It’s no secret that couples do private, intimate things together. Couples even sometimes record those private intimate things. And unfortunately those private intimate things can be recorded without the knowledge and permission of both parties. But what at one point was private and intimate, can be turned into a weapon in an attack as devastating or more devastating than a physical blow.
Police say that David Feltmeyer, 33, made a recording of him and a former girlfriend in intimate moments. Police have said
“I think he was trying to do her some harm because she is no longer in a relationship with him,” “The video was made unbeknownst to her at least over a year ago. It really was a private, intimate moment that he exploited and recorded without her knowledge.
Then he is accused of recording it on DVD’s and he is accused of randomly placing those DVD’s on cars parked along a street. Police say they are not sure how many were passed out. So far they have recovered two.
And as the former girlfriend’s name, address and phone number were included with the DVD’s, the former girlfriend is now reportedly receiving contacts from strangers. Police have also said that some young children have viewed some of the DVD’s by mistake. And friends have said that the DVD was being talked about on the radio.
Feltmeyer is now charged with 1 felony count and 1 misdemeanor count of using a computer to carry out an obscene exhibition and 2 misdemeanor counts of knowingly producing an obscene exhibition.
Police are asking if anyone did receive one of these DVD’s or knows anything about the case to please contact Crime Solvers at (804) 748-0660. The investigation is continuing.
Police also issued this statement
“It’s a very unfortunate situation,” The woman “is somebody’s daughter, somebody’s sister, and I wouldn’t want this happening to my” family member.
It’s not a prank, not a joke, not humorous, not funny and not cute. It is a crime.
I spent some time today thinking of what I felt would be an appropriate sentence for this, but in the interests of civility- decided not to publish it. Let’s just say they were appropriately humiliating, some maybe even painful.
I’m sure he enjoyed passing the DVD’s out. I wonder if he is still enjoying it? I wonder if he has asked what would happen if a sex offender got one of those tapes and decided to target the girlfriend? Or if he could be held legally culpable for that?
I really don’t care what a couple decides to do in an intimate moment. But if you are aware of a recording of a private moment, and you know you are leaving the relationship- if possible try to make sure that you obtain or destroy any images or recordings as they can easily be made into a weapon.
And when your kids start serious dating, make sure they know to be alert to any attempts to make a recording without their consent. It really is way too easy to do (and no I am not speaking from experience.) But it should be a part of that “birds and bee’s discussion” for older kids.
Thanks to Ron Lanius we have an update. Charges were reduced to a misdemeanor, and David Feltmeyer entered an Alford plea to one misdemeanor count of
“knowingly producing an obscene exhibition.”
In an Alford plea the person basically pleads “no contest”, saying he does not admit guilt, but recognizes the state has enough evidence that will most likely cause a conviction on the charges.
As a result of the plea, David Feltmeyer was sentenced to 90 days in jail, with the sentence being suspended and 30 days community service.