She had talked about being stalked

Mona Rose Llanes, 49, and her husband Nelson Llanes, 57,  had been married for more than 20 years. The parents of 4 grown children, a decision was made to separate.  Nelson Llanes moved in with one of the children. The two began divorce proceedings, but it was not yet final.

Mona Rose Llanes had moved on with her life, and  reportedly may have begun dating someone she worked with. She was a nutrionist for Headstart and coworkers have said she had a passion for her work. Mrs. Llanes had reportedly told some she felt like her husband was stalking her, but she did not call police.

She had worked on Monday, and reportedly had gone to a tanning salon after work. She told an employee there that she was preparing to go to a wedding.

Nelson Llanes was a landscaper and reportedly he wasn’t taking the separation well. Allegedly a dispute had developed over his wife’s beginning to date.

On Monday one of the children went to the home about 7:10 pm. She found her mother in one of the bedrooms, beaten and lifeless. Despite attempts at rescusitation, Mona Rose Llanes was later pronounced dead.

Police have said the attack was very violent. They have said the scene was  very bloody and that Mona Rose Llanes had been beaten to death with a heavy object.

Police began their investigation as the other children gathered at the home. It was noted that Nelson Llang’s did not come to the home. Some neighbors have said there was talk of domestic violence in the home.

About 1 am a police officer noted a car parked behind a bar with a hose attached to the exhaust pipe which ran to a window of the vehicle. The man inside was unconcious.  The officer managed the rescue and it was determined that the man in the car was Nelson Llanes. He was taken to the hospital.

Police say they have not been able to talk to Nelson Llanes as yet, they do not know if the suicide attempt was a result of grief over his wife’s death or the result of guilt over something he had done. He has been charged with 2 nd degree murder.

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There is no way to predict who will fall victim to an incident of domestic violence. But there are warning signs.

There are hot button issues like separation, acrimonious divorce, child support, custody disputes, new relationships with others, money and property divison issues and all the other issues that can come between a couple. But quite often they are settled without violence.

But other issues  can be indicators. Previous violence in the home (either against the person or the property), mental health problems, a history of violent or criminal behaviors and stalking behaviors. Personally I see stalking behavior as a major indicator. For an already angry person it doesn’t take much to make them more angry. Even an attempt to evade the stalking can make them angrier.

Stalking is often an attempt to gain the person’s attention and maintain control. Any attention, including negative attention. Yet the stalking behaviors are the ones most likely to be ignored or at least not acted on.

The FBI has done a study on stalking and has pointed out the prevalence and dangers of stalking in domestic relationships. It is an interesting study and has tips on what should be done if stalking becomes a problem.

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1 Comment

  1. Anonymous said,

    August 7, 2008 at 12:34 am

    I grew up down the street from this family. My heart and prayers are still with them. This is such a tragedy. I can’t imagine what they are going through, poor things. Peace and comfort to them.


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