leaves us bitter with Daniel. If any of you have a problem with that I feel sorry for the day you get a phone call such as we did! Please stop being ignorant. How do you want us to feel about Daniel? The person that will probably be the reason my father will die of a heart attack! He is not taking this well he was so close to Becky. Most families center their lives around money, gossip, and competing with one another. Well in the Elshani family, it is nothing but love among everyone. We now have to mend all the pieces and try to go on without her. How can a family do that? I don’t know, only time will tell.

  65. the other sister said,

    May 4, 2008 at 4:34 pm

    hello sisters I just wanted to say thanks for great comments and I love you all very much, and we will find Becky!!! Becky we all love you and miss you so much!!

  66. Jessica said,

    May 5, 2008 at 11:23 am

    Im not sure if you remember me. Dan and I were friends when he lived in Michigan. We changed schools together and did lots of crazy thing like teenagers often do. I found out about this site from Marc. He and I had been talking about how we would get in touch with you to let you know we are thinking of you and your family.
    I know we all lost touch over the years but I had found Dan on myspace a few months back. It was great to talk to him. But we never really spoke about what was going on in his life at that moment. We pretty much laughed at ourselves and about the “Blue Bus”. I remember giving him my water bed because I dint like it and he wanted one.

    I want you to know how I remember Dan. The out going young man with so much life to live. A great smile and personality to match. He was always there for the people in his life. He had so much passion for music and the out doors. Dan had a great spirit.

    As for the tragedy that took place it breaks my heart I pray they find Becky. So the family can have peace of mind.

    But I am shocked at some of the comments people leave. As for his family “apologizing” well they have but he was a grown man and made his own choices and we can’t go back now. What ifs are not going to change the facts that a young life was lost and a young woman is missing. No one knows the whole story and we may never know. Dans family is also suffering the loss of Dan and Becky. But they are not to blame if you have children you would know that all you can do is lead them down the right path and hope they make right choices. That’s why parents are only responsible for their children tell they are 18 years of age.

    Once again Theresa know that I will always remember Danny Boy as he was when we were young he brought a lot into my life and I know you were a wonderful mother to him. To Beckys family my thoughts are with you in your time of need and I hope you find her soon. God Bless both Families.

  67. hisfamily said,

    May 5, 2008 at 9:49 pm

    marc could u please send me a friend request just search heather behnke in az. my computer is to shit so i.m useing my cell to go online and its eaiser 4 me that way.. thank u. and i’m a mi cuz.

  68. ***D*** said,

    May 7, 2008 at 4:34 am

    This comment is in response to Tara’s: ” Dan was my boyfriend my freshman year in high school and the way that you talk about him tasing her- the police believed that she stretched what really happened.”


    You have no idea what happened with the tasing incident so why are you writing as if you do. Becky did not stretch the truth by any means. The hospital report indicated she was tased over 20 times and had third degree burns. Both hospital and police reports confirmed she was tased over 20 times. I saw the reports, you didn’t so where do you come off saying she stretched the truth. You heard about the incident from a third party who twisted the truth. Your information in inaccurate mine on the other hand is not.

    As far as you knowing Daniel…you dated him before you even hit puberty. Do you honestly think people don’t change from when they were a child. You didn’t know Daniel as an adult so I find it funny that you can make the comments that you did. I knew him as an adult so I can tell you the type of person he was. You on the other hand can only comment on what he was like as a child. I find it rather pathetic that you want to come on this site and voice your opinions. You didn’t know him the past few years. You didn’t Becky so don’t make comments based on false information. Apparently you have nothing better to do than to get on and gossip. All of a sudden you were best friends with Daniel because you want to part of the story. It’s to bad that you and Daniel didn’t stay together until adulthood that way he would have killed you and not my sister. You would be the one that was missing not my sister. Everyone would be out was looking for you not her…then again no one would probably care enough about you to go out and look for you. If you and Daniel had stayed together two psychopaths would be dead as opposed to my beautiful, smart, talented sister.

  69. vielsa said,

    May 7, 2008 at 4:49 am


    We don’t care to know who you were sleeping with freshmen year of high school. You did not know my sister Becky and she’d be pissed if she knew you said that. Have a little respect, especially when you speak of my sister. So you were friends with a psychotic killer? Nice! I bet you had a great relationship with him the two of you, what a pair! I see the silmilarities already, selfish and inconsiderate. Why don’t you do something producctive with your time and leave the speculating to the detectives. You know better yet why don’t you search for my sister who you know so much about? Let me ask you this, have you ever been tased? Do you even know what that is? I doubt you do! Well she was tased numerous times and it was painful. You need to get a life and get your facts straight , or just stop writing. You aren’t very good at that and your information isn’t correct. If you knew Becky that would be a different story. You only supposedly hooked up with Daniel, right? You were a kid, you didn’t know him, you were probably the annoying neighbor who stalked Daniel and maybe that was all in your head about actually dating him. Maybe you should stop giving credit to the man that killed my sister and start to realize what you are saying. He was selfish, and like you said, insecure to the point where he knew he couldn’t do any better than my beautiful sister, sorry she had you beat.. by far! By the way, Becky says you will be dreaming of her soon. Nighty night.

  70. vielsa said,

    May 7, 2008 at 4:55 am

    To all my lovely sisters! Thanks for the comments, people are heartless and need to be put in their place. I dont know how people can come on here and say things that don’t make any sense. We will find Becky don’t worry! Love ya guys.

  71. Vielsa said,

    May 7, 2008 at 4:03 pm

    This is to Tara’s childish comments. I woke up this morning with the urge to set Tara straight, can you blame me? I was tired last night and forgot to add a few things. How dare you (TARA) come on this site and act like you know something! Stop acting like you are connected to this situation through Daniel. Are you proud of yourself for mentioning you had a relationship with Daniel? What was the reasoning behind clarifying that? For your information, nobody cares about what you did with him or who the hell you even are! You came out of the woodwork like you were going to contribute some sweet sentiments, get a freakin life! Why don’t you pick up this month’s copy of US Weekly for some juicy stories. Let my sister rest, if you want to bug somebody why don’t you try stalking Daniel? Oh that’s right, that’s not possible! By the way, your words only aggravated us as a family, why don’t you just find something better to do with your time, like go through your old high school yearbook and think of that great old friend of yours. If you’re here to defend him, I am here to defend my sister Becky. Daniel, by the way, hurt my sister and yes tased her 20 times. Becky was strong, I doubt any girl could handle that. Bottom line is, you didn’t know about their relationship, you didn’t know Becky, all you know is that you hooked up with a psycho. So, with that, I hope I don’t see any more stupidity on this site. My fingers are starting to hurt from defending my sister, but if you want, I can write until my hands fall off, until every comment regarding Becky is argued. Yes, that’s how much love I have for Becky and she would not accept anything less. I think US WEEKLY is 75 cents, next time you’re at the grocery store pick one up and see what Britney Spears is up to! Leave this site for people who actually love Backy and care for her, and the ones that want her to be found. Obviously, as a woman, you have no respect for what she went through, or not to mention women that get abused and wind up like this. This is a time for women to come together and not let abusive men do these things to the women that love them. I hope you feel good about yourself.

  72. Vielsa said,

    May 7, 2008 at 4:09 pm

    Hey guys! You know who you are! I think this site has evolved into our very own chat room, hahahah. Keep the comments coming, keep the idiots away, and most importantly, lets remember Becky every chance we get! Love you guys.

  73. Vielsa said,

    May 7, 2008 at 6:36 pm


  74. michigan "in law" said,

    May 8, 2008 at 11:38 am

    ok first of all you need to get your facts straight. I know more than this sister)vielsa) and I’m the way in michigan. His family couldn’t stay and search because they have jobs and school they needed to get back to and that wasn’t goin to be easy considering their loss. I know all the circomstances surrounding this and i am not defending danny but i think because his family has been so respectfull to you and your family and have said becky is in their thoughts and prayers that you should respect his family. They have nothing to do with this except for the loss of a loved one. It is extremely tragic… but to call him psycho and crazy is just disrepectful! no one has said anything bad about becky and noone should pass judgement. People do stupid shit for stupid reasons doesn’t mean they have mental problems it’s just that at that point in time they don’t see any other way out…. I just think that his family has been extremely respectful to you you should give his family especially his mother the same respect. and noone is acting like our family is the only one hurting….we have answers and your family doesnt and that is alot worse. Noone is on vaction with Danny’s money or living an extravagant lifestyle with his money but if they were it was HIS money. I’ve been watching this family grieve and it reminds me that we cannot fight or bicker just try to remember the family we still have and hold them even closer now, and cherish every minute. I do hope that your family gets the answers and closure you deserve. but don’t condem his family for what he may or may not have done. the only people who will ever know the REAL truth are Becky and Danny and that alone is tragic. If this family could have helped more we would have but noone has the means to travel or can get that time off work or school or other responsiblities they have. Any person in this family including danny would give you the shirt off their back if you needed it. I do keep becky in my prayers and I know the rest of the family does because that’s what kind of people they are. Please just keep in mind that you’re not the only ones hurting. I pray for becky and your family and hope thats god gives your family the strength to get through this extremely hard time. Cherish the family and friends you have and can talk to or see because you never know what is going to happen. God Bless

  75. michigan "in law" said,

    May 8, 2008 at 12:00 pm

    and just another questoin….. why did she log into her myspace on april first if she had been missing since march 29th???? thats just something that has been puzzling me…….

  76. May 8, 2008 at 4:00 pm

    I might be able to answer that question. When police start an investigation, if they can they will often check the person’s MySpace in order to look for clues as to what on. Family members will often do the same thing. I can’t say that is what happened, but it is very common.

  77. vielsa said,

    May 8, 2008 at 4:30 pm

    To the Michigigan “in law”. You don’t know anything, and unless you are going to contribute something positive you should stay off this site. This is about Becky now, we don’t give a shit about Daniel and I don’t know why anyone keeps bringing that up. You guys have his remains! It’s different on our end, and yes, I know everything, I was out searching and I knew Daniel probably better than you did. Remember, he said he had no family???????? Plus, he was in a relationship with my sister, I knew everything about Daniel pretty much, through her. Don’t come on here and tell me I don’t know anything! Good family? Good people? Thanks for searching! The fact that you were puzzled about the Myspace thing, come on, my five year old brother could have figured that out, suggests you don’t know anything.

  78. vielsa said,

    May 8, 2008 at 4:40 pm

    So, another thing, Danny would give you the shirt off his back but he didn’t have the decency (hope you know what that word means) to leave us a note telling us where Becky is? Better yet, why didn’t he just not kill her…? Oh that’s right because he was a perfectly normal individual! He was sick in his head and if he wasn’t then how could he have hurt an innocent young girl like my sister? Until you answer that I hope I don’t have to read your pointless words. I’d rather read Dr. Seuss’s Green Eggs and Ham!

  79. vielsa said,

    May 8, 2008 at 4:52 pm

    By the way, nobody says anything bad about Becky because she didn’t kill anyone, I suppose killing someone is the worst thing a human being could do. There’s nothing bad to say about Becky, she was a great person. Daniel, on the other hand, well, I can write a book about that. First, you all need to take some psychology classes because you seem to think Daniel’s actions are acceptable. News flash!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Killing another human being is not ok!

  80. May 8, 2008 at 5:33 pm

    Vielsa, since I didn’t know Becky I do have a question about her. Each of us has our own personalities, but often there will be similarities between family members. Was Becky more like your sister’s who stated their positions with dignity, standing on the positions that they knew they were right? Or was she more the personality to lash out at anyone and everyone?

  81. michigan "in law" said,

    May 8, 2008 at 5:42 pm

    I honestly wasn’t trying to start anything I didn’t say you don’t know anything i just said u need to get ur shit straight cuz alot of your facts are incorrect. the whole myspace thing… you think danny logged into her account or something. And i’m not a disrespectful bitch but i could think of quite a few things that i could say bad about becky. but i don’t because that’s not the issue here and it has no relavance to bad mouth 2 people. i was just asking that you have a little respect towards his family because they are not the guilty party here. I’m honestly sorry i hurt you that was not my intention. i just read through all of these and made me upset as I’m sure it does you. so i do apologize but please don’t insult my intelligance. I in no way condone daniel’s actions but noone knows what happened and if the tables were turned it would be the same way it is now just flipped around. I was just trying to say his family are very could people and if they could have helped they would have. I’m honestly not trying to fight with you i just wanted to voice my opinion like everyone else and i didn’t realize it was hurting people. God bless you and your family!

  82. michigan "in law" said,

    May 8, 2008 at 5:45 pm

    this is to home sweet home….. if the police went into her myspace why wouldn’t they have his?

  83. vielsa said,

    May 8, 2008 at 5:46 pm

    Ok, another stupid question, directed at me, I am loving this! Have you ever had a family member that was murdered or brutally killed? Probably not, I am guessing that would explain the ridiculous question you asked me. If you haven’t been through something like this then you will never understand the need to defend my poor sister. Lashing out? That’s fair and I am proudly guilty of it. If you want to know more about Becky’s personality, keep reading what have to say! Stating positions with dignity? Who the hell are you to judge? You are not family as far as I am concerned, you are just like everyone else who wants to have a stance or an opinion. Why don’t you take a look at yourself and put yourself in our shoes? What would you be writing? Why don’t you think of that while I get some coffee!

  84. vielsa said,

    May 8, 2008 at 5:57 pm

    I wish Becky had more of my personality, if she did she would still be here. I would’ve fought that bastard till the end, I am sure she did, but unfortunately, sometimes evil wins. Before you people decide to voice your opinions, please think before you do so because a lot of you just continue to write like third graders who can’t comprehend the nature of what we are talking about! BECKY WAS KILLED AND LEFT SOMEWHERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  85. michigan "in law" said,

    May 8, 2008 at 6:07 pm

    i completely undersatnd why you’re defending her and yes we’d do the same thing. but you’re just being cruel i’m trying to be kind because you deserve that respect. and just like you have said before if you don’t know then stop talking about it……well you don’t know me and about 10 years ago or so my cousin was brutally murdered while he was at work. he got shot in the head with a shotgun for someone 2 feet away from him. so yes i have experiened something similar although it was not my sister or brother. please stop attacking everyone. I don’t see how you’re taking everything written in the worst way. i’m trying to show you that have have compassion for your family and no parties involoved deserved any of this. I do keep becky in my prayers. and pray that you get the answer and closure you need.

  86. Child of God said,

    May 8, 2008 at 6:47 pm

    How sad and hateful all these comments are.

  87. Child of God said,

    May 9, 2008 at 1:19 am

    What do you want from Danny’s family??? How can they help when all you do is cut them down. They have expressed time and time again how saddened they are for this horrific tragedy. I’m sure they are well aware of all the newspaper articles and have contact with the detectives. There are things that they probably know too, but don’t mention because they would be hurtful and what good would that do??? Add salt to an open sore? All anyone can do is pray at this moment. Vielsa you have written some beautiful things and I can feel your pain and if in order to get through your day it helps you to cut down Danny’s family and him, there is nothing no one can say or do. By the way I believe this site is for anyone, not just the Elshani sisters. No one would ever wish this on anyone. Please try not to lash out at innocent people. God Bless

  88. vielsa said,

    May 9, 2008 at 3:08 am

    My oh my, I am at a loss for words haha, gotcha! That’s not true, actually, the more you people write the more I have to say. So many readers, I must not misspell any words or viloate any grammar rules. I like that so many of you are opinionated, such as myself. Well, this situation is really depressing and I feel this is the only place I can write openly about Becky. If all of you think I am an angry, bitter, negative individual, you are right! You know, before this happened to Becky I was the complete opposite. I cannot help that I feel hopless in this case. If she could just be found, we could do the right thing and say goodbye. I don’t want to ever say goodbye but that sure beats not knowing where her body is. She needs a place, she deserves that. If I have to wake up feeling this way every morning for the rest of my life, I’d rather trade places with Becky. Oh Becky, you will never know the pain we are going through, and your place in the family will always remain. Your absence is unbearable and unreal. I feel guilty when I get to see the sunshine or smell flowers because I know you cannot enjoy them. But, I will enjoy it twice once for me and once for you! I bet you are happier wherever you are. I know this complicated world made you sad more than it offered you happiness, so, I guess you are seeing things that are imaginable and beautiful. I miss you so much and if this emptiness is part of remembering you, I will deal with it. Love You Beck.

  89. michigan "in law" said,

    May 9, 2008 at 4:42 am

    Don’t say you’d rather be in becky’s position…..can you imagine if your family heard that? It would probably hurt them more. This site seems like it’s helping you in a way because you can talk openly about your feelings and get people’s deepest condolences for you and your family. I pray God gives you and your family the strength, and I pray that you all get the closure and answers you deserve. God bless you and your family

  90. May 9, 2008 at 7:32 am

    Vielsa, to some extent I can understand that you need to vent. And because the person you are so angry at is unavailable… well you just want to get the anger out. But keep in mind that no here has any intention of hurting you or yours.

    I can also see that you are having very hard time of it. And while I may not have gone through exactly what you are going through, I have felt the same way over other situations. I can also sense the frustration you feel that you cannot find your sister. Because you have not found her yet, doesn’t mean she won’t be found. It just may take more time and though the waiting is hard, sometimes life doesn’t give us too many choices.

    From some of your posts I sense some depression setting in. That concerns me. Yes, your life has been turned upside down recently. Yes, you lost Becky. And coping with that is a huge struggle. But if you find your are really struggling or losing the struggle, please make contact me at the email addy you will find on the left.

  91. the other sister said,

    May 10, 2008 at 12:01 am

    hello my beautiful sisters I love you all sooo very much, and even though our lives are crazy and hectic, I still think about you all the time!!! I remember all the good times Becky and I had. She is a beautiful girl,who would do anything for anyone. She loved us all so much,especially the little ones. I think about her all the time, and I miss her so much. At least she is in a better place. She’s probably dancing with angels and fairies, that was her personality. She would always make you laugh. I would give anything in the world to see her again, to tell her how much we love her, how much we need her. she was a good person and family was very important to her. Just remember all the good times we all had together with her, I know it hurts, it still hurts me to even look at her pictures. One day I will see you again Becky,until then I love you with all my heart and words can’t even describe the pain I feel without you here.. I pray we find you soon.

  92. vielsa said,

    May 10, 2008 at 2:35 am

    The last comment from Home Sweet Home was surprisingly helpful. I am relieved to finally connect with someone who understands what I am going through. I suppose from my last few comments you grasped that I am not accepting this situation all that well, this is true. Becky was my younger sister, who I followed since the day I was five years old and I heard her kick every night in my mother’s womb, I guess even back then she was a fighter, she couldn’t wait to be born and live life. She sure did make one hell of an entrance, I remember her crying so much I wanted her to go back where she came from! Of course I got over that as a five year old and loved her tremendously. It’s hard to forget her as a kid, as a teenager ,and as a woman. I am thankful I got to see her grow and become an amazing person. It just kills me to think we will never get to be old ladies togther, gossiping and reflecting on our lives. I saw so much of myself in her and I loved to observe myself through her. I guess I did influence her and that makes me feel happy to know I provided her with knowledge and advice. I just wish I could have prevented this and maybe she would still be here. There aren’t any words to describe the kind of pain this has brought about, I wasn’t prepared to receive this kind of heartache. I don’t know how people get through these things and actually enjoy life after, that is strength. Anyway thanks for listening. Becky, if you’re out there, I love you so much and I can’t stop thinking about you. I have one memory of you that comes to mind everyday. You must have been 12 years old and you were fishing with me. I remember your cute little jean shorts and ponytail that always glistened in the sun. I always wondered at those moments what life was going to offer you and what you would make of it. I always believed in you and I would have never guessed God was planning to take you home so early. Life will never be the same without you and I would give anything to relive one of those days by the river in which you always inspired me. If I ever have a dream in which you come home, I won’t ever want to wake up! I love you so much and you are on my mind with everything I do.

  93. May 10, 2008 at 7:41 am

    I’m happy that I could surprise you, lol.

    You asked how to get past this? One day at a time. By that I mean that you will have some days that are better and some days that are worse. If it is a better day, you go to bed that night hoping that tomorrow will be the same. If it is a bad day, you go to bed hoping that tomorrow will be better. Time does help you get used to it, and as you get used to it you will have better days.

    On the bad days, make a point of reaching out to loved ones and people you are close to. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need to. Whether you are having a good day or a bad day, remember to take care of yourself. You eat, even if you aren’t hungry. You sleep, even when you don’t think you can. And every day you do something, some small thing that you enjoy. It is called being good to yourself.

