“I am going to kill your mom.”

 Jason Hives, 33, and Ruth Angel Hayes, 27,  had been together for about 7 years. The two had a 7 year old son together and Ruth Hayes was 4 months pregnant with their second child. Ruth Hayes was known as “Angel” and was a home health aide, she had also attended community college and had worked at a store at the airport.

The two had been having some problems in their relationship and about a month ago an incident developed where it is alleged that Hives threw Angel Hayes clothes into a bathtub and poured bleach on them. At some point police were called over the incident but according to Hayes’ mother there was no arrest.

“They said that’s not how it’s done. They said to get a restraining order.”

Angel Hayes moved out and took her son with her to stay with her mother. Her mother says that she applied for the restraining order, but couldn’t execute it  because of her son. She didn’t want to get Jason Hives in trouble.

Jason Hives in the meantime was arrested on robbery charges which the grandmother says were related to the holdup of a pizzeria.

According to the grandmother Jason Hives didn’t want Angel to end their relationship. And allegedly he threatened to kill the family if she ended it. According to the grandmother

“He was jealous. He wanted her back. He kept calling her on her cell phone and threatening her,” she recalled. “He said, ‘Ain’t nobody going to have you but me.’ “

On Saturday morning before 11 am Angel took their son to see his father. Allegedly the two began arguing and at one point Angel allegedly threatened to burn Hives with an iron if he didn’t leave her alone.

Allegedly Jason Hives told their son

“Go to your grandma’s house. I am going to kill your mom.”

but the little boy refused. The little boy and his mother tried to leave the apartment, but allegedly Jason Hives fired multiple shots. The little boy was not hit. His mother was shot multiple times. Her last thought was for her son, he has said she told him

“Bye, Ronald; I love you, “

And she told him to go to his grandmother’s home for help.

The little boy says he doesn’t remember the shots. But he does remember the blood on his mother and on the wall. He remembers what she said to him. He worries about his pets- three little turtles he had to leave behind at the apartment and he hopes to get ‘Painty’, ‘Snappy’ and ‘Killer’ back. He has said he isn’t having nightmares, but he is missing his Mom. His grandmother has said of him

“It’s touch-and-go with him. He asks why his father shot his mom. He knows she’s somewhere, but doesn’t know quite where.”

Jason Hives is at large. Police have issued an all points bulletin for him.

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He was seven years old. Sensing his mother was in danger from his father he did the only thing he could to try to protect her. He bravely refused to obey a direct order from his father to leave and he stayed with his mother. He must have been frightened, but he stayed. Physically, he is ok. But he is left with the last memory of his mother, injured and bloody.

Thankfully he has a grandmother to love him. Because he no longer has a living mother- only a memory. He no longer has the little brother or sister that was yet to be born. And virtually he has no father, at least no father available to him. And his last memory of his parents will be of his mother being shot by his father. Life as he knew has changed forever and at the age of 7 he has learned that people who say they love you- can hurt you.

He is 7 years old and probably had little experience with death. Now he is left to struggle with his memories, to learn about death and greiving,  and to worry about the only things left living from his life with his parents.

When a parent harms the other parent in front of the child- in my opinion that is child abuse. Physically the child may not be harmed, but mentally/emotionally they will struggle from that as much as if they were physically injured themselves.

I haven’t done it previously, but from this point forward, I will be tagging the posts as a child being harmed if the child saw the crime or if the child were the ones who were left to find the results of the crime.

A big thanks to The Cellar for the tip on this one.

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12 Comments

  1. windy eberly said,

    February 1, 2007 at 9:04 pm

    happy “blogiversary”, i’m a newbie too, but i tell ya these crimeblogs can be addictive. thanks for speaking about an important subject. you are very correct in your assessment, seeing your mom hurt is the very worst aspect of DV. i survived my SF trying to kill my mother, and thinking he succeeded took me and my brother off while trying to clean up the scene. we did not know what he would do, or what her status was, and i do beleive that of all the things that have happened to me, this is the one that caused my ptsd.

  2. February 1, 2007 at 9:41 pm

    Windy, I am sorry for what happened to you and your family. It is true, PTSD has been connected to DV and sometimes causes long lasting harm. I hope that you have been able to have at least some recovery from it.

  3. Jules said,

    February 2, 2007 at 7:26 am

    This is such a terrible story. It underlines the horrors many children must deal with when one parent aims to harm or kill the other, although the child’s point of view is rarely reported in such situations.

    Thank you for writing about this case, HSH. I hope more domestic violence crimes which actually make it to the news will take this “child’s point of view” in reporting, when applicable. The old cut & dried versions haven’t done much; perhaps this POV will.

    Two of my personal “must-reads” :
    https://www.gavindebecker.com/books-gof.cfm
    and
    https://www.gavindebecker.com/books-ptg.cfm

  4. February 2, 2007 at 2:26 pm

    Thanks Jules, though both sound good I especially need to get ‘The Gift of Fear’

  5. Vidalia11 said,

    February 2, 2007 at 6:21 pm

    For a child to see domestic violence of any kind is unquestionably child abuse.

  6. Anonymous said,

    June 14, 2007 at 10:52 pm

    I would just like to say that I knew Jason and Angel VERY WELL…we were very close…Everything you read in the paper is not true. This was a loving couple with a few problems and disagreements, just like everyone else. If you were not there, do not judge. Only God can!!

    I heard it was an accident…..

  7. Frank said,

    June 25, 2007 at 6:11 pm

    Ruth Hayes is my first cousin and we as a family will always miss you! This tragedy is just the same as the Jessie Marie Davis story that is airing nationally. This place that we call home is so out of control that I can not reason as to why this happens. My little cousin will have questions as he gets older but for now he is in a better living condition far away from that city that I use to once call home.

  8. Crazy said,

    June 29, 2007 at 3:27 am

    This is a reply to Anonymous said. How in the hell do you shoot someone 11 times and say it’s an accident. What, did he close his eyes and kept pulling the trigger. I don’t think so because he went back and shot her some more. So obviously you didn’t know them well unless you give birth to one of them. No matter what kind of problems and disaggrement someone has, it doesn’t give anybody the right to take another’s life and then stay on the run knowing that you are wanted for murder. With the balls to hang out where the so call “accident” that you heard took place. Be for real.

  9. bang_bang said,

    July 11, 2007 at 2:00 am

    we knew jay and we never thought that he would be one to do such a thing but on e thing we did notice was that he was quiet and obviously a liar he said he wasn’t with his baby mother anymore and that she was lazy but this is so shocking..how could he do such a thing, now all he had to do is let them leave now that little b0y doesn’t have his mother and a jail bird father..sorry to sound so harsh but he should get that penalty

  10. stihjhd said,

    April 7, 2008 at 11:49 pm

    This was sooooo stupid……………….who caresWOW the little boy saw his mother get murdered big deal!

  11. April 8, 2008 at 3:33 am

    Stihjhd, most people find the thought of watching their mother be killed in front of them to be abhorrent. Perhaps you are outside the norm, perhaps you wouldn’t care if your mother was killed in front of you and your own life was threatened.

  12. Bridgette in York said,

    August 21, 2009 at 6:09 pm

    I loved both Angel and Jason. My grandfather raised him and they were a loving couple and great parents together. “Little Jay” is doing well for all those that care….he’s a bright young man and GOD willing will be fine. Let’s all PRAY instead of throwing stones….horrible situations are never expected. I still believe and know that he loved her…but I do know that I miss Angel and wish it was preventable….my love goes out to her family and mine!


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