A Success Story

Back in April I wrote about Rebecca Griego and her efforts to leave her boyfriend. About how she did everything she was supposed to do, and how she died anyway. And to be honest, you will hear that a lot here.

Because it is the ones who don’t manage to get out that we hear about. The ones who died while still in the relationship or who died or were maimed trying to leave. We don’t usually hear about the ones who succeeded. In many cases, it could bring harm to them to use their names and say where they are.

In my post about Rebecca Griego I said that Seattle gets it. They understood what will help people in domestic violence relationships the most is more information. Showing many of the commonalities and myths of domestic violence. There were more articles about domestic violence in that time period than I have ever seen after a domestic violence murder.

They have done it again.

One thing that is needed is success stories. If you read here regularly you will see some of those stories. People who read then leave messages saying this used to be them, but they got out. I am always appreciative of those success stories, because they provide the example that it can be done. People can be successful in leaving and they can do so and survive.

In the media however, you seldom see those stories. A Seattle columnist Robert L. Jamison has written one of those stories.

He wrote about a mother who left an abusive husband and moved all the way across the country to escape. How she chose to live, even if it meant sacrifice. And she did live. That was important and not just for her.

Because she lived, she was able to assist her daughter when she her marriage became abusive. She helped her daughter to make a safety plan and to escape.

It is an inspiring story about survival. But more than that it is one more reason to choose survival. Because the mother set the example by escaping and living. And with her experience she was able to help her daughter. One more reason to choose to escape.


A big thank you to D.P. for posting this at the CrimeNe.ws Room where I found it.

And a thank you to Mr. Jamison for recognizing the need for success stories and finding one to write.



  1. triadandtroo said,

    May 18, 2007 at 2:33 am

    I started reading your blog not long ago and it motivated me to get out of an abusive situation. Thank you for what you do and what you did for me.

  2. May 18, 2007 at 7:56 am

    Triadandtroo, thank you. When I began this blog- my goal was that if it helped just one person it would be worth it. Thank you so much for telling me. I hope that you are safe now, and I hope that you will find your way to staying safe. Best of all things to you.

  3. Di said,

    May 18, 2007 at 11:01 pm

    I was hoping you would see that article, sweet home. It’s very true that the success stories of the brave women who do whatever it takes to survive and break free tend to not make it into the limelight. The service you provide here in your blog is invaluble not just for the education concerning DV, but also for the hope you are able to instill in others, that “NO” you are not alone, “Yes”, you can make it out, and “Yes”, you will thrive again. Kudos to you.

  4. Kara said,

    May 24, 2007 at 5:24 pm

    Thank you for your information and posting, sweet home. For anyone who is interesting in stuff employers can do to address domestic violence and the workplace, there is a great website out there by a group of employers call the corporate alliance to end partner violence. The website is http://www.caepv.org and it tells people how to start a program at work and has lots of other information and statistics and research. Hope this is helpful!

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