    Other Sister, you mentioned that you can’t look at her pictures. That will change in time. It will still hurt, but you will enjoy looking at them and remembering.

    Vielsa, you mentioned at one point that you were not usually like this. I don’t know if this will be helpful to you, but sometimes if we understand why we do things, it is easier to accept.

    Did you know they have studied grief? And most people will go through 5 stages. First is denial, you try to deny it happened. Second comes anger. Anger at the reason for the loss, anger at those involved, and even anger at others or big or small problems. Then there is bargaining then depression and finally comes acceptance. They don’t come one after another, sometimes there is an overlap of the stages, you might be at one stage and suddenly find yourself back a stage or two. But all of it is a way to lead to coming to terms with a loss.

    But at any time if you start feeling like you cannot go on, you must reach out to each other. And sometimes after a loss, esp. a sudden loss, a family member may even need to talk to their family doctor about how they are feeling and see what the doctor recommends. That is actually pretty common.

  94. the sister said,

    May 11, 2008 at 6:36 am

    I am going to “contribute some sweet sentiments” That’s the last thing we need, is stupid ex girlfriends on here, their called EX’s for a Reason! Anyway I have not had any time to read up on this site, I have been doing so much overtime I am so exhausted. But I Just want to say I had a bad Dream about Daniel I saw fire all around and his face, it was a freaky dream, I wonder where he is! But call me all you sisters Thursday or Saturday. Goodnight Love ya

  95. May 11, 2008 at 4:49 pm

    I recieved this in my email the other day. I am not sure if she has a relationship to the case or if she is known to you all. It may be a psychic prediction. Since I myself don’t know the value of the info I am just going to put it on here and let you all judge for yourself.

    Hello, I have just came across your website, I am so so sorry for both the families loss. I would like to ask you, if you can, to ask them to search in the payne creek trail, gill trail , cheesman area , I’m pretty sure that this is in the pike national forest , park county area. They are welcome to email me and thank you very much for your time.

  96. concerned realatives said,

    May 11, 2008 at 6:07 pm

    how are you so sure? those are some pretty definative “ideas”. I’m just curious why you’re suggesting those areas.

  97. May 11, 2008 at 10:50 pm

    Concerned relatives, I am not sure. That just arrived in my email, from that person who used that name and that email address. I don’t know whether they have any connection to the case, who they are or why they sent it. That was the total of what was in the email.

    It is possible that the person who sent it believes they have psychic ability, that will happen occasionally.

  98. Child of God said,

    May 12, 2008 at 1:34 am

    How can you say “Dear Sister” that Daniel is in hell?

  99. the other sister said,

    May 12, 2008 at 9:18 am

    child of god,
    the sister did not say Daniel was in hell, she was telling us of her dream!

  100. the other sister said,

    May 12, 2008 at 9:21 am

    can I ask you why those areas? Are you a psychic?

  101. vielsa said,

    May 12, 2008 at 6:05 pm

    To the person that sent that tip, thank you so much for forwarding that information! I am so glad you did and took the time to pass it on to us even if it leads to nothing. Please don’t let people on this site make you feel uncomfortable, it’s weird things like that email you received that lead to the truth. Even if it turns out to be nothing, it’s better to question it than ignore it. Thank you so much for caring! For once on this site I am not pissed off!! One more thing to the person that questioned my sister’s dream, it was a dream, she never suggested Daniel was anywhere!

  102. the sister said,

    May 13, 2008 at 1:19 am

    “God Child”, it was my dream,but where else could he be in heaven, flying with angels??? He’s surrounded by Demons scared and wants to be out of there, but it’s too late. Theres no way out of it, he’s just gonna be one of them now, nothing more nothing less. God Bless
    We miss you Becky, We will find you soon so you can rest in peace
    Love Your Sister

  103. Child of God said,

    May 13, 2008 at 1:23 pm

    Are you sure? Maybe, you and I believe in a different God.

  104. the sister said,

    May 13, 2008 at 3:02 pm

    So you don’t believe in the loving God, then you shouldn’t be on this site, this is a Sweet place and if you like evil then stay away from me, we do’nt need anymore bad people around here…You need jesus!

  105. vielsa said,

    May 13, 2008 at 3:23 pm

    Hey guys! Just wanted to say hello. Is anyone else having a difficult time with this as time passes? Some mornings I don’t even want to face another day! Ok, that’s everyday. I was just wondering. I am so confused as to why Becky had to leave us, I don’t know how I am ever going to get over this. Every other thought is of her and memories we shared, and the joy she brought to our family. Life sucks!!!!!!!!!!

    Becky please give us a sign or a dream to lead us to you. I hope my love for you is strong enough to make this happen. I can’t keep going on like this, knowing you are somewhere! I just have to know where you are, you will never know the pain I feel for you and your being gone has scarred me forever. I love you Beck!

  106. May 13, 2008 at 4:42 pm

    From Hevine:

    Hello, before I sent this email, it was extremely important and was my first and foremost priority to never cause harm to the family. What they have been through is unimaginable. The designated areas mentioned are a gut feeling only, and even though I believe that we all have intuition, I do not believe myself to be psychic. When I would hear of Becky missing on the news or elsewhere, for some reason, every time, these areas repeated themselves. I wish that I had the capabilities to check in these areas, I definitely don’t want to waste anyone’s time and effort. Of course, these areas could be wrong, I just don’t know, but, I felt like I had to do something with the areas that kept coming up. My friend had urged and encouraged me to make contact somehow, with you, because, I guess she thinks I have something to say. In January, my friend had to file a missing person’s report on her brother. We talked through the fear, the unknowing, the breaking of her heart and her family. I just kept feeling like he was alive and homeless and still in the area reported. It was probably the hope that I wanted to give her and take her pain away, but he did call a month later and was where I had felt. I call it a fluke, she doesn’t. So that is why I guess I felt compelled to send this email. I think anyone should help if they can, but if I have hurt anyone in anyway, I truly apologize from the bottom of my heart.

    Hello, if it’s okay, since the family has my email now, may I please ask if you can delete it from your site. Thank you so much

  107. concerned realatives said,

    May 13, 2008 at 7:08 pm

    So are these areas going to be checked now? are there still friends and family searching? I just believe no matter the circumstances you should never give up hope. and to her family if you feel like everything is getting to be to much to handle reach out to someone….you cannot get through this alone and you obviously have a close family so lean on eachother for help and support. And I have heard of support groups for families with a missing loved one. God Bless all of you kind people. I hope you get the answer you need.

  108. Child of God said,

    May 13, 2008 at 11:10 pm

    I do believe in Jesus. What I meant is my God is an ever forgiving God. I feel for you and the torment that you are going through. Your sister Vielsa is probably better able to explain how she feels, more than most, even though we all feel it, we just don’t know how and where to put our energy. There is a huge “hole” in all of our lives, it will never go away, but it must get easier to deal with, at least I’m praying for that. Fear……………of not knowing, of not having the answers, of wanting them back, on wishing that we couldv’e done something different. We must go on for our families and loved ones, we must slowly but surely learn how to laugh again. To not see those vivid, horid pictures that go through our mind. I am not evil, far from it, I feel other people’s pain and I ache for your family, but I ache for Daniel’s family too. May God wrap you in his arms tonight and whisper that everything will be ok.

  109. the other sister said,

    May 14, 2008 at 12:25 am

    i just wanted to reach out to all my sisters and tell them how much I love and miss them. I totally understand V, I feel the same way, everyday it gets harder. I feel hopeless, nothing else matters. I wish we had some solid clues to find Becky. Unless you’ve been through it no one ever fully understands. It certainly doesn’t get any easier as days pass and more questions arise. I don’t even want to get up in morning. When night comes thats the hardest, you try to fill your day to not think about it. You feel guilty if you laugh or are able to smell the fresh cut grass and feel the sun on your face. I know I do.I will always have a broken spot in my heart for Becky. We all loved her so much. She will always be in my heart, and I will always think of her with everything I do. I love you Becky and I pray we find you soon, so that we may lay you to rest.

  110. vielsa said,

    May 14, 2008 at 4:41 am

    It’s late and all I can think of is one thing….Becky! How long can this possibly go on? I am seriously losing it, I almost passed out today and I have no idea why. I think the stress is catching up with me or I just don’t have any energy left! I am sorry to here you all are going through the same thing (sisters). I mean how else can we feel, we lost a part of ourselves, Becky was a combination of all of those who raised her.

    I wonder how all of this is going to change us, as a family and individually. I am already starting to think about loss on a larger scale and it makes me uneasy. I hope I never have to experience this again, but I know death is only natural and inevitable. I just can’t imagine any more loss such as this. I just don’t know what to think anymore. I feel selfish with everything I do and the guilt outweighs any kind of happiness. I don’t know why I am drenched with guilt. I don’t know if there was anything I could’ve done to stop the kind of love Becky had for Daniel. I know of that kind of love, it’s impossible to ignore. In some ways I really understand why she stayed with him. Love is probably the most powerful thing anyone can feel. She loved Daniel and that love she had no control over, that was her weakness. If I can say one thing, it would be about the time Becky was 13 and I was 18. I fell deeply in love with someone and I couldn’t believe what was happening. I was just completely captivated and nothing in the world mattered, just me and him. I remember Becky being in my room with me at night when he would visit my window. He and I would just speak from the window about absolutely nothing and then he would disappear into the night. When he would leave my window, Becky would ask why I was so in love and what it was like. She would always say she couldn’t wait for something so special to happen to her. I remember the day she called me when she met Daniel, it happened to her. Becky was so completely taken away by Daniel, she didn’t know anything that great could actually exist. She then told me she understood that kind of love. In some ways I am happy she got to experience love like that , but I wish it could’ve been a different time, different choice. They were destined to meet, but the ending belonged to a different story.

    Becky! How could I write a piece about you and not say goodnight? I will think of you before I go to bed and every morning I am fortunate to rise, everyday for the rest of my life. I suppose my future husband will have to live with that! I am sorry our efforts in finding you have returned nothing. We haven’t given up, we won’t. If I could find you I would be so happy, I would hug you until we had to lower your body into your place for peace, where no one could ever hurt you again. Goodnight Beck, sweet dreams.

  111. May 14, 2008 at 5:53 am

    Nighttime is always the hardest. With nothing else to distract you, you find yourself thinking and crying. Vielsa, it is natural to feel guilt. Even when you didn’t do anything to deserve it. Becky was an adult, even if you had suspected, even if you had tried to keep her from him, she was an adult and she would do what she wanted. Trying to talk her out of it would have only driven a wedge between the two of you. So not suspecting may have been a good thing.

    Remember, it is one day at a time. You get through one day, then move to the next. And just because she hasn’t been found yet doesn’t mean she won’t be found. It may just take more time.

    You and your sister’s knew her best. What do you think Becky would have wanted from you and your sister’s after she was gone? For you to look for her? You have done that. What do you think she would say to you to comfort you? What would she want for your life?

    From what you and your sister’s have said about her, I would guess that probably would want you to remember her with love. And to learn to live and laugh again someday. To learn to be happy in your own life. Being happy and laughing seems wrong right now. But someday you will want to again, and you have to remember that Becky would have wanted that for you.

    One thing I have been wondering. This time of the year a lot of hikers and campers are out. Have you been able to put up any posters or flyers at the entrances to the hiking trails? The kind of thing I am talking about is to report if they find anything unusual, clothing or other items. Just kind of a reminder to be on the lookout.

  112. vielsa said,

    May 14, 2008 at 12:55 pm

    Home Sweet Home: Thanks for making me feel better, I hope that guilt really does fade away. At this point, it seems so impossible that Becky will be found. I guess what I am trying to say is that I’ve been waiting and hoping, and then nothing. So, I feel like I can’t even imagine her being found. If this happens, it will be like a dream come true. I know that sounds strange, I once thought that because there was no body Becky was alive. With time I realized it was selfish to think that way, she is gone and her body needs a place. I finally believe she’s not coming back… ever. Sunny days make me feel like disappearing and escaping my own thoughts, rainy days seem to be easier, but I know that whatever is going on outside Becky is not here to be a part of it. Why? Why? Why!!!!!!!!!!

  113. Vielsa said,

    May 15, 2008 at 4:40 pm

    Well my birthday is around the corner, I didn’t realize it until this morning. I used to be so excited about my birthday and now I don’t even want to celebrate! I can’t seem to focus on anything but Becky these days. Every morning is a challenge, I don’t even want to wake up anymore! Why would I, all I do is suffer with Becky being gone. My birthday will be a miserable one, for the first time in my life.

    Dear Becky,

    I woke up this morning wondering if you know how much your being gone has completely crushed any hopes and dreams I ever had, especially the ones I shared with you. I won’t know happiness like I knew before you decided to leave us. Did you know this situation would do this to all of us? How could you leave us like this? Why didn’t you let us in on more of what was going on? Or did you and I am too late? I know, that’s what it is. That’s exactly why I wake up feeling guilty everyday. I am a few years too late and now you’re gone. I was too selfish to see that you needed me. I remember that conversation we had at mom’s, you told me your life we be great if I moved out there, and then you cried and hugged me. I had two years to make your dream come true and I let you down. I don’t know how I am ever going to forgive myself for disappointing my little sister. On my birthday, I will think about you and that conversation we had, I wish I could change the past and your future. Sometimes I wish you never existed so I could be relieved of this pain that burdens my very soul. I am so sorry for letting you down, and not listening to your request. Now I have to live with that selfish decision. You have hurt all of us, I know not intentionally, but I don’t think we will ever understand how or why this happened to someone that was the center of our family, someone that brought happiness, and gave so much. You are not with us because God had bigger plans for you, he loved you so much and he knew the hurt this world brought you. You didn’t belong here, but we all needed you, and now I think you are where you can be you, happy. I love you so much. If crying could bring you back, you would have been here by now. My birthday wish is for you to be found, or at least come into my dream.. please, so I can relive one more moment with you by my side, fishing of course. Please know that you are with me everyday, closer than before, living my life with me.. Love you Beck!

  114. May 15, 2008 at 5:09 pm

    That is a beautiful letter Vielsa.

    About your birthday, maybe you don’t feel like partying, maybe you don’t feel ‘wild and crazy’ time. But do do something good for yourself that day. Whether it is a shopping trip or a quiet dinner with someone close to you. Do something that you would normally enjoy. It is important to be good to yourself now.

  115. vielsa said,

    May 16, 2008 at 12:52 pm

    Another rainy day, why does it seem like it rains so much? I have to try to get through my day, it gets harder with every day Becky is not found. This all feels like one big dream actually have moments in my day where I tell myself, ok this is a dream you’ll wake soon, this is a dream. I repeat that and then realize I am living my life, and life is gong to be this way without Becky. I never imagined death in the family, especially ours, we didn’t deserve this. Our family has gone through enough, when does it end! Becky should be here, with us, growing older together like sisters and brothers do. It makes no sense to me, I am so delusional when I think of Becky. It feels like she has been gone for too long. How are we ever going to pull through this? How can we have such an empty space that was filled for 22 years?


    I was thinking yesterday, and I thought about when I was in the woods searching for you. I really thought we were going to find you in those mountains. We tried, I tried, and I am sorry this much time has gone by. You are probably very familiar with the place you’re at by now, I am sure we have let you down. We don’t even know where to begin looking anymore, but one thing is for certain, we want you home!
    I can’t believe I ever thought my life was incomplete, I can’t believe I ever wanted a life here. I should’ve been there, in Colorado, with all of you. I can’t deny it, I had a feeling I needed to be there and ignored it, so I could try and make a life for myself here. I am sorry if that was selfish, I just didn’t realize you were so far away. Now, looking back, you were so far away from me, even there. It used to kill me to look at your pictures when you were alive, pictures of the family as well, because I knew I was at a distance. You can’t imagine how it tears me apart to look at your pictures now. I bet you never knew how I always kept you in my thoughts, looked at your pictures and smiled. I never knew you would grow up to be so beautiful and so much like me. There are so many things I never got to say to you, things I only thought of, the things people don’t say. Well I wish I told you, I bet you would’ve made different decisions, you would’ve wanted your older sister to be proud of you. I am proud of you anyway, I don’t care what you carried with you, we all make mistakes.
    I just can’t believe you’re gone. I am just relieved to know we are all going to come home to you, please wait for us. I just want to make it through this life, and I have comfort in knowing I will see you again. Love you Beck!

  116. May 16, 2008 at 7:17 pm

    Vielsa, what kinds of things did Becky like to do?

    I mean you mentioned fishing, did she also like hiking and exploring?

  117. vielsa said,

    May 19, 2008 at 3:37 am

    To answer your question, I would say Becky loved the outdoors. Anything that involved nature or camping. I am assuming you’re asking beacuse that could help locate her, how thoughtful of you. So, I definitely think she is in the mountains, somewhere. I have no idea where though, those mountains are so overwhelming. When I was searching I can’t explain how small I felt and my efforts seemed insignificant. I didn’t care though, I guess anything is possible. At this point in my life, dealing with something like this, I think anything is possible. I never thought I would be writing on a website called Sweet Sentiments everyday to a missing sister. What the hell?

  118. May 19, 2008 at 4:00 am

    In some circumstances, mountains can be overwhelming and with the task you had they definately would be. But what I was thinking, was about Becky. The first choice for our grave site, we usually choose somewhere close to family. But the second choice is often someplace beautiful or that has a special significance to us or where we had spent time. Some people who choose to be cremated might ask that their ashes be spread on the ocean, some on the mountains. She enjoyed exploring in the mountains right? So until she is found, she is close to someplace where she enjoyed being.

    But yes as far as finding her, one thing to consider is if she ever talked about some area that was really special to her. Perhaps somewhere that she really found beautiful, or rewarding on that mountain, some place that really made an impression on her. It is possible that that is where she may have been left.

  119. vielsa said,

    May 19, 2008 at 6:20 pm

    Another difficult day! I feel it’s starting to take over me, I don’t know how to forget you, every other thought is of your beautiful face. Please help me forget you so I don’t have to live this way. Life is too hard to live remembering you, I have no control over the way I am feeling about you being gone. A part of me has completely died, you have taken me with you even though I am still here. I am so destroyed Beck, sometimes when I think of you I have to catch my breath because I cannot believe what has happened, even now. I try to keep my mind off of you by doing other things, but then your’re at the surface again. How can I ever forget this tragedy? I just don’t know anymore, I am simply existing. Every day when there is a point I am aggravated, I want to start screaming and crying out loud, just like a little kid who didn’t get his way. I want to scream so loud and just cry forever!

    P.S. Thanks for the dream you brought to mom, she loved it, so did I! I miss and love you so very much, you will never know. Love, your sis

  120. May 19, 2008 at 10:27 pm

    I read a saying the other day, I don’t know if it will help.

    “Not ever day is a good day, but every day has something good in it.”

    On a bad day, you may have to look for what was good. The good things are sometimes small. A smile or polite gesture from a stranger, the smile of friend or comfort they offer, the sun shining, a flower that just bloomed or maybe even something good you do for yourself. But unless we are looking on bad days, we may miss those things.

  121. the sister said,

    May 21, 2008 at 2:34 pm

    Vielsa I just want to say Happy Birthday, Sorry I am a little late, My home phone doesn’t have long distance, but call me if you can, (my home phone) Love you.

  122. vielsa said,

    May 22, 2008 at 3:41 am

    Don’t worry! I am not upset, yesterday was a very difficult day anyway, it was my birthday. I received a call from all of you except Becky, of course. I think I anticipated something so unrealstic, and that’s why I keep thinking I am crazy! What a day it was, knowing somewhere, the truth that Becky would not call, yet hope was there. I felt so terrible yesterday. I had no idea Becky would not have not been around for my 28th birthday. I am so bitter about life, forget religion, and hope, well you see where this is going. I just hate everything right now. For one, I can’t stand people walking around on cell phones talking like the person on the other line even gives a sh….t! Or people getting their daily fix at Starbucks, complaining about life. Or what about that loser that is drivig like he has a god damn job, everyone knows he has nowhere to go! I can’t stand people right now, help me!!!!!!!!

  123. vielsa said,

    May 22, 2008 at 3:45 am

    None of us deserved this. It’s no wonder why people give up on life……..

  124. May 22, 2008 at 5:09 am

    How many people wished you Happy Birthday yesterday Vielsa? They were your something good that happened that day. They were saying we are still here.

