This post is a bit more graphic than usual, but I believe the situation warranted it.
They love their relative Dolores Bibiano, 23, they saw what was happening and tried to get her to leave her common-law-husband Marcos Sanchez Abrego, 29. The couple had reportedly been together for 6 years and they had 3 children together. Delores Bibiano also had another child from a previous relationship.
The family has reported that Abreo was ‘agressive’ and that he made promises to change. But they say he didn’t. They tried to get her to leave him, but she wouldn’t. As she was an adult, they couldn’t make her leave. And they could not stop what happened.
They were aware of an incident in Nov. of 2006, when Abrego is accused of hitting her in the eye and leaving it swollen and bruised. After pulling her into a bedroom, he is alleged to have hit her with his hands and after the beating he then sat down to watch TV. He ended up in jail, but allegedly reached out to her by sending her a letter saying the two of them would
“ride for life”
When he got out of jail, the couple went back together.
There were witnesses as to what happened on Sunday. Allegedly Abrego and Bibiano were arguing when Abrego is alleged to have punched Dolores Bibiano, then grabbed her by the hair and dragged her upstairs. His grasp on her hair so strong that some of her hair was yanked from her head and left on the ground.
When police arrived they found Delores Bibiano behind the apartment. Her face was swollen, her mouth full of blood. She complained of her back hurting. And she was unable to move. She allegedly named Abrego as her assailant.
In her pocket authorities found a note.
If anything ever happens to me, it read, please call my sister.
In the apartment police found three of the four children, they were not harmed but reportedly saw at least a part of the violence. Dolores Bibiano suffered a broken neck. She needs surgery to realign her neck so that she will be able to sit. She is paralysed.
As I said, the family has a message and the message is for anyone else who may be living in a similiar situation as Dolores Bibiano
“It’s not worth staying in a relationship like this,” she said. “It’s not worth ending (up) like her.”
When police arrived they reportedly saw Abrego jump a fence and run from the area. He was captured about a block away from his mother’s house. Abrego was taken into custody and charged with attempted murder.
I could not say it any better than the family. The only thing I might add, is that if a decision is made to leave- do it safely. As it has been mentioned on here many times, the most dangerous time can be at the time the abuse victim decides to leave.
Make contact with a domestic violence agency and make plans on how to extricate yourself safely. Do not tell that you are leaving, just leave. If you decide you must tell, that can be done later- by phone or letter- while you are in a safe place.
There is help for you. But you must be the one to make the decision and you must ask for the help. And always keep in mind- leaving is not selfish. You do for yourself but you also do it for your children and for your family.
How do you know you are in danger? As someone said here the other day- trust your gut. If you have suspicion or feel fear, then you know. Trust your instincts. You may tell yourself that he is only kidding, or only angry for right now and doesn’t really mean it. But if you felt that fear, then denying it to yourself and others will not change it.
This was first posted at Crime News by D.P.
Clarification on the Nov. arrest, this article says Abrego spent a month in jail on other charges. And when arrested by police for the beating he gave his girlfriend, he was already wanted for misdemeanor assault charges. No explanation on that, whether it referred to an assault on Bibiano or someone else.
Abrego charges attempted murder and evading arrest.
According to the above article, 25 people in San Antonio lost their lives due to domestic violence last year. That is only one city out of how many cities in the U.S.?
Family says that Dolores Bibiano is paralyzed from the waist down. She is still on a ventilator but is no longer listed in critical condition. Family has started a fund for her.