While he was away

Police were called to a home about 6:30 am on Sunday. When they arrived a man answered the door and told them he had left the home for about 30 minutes. When he came back, he found his girlfriend Kelly Army, 42, had been stabbed.

Kelly Army was pronounced dead at the scene, she had suffered multiple stab wounds. Her 11 year old son was also in the home, and he was reportedly asleep when she was allegedly attacked. He was not harmed.

Police arrested the boyfriend, Christopher Proctor on an unrelated warrant. He was later interviewed and then arrested for Kelly Army’s death. Reportedly police have been unable to locate the murder weapon.

Kelly Army’s employer has spoken out about what a good friend and employee she was. The employer has also made allegations that there was a past history of abuse. But she says that she believes that Kelly Army

“She kept feeling sorry for him. Feeling sorry for him got her killed.”

theindychannel.com    wistv.com  

I don’t know if this is true in this situation. But in DV situations it isn’t uncommon for the perpetrator to make statements to elicit sympathy. They had a bad childhood, the world is against them, everybody at work hates them, they can’t catch a break,  they don’t make enough money, someone else did it and they got the blame, everybody leaves them or lies about them etc.

What they don’t say is that they are now grown up, no longer a child. They are adults and if they have problems related to their childhood they have the capability to get help. And they have the ability to make their lives what they wish.

Nor will they admit to any responsibility for their current circumstances. It is someone else’s fault. And thus if problems develop in the relationship- guess what? It isn’t their fault- even if they had apologized.

No one in a relationship is ever perfect. Everyone does make mistakes. And sometimes the complaints may be true. But when you see a pattern of denial of personal responsibility, then it is important to recognize it. And to begin to honestly assess the person and the relationship.

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