    I can remember on my way to my brother’s funeral, watching traffic going about their busines. I wanted them to stop and honor my brother. I wanted them to be as hurt as I was. They didn’t stop. So yes, I can kind of understand what you are saying. But remember, many people do know, many people do care…. you just might not know all of them.

  125. vielsa said,

    May 22, 2008 at 6:32 pm


    Wherever you are just know that I am thinking of you, always. I cannot remeber the last time my mind was so preoccupied with anything. I cannot believe this anymore, or take this, it’s just too much. We have got to find you! I am living day to day on the edge, waiting for a phone call. Where on earth can you be? I can’t think anymore, I just don’t believe this mess. I wish I could have saved you, I want to just run far away from all of this. I miss you so much you wouldn’t even believe it. You are my every thought and every last feeling of sadness. I hope we find you soon Beck, this is slowly killing me and everything I am and ever was. I never cried so much in my life, I don’t think it will ever end. I love you Beck, I wish I could hear your voice. You will be found. Love ya, Vj

  126. vielsa said,

    May 23, 2008 at 12:58 pm


    I woke up this morning thinking of you, of course! Just wanted to let you know I miss you so much, as each day passes, every moment becomes you. You should know you are loved more than ever (don’t know if that’s possible) and I feel your presence with me, especially when I do things you used to love. I hope this is true because that is all I have now. Thank you for coming into my life, for as long as you did. You will always be a part of me and no one will ever mend the part of my heart that belongs to you. I love you so much Beck, facing another day without you is the hardest thing, and it will be for the rest of my life. Love ya, Vj

  127. vielsa said,

    May 23, 2008 at 5:59 pm

    To all of you that love me!!

    Hey guys wanted to drop by, I hope you are all ok. We will all be together soon, we will deal with this together, like a family, the way Becky would have wanted it to be. Miss you guys! Love you all so very much.. Vj

  128. Just a person going thur what you are feeling for a love one said,

    May 24, 2008 at 5:35 am

    To Becky’s Family and Friends this is to you all its called God’s Someone Special. Once in a while, someone special comes along Someone who makes the world brighter just by being there, someone who warms the heart, with just a smile, someone who makes life a Celebration every day of the year. On the day Becky was born God gave her to you all. God Bless you all. Like my family im praying for you too.

  129. the sister said,

    May 24, 2008 at 6:00 pm

    I had a dream about you Beck, and I remember grabbing your hand and taking you where ever I went, It was a very short dream but thank you for being in it, I Loved it. I miss you so much, I listened to your cd the other night while folding laundry and I couldn’t stop crying. I actually just woke up and writing this is making me start up again. I miss our mornings together drinking coffee and bullshitting about everything. Last week Dad and Mar went to cripple creek and I didn’t have u to call to get together like we use to when they’d go. I don’t even go to mom and dads as much now cause I can’t stop thinking about u and how awkward it feels being there without u. Everyone just walks around the house acting occupied but we’re all in a deep thought about u, And I hate hearing the doorbell ring, or hearing someone knock,at mom and dads, my heart stops for a second and I’m hoping it’s u, but it’s not. Now the summer is here and we won’t be sunbathing or swimming, I lost my best friend and I lost all my happiness. Nothings the same anymore, all I have to look forward to is sleeping and hoping you’ll be in my dreams everynight. I have no energy to enjoy anything, come visit me more often in my dreams, I miss and Love you so much. Your sister

  130. the sister said,

    May 24, 2008 at 6:10 pm

    I just looked up my dream and found this:
    To see explosions in your dream, signifies a loss and displeasure. It may also mean that your repressed emotions and rage have come to the surface in a forceful and violent manner.
    Makes sense I guess, I dreamt that me and Beck were in mom and dads house and I saw about 4 missiles, huge ones coming down like right on our house, well I grabbed Becks hand and ran away from that part of the house and We heard the explosion but we were ok it didn’t hit us….There were no more missiles after that and then I woke up.

  131. the other sister said,

    May 25, 2008 at 1:41 am

    hey sisters I just wanted to say hello and tell you all how much I LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  132. the other sister said,

    May 25, 2008 at 1:46 am

    This is to the comment of Just a person,
    I just wanted to say thank you very much for the beautiful words and the well wishes. It’s nice to know that there are still caring people in the world. \My family and I will pray for you too. God Bless

  133. the other sister said,

    May 25, 2008 at 1:59 am

    It’s been almost 2 months now and still no Becky. My life is in shambles I just try to get through my day but all I can think about is you!! This has hurt all of us so much, There are still days that I feel like I am dreaming. You are the first on my mind in the morning and of course the last thing I think about when I finally get to sleep, and I feel guilty. Guilty that are efforts to find you have not been successful. I just wish I had one last time to tell you how much I love you, to wrap my arms around you, and never let go!!!!!!!!! What I feel is beyond pain and worse than suffering. You were my best friend, someone I could lean on and talk to about anything despite age difference. You were that someone that I could always be myself with, laughing,joking, being goofy. You never judged me or anyone else. Each day that goes on and it gets harder and the pain gets worse. I will never get over this. I will hold you in my heart forever, until we meet again ,I love you and miss you so much, you will never know, and I hope that we find you soon , Love your sis

  134. Besa said,

    May 26, 2008 at 8:16 am

    HSH viewers;

  135. vielsa said,

    May 26, 2008 at 7:33 pm

    To everyone in our family that is hurting,

    Everyday does seem like a dream, far from reality. Acceptance doesn’t even exist. I cannot ever say bye to Becky or shut her out, as if she were on the other side. I just seriously can’t believe this or fathom any of it. I am more confused than ever. Sad to say all I look forward to are dreams of Becky and the way I remember her. I know how you feel J, when you speak of this. I am sorry for all of your pain, the pain we are drowning in, but one thing is for sure, Becky knows of this pain and she knows it’s love. I love you guys and we all know we won’t get over this, but we will surely go through it together! Love Ya. Vj

  136. The Sister said,

    May 29, 2008 at 4:15 am

    I was thinking, it’s messed up for Daniels family to keep that little dog “Bella” That was wrong!!! My dad didn’t want anyone going into that apartment, until he saw it, but of course they snuck in and wiped everything including Bella. If you all didn’t know daniel got that for my sister as a gift, would he really want that for himself ? He hated that dog, he liked Shady the “pitbull”
    *****TO DANIELS MOM/ FAMILY****,
    My whole family would really appreciate it if you could somehow send the dog to my family, it would mean so much to us. That dog represents Becky. This has been bugging me ever since I heard that his family went in and took everything. I think it’s the least that could be done from the Dereere family. You have Daniels ashes, at least let us have something she loved, she was always carrying it with her everywhere, pampering it. I really could not believe that the dog was taken, Please give it back, that’s all we have now…

  137. vielsa said,

    May 30, 2008 at 6:32 pm

    Becky I wish you would appear more often in my dreams, that’s all I ask! I am amazed at how much happiness you brought into my life, yet great pain and sadness, so deep I don’t think I will ever be free of it. I can’t imagine where you are, where your spirit might be, or if you are even happy. I just don’t know how to think of you, I know that you’re gone but you have left your mark with all of us, that is why we can’t let go. You are on everyone’s mind day and night. It’s funny you thought no one cared about you, dad told me that. If you can see our world without you, you would know how much you are loved. There aren’t words to express how this situation has made us see how important you really were and are. How could you leave us Beck!!! I cry everyday and most days I wish I was up there with you, this life is too hard now, I will never be face to face with true happiness as long as you’re gone. I miss you so much I would do anything to see you, or be with you again, like we were before. My heart is so broken, I feel so lost without you. I wish I spent more time with you and had longer conversations. If I ever made you upset, I am sorry. It was only for your protection, my love for you took over at those moments. I remember I warned you about Daniel and how he could have the power to end your life, Beck why didn’t you listen?? I knew he would hurt you, I just wish I could confront him!! I know you are thinking I was right, but you’re also thinking he wsa all you had. I know, and this pains me everyday. I would rather sit in a cold dark cell knowing you are alive than to live my life without you. I love you so much, please forgive me for not meeting your expectations. Love, vj

  138. itdoesntmatter said,

    May 30, 2008 at 6:36 pm

    That aparment was DANNY’S your sister’s name wasn’t on anything, not the lease, cars, adoption papers for that dog, nothing! HIS family had the right to go in there everything in it was Danny’s and not much of your sister’s stuff was in it. I believe your father already harrassed daniel’s mom so why didn’t HE say anything then? PLUS they didn’t take the dog, animal control did when the cops came in when all this happened. I’m sorry to be rude but once again you don’t have the facts and are making ridiculous accusations, and if they had the dog they’d give it back! and noone “snuck” in the police let them go in. and his family had every right in the world to take everything because everything was Danny’s! Both families have gone through enough and you’re still going through it. yes they have his ashes but it’s not like it makes it any easier. please just leave his family alone, neither one of these families deserved any of this, and you’re trying to grieve and so are we.

  139. The Sister said,

    May 30, 2008 at 7:52 pm

    Ok and who the hell are you? I am her SISTER, I know a lot more than you do. Daniel and Beck shared EVERYTHING! The animal control does not have the dog, I asked myself! Sounds like u were just an aquaintance, you should stop trying to be part of this, That message was not to u who ever u are, it was to his family, I expect a reply from his family not anoyone else, so keep your nose out of this if it’s not directed to u! And by the way, stupid Daniel fraudulently switched my sisters car into his name! That was her Audi! The last thing I need is for some STRANGER to write a message for the actualy person it was for! You’ve probably never even seen the dog. I don’t know who is telling u all this but it’s none of your concern u are not family, and u didn’t talk to my dad so don’t act like u were there! If I’m bothering his family they can tell me themselves we don’t need a third party like youself thanks!

    To my sisters I Love You, and Beck we all miss u.
    Apparently you were such a blessing to have to where some psycho freaked out that he couldn’t have u!

  140. itdoesntmatter said,

    May 30, 2008 at 9:56 pm

    ok, it shows what you know, because I AM family. and animal control doesn’t have the dog anymore but they are the ones who took it not danny’s family, and after 2 MONTHS! why are you all of a sudden concerned about the dog? And there IS documentation of DANNY paying for that car! And I’m tellin you right now you ARE bothering his family we don’t need any of this. And neither do you, you’re just causing yourself more pain and heartache. and when your father talked to daniel’s mom i highly doubt you were there either and even if you were you didn’t hear the other end of the conversation. and if i was a third party i wouldn’t be on this site, just proves what i said before, you don’t have the facts and are making ridiculous accusations. and name calling is a little childish, noone knows the circumstances behind any of this and daniel’s family has never ONCE said anything bad about becky so try to give us the same respect please. Greif is the hardest thing in the world especially in your situation and I think everyone needs to focus on what to do now. What would becky have wanted? try to full fill some of the dreams and aspirations she had. I do keep becky and your family in my prayers and hope that you find her so she can have a resting spot like everyone deserves.

  141. the other sister said,

    May 31, 2008 at 2:19 am

    It doesn’t matter,
    First of all I am Becky’s sister and I was in the room when my father was on the phone with Daniel’s mom. He did not harass her at all, she spoke to him on her own free will, if she felt threatened she could have hung up on him, second of all that was Becky’s dog!!! He gave it to her as a gift, anyone with a brain would know that is a girl’s dog,she even named it Bella. How would you feel if someone you loved gave you something that you and your siblings loved then took it away? cause that’s what your FAMILY DID!!! There is a 7 and 9 yr old that loved that dog and it represents Becky, That’s all they had. As far as us not running over to the APT to grab belonings we were so devasted that was the last thing on our minds. I have moved my sister before I know how much she had, you don’t, so don’t make it seem she didn’t have much, because YOU DON”T KNOW that detectives also found some belongings in Daniels friends crawl space that belonged to my sister. Planned?? I think so. Animal control took the dog the night Daniel commited suicide, so it shows what you know, nothing, and it shows how caring your family is. The victim in this case is our family not yours , so if you can’t hang get off the site PEACE!!! OH and as far is the Audi I was there when Becky purchased it, and that too is being investigated not mention alot more. Name calling is childish but when truth is truth let it be spoken. Not all of us have spoken ill about Daniel I haven’t , My family does know Daniel probably better than you, he spent so much time there, even after Becky went missing. As far as we’re taling about aspirations and all, why don’t you and your family come help us search for Becky??

  142. itdoesntmatter said,

    May 31, 2008 at 2:24 pm

    We don’t come help search because the entire family are trying to put their lives back together. And I’m done arguing with all of you because it’s not worth it, it’s just hurting everyone more and that was not my intention. There are 2 sides to every story and you have your side and we have ours so lets just leave it at that please. Not everyone in your family has spoken ill about Danny but many of you have and that’s what I mean there ARE some of you who have, and it’s very disrespectful. What if someone was writing bad about becky? you would want to defend her right? well that’s what we’re trying to do. It’s bad enough Daniel killed himself but to have him labeled a muderer hurts worse than anything, and we all understand what he’s done, it’s not like we’re saying he didn’t but it’s hard for a family to accept that just like it’s hard for your family to accept what you’re going through. I am truly sorry if I’ve made any of you upset and I do apologize. i never meant to cause problems. I am deeply sorry. Bickering does not accomplish anything and thats not what either of us should be focused on. So I am very sorry and I wish you and your family find the answer you need and deserve. I pray you find Becky and you can have the closure you all need so bad. God Bless you and your family. And again I am sorry

  143. the other sister said,

    May 31, 2008 at 11:37 pm

    It doesn’t matter,
    I understand what your family is doing as we too are trying to go back to our everday lives. It’s so difficult, all we think about is Becky, you need to understand, we don;t know where she is, what happened, how.? I know even with Daniel’s ashes, you still want answers, but we don’t even have that. We do pray for your family too, you need to understand it’s a process anger guilt , rage etc, you have good days and bad. we are all in different stages of that process. No one wants to hurt your family or argue. That will not bring back Becky or Daniel. The way my other sister came across, probably did seem rude, but if you knew that she was over at my parents that night, and the younger kids were asking about Becky, Bella, Daniel, she was upset. They are too young to understand this tragedy. I remember good times with Becky and Daniel, at my parents house just hanging out talking, laughing. This just all seems so unreal. We all loved him like a brother thats what hurts the most. I cry for both of them. There is nothing that could be that bad to end it like this. I don;t want to fight or argue with anyone. That is the only reason my sis brought up the dog because of the kids. I apologize if I caused you hurt, and there are 2 sides to every story, that we may never know. Remeber Daniel as you did, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope we find Becky soon, so that my family can put her to rest and have the closure we need. Thank you for understanding, once again I am sorry, God Bless to you and your family as well.

  144. itdoesntmatter said,

    June 3, 2008 at 11:11 am

    the other sister,
    Thank you so much for your kind words, it really meant alot. I understand what you’re all goin through, and you’re right we may never have the answer we need and that hurts almost worse than anything. And I also can’t even begin to imagine your families pain. I really do hope and pray that you do find her and you and your family can have closure or at least some answers. The process of grief is not at all easy, because there’s so much anger and frustration it’s too much for a person to deal with. But as long as you have friends and family that love you it can help make things a little easier because everyone can support each other and be there for one another. I will probably always keep your family in my prayers and pray you all find the strength to help make everyday a little easier. and thank you again this meant alot. God bless you and your family.

  145. Theresa said,

    June 6, 2008 at 6:20 pm

    I haven’t come to this site in a long time as it breaks my heart and makes my heart palpitate. There is so much pain here. Not a moment goes by that I don’t think about Danny. I can’t hardly look at his pictures and I definitely can’t look at his ashes. I get angry and talk to him and say “Son, what happened? If you did hurt Becky, Why????????????????????????????? I remember the Day that Danny called me and told me that Becky was pregnant and they were going to get married. I talked to Becky a couple of times and she was the sweetest thing on this earth. We both felt so comfortable that we told each other that we loved each other. My daughter Kristina has a small picture of her and Danny on the wall in her bedroom. I am so sorry, from the bottom of my heart of all the pain and suffering and wondering and loss that you are going through. You all want Becky back and I want Danny back, what went wrong???????????????I do pray that Danny is found innocent, according to the police there is a possible 3rd suspect. I am sorry about the dog, we were all grieving and my brother got him from the pound and I did tell your dad that. I am sorry about the little ones, I too lost a brother when I was there age. I have seen some of you on Myspace and you are all beautiful like your sister. When I have days when I don’t want to go on, I have to think about my other children and family. It’s so hard, I know. I have to say, and I am not a psychic, but the Black Forest keeps coming up in my mind. Please believe that we never meant to be disrespectful and do anything or take anything that didn’t belong to Danny. God Bless and Keep You.

  146. the other sister said,

    June 7, 2008 at 2:27 am

    Thank you for the kind words about Becky,she really was a wonderful person.I know how much she loved Daniel. I just don’t understand either. I wish we all had some answers. As far as the third suspect did they say who that might be? We have not heard about that. We all loved Daniel too. He was like a brother to us all. The kids especially. There were 3 birthdays that came and went (my sisters) and that just reinforced it all. Becky would never miss a Birthday, she would always call. Thank you for the compliments about us girls. We will keep you and your family in our prayers too. I hope Becky is found soon,this is too hard. I have to force myself through the day, and I know thats what my family is doing as well. I know no one meant to be disrespectful when your grieving you are going through so many different emotions, it’s hard and sometimes you can’t control it. I know that Black Forest was mentioned, though I don’t know how throughly it was searched. I thank you once again and for the kind words. I appreciate you trying to help us. God Bless you and your family, and remember Danny as you did.

  147. Vielsa said,

    June 7, 2008 at 7:59 pm


    I decided to come back on this site too, it’s an outlet that makes me feel connected to Becky. I know you are suffering like we are, I can’t believe we are all in this situation that seems endless. I am sorry for your pain, I cannot imagine being a mother and losing a son or a daughter. My parents are crushed and they are still in disbelief as well. I don’t see how the love between those two could lead to such a tragedy. Thank you for being supportive and expressing yourself, you are surely not alone. I am sorry if any of my words in the past added to your heartache, I didn’t know how to deal with this and I still don’t, but the anger is slowly fading. God Bless You!!

  148. Vielsa said,

    June 7, 2008 at 8:06 pm

    Hey guys! Just wanted to say let’s pray Beck gets found, too much time is going by now. We seriously need to figure out a way to find her even if that means we have to search again. I search everyday, still, when I look on the sides of the road, my eyes just start searching! I know that’s crazy because I am in Maryland, but it’s true. Might as well search where she was last. I can’t wait until this is all over, until then I have no peace and no sleep! I love you guys so much, we are in this together, thank God there’s a lot of us, not everyone goes through something crazy such as this. At leat we can support eachother. Talk to you soon.

  149. the other sister said,

    June 7, 2008 at 11:51 pm

    Hello guys,
    I too pray that Becky is found soon this is just too much for anyone. I pray we find the answers we all so desperatley need and get closure. You are right thank god we have eachother for support, I could not get through this alone. I love you all very much, and thank you all so much for being there for me. Becky I know you are somewhere up in heaven looking over us. We love you so very much, you will never know how much pain and grief this caused all of us. Until we meet God bless all of you!!!

  150. The Sister said,

    June 24, 2008 at 4:16 am

    Hi sisters, I miss u guys. Please come back out soon to visit again. Love You all, and Becky thank you for visiting me in my dreams, I love seeing you, it really helps me though these rough times.

  151. the other sister said,

    June 25, 2008 at 12:17 am

    Hi guys,
    i miss you all too!! I will be out soon, I love you all so much. Becky we love you and miss you so much. They say time heals all wounds, well I can tell you time has just made things so much harder. There is not a day that goes by that i don’t think of you, that i don’t cry for you!! You are so loved and missed so much by all. You are now in heaven, a beautiful angel, please guide us and watch over us and protect us. You will always be in our hearts!! I love you Becky!!

