Jason Hives, 33, and Ruth Angel Hayes, 27, had been together for about 7 years. The two had a 7 year old son together and Ruth Hayes was 4 months pregnant with their second child. Ruth Hayes was known as “Angel” and was a home health aide, she had also attended community college and had worked at a store at the airport.
The two had been having some problems in their relationship and about a month ago an incident developed where it is alleged that Hives threw Angel Hayes clothes into a bathtub and poured bleach on them. At some point police were called over the incident but according to Hayes’ mother there was no arrest.
“They said that’s not how it’s done. They said to get a restraining order.”
Angel Hayes moved out and took her son with her to stay with her mother. Her mother says that she applied for the restraining order, but couldn’t execute it because of her son. She didn’t want to get Jason Hives in trouble.
Jason Hives in the meantime was arrested on robbery charges which the grandmother says were related to the holdup of a pizzeria.
According to the grandmother Jason Hives didn’t want Angel to end their relationship. And allegedly he threatened to kill the family if she ended it. According to the grandmother
“He was jealous. He wanted her back. He kept calling her on her cell phone and threatening her,” she recalled. “He said, ‘Ain’t nobody going to have you but me.’ “
On Saturday morning before 11 am Angel took their son to see his father. Allegedly the two began arguing and at one point Angel allegedly threatened to burn Hives with an iron if he didn’t leave her alone.
Allegedly Jason Hives told their son
“Go to your grandma’s house. I am going to kill your mom.”
but the little boy refused. The little boy and his mother tried to leave the apartment, but allegedly Jason Hives fired multiple shots. The little boy was not hit. His mother was shot multiple times. Her last thought was for her son, he has said she told him
“Bye, Ronald; I love you, “
And she told him to go to his grandmother’s home for help.
The little boy says he doesn’t remember the shots. But he does remember the blood on his mother and on the wall. He remembers what she said to him. He worries about his pets- three little turtles he had to leave behind at the apartment and he hopes to get ‘Painty’, ‘Snappy’ and ‘Killer’ back. He has said he isn’t having nightmares, but he is missing his Mom. His grandmother has said of him
“It’s touch-and-go with him. He asks why his father shot his mom. He knows she’s somewhere, but doesn’t know quite where.”
Jason Hives is at large. Police have issued an all points bulletin for him.
He was seven years old. Sensing his mother was in danger from his father he did the only thing he could to try to protect her. He bravely refused to obey a direct order from his father to leave and he stayed with his mother. He must have been frightened, but he stayed. Physically, he is ok. But he is left with the last memory of his mother, injured and bloody.
Thankfully he has a grandmother to love him. Because he no longer has a living mother- only a memory. He no longer has the little brother or sister that was yet to be born. And virtually he has no father, at least no father available to him. And his last memory of his parents will be of his mother being shot by his father. Life as he knew has changed forever and at the age of 7 he has learned that people who say they love you- can hurt you.
He is 7 years old and probably had little experience with death. Now he is left to struggle with his memories, to learn about death and greiving, and to worry about the only things left living from his life with his parents.
When a parent harms the other parent in front of the child- in my opinion that is child abuse. Physically the child may not be harmed, but mentally/emotionally they will struggle from that as much as if they were physically injured themselves.
I haven’t done it previously, but from this point forward, I will be tagging the posts as a child being harmed if the child saw the crime or if the child were the ones who were left to find the results of the crime.
A big thanks to The Cellar for the tip on this one.