1 st Anniversary

Many of you do not realize, but Home Sweet Home has reached an important milestone. 01/25/06 was the day this blog began. So whether you wish to call it the 1 st anniversary or the 1 st birthday- we made it this far.

When I began, I didn’t know if I would be able to stick to it, I didn’t know if anyone would ever come to read, and I knew I had a lot to learn about DV. But in order to do a blog, I had to begin.

Finding something to write about is not a problem. Statistics say there are about 3 murders a day due to domestic violence. Many more are badly injured or disfigured, many more happen with no permanent injury. I have covered many but I can honestly tell you- I didn’t get them all.

Here are the statistics for the 1 st year for Home Sweet Home:

701 posts (most are DV or Child Abuse, though a few are off topic)

142,751 Total views for the blog as of right now

1,144 Best day ever


The journey to this point has been an emotional one for me. Many who come here are in pain. They have lost someone or they fear for someone- or they are struggling with their perceptions and fear of punishment for someone. Some of the crimes are horrendous and hard for me to concentrate on long enough to write, because my instinct is to avoid what is painful.

There have been touching moments, and yes angry moments. For one of the worst things about DV is how it splits a family and the extended family leaving children who don’t know where their loyalties should lie and extended families and friends feeling betrayed and grieving.

Many see the ones who committed the murder as monsters, and see the victims as saints. But the truth is that some murderers may have been horrible people- but some were previously nice gentle people. Some victims were indeed nice- and some may have made mistakes in their lives. But none deserved murder. Because of my feelings about that and because it is not my way- I seldom rant and I try to be fair.

The writing of the blog was a new experience for me. I had never written anything since I was in high school (and no I won’t tell when that was.) So the writing was a new experience for me.

When I began the blog, my instincts told me that some people would come searching for information on domestic violence and I resolved to try to locate links to resources. And I think I have been pretty successful at that. Until recently I wasn’t sure if anyone ever looked at the resources, but WordPress has now extended the ability to see what links in the blog are clicked on and I can happily say that almost half the clicks on this blog are to links on the resource list. (And no, I cannot tell who is clicking the links.)

I believe that one of the most important things that can be done on an anniversary is to reflect back on what has been accomplished and what didn’t work, then to look forward to see what direction it should go.

I am interested in your thoughts and reflections on the blog. Are you learning anything from it? What do you like, what would you like to see more of, and what would you like to see change? I promise to listen and to consider all opinions- even if they are critical.


My blog anniversary did not go unnoticed. LiLO is my ‘blog mother’. She is the one who approached me with the idea of beginning a crime blog, and not only helped me get started, she has continued to offer help, encourage support and friendship ever since. She has even blogged about my milestone in her post Special Blogiversary. But really the thanks should go to her, as she began the idea.

Basil’s Blog blogs about the blogs. He explores what is being discussed in the blogs, new blogs that are beginning and just generally what is happening in the blog world. I have been very fortunate in that he has mentioned me a couple of times before- and he made note of my blog anniversay also. So thank you Basil.

And while I am passing out the thanks, I have to thank the whole True Crime Blogroll. They have all offered assistance and support to a newbie blogger as well as giving me insights into the issues of True Crime Blogging many of which I had not considered. Their experience and willingness to share has been invaluable.

The support of you, my readers has also meant a lot to me. Some offer different viewpoints, some offer support and encouragement, some share stories of how DV has touched their lives. All enrich the blog for everyone and I do thank all of you.



  1. vidalia11 said,

    January 31, 2007 at 6:04 pm

    I find it quite interesting and a great public service! Thank you. My only suggestion is to create a link back to your home page.

  2. January 31, 2007 at 6:11 pm

    First thank you for the kind words. And LOL, I am not quite sure what you mean?
    Any time you are on one of the other pages you can always go to the top of the page where it says Home Sweet Home, click on that and it will take you to the first page.

  3. Trench said,

    January 31, 2007 at 7:45 pm

    Happy anniversary.

  4. Harding said,

    January 31, 2007 at 8:38 pm

    Happy anniversary, and keep up the good work.

  5. January 31, 2007 at 8:45 pm

    Trench, Harding Thank you both so much and thanks for all your help in the last year. I have a little more experience now- but I still claim newbie status!

  6. D.P. said,

    February 1, 2007 at 12:01 am

    Happy Anniversary, Sweet Home. I appreciate your blog and the service it provides. DV is a huge problem and only by talking about it…by “outing” it, if you will, can we as a society take any real steps towards preventing it. Thanks for a great year!

  7. wendy said,

    February 1, 2007 at 2:48 am

    Happy Anniversary! You do an amazing job here; I commend you on your efforts to bring to light what the majority of our society chooses to ignore.

    Here’s to another wonderful year!


  8. Stitches77 said,

    February 1, 2007 at 12:18 pm

    Congratulations and may you have many more!

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  10. Jules said,

    February 1, 2007 at 1:22 pm

    Happy Anniversary, HSH!

  11. Desiree said,

    February 1, 2007 at 3:05 pm

    I’ll echo the sentiments and say Happy Anniversary as well. I had assumed that perhaps you too lost someone close to you in a DV case and perhaps started this as a part of your own therapy. Even if this isn’t the case, you should know that your blog is therapy for many of us. I just returned home yesterday from helping clean out my best friend’s home who was murdered by her husband right after Thanksgiving. For me, it was just another step in the long road of dealing with her death. Your blog and the comments of others on it have also helped me cope with what I had never imagined I would ever deal with.

    Please keep doing what you’re doing and as you say, commit one act of random kindness every day.

  12. February 1, 2007 at 3:47 pm

    It is I who should be thanking all of you. At times it is an emotional struggle to keep it up. But the kindness, encouragement and support from all of you helps me tremendously.
    No, I have never lost anyone to DV. But I was once a victim, though it was never as bad as most that I cover here. I was one of the lucky ones and I survived. But I made a lot of mistakes during that time, mistakes that cost me. And as I write this and see how some of the situations end, it really scares me to think of how close I came.
    But I believe there are several ways to learn. From books, from experience, and from the experiences of others. Had I come across something like this when I was in the relationship- well I can only hope that I would have listened. Just as I hope that it can help someone else.

  13. Vidalia11 said,

    February 1, 2007 at 5:39 pm

    Ohhh, thanks for telling me to click on the title at the top. DUHHH… Anyway Happy Anniversary and many more!


  14. Becky J said,

    February 2, 2007 at 10:06 am

    My sincerest congrats to you, over the last several months, since my friend was murdered in November, Desiree’s best friend, i have come to respect you and your blog very much as well as EVERYONE who comments, even those i disagree with, it is a very theraputic way to deal with these sensless actions, please keep up the great work
    Becky J

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