  152. BROTHER said,

    June 25, 2008 at 10:31 pm

    I know I have not spoke about anything since this incident has occured. Today is my birthday. Sadly I did not and won’t recieve a call from my brother wishing me a happy birthday, I have read this blog since it has started. And I am sorry to tell you now that I am not living with all this money that my brother left me. My ONLY brother killed himself over what happened between the two of them. Unfortunetly all of us will never know what happened. With his death, I have no choice but handle all of the financial obligations that he had. With anyone that is successfull, there are many hidden things that are still popping up to this date. With the money that he left me. I paid off the Audi. I thought that this car meant something to him. It turns out that it didn’t. I do have this car sitting in my driveway. And I do not have any attachment to this car. Therefor, This car has been for sale. My brother made $1000 in back payments to pull the car out of repo, I paid the car off in full for $5091. Since I am moving, I do not have a use for the car. The car is currently for sale for $5500. I am in DFW. I figured that the only people that would appreciate this car for what it is would be the previous owners family. Again I am sorry for everything that has happened. And I hope that a resolution is soon to come. Requardless of the outcome we will always be greiving. And just so you you know, Daniel never spoke bad about Becky. When he was down here in Texas the week before. I heard several calls he had with Becky, at the end of every call he said ” I love YOU ” if you anyone would like to contact me. m_dereere@yahoo.com

  153. the other sister said,

    June 27, 2008 at 2:54 am

    I appreciate that you have given us that information. We all know how it feels. 3 birthdays have come and gone as well and no word from Becky. She would have called. I will speak to my parents about the car. We are all sorry for what has happened. I know Becky and Daniel loved eachother. I just don;t understand any of this even now.It feels like a bad dream and I am waiting to wake up. I will contact you soon. Thank you for the e-mail address.
    God Bless

  154. the other sister said,

    June 30, 2008 at 5:47 am

    Hello sisters,
    Today marks exactly 3 months that Becky went missing. I can’t believe it. I miss her so much. I cry everday, I can’t help it. To think she will never share the moments of our wedding, or any other special events in our life. I love you you all and miss you. Becky you will always be in my heart. I love you so much. Love your sis

  155. vielsa said,

    June 30, 2008 at 3:13 pm

    I cannot believe it either. I am in another world, I have grown to be more bitter and I ask God every day why he had to take her that way. Why didn’t he protect her? How could she die that way and suffer. We all know that she did, lets face it. I am so confused about religion, hope, and any kind of belief of goodness that supposedly exists. Becky did not deserve this, and her future looked so promising. This situation makes me sick and I hate everything! I want her back and I know that’s not going to happen so f@## the world that took her way!!! I love you guys and please take care of yourselves while I try to figure out where the hell Becky is. As for Daniel, words cannot express the anger that I have in my veins, the pain he has caused is unbearable, I will never be the same. Becky I love you and I cry every day, you know that. I would love for you to visit me, just please don’t scare me, lol!! I love you and it will grow stronger with every day I live without you. If there was a way to bring you back, I swear I would do anything even if it meant I wouldn’t come out alive, because that would mean I tried, and I know “trying” now isn’t even an option. I hope the world ends soon and we can all see you.

  156. vielsa said,

    June 30, 2008 at 3:21 pm


    Thanks for destroying a family and putting innocent young children in the face of pain and heartache, thanks for taking away a special friend and sister, and exposing us to that dark world you were in, now you are free and we have to suffer among eachother and live this way forever. Fair?

  157. itdoesntmatter said,

    June 30, 2008 at 4:21 pm

    noone ever said this was fair!!!!!! if he’s free because he is no longer with us then why isn’t she??? HIS family is also suffering!!! I don’t know why YOU don’t understand that…. You can’t even appreciate the fact his brother came on here and was offering the information on how to get that car all of you have wanted so badly. Yes he has hurt many people very badly but he has also destroyed his own family!!! We may never have the answers but you need to learn some respect for the other people on this site they have had nothing but respect for you and your family. Your other sisters and family members who have been on here are a lot more understanding and actually thanked his brother. i know you are hurting we ALL are but you are being cruel. He had young children in his life a nephew who will never grow to know his uncle. I apologize if I’m being rude but it was a horrible loss on both parts and BOTH sides are suffering enough without comments making it worse. His family cannot be condemmed for what he did. And his family reads this as much as yours even though they may not comment. Because they don’t want to argue anymore… So i do apologize and I pray God gives you the strength to help you more everyday. God bless you and your family

  158. July 1, 2008 at 4:56 am

    Itdoesntmatter, you are right it isn’t fair. Fair would be that Daniel was alive and so was Becky. Fair would be that once persons developed a relationship, that they would always wish the best for the other person they cared about- even if the relationship ended. No, life isn’t fair.

    And about respect, yes there are two grieving families. One family lost their loved one through his own choice. One family lost their loved one through someone else’s choice. Yes, I am sure that Daniel’s family is finding this painful. Yes, they are also grieving. And I am sure they are aware of the anger at Daniel, they would be aware even if no one ever said it or wrote it. Because they know how angry they would be if someone else had taken Daniel’s life.

    That is another thing that isn’t fair about this whole thing. One person made a decision, and a whole lot of people get hurt. People that didn’t have a choice or a voice in the decison. And a lot of people lost.

    Now I have to ask you a question, would you feel it was fair if something had happened to your loved one and it was thought they may have been harmed by another- would you feel it was fair if you were not permitted to express your anger about it?

  159. July 1, 2008 at 5:05 am

    I have talked before about the 5 stages of grief, and about the fact that anger is one of the stages you go through. But Becky’s family is not the only family that goes through those stages. Daniel’s family will also be going through it. I’m not saying that anyone is angry. But for both families, there may be times when they might feel anger at their loved one for choices they made. And right now, that may feel wrong knowing how much you love and miss them, knowing how much you are grieving. But you can be angry and still love and miss them. When they were alive, there were probably times when anger was felt- yet you still loved them. Because you were angry at an action they took or a decision they made, not really angry at them. Love and anger can both exist.

  160. vielsa said,

    July 1, 2008 at 1:50 pm

    It Doesn’t Matter,

    Until you experience such a loss, please don’t tell me how to express myself or act. How am I supposed to feel towards the person that stole my sister’s life?

  161. itdoesntmatter said,

    July 1, 2008 at 3:17 pm

    I’m not trying to say you shouldn’t feel the way you feel you have every right to feel like that all I’m saying is that threre are 2 families going through this. And your anger is completely understandable. I just believe his family shouldn’t be the one at fault here. If they could have stopped it or knew what was going on they would have stopped it. But like I said I do apologize and you do have the right to be angry I absolutely would be.
    And to home sweet home…. I think everyone has the right to express their anger BUT Daniel’s family have not come on here to express their anger in such a hurtful way. That’s all I’m saying, his family does read this although they may not comment and a lot of what is said is very hurtful. And i also believe having no appreciation for the family who have expressed their deepest sorrows is wrong. Once again like I’ve said before they are not the one’s who have done anything wrong and they are still grieving and although he did take his own life to his loved ones he left behind it may as well be like someone else took him from them. And just because it was HIS choice to take his own life doesn’t make it right or mean that his family should grieve less!!! Which is what you’re implying. And I NEVER said this was fair!!! My whole point (if you could read and comprehend properly) is that Becky’s family has lost a daughter, sister, friend, and Daniel’s family has lost a son, brother, uncle, and no matter what the circumstances they should have the same right to grieve in the way Becky’s family is even if it was HIS choice. And I would just like to point out only the first 5 sentences are directed towards Vielsa i just don’t won’t her to think the rest of this is directed towards her because it is directed towards home sweet home. And also I NEVER once said they shouldn’t be able to express anger!!! So to Vielsa God bless you and your family….. and to homesweethome…. i think you need to read my previous comment more in depth because the comments you made to me had absolutley NO relavance what so ever to what I said maybe you heard me wrong but I read my comment over again and then your’s and it didn’t make any sense….. But anyways this isn’t about you…. God please bless Becky and her famliy give them the answers they need…. We do keep you all in our prayers…. And once again I AM very sorry.

  162. The Sister said,

    July 2, 2008 at 10:34 pm

    We are doing a search this saturday after the 4th of July. Lots of random people are helping, people that never knew Beck or d. It’s nice to know that there are people who care. and all my sisters thanks for coming out of state to do it as well, I know u guys had busy lives too, but you came! I miss you guys and we’ll keep you all updated.

  163. lissa lopez said,

    July 4, 2008 at 5:34 pm


  164. The Sister said,

    July 4, 2008 at 8:42 pm

    Lissa! please give me your number, you never left me a phone number to reach you at. We are doing a search on Sat.. and I’ll need to tell you the details.

  165. Jane said,

    July 11, 2008 at 7:58 pm

    Has anyone talk to Wes about this? What does he have to say? Isn,t he the cause of all the drama between Becky and Dan?

  166. the other sister said,

    July 12, 2008 at 1:51 am

    Where are you from? did you know them? We have spoken to Wes and so have the investigators. No Wes is not all of the cause of the drama, but I guess he did not help situation either. Becky and him remained friends, but that was it. I know Wes and Daniel didn’t get along. Thanks

  167. Colorado Friend said,

    July 14, 2008 at 7:28 pm

    I have known Danny and his family since he was about 12. I am good friends with his dad and brother. In his last phone call to his father, about an hour before he died, Danny expressed real sadness at not being able to help Becky and he said that he loved her and wanted to get her off the drugs. We don’t know if he killed her or she overdosed somewhere and hasn’t been found. The fact remains – she was playing both men for drugs and money. PERIOD. What culpability does the ex have?? He was the one giving her the drugs??? Granted, you want answers, but look in your own backyard. Why was her family allowing her to do the drugs????? How do you know she didn’t OD???

  168. itdoesntmatter said,

    July 14, 2008 at 7:54 pm

    Colorado friend,
    Her family wasn’t “allowing” her to do drugs you don’t “allow” a 22 year old woman to do anything. She was an adult she made her own choices and decisions. They may have known she was on drugs but the only person that could help her was her. A family doesn’t want to admit or even see that their loved ones are addicts. Although you make good points that should possibly be looked into, but I don’t think it is right for you to come on here and jump on false accusations. And it is a possibility that she may have overdosed but no one knows that and her family is only worried about finding her not what she may have done, did do, or could have done. I’m close with daniel’s family but for some reason I feel the need to defend Becky because she can’t defend her self for whatever reason. So my point is that you were very disrespectful to her family and they do not deserve that at all. If you are going to come on here and express your opinions which is fine, have a little integrity and respect for the BOTH families.

  169. Jane said,

    July 15, 2008 at 2:27 am

    People need to know there is more to Wes then meets the eye.

  170. The Sister said,

    July 15, 2008 at 4:20 am

    Colorado Friend…. My Family did not know about the drugs, you aren’t part of our family and don’t try and act like you know us! Daniel was just controlling she started not caring for him much cause he changed and a matter of fact he was VERY stingy with his money. He was doing shady things with his business that would have him behind bars for a long time! Now anyway why are you afraid to tell your name? Either stop making stuff up cause you have no clue about ANY of this or simply prove your so called facts! Leave us alone, I get the sense that your just a trouble maker and u may even be someone we know or that Becky knew, and just trying to make matters worse. Stay the hell off this site, you don’t know a damn thing about my family and you never will!

  171. The Sister said,

    July 15, 2008 at 4:34 am

    Thank you ” it doesn’t matter” I don’t know who this person ” Colorado Friend” is but they are just being disrespectful.

  172. the other sister said,

    July 15, 2008 at 4:38 am

    Thank you it doesn’t matter for defending Becky as she is not here to defend herself. I appreciate that very much.

  173. the other sister said,

    July 15, 2008 at 4:48 am

    Colorado friend,
    It seems you know much about this. Do you really think we knew Becky was on drugs and my family?? We would have tried to get her help. What kind of moron are you? Well I have contacted the investigators, they will be getting in contact with you, as they can track IP addresses, if you even know what that means. She was not “playing” both men, she loved Daniel. If she od’d then why wouldn’t Daniel have taken her to the hospital? She was with him that night. Don’t open your mouth about things you don’t even know about. Becky and Wes were friends. Becky and Daniel were both adults, would you tell your parents and loved ones if you were doing drugs? which judging by your class of character you probably are. Becky didn”t go over to my parents house to do drugs if thats what you are implying, she lived with Daniel not my parents.

  174. the other sister said,

    July 15, 2008 at 4:52 am

    Why do you say this about Wes?? Do you know him well??

  175. Jane said,

    July 15, 2008 at 4:41 pm

    I know the Wes before he met Becky. From what I know, he is someone you don’t want to let close to you. I couldn’t imagine how he would act around drugs. I am sorry for all that you and your family have to go through. With Becky being gone for so long, you have to look at every perspective. I’m sure there is more Wes has to tell. The Wes on the news is the one I know. Acting like the big hero to the rescue. He needs attention, everything has to be about him. He is a deceitful kiss ass.

  176. itdoesntmatter said,

    July 15, 2008 at 11:19 pm

    The sister and the other sister, no problem! I just couldn’t believe how disrespectful it was. And I felt like I needed to say something. You all have been through enough and you shouldn’t have to keep hearing all this crap and having to defend everything noone knows anything about. So, once again no problem and God bless you and your family.

  177. d said,

    July 17, 2008 at 2:35 am

    Colorado Friend…due to your tasteless and senseless comments I’m going to assume this is Sarah. If it’s not, well, you are just as spineless as she is!

    There are a few corrections I’d like to make to your inane comments. The first one being- Daniel never spoke to his father on the night he killed himself. This is a FACT!!! I know this because I’ve viewed ALL phone records with investigators and there were no phone calls to his father on the night he killed himself. How heartless are you to make up such a story! WTF is wrong with you??? The second being -Becky was not addicted to any drugs nor was her family allowing her to do drugs. Are you truly that inept to believe that? I suggest before posting anything on this site, you get the facts first. No one cares about your foolish opinions or what you think you know. I find it rather pathetic that you have nothing better to do with your time than to come on this site and post false information to upset grieving family members.

    “I have known Danny and his family since he was about 12. I am good friends with his dad and brother. In his last phone call to his father, about an hour before he died, Danny expressed real sadness at not being able to help Becky and he said that he loved her and wanted to get her off the drugs.”

    I find your statement interesting- Seeing that you had such a long history with Daniel, it’s quite surprising you weren’t on the “last called list”. You weren’t…keep in mind I have the phone records right in front of me! If you were such good friends with Daniel…then SHAME ON YOU! You just stood back and allowed your friend of 12 years to kill himself and his girlfriend. I’m glad I don’t have you as a friend…because you suck as a friend! How can you even live with yourself??? If you knew all these things about their relationship why didn’t step in and help. If my friend of 12 yrs was having issues I’d be there to help in some way. Perhaps you did! And that would mean you know where Becky is!

    How dare you comment on Becky’s character? You did not know her. She was NOT going between two guys or using them for drugs and money. When did you become an expert on her life? Were you a stalker that followed her every step? How sad and boring is your life that you needed to keep tabs on Becky’s life. Maybe the investigators should be questioning you. You seem to have more answers than we do. How dare you accuse her of any drug use? How do you know this information? Were you supplying her with drugs? If not, then I suggest keeping your opinions to yourself.

    BTW… Go get a summer job! Since you like to create false stories, paint pretty pictures, and talk trash about people -why don’t you go work on the campaign. It’s too bad that it was Becky and Daniel that lost their lives and not YOU. I doubt anyone would care if this happened to you. How about doing us all a favor by getting a life and getting off this site. Better yet, go out searching for Becky since you seem to know so much about her life.

  178. the other sister said,

    July 17, 2008 at 4:14 am

    To D,
    I love ya!!! you go girl!!!

  179. Colorado Friend said,

    July 17, 2008 at 5:49 pm

    Again. You all want to blame danny for everything and are unwilling to open your eyes to other possibilities. He did speak with his father. Just because you have phone records does not mean he didn’t talk to him. Don’t be so ignorant. I have had several long conversation with his dad trying to help him deal with his grief and the fact that his son may be what you say he is. I feel very confident in the information I received and am just sorry that you all can’t accept the truth that all three of them were in the wrong. It was a train wreck waiting to happen. Lighten up, have some compassion for everyone involved instead of licking your own wounds. This didn’t happen to just you. Oh and by the way – the autopsy on Dan came back clean. I know Danny was trying to get his life together, but Becky was holding him down with her addiction. And assuming because I speak my mind, just like everyone else on this blog, that I do drugs just shows how ignorant you really are. You all are the losers. I am glad you are out from under this crap dan. RIP.

  180. vielsa said,

    July 17, 2008 at 6:53 pm

    Colorado Friend:

    Some friend you are!! You have no life and you made that apparent by coming on here months after the fact! You seem to know much about Becky, should we be questioning you? What overdose? I think we know what Daniel did, you defend him by saying he wasn’t on drugs??? At least say he was, now he really looks like a psycho! Colorado friend, why don’t you go find something better to do with your time? If you’re so interested in my lifeless sister, who you suggested might be somewhere dead because she overdosed, why don’t you help instead of writing nonsense and deliberately hurting grieving families!! My God, you are satanic! I hope Becky’s spirit is resting, cause if not, I would hate to be you, my mother always said don’t mess with the dead! Way to go!

  181. vielsa said,

    July 17, 2008 at 7:43 pm

    Colorado Friend,

    I hope you don’t have a job, based on the kind of person you portray yourself to be, yup, you are probably unemployed. This is good! Reason being, you have created a scenario with Becky and Daniel that needs to be defended. As you can see, we are quite a clan, the more you type, the more we come on here and defend our sister. This is going to be a great job for you, that is why I say I hope you are unemployed, so that when you feel the urge to be an asshole and type, we can write back and so on. Do you see how this can be time consuming? I am sorry you wish that you could have had a beautiful, amazing girlfriend like my sister, yeah, you wil never know what that’s like. Maybe that is why you are obssessing over her and the story that follows, wow, you are a scary individual. Perhaps you should reread this website, it’s not for people like you who prey on the grieveing, and, if that is not your purpose, what is? If Daniel didn’t kill Becky, then where is she? She left with him that night and we never saw her again! Then he commits suicide……..out of love? Please! Just out of curiosity, did you make it past the 5th grade? If not, I am terribly sorry, that would explain alot.

  182. the other sister said,

    July 18, 2008 at 12:48 am

    Colorado Friend,
    I could not help but write because your incompetence is quite annoying I will teach you what even my 7 and 9 yr old siblings know.

    Autopsy: The cause of death an individual endured,ie shot to the head, stabbed etc etc

    Toxicology Report: What an individual consumed before death ie peanut butter and jelly sandwich, drugs, type of drugs, etc etc



  183. d said,

    July 18, 2008 at 3:52 am

    Colorado friend-

    I’m sorry to inform that ALL the information you received is INACCURATE. I don’t care how confident you FEEL about the information you received. I don’t care about your feelings I only care about the facts. You obviously don’t have them! I find your comments extremely vexing especially since I’ve worked closely with the investigators and have all the information that they do. Anything I post is the truth not what I FEEL is the truth. I would love to know how it is possible that he spoke to his father on the night he killed himself if the house phone records, his cell & Becky’s cell phone records show no indication of Daniel calling or receiving a phone call from his father. Please tell me how this is possible, unless his father was physically in the apartment which he was not. Were you there and did he use your phone by chance?

    I must say you truly are a disgusting, heartless, pathetic individual. I find it appalling that you would even mention Daniel’s autopsy report. What was the reason for even bringing up the autopsy report- was is to hurt the families, to prove you do in fact know what you’re talking about or to prove you knew him. If it’s the latter, you are so pathetic. You obviously aren’t a friend of his nor do you respect his family or you wouldn’t have brought that up. I WAS friends with Daniel, so I’m not only grieving for Becky but for him as well. I feel terrible for his family and I know what they are going through. It disgusts me to read posts from people like you who claim to be “friends” with him and know what he and Becky were going through. You obviously had no clue about either of their lives, yet you decided to come on this site 3 months later and post false information. How dare you say anything about Becky when she is not here to defend herself! You are a coward who can only talk about a person once they are dead. From everything you’ve written so far I am CONFIDENT that you were NOT friends with Daniel or Becky. DAniel wouldn’t surround himself with a piece of sh@t like you. My guess is you are some loser who has nothing better to do and is trying to gather information-for what reason I don’t know but you are PATHETIC! Btw- you proved my point as to not having a clue about what you’re talking about because both reports haven’t even come back.

    Your statement “I’m glad your out from under this crap” shows how mentally deranged you are. Seriously, what normal person is happy that their friend of 12 years took his life??? And you claim you don’t use drugs? Normal people don’t make comments like that about friends. I guess you proved my point. Go get a life and stop posting false information on a site that is intended for family members and friends.

  184. July 18, 2008 at 6:17 am

    I have added a new category of links that might be of interest here. The category is titled “For the Missing” and contains a couple of links that may be of interest to the family. As I locate the resources I will add to it.

  185. itdoesntmatter said,

    July 18, 2008 at 2:57 pm

    I know for a fact also like “D” that Daniel did NOT talk to his father on the night he killed himself! His dad didn’t even go to the memorial service and did not help with anything! He said the only he way would be involved is if he needed to sign something! what kind of father doesn’t want to be involved in the last wishes and rights of his eldest son? A heartless one thats who. Colorado friend you are obviously mistaken or his father is lying to you which wouldn’t surprise me. Do you even know where his dad lives? I’m guessing no! You are very cruel and disrespectful for coming on here and acting like you know what is going on or what has happened. You are just hurting an innocent family and his family would not appreciate anything you have said at all!!! They do not feel the way you do and his family knows alot more than you claim to know. You are very misinformed and I don’t know where you are getting all this “information” but they are wrong too. If it is Daniel’s father than he doesn’t know anything he wasn’t involved with anything and hasn’t been since. I just think if you have nothing helpful or decent to say you should just stay off this site why don’t you just keeping talking to his father and keep making up stories with him. I have watched Daniel’s family greive and try to pick up the pieces of their lives YOU have NOT! And I can bet you have not seen Becky’s family try to grieve and try to live their lives day by day without Becky!! You are just being hurtful and if you truly believe all these accusations you claim why haven’t you called the police? You seem to be sure of yourself because putting it on here is just hurting people over and over again! People who do not need to be hurt any worse than they already have been! Everyone has their own theory, story, thoughts, “information”, and the truth is that NO ONE may ever know what happened. So if you have nothing productive to say or contribute then just leave this family alone. Becky’s entire family should not have to keep defending her!! especially to you! I have felt the need to defend her becasue she cannot defend herself for WHATEVER reason! Both of these families wish they could have the answers they desperatly need but at some point you lose all hope that nothing will ever be solved and now they are trying to deal with that! The fact that they may never know what happened and they will not be able to give their daughter, sister, friend have a final resting place is undescribable! No parent should ever have to burry a child no matter what the age or circumstance it goes against the laws of nature. Her family is trying to grieve and like I said should not have to keep defending Becky to such an ignorant person such as yourself. So I hope God gives you the strength to get past your ignorance (which means lack of knowledge cuz you probably don’t know the definition). And God bless Becky’s family and give them the strength to get past the ignorance of some people! Your family is obviously so incredibly strong and amazing for trying to handle all of this and now having to defend Becky to this ignorant ass person! God bless ALL of you and just remember you have each other to help get through this horrible time. Family is stronger than anything!

  186. Colorado Friend said,

    July 18, 2008 at 6:08 pm

    Calling me names just shows the character you all lack. I know what I said is true because I spent countless hours on the phone with his father trying to comfort him. Believe it or not – and insulting my education, my career, my relationship with the Dereeres just shows that you all as disgusting as Becky was.

    The fact remains – you all are slamming Dan and praising a drug addict that was playing two men. Deal with the truth and stop blaming just dan. She brought this on herself by her actions. You are the sad ones – the angry ones that can’t handle another point of view other than your own distorted ones (oh and calling dan’s brother at his place of business and harassing him and threatening him just proves my point). Go back to your trailer park. I am glad Danny is no longer here to suffer your wrath. RIP my friend. We love and miss you Dan.

    A real friend signing off from these whiners.

  187. July 18, 2008 at 6:37 pm

    Colorado Friend, you have now got me interested. So you are of the opinion that if a woman is with one man and changes her mind and becomes interested in another man (not necessarily Becky) that they deserve to be murdered? That they are not allowed to change their minds? That if they are with one man they can no longer have male friends?

    I don’t know your family situation but I do have to wonder, you would be okay if you had a daughter who was with a man and became interested in another- that she should be put to death? You would condemn your own child? That if one of your female family members or female friends should ever stray, their spouses or partners should expect that you will support them in putting them to death? You do understand that by putting that statement in writing here, you have just notified your friends and relatives of your support in their deaths under certain circumstances? Would you help them in committing the murder? What about if a man should stray? Shouldn’t they also be put to death?

    As far as I know so called honor killings are illegal in the US. And the punishment for adultery in the US is not the death penalty. But then since Becky and Dan were not married, it wasn’t even adultery was it?

    No I am not going to call you names, but really I do have to wonder about someone who would sign the death warrants for their friends and relatives. How could Dan RIP, when someone who claims to be his friend is glad he died?

  188. itdoesntmatter said,

    July 18, 2008 at 8:49 pm

    Ok Colorado friend I am very close with Daniel’s family not his father’s side of it and I am not bashing Daniel! And I know who he talked to the night he died and none of them were his father! I can’t believe you have the audacity to come on here and insult a family who have gone through so much. You probably don’t even know any of the families involved you probably just stumbled across this sight and decided to be a cruel, hateful bitch! Yes, everyone has insulted your lack of intelligence because you obviously lack any! Daniel’s family have had nothing but respect for Becky’s family and that is how it should be. No one is bashing Daniel they are just stating the facts of what is known. And there may be some other reason of why she is missing but there is no evidence of that. There is however strong evidence that he may have killed her at that is what everyone is trying to explain to you and you are obviously not understanding. If you say you were trying to “comfort” Daniel’s father because he was distraught then WHY didn’t he go to Colorado to help Dan’s mom and sister and brother? A true man would have been there in a second not saying the only way he is going to be involved is if he has to sign something!!!! And maybe you need to deal with the truth both families are trying to!!! I have heard a family member say it is bad enough to have him take his own life but now to have him labled a murderer is unbearable. Yes there are 2 points of view here and both realize the facts of what little is known. And I cannot believe you are glad a “friend” so you claim is dead. What kind of person is glad a friend is dead???? A sick one. Do you think his mother, brother, sister, grandparents, aunts, uncle, and cousins are glad he’s dead so he doesn’t have to deal with this anymore? NO!!!! they are not ! they would much rather be able to talk to him and see him and try to help him! I know they would not wish for this no matter what he was having to deal with!!! I think you need to keep your mouth shut! And leave BOTH families alone! if daniel’s mother was to read any of this I can not imagine the heart break she would feel all over again!!! And Becky’s family does not need this either!!! OH and riddle me this, why didn’t dan’s dad want any of his remains??? Because he doesn’t care!! and very rarely did!! Both of these families have been through enough and now we should not have to listen to your made up crap!! DID YOU WATCH EITHER FAMILY GREIVE??? NO!!!! I did!! i watched his grandmother greive and then his mother and sister and cousins when we first got the news and then when the other circimstances surrounding this came out I had to help all of them try to grieve in such a different way all over again!! That is truly the hardest thing I have ever had to do and we have just as many answers as Becky’s family. So until you have watched these families greive in any way stay off here and just keep talking to his dad and think you know what is going on. Until you have felt the true pain these families have felt you will never know. And bad mouthing Becky is sick! noone has come on here and said anything bad about her not his mother, brother, NO ONE!! just you and THAT in itself proves the kind of person you are. Dan’s mom and brother both have said Dan never said anything bad about Becky!! so what in the hell gives you the right to?? I just can not believe how disrespectful you are being, and this family is so upset and frustrated yes, they are going to lash back at you with full force because that was their sister, daughter, friend, and bashing the dead is horrible. And how can you call them whiners? They are trying to defend their loved one who can no longer defend herself against people like you! I am very close with dan’s family like I said and even I am defending becky because you are tryin to insult someone who can not defend herself and it is cruel… Well like I have said just stay off here unless you have something constructive to offer, and dan’s family would be appauled to see what you have said!!!

  189. d said,

    July 18, 2008 at 10:13 pm


    I want to thank you for responding to “Colorado friend’s” idiotic remarks. The fact that you are a close friend of Daniel’s family and acknowledge what I posted was indeed accurate clearly demonstrates that this ” friend” only came on this site to irritate everyone. I am sorry for your loss and as I stated earlier I was friends with Daniel too. I feel awful for his family and for everything that has happened. I cannot believe with everything we are all going through, “Colorado friend” has the audacity to come on this site and post false information about both of them. What kind of person does that? My thoughts are A SICK PERSON with no life and maybe just trying to get answers. Who knows! I don’t want to entertain him/her because apparently that’s what they thrive on. Again, I am sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy to you and his family.

  190. itdoesntmatter said,

    July 18, 2008 at 11:05 pm

    Hey no problem. This a person who obviously thrives on conflict. and i agree that whoever it is, is a sick person. I will say I did not know Daniel but I am extremely close to his family and watching this family especially his mother and his entire family have to go through this is just completely heart breaking. I’m glad to finaly see a friend of Dan’s come on here and NOT bash Becky. Her family does not and should not have to deal with ignorant people such as Colorado friend. I am very sorry for your loss and I will pass your deepest sympathy on to his family I know they will greatly appreciate it.

  191. d said,

    July 18, 2008 at 11:32 pm

    Colorado friend,

    I wasn’t name calling- I was quite simply describing your character. You already demonstrated the kind of person you to everyone on this site. I was just reiterating what you’ve already exposed.

    I don’t need to insult your education, you’ve already confirmed your lack of one, with the senseless comments you made. You respond without comprehending the nature of what you read. I never once slammed Daniel. I was friends with him and I’ve said before this is a tragedy for both families. Deal with what truth? Becky wasn’t addicted to any drugs. Unless you were supplying her with drugs, how can you make such a bold statement. I never once insinuated that YOU did drugs- read the comment again. I simply stated- that you should get the facts before you start posting comments like that. I don’t care about hearsay information. The only way it’s a fact is if you were supplying her with drugs or you witnessed her doing them. If neither of those occurred- then everything you’ve expressed is false.

    She also wasn’t playing two men. Again, did you witness her playing two men? If not, I suggest keeping your opinions to yourself. I’m sorry but in normal relationships you can have friends. They both had friends of the opposite sex.

    The fact that you are familiar with the term trailer park implies you have much knowledge about that lifestyle. I’m sorry but I’m not familiar with that lifestyle. You grew up and live in that sort of environment, not I. Based on the way you speak, your inability to comprehend the simplest of things and your theory that Becky brought this on herself- one can only assume you come from a trailer park lifestyle. If you believe someone deserves to be murdered due to their actions, you mostly likely grew up in an environment where there was a great deal of violence, abuse, jealously, and mostly likely substance abuse. This would indicate why you would condone a behavior such as murder, to you this sort of behavior is normal because it is all you know. No one with a normal upbringing would make a statement that someone deserved to be murdered. I think you seriously need mental help. I’m not being cruel when I say this, I’m being honest. If you truly believe that someone deserves to be murdered you really are psychotic.

    I do hope you seek professional help because someone with a life as sad and pathetic as yours need it. I mean honestly your tracking a story about two people you never even knew! His own family acknowledged you don’t know what the hell your talking about. If the voices in your head are telling you things- you should seek professional help immediately. Btw- the other story you’ve created about my family and I harassing Daniel’s brother at work was also amusing. Perhaps signing up for a creative writing course wouldn’t be such a bad idea.

  192. the other sister said,

    July 19, 2008 at 12:05 am

    Colorado friend,
    You are a coward, you hide behind a computer screen and call my dead sister names?? You are the epitamy of trash, Not one of us live in a trailer, but you certainly are trailer park trash and i;m sure you live in one. My a**hole has more class than you!!! You are all those things my family and Daniel’s family have said about you. Incompent loser!! You are the one who is disgusting you crack head. No normal person says things like that. We my friend have class and are well educated. Go back to being a door greeter at walmart, oh you probably didn;t have the skills th do that either and got fired!! You probaly have 3 teeth in your whole mouth, I bet my 7 yr old brother can read and write better than you. You just convinced everyone on this site what a derranged lunatic you are, Daniel never spoke to his father, so ypur pissed because you blew up your own spot moron. The investigators will be contacting you soon. Anyone that thinks that murder is ok is mentally ill, and you by far are. I hope you don;t have a girlfriend, oh what am I thinking your loser self has nothing better to do than come on this site and make sh+t up, stay off this site, go to your trailer park and hang out with your inbreeded family!! Daniel and Becky loved eachother, you started the name calling and we are defending our sister, your just jelous. peace out loser

  193. the other sister said,

    July 19, 2008 at 12:07 am

    it doesn’t matter thank you once again for defending Becky this person is a loser, and has nothing better to do, Apparently this person has no life and no spine to say who he or she is what a coward!! God Bless !!!

  194. itdoesntmatter said,

    July 19, 2008 at 12:33 am

    I’m glad to see everyone else thinks this person is deranged. I just can’t believe that someone would say that someone deserves to be murdered or that because dan is dead he is better off!!!! I honestly hope that someone has contacted the investigator beacause the way this person is talking they may know something. Becasue I know that it can be tracked through the IP and with the email address you have to provide. The other sister once again no problem like i have said before I am very close to daniel’s family and with all that BOTH families have been through I don’t think you or your family should have to defend her to such an ignorant person. So once again no problem and I will continue to defend her as long as I need to, although I did not know her or anything about her for that matter I still believe in respect and integrity which is what your family deserves. God bless you and your family!!!

  195. the other sister said,

    July 19, 2008 at 1:33 am

    It doesn’t matter once again thank you this is a tragedy in itself for both families involved, I did contact the investigators and I am sure this idiot will be questioned about his/her involvement, I am glad even hsh acknowledged that this person is definiately not right in the head.Who would want to see a friend dead. Both families know what the facts are based on the investigators, and it sounds like this person wants to try to get that info, but they wont get it from me.. God bless

  196. d said,

    July 19, 2008 at 5:19 am

    Colorado Friend,

    Hey RG…any specific region we should be covering in tomorrow’s search for Becky? Will you be joining in the search for Becky? Consider this a formal invitation.

  197. itdoesntmatter said,

    July 20, 2008 at 3:09 pm

    the other sister,
    once again no problem. This has all been so tragic and the ignorance of some people is so ridiculous and you and your family should not have to deal with it. so once again no problem and God bless!!!

  198. July 23, 2008 at 12:45 am

    Thank you Theresa, I can appreciate how painful that must have been and I am sorry that you felt it was necessary.

  199. the other sister said,

    July 23, 2008 at 12:54 pm

    Thank you so much for the information, I can imagine how hard it was to post that. God bless you and your family.

  200. vielsa said,

    July 23, 2008 at 4:46 pm

    Dear Theresa,

    I read this information you posted in disbelief, it must have taken a lot of courage for you to provide us with this. You, by no means had to do that and I am so grateful you did. This just goes to show that not only did you acknowledge your own pain but ours as well, this says much about the kind of mother you are. Thank you isn’t even a measure of how appreciative I am at this very moment. You cared and still care about Becky’s well being and you proved that on here. Thank you so very much for doing this for us, and more importantly, Becky. If I ever had to read an autopsy on Beck, I don’t think I would ever be the same. The fact that Daniel was not on drugs that night, really puzzles me and opens a whole new world of questions, I am curious if anyone feels the same?

  201. Colorado Friend said,

    July 23, 2008 at 5:04 pm

    Theresa, while I never met you, the boys always talked highly of you. Matt and Dan were good boys deep down and Matt has done so well with his life now. I spent a lot of time with them as teenagers. While they had their problems, as all teenagers do, they were always very respectful and kind to me and I will always care deeply about them. I am sorry you felt you had to speak up like this. I was only defending your son against the terrible things they were saying about him and giving them another perspective to look at. In a situation like this, they are just looking for answers no one is ever going to find. Calling people names, accusing them of lying and insulting them isn’t going to bring either one of them back. I just want you to know you do have a friend in Colorado that loves your boys UNCONDITIONALLY and feels your pain. May you find some peace in the months to come with Matt and your grandson. RIP Danny.

    To the “Sisters” Sorry your grief has caused you to lose focus. May you find some peace someday.

  202. the other sister said,

    July 23, 2008 at 6:42 pm

    Colorado friend,
    I understand you were defending Daniel as we were defending Becky, I have not said anything bad about him!! Our family loved him like a son, a brother. Did you know Becky??? Cause if you did you would know what a beautiful person she was. We have not lost our focus, our main focus is to find Becky, but we will continue to defend her. Just as you stated above everyone makes mistakes, does things they regret, but no one deserves to die. Have you ever lost a loved one in this situation??? I asume not, because you would know how we all felt. The grief the pain of not knowing, to have closure. We will find answers because we wont give up, that’s what you do as a family, you stick together, How could we ever find peace without Becky? Would you ever be able to find peace if this was someone you loved? a daughter, son , brother, sister?? I thank you for your well wishes.

  203. Vielsa said,

    July 23, 2008 at 9:34 pm

    Colorado Friend:

    Lose focus? Put yourself in our shoes, Becky is dead somewhere, nowhere to be found, nobody knows what happened to her! All you can say is lose focus? Who the hell are you anyway! I bet you are some crazy online stalker that ran out of people to bother so you found a “sweet” site here! When we find Becky, I hope you feel like shit. Maybe you would give up on a loved one, we will not, not ever. Love ya Beck!

  204. Vielsa said,

    July 23, 2008 at 9:46 pm

    Another question, to the supposed “Friend”. If your ass was laying somewhere in the mountains or in the woods dead, wouldn’t you want to be found to be put to rest? Or, are you some wacko who would rather be torn apart by animals, and to never have a resting place? Wouldn’t you want the people that loved you to come and visit? What is wrong with you Colorado Sicko? You seriously feel nothing for Becky, so why do you bother coming on here and say things that hurt the people that truely love her? Why would you do that to a family? And as for us SISTERS, you know nothing about us and you never will. Why don’t you go back to those “other” websites, I am sure they will make you happier.

  205. itdoesntmatter said,

    July 23, 2008 at 10:01 pm

    Colorado friend,
    Theresa is defending her son as are Becky’s family. No one has said anything bad about either one of these 2 except YOU. Would you say sorry to Theresa because she “lost focus” NO I don’t think so. As I have said I am very close with Danny’s family and I have defended him on this site too without bad mouthing anyone. And I have also defended Becky against you because No one in Danny’s family feels the way you do, and they way you have talked about her is just cruel and disrespectful. and i do not understand you! you say they were bashing Danny and you were defending him? NO ONE said anything bad about Danny and the only person name calling, insulting, and lying is YOU!!!
    And to Theresa,
    I am so sorry you felt you had to do that. But it just proves to all the people who have said HE was the one on drugs, that they were wrong. You have been through WAY to much this past year to have to deal with these ignorant people. I hope being closer to your son and grandson will help tremendously, having the family you need around you, that you need the most will be so good for you. Just remember your entire family supports and loves you more than anything! God Bless!!!
    To the sisters,
    I agree that this person is sick and has come on here just to hurt you. And I’m starting to think that she is a sick person who has stumbled across this site and probably doesn’t know anyone involved. I know it’s hard but just try to ignore them, they are just trying to get a reaction and attention. Attention that needs to be focused on Becky and getting the answers you need. God Bless you ALL!!!

  206. Vielsa said,

    July 24, 2008 at 12:23 am

    God, finally, someone that understands! Thanks, ITDOESNTMATTER<

  207. vielsa said,

    July 25, 2008 at 9:56 pm

    I have been thinking about Becky so much lately, I feel like that is all I do these days. God, I miss her so much, I wish I could have saved her. I wish all of this was a dream, this reality is just destroying me day by day, minute by minute. How am I ever supposed to enjoy life again, knowing Beck is in another place, sad and unforgiving. Why did she have to leave us, why did she have to suffer. I am so lost, I don’t care what happens anymore. She deserved to live, she brought joy to so many, I feel an unbearable emptiness at the very pit of my stomach. I believe I will feel this way forever. Becky, I love you and I am so glad I had a hand in raising you to be the silly, caring, thoughtful person you were and will always be, wherever you are. Every tear I shed for you is out of love, the love I could only feel for my sister that is in heaven.

  208. July 26, 2008 at 2:11 am

    Vielsa, you are going to have days like that, you are going to have weeks like that. Plan on it and prepare for it. When it happens, you go back to the basics- make sure you are eating and sleeping. Give yourself permission to cry if you need to. But after that cry, you do something preferably with someone else. Maybe do something physical. Find something to get involved in, something that will keep you busy and give you something to think about. And yes, I know you don’t feel like it, and don’t think that you can think of anything. But if you put your mind to it you can. If you drink alcohol, keep that limited. Alcohol is a depressant and you don’t need that right now.

    And one more thing- don’t allow yourself to feel guilty if you have a good day, when you feel good or you laugh or have fun. Even if you forget for a little bit. A good day doesn’t mean you have forgotten Becky. It is your body’s and mind’s way of helping you cope.

  209. Besa said,

    July 28, 2008 at 6:03 am

    Colorado freak-well I would like to address you w/”waste of space on HSH” Is that alright w/you? oh wait -I dont care-I am the other other sister Besa. I am responding to one of your many senseless-ignorant and ill-intended comments as if to intentionally show no regard for our privacy-or make any attempt to respect the sensitivity of BOTH OUR FAMILIES stuggles-who told you this was a good idea? you seem to think you belong and moreover that any one person will actuallty want your input aka “a jumble of nonsense on paper”. Furthermore, I have stayed away from this site b/c I just did not have the streghth to even face this tragedy let alone discuss it w/other loved ones who are so confused as well. Then I came across some of your entries and stumbled upon your7/18 entry that was one of your several attempts to make an a## of yourself. You have the right to your thoughts,feelings,and expression of them. . But I see you are very passionate about your opinion and need to defend Dan at my sisters expense.Why do you think people say nasty comments and I am affraid you gave them a good reason to attack you and no it is not just my family-you would be so humiliated w/what some viewers said about your choice of words -etc…I am just lettting you know sure you dont care but if I were you I would be so embarrased as well ashamed for obvious reasons or in your case a lack therof. Some info you need to considerbefore you start hitting keys and creating a spot for you to use and torment victims, ugh-you need this -it will help you see the invasive and disrespectful content that you deliver. Also on a side note you must be called out-trailers,drug addicted deserving to be”potentially”murdered b/c of being human and living sure mistakes are inevitable. They vary and some we can take back and others like the two of them -there is no going back to fix it. Im not sure if you are “stuggling w/a problem “or three of your owno other than your psychosis but who the hell offered you the honor of disecting the moral of anyone and then be the critic? Again-you have that freedom but its freedom of SPEECH NOT STUPIDITY ! you use this as a means to “share” SOMETHING THAT YOU HAVE LITTLE TO NOTHING TO DO WITH,.then personally attacking my sis’s w/ tactless,immature,and disturbing suggestions and with no sufficent info, totally defeating the very purpose for why we come here.Is it for you a chance to be morbidly gratified by using victims of devastation for your …?Im asking not stating it w/out giving you a fair chance to prove you are not as grotesque ,unstable and lonely as it had appeared..I will not be that petty or even waste my words when you wont even get the point. Or maybe this is your point to get a rise out of people when they are most hurt and vulnerable?I dont know you just the same for you .I must express that this display of ignorance will not be tolerated;equally your intrest w/ this need not be put into words no one comments on any thing you have t say except to correct you or exploit you all together-its shocking you say some of the things you do about people who we should allow to RIP! So,I and too many other people you have offended are advising that you seek the following -a mental health provider-this will be a valuable tool,you could find a better pastime and ask your self why am I here upsetting others w/hasty tones .(know what that means?you feel no shame in that you post these things for all to see. Also, it is not wise to think you are in any position to tell anyone how to “view” the whole thing-or as you said “see another side of it”well like it or not people will see things esp in a case this comlplicated and pending case.Dont you ever tell me or anyone how to think ,feel ,or interpret anything and in this case and so liitle facts are what we have to work with.and I see you are so eager to bad mouth Bekime and defend. Dan fine w/ no need to even be there speculating . In fact I knew Dan pretty well too and never had the urge to bad mouth him why?simply b/c I was not them nor was I there that night and unlike you I rely on facts(you do know what these are ?) not on someone else’s”new theory” I see the big pic they are both tragically taken. I thought I would ask you what is your name?ori @ the very least let me in on how much you knew the two. It appears as though you knew Dan very welI and judging from your inadequate and harsh analysis you did not care for Bekime and i just want to give you a chance to elaborate on how you actually knew of them and where you are coming from. Not the way you WANT to see-again that is what your current condition “delusional thinking” is .I thought Id correct your wrong definition These suggestions imply intentional and immoral opinions and speaka ton of neg for you. I am thru for this time .Again I am not asking I am demanding you take the time to analyze you- for a min and ask yourself “why am I so consumed by the families tragic exp?Why am I taking the time to make sure I say malicious &thoughtless words simply just to be “involved”? or wasting space with nonsense. so-thats my recomm and “other “angle to view your undesired presence on HSH-good luck with you upcoming pursuits of tormenting the devestated.FYI_ There is a place to go for help —but it is def not HERE!!! honestly I think you seem to be pre occupied with all of this why does opinion appear insensitive or mal-adjusted(that means very troubled upstairs) How can you even want to conduct yourself in this way esp when neither are here to defend themselves. I will have to be accom. to your “special needs”and thats the only reason I have been polite w/this. so, if you find a way to respond w/words-ones you have meanings for and will produce a valid point for your distorted views- using facts -look it up so you are able to dicipher facts from your delusions. If and what reasons for the time you invested in harassing my family and I am also curious as to why you hated Bekime so much?This could be your chance t actually assist in th ematter instead of your b/s false info you put out there.
    alright well I am glad we had this L_O_N_G chat and hope I wont have to view your name again – taking up space- cut the nonsense and pls seek help or @ the very least SEARCH YOUR LONG LOST SANITY and SOUL-b/c clearly both have gotten away and it does not look good! Use the same effort to find your sense =same way we have done in our searches for our much needed closure
    So you see — our losses are equally difficult for us.(your mind ) (my everything) both so VERY essential to our well being –we both cannot make ANY SENSE IN THIS WORLD W/OUT them. Peace be with you!

    Ms. Besa

  210. Theresa said,

    July 29, 2008 at 2:36 pm

    To all of Becky’s sisters,
    I am sorry that you have to defend your Becky all the time. It is not right! I believe that at this point what difference does it make if Danny was this and Becky was that. We have all made comments about our loved ones, we are sad, our hearts are broken, it’s unbelievable, whatever the conclusion will be. I am so………………………….saddened that you have not been able to have closure with Becky and I do pray for her recovery so you can put her to rest. So many scenarios have gone through my mind, the good and the bad, well there really is no good scenario. In order to make it through my day, I have to think that my son is not a murderer, that may not be realistic, but it’s what I need at this moment. If Becky did drugs, so what. The fact is, she’s still missing and you all want answers. I wish I could be of more help, but I am mentally fragile at times and sometimes it is just to much to bare as it is for you all. Please will everyone stop insulting the dead. It was painful for me to read on her when people where talking about Danny and I am sure it is painful for Becky’s sister’s to read it also. We all need reassurance by loved ones that we can make it through the day. Only Danny and Becky know the truth. If someone out there has the information on what transpired on those days please let us know. I know this marks the 4 months day for Beckys disappearance and I truly pray that she will be found. To Vielesa, Please stay strong and put your troubles in God’s Hands. Becky would want that from you. Look for a message from her, I talk to Danny often, no it’s not the same as talking to him on the phone. I kiss his picture everyday and ask “Why”? They say time heals all wounds, It’s hard to put faith in that!! Oh, I am so sorry all this had to be, please accept my apologies for all that has transpired. Keep on fighting to find that glimpse of happiness. I know it’s hard to find, some people just don’t understand. We can have so many people in our lives that love and care about us, but something inside us has died and we feel like we can never recover, that gray cloud that hovers over us and that part of our heart that has been ripped to shreds. But, how do we recover??? So, for those of you that find it necessary to cut down our loved ones, please stay away. I believe Danny and Becky would not want this happening, no matter what the circumstances are. May God send angels to help the Elshani’s recover their sister and put her to rest!!! God Bless, Theresa

  211. vielsa said,

    July 30, 2008 at 3:04 pm

    Hey Bess!

    Finally! You are part of the “sisters club”, it’s about time. Thanks for defending us on here. I am sorry you were disturbed by that senseless idiot! In so many ways, on this site, people have proved to be heartless and cruel and completely disrespectful to the dead. I guess at the same time, Home Sweet Home readers have responded in ways that have proven there are good people. Anyway, I just wanted to drop by and tell all of you “guys” that I love you all and we are all in this together…. for life. Hang in there, Becky loves us!!!

  212. vielsa said,

    July 30, 2008 at 3:10 pm

    Too much time is going by now, if anyone knows anything that could be useful in this case, please come forward. If anyone is guilty of having knowledge that could help us find Becky that is just wrong. Please help bring Becky back to us, so we can bury her and visit her. Some of us still wonder if Becky is alive! How could anyone hold this knowledge and let a family suffer this way? PLEASE HELP US! BECKY WANTS TO BE FOUND, I AM SURE OF IT. SHE HAD HER LIFE TAKEN, NOW IT’S UP TO US TO FIND HER AND SET HER FREE. God bless anyone who brings us closer to Becky.

  213. vielsa said,

    July 30, 2008 at 3:14 pm


  214. d said,

    August 1, 2008 at 8:00 pm

    I found a really sweet poem Daniel wrote to Becky awhile ago and I thought I’d post it. Theresa, I thought you would probably like it.

    Moonlit Silhouette

    I stand before the ocean and look out across the sea;
    Somewhere in the distance, she waits patiently for me.
    I close my eyes and see her sleeping softly in her bed;
    In the past I’d stare for hours at her moonlit silhouette..

    I long to touch her body- I need to hear her say:
    “I love you so much Daniel”, before she sleeps the night away.
    Waves crash to shore and splash me, I’m surrounded by palm trees;
    How can I be in paradise, and feel so damn empty?

    That question slowly lingers- but the answer will come soon;
    Again I see her face as the waves reflect the moon..
    A sadness then takes over, as I look back on my past;
    So many times I hurt her, but she always took me back…

    I’ve spent my whole life running, and for reasons I don’t know;
    I lost all hope on friendships, I never had a home.
    But throughout all my sorrows, my troubles and my pains;
    She never gave up on me, or left me in the rain..

    The last few years I stumbled blindly, chasing cash and silly dreams,
    But the veil has been lifted, and so clearly do I see..
    That somewhere across that ocean, thousands of miles away;
    Lays an angel whom God decided, was to be my one soul mate.

    I can not hide these feelings, I can’t wait another day;
    My heart is beating for you, please believe me when I say:
    You’re the only girl I dream of, the only woman I’ll pursue;
    Together nothing can stop us.. Becky- I LOVE YOU!!!!

    Daniel Dereere Jr

  215. Besa said,

    August 2, 2008 at 2:20 pm

    Vj—hello and thank you for the touching comments you share. I know I wrote a novel on my first visitation on HSH however it was what I need to do to get all of the points across to whoever is wanting to be nasty here . Thanks again for the encouragement it helps to be reminded that Beck loves us too.Hang in there k’

    be with me and also with you-amen remember where that originated?
    Talk soon–I love you too:)

  216. sharon said,

    August 4, 2008 at 4:38 pm

    Have you checked crags campground yet?

  217. the other sister said,

    August 4, 2008 at 5:23 pm

    why crags campground? Where is that located? Why would you say that?

  218. sharon said,

    August 4, 2008 at 8:43 pm

    Is it close to the place you guys were searching?

  219. Besa said,

    August 6, 2008 at 5:25 am

    I am missing you…
    missing you so scared
    why could’nt the special one just
    have been spared?
    On this journey
    what wrong turns did we take ?
    suppose it does not matter
    love is sometimes- an inevitable mistake
    I am missing you,,,
    ever so perplexed I must learn to cope and also
    find the strength to accept
    I am missing you…
    the day seems much too long
    I pain when I can still hear you sing your favorite
    love song
    it truly is a struggle to hold onto a smile
    you have been gone for too long awhile
    I miss you…miss you too much
    now I’ve no voice, no words, not even a touch
    the thought of no chance to say a final farewell-will leave me
    uncertain and forever to dwell
    somedays to god-I promise,plea,and swear-that bargin we
    will sacarafice when drowning in despair
    I am not ready to say goodbye- yet too much sorrow
    but Bekime I love you more today than yesterday
    and will be missing you with each tomorrow*
    —we love you Becky!!!:)
    written by:Besa
    August 2008

  220. Besa said,

    August 6, 2008 at 5:32 am

    I thought this would be a way to connect all of us (sis’s) -some feedback please-also sorry for the typo-sacrafice. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

    with much love

  221. the other sister said,

    August 6, 2008 at 3:22 pm

    that was a beautiful poem, I love you all stay strong and keep in touch!!

  222. d said,

    August 8, 2008 at 5:48 pm


    What a beautiful poem. I love that you can articulate what I feel but cannot express.

    Love ya,

  223. vielsa said,

    August 12, 2008 at 12:24 am


    I love your poem, it describes the way everyone feels about Becky. None of this feels right. She was taken away suddenly, with no opportunity to save her. This is why our family will never fully recover, Becky is supposed to be here enjoying life with us, everything we are is who she is. I just can’t look at life the same way. I guess your writing can help in the meantime, thanks! Love Vj

  224. Kristi Bowen said,

    August 22, 2008 at 12:29 am

    Hey Vielsa,
    This is Kristi and I’m so glad to see you on here! Don’t ever go away! I may be miles away, but you can pop in to say “you’re alive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m sorry about your sister. I will always love you and all your sisters are very special just like you. Miss you much in Texas! I’m moving to Alaska in October!

  225. GodsAngel said,

    August 22, 2008 at 4:36 am

    Hey Elshani family! God is GOOD. Vj, I never met you, but I’ve heard many great stories about you and I know you’re a sweet, sweet person. Pretty wild too, or atleast you used to be, lol. I’m sorry about your sister, I couldn’t imagine losing someone so close. However, your God in Heaven knows that feeling of loss, as he lost his only Son. I pray for you and your whole family. If you want a good laugh to help the pain, drive throuh a Walmart Parking Lot with the Dirty Dancing sound track blasting with all the windows down, it helps, lol. Please take care of yourself, and love and cherish everyone dear to you, and do your best in life to make your Father in Heaven smile.

    Love Always,

    Your Guardian Angel.

  226. Kristi said,

    August 22, 2008 at 4:00 pm

    Wow! Guardian Angel you really know how to say it! God Bless you! That is amazing because that’s what I really wanted to say to my dear friend VJ. You are very much God sent and I hope this beautiful family sees how good God is and that all things happen on God’s timing for His reasons. I love you dearly VJ and I hope you see this!!! My friend Angela actually found this site and emailed it to me!!! She’s so noisy, but so sweet and God sent!

    Love you!

  227. the other sister said,

    August 23, 2008 at 3:49 am

    Guardian Angel,
    Thanks for your kind words, you put a smile on my face!! Thanks for that, you truly are a god send!!

  228. the other sister said,

    August 23, 2008 at 3:55 am

    To all my sisters,
    I wanted to drop by and say hello and that I love ya, hang in there!! Becky we all love and miss you so much, we are still working on trying to find you!! We will never give up hope!!!!!

  229. Gods Angel said,

    August 23, 2008 at 5:43 am

    I thank the Lord in Heaven for today and being able to breathe and look at all of his wonderful creation. Becky, come home to your beloved family, they’re waiting anxiously. Other sister, God Bless You child, be still and know that he is the Lord of all, he’s got the whole world in his hands, he’s got the whole wide world in his hands.

  230. vielsa said,

    August 25, 2008 at 7:49 pm


    Hey! Love you too, you know that. I am sorry I disappeared, I have not been able to get back to “normal”. Whatever that is, wait, I was never normal! Lol. I miss you soooo much and I have that soundtrack waiting for us, Marisol too, hahaha. Kisses, Vj

  231. August 25, 2008 at 8:27 pm

    By now everyone has had a chance to see Theresa’s post about the autopsy. In the interest of Theresa and her family’s privacy I have decided to pull the comment as it serves no purpose to have it here any longer. I hope everyone can understand this decision.

  232. Kristi said,

    August 26, 2008 at 8:38 pm

    You are a gem and I would love to actually talk to you on the phone. Better in person but we’ll have to on the phone. I can’t seem to get ahold of you any other way but on here! Call me sometime during the day at 214-488-4400 or 972-459-4790 in evening at home. I would love to catch up!
    I just want you to know I’m always here for you for support or just a chit chat. You are a doll and I’ll pray for you!
    Love you girlfriend!

  233. vielsa said,

    August 29, 2008 at 6:48 pm


    Hey sweetie, what a surprise to see you on here! I am happy you found me. Yes, we need to catch up on the phone. Thank you for praying for me and my sisters, you are like one of them. They all know you as my best friend too, lol, because I don’t really have any hahah. I will call you soon. Until then, say hi to Marisol for me and take care of yourself. Love ya, Vj

  234. vielsa said,

    August 30, 2008 at 2:42 am

    Hey guys! Just dropping by to let you all know just how much I love you! Shpritz, I know you are reading this right now saying…..sssssssstupiud! haha. Mom, stop crying in that head of yours, Becky loves you and she was always close to you, that is why she always made fun of you! I miss you guys and I will talk to you soon. Vj

  235. the other sister said,

    August 30, 2008 at 6:04 am

    Hey V,
    (lol) I love you too!! Call me soon. Take care of yourself!!

  236. the other sister said,

    August 30, 2008 at 6:08 am

    Becky we all love you and miss you soooo much!! 5 months seems like 5 years that you’ve been gone. We will not give up on searching for you!! You are loved and missed by many!!!!!!!!!!! Watch over us, my beautiful Becky!!Love you!!!!!

  237. vielsa said,

    August 31, 2008 at 3:04 pm

    Hey Guys!

    Just want all of you to know I am dreaming of Becky a lot!! Maybe we are getting closer to her. I went four months with not one dream and now it’s all the time. I think she is ready to be found, I hope I am right. That also means the beginning of a new heartache. If this is true, I am just happy I have all of you. I wouldn’t have made it through this far without you guys, this was too much for me and still is. Thank you for keeping me strong. I love you guys so much, mom, you too!!!

    Mother!! I know this is hard for you and I can’t imagine how you must feel, but, Becky is happier and you know that. We will see her one day, and like you said, life is short, so i guess it won’t be that long until we see her. Love you.

  238. vielsa said,

    September 8, 2008 at 5:52 pm

    Hey guys! Don’t leave me like this, write back! Love ya, Vj

  239. the other sister said,

    September 9, 2008 at 2:55 am

    Hey Vj,
    Sorry been really busy with work, call me love ya all!!!!

  240. the other sister said,

    September 14, 2008 at 12:55 pm

    what is this in reference to?? What is your point??

  241. the other sister said,

    September 15, 2008 at 9:33 am

    Are you saying that colorado friend was posting under your name?? If so I am curious as to why that would be the case, possibly because the detectives were tracking his IP address..

  242. AlwaysInFlyoverCountry said,

    September 15, 2008 at 1:00 pm

    Morning, the other sister.

    Admittedly, that was sheer speculation on my part. The person posting as “Colorado Friend” (and I see now I made an infelicitous typo earlier) has been the only person posting to this thread that, from my outsider’s perspective, has been deliberately trying to anger and upset anybody. This last post from the spurious “Al” appears to be more of the same.


    Al ias Always In Flyover Country

  243. vielsa said,

    September 15, 2008 at 3:27 pm

    Who the hell are you, AlwaysInFlyOverCountry? What on earth are you talking about??? You are making no sense at all! What was your point on coming on here saying bizarre things? I am so perplexed by your words, as a family member on this site, I think it is appropriate for you to explain… Stewing hens, pills, pigeons, what the hell is going on??

  244. AlwaysInFlyoverCountry said,

    September 16, 2008 at 1:31 am

    I am me, Miss Vielsa. Al, Always In Flyover Country. I am not the sociopath that wrote the “proving a negative” comment above. I posted in this thread originally to ask this:

    All the way around, though, now that I am back here in flyover country I guess I’m doing fairly well. Problems? Sure i [sic] have them, but I’m working on them. I have enough of my own that I don’t need to go looking for any others.

    Unfortunately, this one dropped into my lap and I cannot ignore it. So. Colorado Fiend, [sic] will you please find a new name to post under? I would greatly appreciate it.

    The rest was setup for that request.

    If you really want to know what a stewing hen is I can tell you. I explained the pills already; they are medications for one of the problems I have that I am dealing with. And I have no idea where “pigeons” came from.

    May God bless and keep you, Miss Vielsa, and may He grant you the strength, the courage, the wisdom, and the grace to bear up under your shattering loss.


    Al ias Always In Flyover Country

  245. Colorado Friend said,

    September 16, 2008 at 9:02 pm

    Sorry Folks, It wasn’t the “Colorado Friend”. While I check out the site daily for updates, I won’t be commenting on this subject anymore now that you have all stopped bashing Danny. Again, he was my friend and I was defending him in his absence. His mother proved that I knew of what I said. Saying anymore on this is just too painful for everyone concerned and I am not the monster you made me out to be and don’t wish to offend this family. I have no idea what this “Al” person is talking about or why he/she is referring to me (I am a woman by the way). I sincerely hope someday you all find peace. RIP Dan – we love you and miss you.

  246. vielsa said,

    September 16, 2008 at 9:54 pm

    Colorado friend, did you say “bashing” Daniel??? What if this was your sister, what would you say about him? Oh and you were on here to defend him in his absence (your words) well if he didn’t kill himself he would have been able to defend himself and there would be no bashing because we would know what the hell happened to Becky. How can you defend the person responsible for my sister’s disappearance? God, you always say something that ticks me off!!! Watch what you say you might upset someone. BTW, BEKIME ELSHANI IS STILL MISSING IN CASE YOU DIDN”T KNOW!!!

  247. the other sister said,

    September 17, 2008 at 3:32 am

    Colorado friend,
    How would you feel if this was your family member?? You have absolutely no clue about this situation. Would you be speak kindly about someone who took your siblings life? Regardless of what their situation may have been? Do you know what it feels like the hurt the pain, Becky has a large family of which consists of 2 younger siblings 7 and 9. This was Daniel’s decision to do what he did, Is it right to make a choice to take another life. If you don;t believe this call the Detectives, they will tell you they know he killed her. Blood in the vehicle that he cleaned prior, we are still waiting to see if It’s Becky’s, we don’t need the test back to confirm this, especially since they found the cleaning products he used in the APT. Did you even know Becky? You have no right to comment about Becky, (in the past) Bottom line Becky’s disappearance was NOT voluntary. I knew Daniel very well, I never spoke ill of him, I have stated this is a tragedy on all parts. He was like family, How can you talk about finding peace, Becky is still missing, there is no peace, no closure. Stop and think for a moment if the shoe were on the other foot. How would you feel, we are the victims here, we did not cause this, and Becky didn’t either. If problems arise in a relationship you sever ties, you don;t kill someone your supposed to love. My Fiance and I have disagreements, but that doesn’t give him the right or me the right to take eachothers lives. There is no excuse for what has happened, it didn’t have to happen and 2 lives would have been spared. You can say and defend all you want, as we will do the same. This is America after all, free speech is our right. We have no clue who this AL person is, and I don’t know what his point was.

    Becky we love you and miss you so much!!!!!!!

  248. September 17, 2008 at 3:58 am

    Ok, let’s clear some things up. The poster ‘Al’ wasn’t Colorado Friend or anyone else who posts here. Al was from out of the country. Not sure why he posted, but oh well.

    Vielsa, I think I can understand a little of what Colorado Friend is saying. What Daniel is accused of is bad enough. But he/she being a friend wanted to be sure that Daniel wasn’t accused of anything that he may not have done. That is fair is it not?

  249. the other sister said,

    September 17, 2008 at 4:26 am

    I can understand Colorado Friend wanting to make sure that Daniel wasn’t accused of something he may not have done, but let’s also be realistic. The evidence speaks for itself. Becky was not the type of person who would just disappear and not contact anyone. Daniel was the last person with Becky. Unfortunately the 2 people who know what happened are gone.

  250. AlwaysInFlyoverCountry said,

    September 17, 2008 at 1:13 pm

    The poster ‘Al’ wasn’t Colorado Friend

    Then I owe Colorado Friend an apology.

    Ma’am, I wronged you. I came to a conclusion that at its absolute best had only a tenuous connection with reality and cast my own egregious aspersions about you. I was wrong to do so. And I apologize.

    Al the repentant

    Al ias Always In Flyover Country

  251. itdoesntmatter said,

    September 17, 2008 at 3:18 pm

    I haven’t posted on here in a while because I haven’t felt the need to but what in the HELL is AlwaysInFlyoverCountry talking about??? Is there any way someone can block people from posting on here? Becasue this is a little ridiculous having someone on here rambling god knows what with no relevance to this situation what so ever. I just keep reading this crap from this person and I’m getting even more confused and aggravated and trying to figure out if this person is on drugs or just very mentally unstable. Anyways Just thought I’d add my 2 cents and see if anything can be done to get this person off of here. God bless all parties involved and I wouldn’t pay any attetion to this person if I were you, there is obviously something very wrong with them.

  252. Colorado Friend said,

    September 17, 2008 at 3:29 pm

    If Dan did do this (I fear we will never know for sure), no – it isn’t right no matter what happened between them and it saddens me that this may be the situation. BUT – Becky has some culpability in what led up to her disappearance by what she was doing to both Dan and her ex. I am sorry if this angers you. She didn’t deserve to disappear – no and I feel terrible for your lack of closure in this situation. Dan’s family tried numerous times to get him to forget about her and move on to someone that would treat him better and not use him. But he loved her too much – he told his dad right before he died – and he stayed in there. I am sorry for this happening. I am sorry for your tremendous pain. It has affected my life, as well as my son’s life who grew up with him. I do understand your pain and I would feel the same way if I were in your shoes. But, I believe in looking at all sides of a situation. From what I have been told from Daniel’s family, what I know about this family, what I have read here from Becky’s sisters tells me they were both equally loved, they are both equally missed and we will never know what happened and we are all going to have to live with this terrible tragedy. You try to point fingers and insult anyone that states a different opinion on this site because of your pain. It is doing no good for any of you. I do care about this family’s pain and again, I am sorry for any anger I may have caused. But there were two people involved here with equal responsibility for what may or may not have happened to them. I hope someday you do find peace within yourselves to move on with your lives and live a life that honors both of them. RIP Dan.

  253. vielsa said,

    September 17, 2008 at 4:01 pm

    Becky did not cause her own fate. Even if she was playing ten guys, it doesn’t matter, no one has the right to take a life. So basically what you’re saying is (Colorado Friend) that Becky got what came to her because she was playing Daniel and her ex. Obviously the gossip made its way to you. So pretty much you’re saying that this happened to Becky because of the ex. . You don’t kill because you can’t have what you want. I hope this isn’t how you see relationships, if so, that is unhealthy! Becky wan’t obligated to be with either one of them, she owed them nothing!

  254. September 17, 2008 at 5:03 pm

    I have to support Vielsa on this. Yes, being with someone who is seeing others can make you go a bit crazy. I have been there. But that person has options. They can decide to leave. They can give an ultimation and if it isn’t followed they can leave. Or they can decide to put up with it. I actually do know someone who is aware their spouse cheats, but they choose to continue the relationship. It is her decision, and she has learned to not only accept but to be happy.

    If you are trying to say that cheating is wrong, then yes, cheating is wrong. But cheating is never an acceptable reason for murder. Cheating is a sign of a problem in a relationship, and murder doesn’t fix problems, murder just creates more problems.

    No none of those decisions are easy. But taking a life and using the fact that they saw it as cheating is not the answer nor is it right. To be honest, if killing a cheating spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend was allowed, the US would be almost unpopulated. Most of those living would be orphaned children because most adults have either cheated on a spouse or significant other or has been cheated on by the time they are adults.

  255. Colorado Friend said,

    September 17, 2008 at 6:05 pm

    I agree HSH. I never said that any of this is right. BUT – Daniel isn’t the only one at fault here – that is what I am trying to say. Actions on BOTH SIDES put us where we are today – PERIOD. It doesn’t make it right by no means and I am not defending what Dan did to her at anytime. I wish Dan had been stronger and could have walked away from this unhealthy relationship – but he didn’t and no one will ever know what really happened. We have to accept that. Becky made choices of her own free will over the last year or so that led up to her leaving with him that night. Choices that most of us would never have chosen. Most of us are stronger (and older) and have more respect for ourselves than to give into addictions – whether it be drugs or love – or allow ourselves to be abused. I never met Becky. All I know about her is what Dan’s family told me and what you have said here. She sounds like she was a loving individual with a terrible problem that contributed – somewhat – to where we are today. Dan loved her dearly, but I suspect she may have pushed him too far that night and he snapped. It isn’t right what either of them did to each other but, WE WILL NEVER KNOW.

    Bottom line – they are both to blame, – not just Dan. Neither of them deserved what happened to them. Like I said, I hope both families can move on and live their lives to honor them instead of looking for someone to blame. If not, it will eat at you forever. There are a lot of other couples out there going through the same thing every day and dying because of it. You couldn’t save Dan & Becky – but maybe you can put your engeries into helping others avoid the same fate.

  256. September 17, 2008 at 6:23 pm

    You make some good points CF. Becky probably did make some mistakes. I don’t know of any human alive who hasn’t made some type of mistake at some point in their life. But bottom line, they should not have to pay for their mistakes with their life.

    I can tell you that I have been doing this blog for several years. And I don’t know of many victims who were perfect.. Some may have done drugs, some may have prostituted, some argued, some even fought. I am hearing that Becky did drugs. Well I don’t know that she did or didn’t, but if she did she was never given a chance to ever quit, because she was killed first. She also was never given a chance to ever make up her mind to be with any one person, because she was killed first. By cutting her life short, we will never know how things would have worked out for her- or for Daniel. Before blaming Becky, you have to think- what might/could have happened if she had lived. It is hard to blame Becky for what she didn’t do, when she wasn’t allowed to live long enough to find out what she would do.

    Before the family gets upset at me for the comments about Becky maybe not being perfect, let me kind of state my theory on this. I don’t know of anyone who is perfect. We are all human beings, we all make mistakes. Some mistakes are big and some are small, but hopefully we learn from our mistakes- though sometimes it takes a few mistakes to get us to learn. But we aren’t perfect. So I am not targeting anything that Becky may or may not have done.

  257. Colorado Friend said,

    September 17, 2008 at 7:51 pm

    Thanks HSH for your input. It takes TWO people to make a relationship work and usually it takes TWO to destroy it. It is a sad tale either way. Neither of them deserved what we suspect has happened. Unfortunately, it did. We all need to learn from this and be better people because of what happened. So the next time anyone has a disagreement with their significant other – remember these two young people and try to make a difference in your own lives so the tragedy doesn’t take us all down with it. That is the only way we can honor these two individuals and the love they shared.

  258. itdoesntmatter said,

    September 17, 2008 at 7:54 pm

    Most of what you said I agree with but IF Becky was on drugs she WAS given many chances to quit! Danny didn’t want to live with her until she was off drugs that’s why she didn’t live with him! You can’t really say she was never given a chance to stop using (if she even was) because she was killed first because it’s not like 2 days before she disappeared she all of a sudden got into drugs heavily. This is not literal so please no one get mad at me I’m just trying to make the point that what HSH has said doesn’t really make sense. Because anyone who is on drugs has the chance everyday to try and stop.

    Like I said please don’t get mad at me.

    And Colorado friend I agree with you on many points as I do with the sisters. What you’re trying to get across on here is what I was trying to get across when I first started writing on this site and no one understood me either and I just gave up because I realized it wasn’t worth it tryin to make people who have experienced great loss and suffering understand another point of view. And I saw it was just hurting Becky’s family more and more. So I stopped and just became neutral.

    Anyways God Bless All of You!!

  259. the other sister said,

    September 17, 2008 at 11:37 pm

    Colorado Friend,
    O.K. I really didn’t want to post some of these things on here, but I have to. Becky WAS NOT cheating on Daniel with her Ex. They were friends yes, but that is where it ended. I still talk to him to this day. The only reason she talked to to her Ex is from my understanding he was giving her prescription drugs. That night Becky was going to leave Daniel. Becky did live with him. Daniel was no angel he also took those pills, The night that Becky disappeared Daniel bought ectasy, that is a fact, he was also on shrooms. It would have been out of his system by the time they did the autopsy/toxicology report, it’s out of your system within 48 hrs, they did the autopsy 3or 4 days later. There is no debating this as I know the person who saw him buy the pills and ingest them. Becky did not do hardcore drugs. She did not take the ectasy. I believe Daniel got angry, when Becky said she was leaving, and I also believe Becky knew too much for her own good with Daniel’s bussiness and his partners. They were forging checks in Becky’s name like she was working for the company too.She was not. I know that Becky threatend that if they didn’t stop she would turn them in. Becky didn’t want to get into trouble for checks that were not hers.If this was a legitimate business then why did they close up shop and the 2 brothers moved right after this happened. One went to Florida and the other to California.(the brothers that worked with Daniel). If I had a legitmiate business I would not just high-tail it out of town. There are many things that alot of people don;t know. Becky was young yes, she made mistakes, no one is perfect. In no way was she using Daniel, she loved him, when Becky and him got together again she was not on anything, we didn’t know as family. If he loved her, he could have gotten her help or told one of us family members I just don;t understand, Becky was a beautiful girl, she could have easily found someone else, so could have Daniel, instead of this tragedy. Becky never got a chance to seek help she was killed. No one understands how addicitive prescription pills can be, people think well if my DR, prescribed them, then they must be ok to take. Becky had a big problem with her teeth always hurting her, and that’s how she got hooked. It could happen to anyone of us on here. If your in pain, just pop a pill and you never think about it. I did not write this to hurt anyone, just to explain a little more of the story, there are always 2 sides. Everyone is suffering and this will eat at me personally for the rest of my life, I know it will. A mutual friend of there’s told me Daniel said, If Becky ever tried to leave I will kill her and then myself. I talked to this friend who also assissted on our searches. The last night Becky was seen was at 1:00a she was watching a movie with her younger siblings and Daniel was playing poker with my dad downstairs. They left to go home that night, she was kinda tired and wanted to stay at my parents, Daniel said no we gotta go home and feed the dog. I wish she had stayed at my parents. I am not writing this to blame or bash anyone, but if need be I will continue to defend my family and our Becky. God Bless

  260. AlwaysInFlyoverCountry said,

    September 18, 2008 at 12:48 am

    trying to figure out if this person is on drugs or just very mentally unstable.

    Cheap shot much, itdoesntmatter? I said I was taking medications to keep the nightmares away.

    Read the comments under https://homesweethome.wordpress.com/2007/09/27/he-couldnt-take-it/ to see one reason I have nightmares bad enough for me to take medication to stop them. And decide for yourself whether that means I am mentally unstable.

    I also see you blaming Miss Becky. If you want to see where I stand on blaming the victim read the comments under https://homesweethome.wordpress.com/2006/10/22/property-damage/ And oddly enough Burke pled guilty when he made it into court a year ago.

    As for why my first post in this thread appears with no antecedent, HSH removed the post I responded to (and rightly so, in my opinion, because it had no other purpose than to stir s**t up). Now, it could be that the drugs I am taking are making me delusional — but if they are then they are making the other sister delusional too because she also responded to the same vile, scurrilous post.


    Al ias Always In Flyover Country

  261. itdoesntmatter said,

    September 18, 2008 at 2:16 am

    Ok yes those drugs leave your system in 2 to 3 days IF you are alive. If he was high the night he died the drugs would have been in his system when the autopsy was performed. When you are deceased your body stops, you cannot process anything, your body cannot cleanse itself like it usually would to get the toxins out of your system. So if Danny was on drugs they WOULD have showed up on the autopsy report. And I am not saying this to hurt anyone I’m just trying to make the point that there was no way he was on drugs that night. And everyday she wasn’t getting help was everyday she could have gotten help. I have a family member who has been addicted to prescription drugs for at least 4 years now he started becasue his teeth were always hurting him so I know how it is to have someone heavily addicted to pain killers in the family and you don’t know what to do or how to get them help and you are scared to confront them because what if they flip out and hate you and never want to see you again. It’s so hard because you want to help but you just don’t know how.

    Anyways like I said I wasn’t on here to offend anyone. God Bless You All

  262. the other sister said,

    September 18, 2008 at 2:50 am

    It doesn’t matter,
    The drugs were taken the night that Becky went missing friday. The night he died was Monday. That would have been enough time for the drugs to leave his system.I am not trying to hurt or offend anyone. I am not making any excuses for Becky. I am just stating the facts of what happened that night. I can see how you would understand about pill addicition. It’s so easy and it could easily start with something as small as a tooth problem(pain) I thank you and God Bless all!!!!!

  263. September 18, 2008 at 4:20 am

    Itdoesntmatter, I was interested in this statement.

    “I have a family member who has been addicted to prescription drugs for at least 4 years now”

    My question would be do you think there is hope that someday your relative might, possibly kick the drugs? And if they do decide to try, even if it takes more than one attempt, that maybe, possibly, someday they might be able to quit?

    The point that I was trying to make is that as long as a person is alive, there is always hope that someday they may quit. But by ending it in one day, Becky was not given the chance for that hope. Wasn’t given the chance to make that decision to quit. Was not permitted to choose to quit drugs or to choose one person to be with (no matter who that might have been.)

  264. itdoesntmatter said,

    September 18, 2008 at 5:28 pm

    Yes, I hope one day he will quit but other than me there are not to many people in my family who know and I have no idea how to confront or address this. And you have contradicted yourself in your last paragraph, you said everyday a person is alive there is hope that they might decide to quit and in the same breath you say Becky wasn’t given the chance to. Well, like I said before everyday someone isn’t getting help is everyday they could have. It’s not like she became addicted days before she disappeared. It takes some time to become an addict and before all of this she could have gotten help. I’m just trying to get this through your head HSH I wrote this all this before and obviously you just don’t understand what I’m getting at. I’m not trying to offend you I just don’t know if I’m not being clear enough or what.

    The other sister,
    I am sorry I did forget that she went missing on Friday and he died on Monday. I was for some reason thinking that it all happened in one night. So I am very sorry I was mistaken. And I’m not trying to offend you either it’s hard to keep everything straight all the time. And yes pill addiction can start out with the smallest thing like tooth pain or a sleeping problem and it’s so horrible because people do think if my doctor gave them to me then they must be safe. I wish more people knew about prescription addiction and were educated better and I wish there could be more resources to help people with this particular type of addiction. So once again I am sorry and God bless you and your family.

  265. vielsa said,

    September 18, 2008 at 8:42 pm

    It Doesn’t Matter,

    (edited per HSH) You did not know my sister on a personal level and pills have nothing to do with any of this! The pills didn’t kill her, even if she had an addiction that is irrelevant, unless you are implying that her supposed drug use contributed to Daniel’s actions. If that is the case, it sounds like you need to be treated because you are delusional! Please tell me what Becky had to do with her disappearance? What is wrong with you? If you are going to write on here you need to expalin yourself. My question is: What do pills have to do with anything? Why do you keep coming on here and upsetting my family? My mother comes on here too, she doesn’t need to read stuff like that you insensitive ……….! Defend Daniel all you want, but if this was your sister or brother I doubt you would be so quick to pass judgment!!!

  266. vielsa said,

    September 18, 2008 at 8:50 pm

    This isn’t an issue about pain killers, lets face it! It is an issue about someone taking someone’s life! Becky, my beautiful sister is the victim in every way. Daniel took his own life, no matter what Becky did, she is not guilty for Daniel’s decision to kill himself. (edited per HSH) I LEARNED THIS IN SECOND GRADE: NO ONE, NOT ANYONE CAN MAKE YOU DO ANYTHING, YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHOOSE! (edited per HSH)

  267. the other sister said,

    September 19, 2008 at 5:02 pm

    I unserstand that you are just going on the info that Dan’s family has given you, but stop and think, there are 2 sides to every story. I agree our main focus is to FIND Becky. Everyone needs to understand that. This is supposed to be a sweet place for support. It burns me to this day about the tasing incident. Becky got tazed over 20 times!!! and left in a field why?? because Daniel was too drunk to drive home and she took the keys and drove instead, he was tasing her while she was driving!! Can you imagine what that must have felt like?? She had third degree burns, I told her to get to a hospital when she called me. If she didn’t have her cell phone that night to call her sister to pick her up, that could have been it for her that night. Daniel was facing an abundant amount of charges and 2 felonies and 5 yrs in jail. Daniel talked with my dad and sid it was a mistake he was drunk and pleaded with him to talk Becky about those charges. My father loved Daniel like a son, and because he knew Becky loved him, He did not want to see Daniel’s future ruined over this, so he gave him a chance and convinced Becky to drop the charges. If Becky was just using him and didn’t give 2 craos about him Daniel would be sitting in a jail cell today. If Becky had listened to us when we told her to leave him she would here with us today.I am not blaming anyone, but stop and think if this was your son, your daughter how would you feel?? and even when you told he/she to leave and they didn’t because they are adults capable of making their own decisions. If they were a minor then yes you have a say. You can forbid, ground them etc etc, how do you ground a 22 yr old that;s not living with you? or a 25 yr old??
    I hope you can understand amd see the point I am trying to make. Becky knew she always had a place with us girls, she could have left Colorado and started over, I wish she did take my advice, I wouldn’t be here suffering like I am today over this tragedy. I have taken the liberty to tell people I know that are in abusive relationships to leave, I have told them the stories of my own experience, in the end to them it;s a story, they have to make the change, want to leave, and find inner strenght. God bless you all!!!

  268. September 19, 2008 at 5:13 pm

    Two families have been meeting up here during one of the worst periods of their life. And even though they may have two different perspectives, they have been working it out with some dignity and with a minimum of personal attacks on each other. They may not always agree on the issues, but they more or less agreed to disagree on those issues and acknowleged that both sides are hurting.

    Personal attacks are something that I personally don’t like, if you have something to say then at least say it with some respect. If it isn’t related or it becomes a bickering match then please at least show some restraint or better yet keep it to yourself. Personal attacks bring more pain and anger into a situation that is already painful and angry and really isn’t needed.

    I am asking and also warning, no more attacks on each other.

  269. D said,

    September 19, 2008 at 5:30 pm

    Colorado Friend,

    I think you are all losing sight of what needs to be done here. Accept the facts as they are and move forward.

    This is a brilliant idea, except for the fact that my sister’s body hasn’t even been found yet! It’s a little difficult to “move forward” when my family and I haven’t had any closure. Accept the facts…I believe EVERYONE has! She was murdered by Daniel and her body has not yet been found. Did you even think about what your writing? Would you move forward if your child, sister, husband, brother, etc. were killed and not yet found? If so, I am so glad I am not related to you! What type of person moves forward when the past hasn’t even been put to rest. If the situation were reversed and it were Daniel’s body that hadn’t been found yet, would you tell his family to “Accept the facts and move on”. Please think before you type!

    Both were responsible for what led up to whatever happened – PERIOD.

    Please explain how Becky was responsible for being murdered? I would love to hear your theory on this. I’m sure you’ve made some dumb choices in life that you were responsible for.

    From the conversations I have had with Dan’s family – she gave as good as she got.

    It’s comments like these that lead me to believe that his family or maybe only one family member knows something more about what happened that night. “She gave as good as she got”. What do know about that night that no one else does?

    So while some of us blame the two of them – I think some of you have some responsibility in this for letting it go on for as long as it did.

    If this is the case then I suppose you are at fault, as well as his family. Where were you? Why didn’t you step in and help if you knew what was going on?

  270. September 19, 2008 at 6:26 pm

    There seems to be some question about some type of conspiracy here. Typically when it is a domestic violence murder you will see certain words and phrases like “controlling”, previous violent episode, and “she was leaving”. I have seen those same phrases here. Typically though the family may be aware of previous violence, they won’t know of any plan to murder- if there was a plan to murder. If they become aware at all, it is after the fact. Along with the fact that Daniel also took his life, I just don’t see conspiracy here.

    A business has been mentioned and questioned. If the business was shady in any way and the family knew of the location of Becky’s body, wouldn’t it be to the family’s benefit to tell about the location in order to keep law enforcement from having an excuse to look further at the family and their business? So I just don’t see any family involvement here- either business or personal.

    By now the police has done quite a bit of investigation and if there was indications of some other type of criminal activity I think we would have heard by now.

  271. the other sister said,

    September 20, 2008 at 2:10 pm

    The business WAS not a family business, and you have never had to deal with the Colorado Springs police Dept.

  272. the other sister said,

    September 20, 2008 at 2:20 pm

    We have no clue who Al or Pige are, but I find it offensive that you have removed their posts!! Isn’t this America after all free speech??? You speak of personal attcacks on this site. Why did you not remove Colorado friend’s posts??? Becky gave as good as she got??? Becky is disgusting?? those sound like personal attacks to me, or are you being selective?? There are many people out there strangers at best who are defending Becky!! Colorado friend didn’t even know Becky!!! I am sick and tired of having to defend my positon. Daniel’s family might read those so they have to be deleted?? Well my mother and other family members read this post as well. Is it fair for us to have to read the ignorant statements made by those who don;t know either of them?? I find it comical that CF is getting info from Daniel’s father, someone who didn’t go to his own son’s funeral and did not want his ashes. Someone who knew nothing about Daniel’s life, let alone his relationship!!!!!!!!

  273. the other sister said,

    September 20, 2008 at 2:21 pm

    I was wondering are Rob G’s mother????

  274. the other sister said,

    September 20, 2008 at 2:22 pm

    Are you from Colorado???

  275. the other sister said,

    September 20, 2008 at 2:24 pm

    Happy birthday!!!!!!!!!!! I love you!!!!

  276. AlwaysInFlyoverCountry said,

    September 20, 2008 at 4:28 pm

    You’re very kind, the other sister. Thank you.

    HSH’s house; HSH’s rules. I do have the right to speak freely; in fact, I spent a good-sized piece of my life in a military uniform defending that right among many others for everybody living under the Constitution. I do not have the right to compel others to carry that speech if they choose not to. HSH has chosen to carry some portion of what I said and not carry others. And that’s okay. I defended HSH’s right to make that choice too.

    May God bless and keep you, the other sister, and may He grant you the strength, the courage, the wisdom, and the grace to bear up under your shattering loss.


    Al ias Always In Flyover Country

  277. Pige said,

    September 20, 2008 at 8:34 pm

    What do you know, HSH has removed my posts, for defending a missing girl, while the negative posts about her still remain. I find this amazing. I will have this looked into. This is suppose to be a site where we speak our minds, which Colorado friend and itdoesntmatter has done, saying she had this coming to her! She didn’t deserve that, so why can I post the Dereere is ” Below”??? Please be fair HSH. You of all people should not be taking sides. Yes how would his family react to hearing he’s in hell….but how would Bekime’s family react to ” she deserved it”?? AND NOT TO MENTION,SHE’S STILL MISSING!!!! Wow.

  278. Pige said,

    September 20, 2008 at 8:44 pm

    HSH is a joke!!! Ok that business should be further investigated, everyone moved out of state from there!…hmmm I wonder why! Yet noone has done a (“HSH EDITED PERSAY” thing!

  279. itdoesntmatter said,

    September 20, 2008 at 9:55 pm

    maybe i didn’t explain what I was trying to say properly but I DID NOT mean it like everyone is taking it. So, sorry! if you read back a bit you will see that I have defended her and I’ve also said that NO ONE deserves to take a life!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  280. the other sister said,

    September 20, 2008 at 11:42 pm

    It doesn’t matter,
    We know you did not say those things, I was refering to Colorado friend. I thank you once again for defending Becky. God bless!!!

  281. itdoesntmatter said,

    September 21, 2008 at 12:54 am

    The other sister,
    Thank you! And God bless you and your family!

  282. vielsa said,

    September 21, 2008 at 10:06 pm

    DOOTS!!! Happy Birthday! I love you even though you are brewing weird things! Love ya!

  283. vielsa said,

    September 21, 2008 at 10:06 pm


  284. Nicole said,

    September 23, 2008 at 3:46 pm

    I went to school with becky in coxsackie, ny. I just heard about this yesterday through a friend and I am very distraught about this. My prayers go out to the family, and I hope that they do find her soon. When I was reading the story I could not believe that something so horrible could have happen to a girl as sweet as she.

  285. vielsa said,

    September 23, 2008 at 6:53 pm


    Thanks for writing! It’s nice to hear someone say good things about my sister. Yes, she was a great person. I guess this situation is proof that anything can happen to anyone! She didn’t deserve this, and everyday that goes by it feels so unreal.

  286. Besa said,

    September 24, 2008 at 12:19 am

    Hello sisters-I seldom visit this site and its unreal that some people aka as “outsiders” have become self proclaimed psychologists, pathologists, philosophers and scientists too! As I scope the level of immorality and incompetence between CF and whoever else is commenting foolishly I am puzzled. I just don’t understand why they are so consumed by our tragedy? Unbelievable! Like I said before CF wants to keep “in touch” like some kind of internet stalker! This case does not REQUIRE nor DESIRE your insight/opinion etc…there are plenty of other horror stories-REAL ones too. So do us all a favor and stop spewing nonsense and go find another murder case to STALK! After all these months I cannot believe your still here trying to communicate and be involved with something thats so not your business yes you have the freedom to speak(even if it is pointless and shrewd )but we have asked you repeatedly to stop because while your defending and speculating you are also offending some of us because your so insensitive oh and by the way you clarified that your a woman?uh not really-to say that anyone “pushes” or provokes a man to kill her is not only insane but no real woman would ever take a side, and especially the one who was selfish and took both lives!Thats so not the point right now either, so like many times before I have asked you to… get lost already you psychopath!

    Nicole from Coxsackie-thank you for your kind words and thoughts. You brought the very purpose of this site back.Some people have some nerve using this as a place to verbally attack the defenseless- trying to put their sense in with inadequate information nonetheless, so again thank you and my family appreciates those of you who are keeping Becky and the family in their thoughts and prayers. God Bless.


  287. the other sister said,

    September 24, 2008 at 3:22 am

    Thank you for your kind words. I was wondering if you were also friends with Andrea?? Thanks again God Bless.

  288. The Brother said,

    September 24, 2008 at 9:39 am

    You are all pathetic. I read these comments with disgust. You despicable, low life people come on here to verbally pummel on a grieving family? That’s repulsive. Get a {HSH edited} life!

    I appreciate those of you in which voice pensive statements without attaching your two cents. Thank you & God Bless,

    The brother

  289. Besa said,

    September 24, 2008 at 3:58 pm


    Hey-thanks for adding to my statements in a much simpler form:) You said it perfectly thats exactly why I have a tough time staying in touch on SS HSH b/c I get so upset with some of the comments from people that have nothing to do with this…NOTHING! anyway, thanks.


  290. Colorado Friend said,

    September 24, 2008 at 4:00 pm

    I thought this was a site about both of the people involved – not just about Becky – and people expressing their grief. I was defending Dan because no one else was. Sorry your grief is causing you to say the things you do. As for his dad not coming out – have any of you stopped to put yourself in his place?? Do you think he isn’t grieving as much as you are? He is so devastated by this. His son is gone and is never coming back – just like we suspect with Becky. Do you think that he isn’t suffering just as much as you are knowing that his son could have done this? Attack, Attack, Attack. That is all you want to do. I have tried to change my comments to be more positive, but I can see you aren’t interested in healing – Just pointing fingers and insulting anyone’s opinion. I hope some day you can get past the negativity and heal.

    Matt – I miss you buddy and will continue to support you and your dad no matter what. My son B misses you too.

  291. the other sister said,

    September 24, 2008 at 11:31 pm

    I understand you wanting to defend Dan, but your comments of she gave as good as she got? What kind of comment was that? No one knew what there relationship was like. Put yourself in his shoes?? We have ,we are even worse. How can you heal or move on with no closure?? At least they were able to grieve and put their son to rest with respect, we can’t do that. Did you ever stop to think(you live in CO) I,m sure you;ve seen the news. On Monday there were 3 bodies found!!! in one day!!!!!!!!! This is our life, when a body turns up is it Becky’?? we go through this everyday!!! You have no idea what this has done to our entire family!!!! You think His family are the only ones grieving???? We relive this everyday, you cannot move on,forget, get past anything until you have answers and closure, and selfishly enough Dan took that with him. Just like Dan, Becky is also gone and never coming back.. I am not interested in attacking anyone, If I have something to say I say it, I will always defend Becky and my family!! You have tries to change your comments and that is appreciated, but then you add in something like the sentence up above and all it does it stir shit up. We all know both were at fault, for letting things get out of control, but Becky was not the one who pulled the trigger.

  292. Colorado Friend said,

    September 25, 2008 at 5:49 pm

    Other Sister – note taken. I only know what I was told and what I have read here. Do not for one moment think I am trying to justify any of this. The whole scenario is terrible – both families are grieving WITHOUT answers that will never come. I pray that I never have to go through this myself as I know I would probably have the same anger as you have and would lash out at others as you have done. I only hope that I would have more dignity and respect for my fellow human beings. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. And yes, everytime they find a body, I wonder if it is her. I hope for closure for you and your family and that all the negativity stops and positive thoughts and actions are done with respect for both families. It makes no difference to be negative anymore – it is making your life hell. I never meant to imply that she deserved what happened – just that it takes two to fight and when drugs and alcohol are involved it is even worse. I was told that she tased him first, then he got it from her and tased her. Whether that is true or not – I don’t know – I wasn’t there.

    I hope you can find some peace in your heart soon, but attacking Dan’s family and their actions – or lack of action – isn’t making you feel any better about the situation is it? No family is perfect and everyone grieves in their own way. Commenting on Dan’s dad was wrong on your part. He was unable to function for quite a while after this happened – just as I am sure was the case with your father. Don’t judge him because he didn’t come here. It was too much for him bear. He is attempting to put his life back in order in his own way and to come to terms that his child may have done this. Just because he didn’t do what you think he should have done doesn’t mean he isn’t suffering as much as you are or that he is less of a father. I think the time for compassion for all involved should be the order of the day from now on so that all involved can begin to heal and find some peace.

  293. Vielsa said,

    October 1, 2008 at 3:47 am


    The memories surround me and linger
    While I question, how far did he bring her?

    Unsettling circumstances
    Life exists, through minds circling in trances

    Facts too hard to consider-
    Once hopeful hearts
    Remain dark and bitter

    Now we are separate
    Every dream, every vision
    leaves us desperate

    You have left us forever broken
    The words of love will never reach you
    Forever unspoken

    When spring arrives
    We will drown in gloom
    Your world will witness flowers that bloom

    Only thing left, rivers of sorrow,
    Without you BECKY, there’s no tomorrow.

    I love you and miss you, and I cannot wait to see you. Your sis, Vjollca

  294. Vielsa said,

    October 1, 2008 at 3:48 am

    Mom, I hope you like this poem, I thought of you! Love you guys

  295. the other sister said,

    October 1, 2008 at 4:14 am

    That was a nice poem. Thanks I love you all!! Thanks to all of you who wished me a Happy B-day, and obviously the one call I did not get(Becky) Needless to say, it was not a happy day.

  296. vielsa said,

    October 4, 2008 at 4:30 am

    Thanks S. I thought of Beck and just sort of put this together, I miss you!

  297. Vielsa said,

    October 7, 2008 at 4:14 am


    Into a world that needed you –
    Making a brief appearance
    Your farewell so sudden, no trance, no clearance

    Could it be this very girl
    I once sang to a lullaby-
    Would be the very one to make me cry?

    Observing through the years
    As you changed
    Of more feminine colors you became

    The hurtful truth
    I had to learn
    Certain as the green of a fern

    Fearing to see the black apparel
    Music and bells chime
    Longing to run or go back in time

    To let go of you, my sister, my blood-
    Faced with no choice, I am not ready
    I remain all but steady

    Your guidance failed you
    Arrows pointed with no one to blame
    Cannot bear to hear your name

    My dreams, my only outlet
    To see, to hear, to touch, YOU
    Comparable to lost dimensions
    In times we shared
    With my heart exposed
    This is to the one I loved and cared.

    This is for you Beck,
    Everyday is just “another day” without you here. I love you, Vjollca

  298. Vielsa said,

    October 7, 2008 at 4:16 am

    I meant to say trace, not trance in the last poem, first line! Thanks!

  299. Vielsa said,

    October 8, 2008 at 4:29 am

    I am sick of having to “act” like verything is ok, when really, I am just coping day to day!

  300. mom said,

    October 10, 2008 at 6:50 pm

    This is what Becky would say to us all:

    When I left this world without you
    I know it made you blue
    your tears fell so freely,
    I watched; I know this is true

    While you were weeping
    Days after I passed away
    while all was silent within me,
    I saw you kneel to pray,

    from this wonderful place called Heaven
    where all my pain is gone.
    I send a gentle breeze to whisper,
    ” my loved ones, please go on.”

    The place that I have found here
    Goes far beyond compare
    No rain, no clouds, no suffering
    Just love from everywhere.

    You need not be troubled
    just stay close to God in prayer,
    Someday we’ll be reunited
    my love, his love surrounds you

    I hope this poem brings comfort and peace to us all.

  301. the other sister said,

    October 11, 2008 at 1:28 am

    thanks that was beautiful I love you!!

  302. Theresa said,

    October 11, 2008 at 2:22 pm

    Dear Mrs. Elshani,
    What a beautiful poem. I can’t imagine your pain of not knowing where Becky is. I am so sorry. To this day I still don’t want to believe that Danny did anything to her, but I want to apologize from my heart and soul that if he did do it, that it was so wrong. As mother’s we want to believe that our children would never do something as horrific as that. We want to believe that we raised them better. I had no idea that Daniel was struggling with inner turmoil. I feel like I failed him, in not being able to help him. If he wouldv’e reached out to me, maybe I couldv’e done something. Oh, Mrs. Elshani please do not feel that I thought anything but wonderful things about Becky, I had some wonderful conversations with her. She was a warm and loving person to me. I truly am sorry, from the bottom of my heart about the loss of your daughter. I wish there was something I could do or say to make this all go away. I miss Danny as I know you miss your Becky. I wish we could bring them back and pretend that it is all a bad nightmare. I know that isn’t reality, but to get through the day sometimes I have to believe that Danny is going to call me. I know that we must go on for our families and be strong, but it is so hard sometimes. I cry alone because I don’t want to bring my sadness to other people, I wail as I’m sure you do…Why???????????? Oh, Dear Heavenly Father I pray for healing for all of us. I am so sorry. Sincerely, Theresa

  303. Vielsa said,

    October 16, 2008 at 4:31 am


    Thanks for that poem, it is Becky alright! I bet she still makes fun of you wherever the hell she is! And that breeze around you, yeah, she”s trying to lift your skirt! Lol! I love you momsy, even though you smell funny. vj

  304. the other sister said,

    October 17, 2008 at 12:15 am

    You crack me up I love U!!!

  305. the other sister said,

    October 17, 2008 at 12:18 am

    Thank you for your kind words, I know Becky would appreciate them. Peace be with you, God Bless!!

  306. Vielsa said,

    October 18, 2008 at 4:18 am

    The Questions I would ask

    Do you miss the world you knew before
    What is it like above the thunder and roar

    Do you hum or sing or play a tune
    Do you skip or dance or fly along the moon

    Do you wander from star to star
    What does life look like from afar

    Does the wind blow softly when it caresses your face
    Where is your secret place

    Below the moon or near the sun
    Where do you go when your day is done

    Are there Angels and wings of white
    Does this very place you call home feel so right

    If so, you belong, and I will not cry-
    But I will never stop questioning WHY?

    Becky this is another poem for you.
    Miss you more thany you will ever know.

  307. the other sister said,

    October 18, 2008 at 9:39 pm

    that was beautiful I love you!! I miss Beck so much and the pain never goes away.

  308. tima said,

    October 20, 2008 at 2:00 am

    Vj hahahaha your so funny! Becky Lifting mommas skirt!
    I love both of your poems so much they are beautiful.

    Becky, I miss you so much and pray for you everday to come back!
    Nothing’s the same without you sis! I miss you beyond belief. With all the activity going on which are unexplainable Beck I know you still reside at 6355 MONARCH FREAKIN’ CIRCLE! lol
    love your lil sis,

  309. vielsa said,

    October 24, 2008 at 2:47 am


    I knew there was no return
    When you walked in the distance

    You left a trail of sadness
    For all to burn

    The word “find” has new meaning
    When I gave up on hope and believing

    Living life, an aimless wander
    So many nights, I think and ponder

    Why was it your time?
    Your voice, no longer a familiar rhyme

    They say special ones must leave-
    If so, why pain when we grieve?

    I can’t help but wonder where you are
    Lingering I hope
    Or sitting on a star

    I hope you are smiling
    And do not know-
    That our emotions are compiling

    If you are free and flying
    Give me the strength
    To keep me from crying

    My heart will never be complete
    Without you-

    But what you gave is with me
    In everything I do.

    For you sweetheart, I love you Becky.
    By: Vjollca Elshani

  310. vielsa said,

    October 24, 2008 at 2:50 am

    I miss Becky so much, I wish someone could just find her!

  311. vielsa said,

    October 25, 2008 at 6:43 pm

    Hey! To all my gene related, family tree connected, DNA makeup, family members! Write me something, I am not having fun amusing my damn self, haha. I miss you guys, I will visit soon. If you forgot how to write in English, Spanish works too, I know like three words! Luv YA

  312. vielsa said,

    October 25, 2008 at 6:51 pm

    Who am I? Paxil….Ambien…..Tylenol…Advil….type..type…..Carrots and vitamin A….Broccoli and cancer… YUUUUP! MOM!! How did you guess. Tell me Madre, what do I do for tired feet, and don’t say TEA TREE! hahaha

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