Happy 2007

I have to start using the date, otherwise I will forget what year this is! I hope that everyone is having a safe and happy New Year’s.

To me New Year’s is a time for thinking about the old year, and reflecting on the new year to come. I guess that is how New Year’s resolutions came about.

For reflection, I began this blog 11 months ago. I have been very fortunate in that many people who have experience with domestic violence who have stopped by, left comments, joined discussions, sent me articles and contributed in a major way. There have also been survivors who have stopped by and joined their voices to tell how it felt and how it affected them and how it still affects them. And there are families and friends, heartbroken grieving families of both the suspects and the victims families. Their grief, their anger expressed here shows just how much domestic violence affects the other people who are surrounding the troubled relationships. They show the devastation the violence leaves behind.

Resolutions:  Health and body image are big ones. Behavior changes also come high. But I am going to suggest a new type of resolution.

Try to make your community a better place to live in. Find what community organizations are available in your community and what they need. Set yourself to contributing to solution to that need.

Of course my highest reccommendation would be to locate your local domestic violence agency and see how you could best contribute to them. But you could also find children’s organizations, senior citizen organizations or any number of other helping agencies. You could also get involved with your community government, to make sure that these helping agencies were not forgotten.

Most helping organizations have a need for cash, doesn’t everybody? But if that is a problem there are other ways you can help. Most accept donations of goods such as clothing,  books, daily supplies and etc. Some accept volunteers who are willing and able to contribute their time. Your local agencies can tell you what they need. Try to help them find a way to fullfill it.

Someday I hope to see stronger domestic violence laws, and a more educated response from law enforcement and the courts. But there are other things I also hope for. Someday I hope to see national support system set up for survivors of domestic violence. The type of system where survivors will be there to help and support new survivors or those still in the violent relationship.

I also hope someday to  see a national support system for families of domestic violence victims. For the families of those who did not make it out, the families who have relatives still in the violent situation, and the families of survivors. Because domestic violence hurts more than just the known victims, it hurts entire families and extended families.

If such organizations were to develop, than that would be a force that would ensure that new, stronger laws and more education would be developed. Simply because the numbers would be staggering, more attention would be paid.

My resolution? Well, for here I resolve to learn more about domestic violence. I resolve to keep putting what I learn out there, to try to reach more people. I resolve to pay more attention to the relationships around me, to be more alert to signs of abuse or controlling behaviors. And I resolve to reach out to my local community domestic violence agencies.

And I resolve to do better at committing a random act of kindness each and every day.


It’s a twin thing

Police were called to a home on a complaint of domestic violence Saturday about 11:30 pm.  They arrested Lance Williams and were preparing to take him to jail, when shots rang out from the home. Police took the nearest cover they could find behind trees, in ditches, behind bushes or whatever would give them a bit of cover.

Lance had a twin. The twin’s name was Lindsay. And it seems that Lindsay Williams, 37, was in the home firing at the officers.

Police say that there were 75-100 rounds fired from various windows  of the home. Police believe that a shotgun, a handgun, and a semi-automatic rifle were used in the shootings. Shots struck and damaged at least 6 vehicles.

Neighbors have said that there would be multiple shots fired, then it would get quiet for a bit, then the shooting would start again. There was some damage to neighboring homes from the gunfire. Neighbors took cover in their homes.

This went on for almost 4 hours.

  About 3:30 am Williams managed to slip out of the home. He jumped into a sheriff’s cruiser and led police on a 100 mile per hour chase, jumping on and off the interstate and bypass highways.

Police say Williams finally came to a stop. But even then he wouldn’t surrender. An officer shot Williams in the leg. After he was arrested, police found a weapon near Williams.

A police officer was hit by debris and was treated at the scene. Police say the girlfriend was not injured. Williams was taken to the hospital where he was treated and released.

Lance Williams (the original call) was arrested for drug charges, resisting arrest, and obstruction of an official. Lindsay Williams was charged with 5 counts of attempted murder of law enforcement officers, and they say other charges are pending.

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What started it all kind of gets lost in the events that follows. But domestic violence is a community problem. And this is one more way it reaches out and touches the community.

Neighbors forced to take cover in their own homes, police officers lives endangered, and even motorists lives endangered while the ‘armed and dangerous’ man was leading officers on a police chase.

And it leads me to another point I have been wanting to make. I don’t approve of drugs. I really, really don’t. I believe they are dangerous not only for the user, but for everyone in the household with the user. But really, if you are doing drugs- keep in mind, the surest way to get arrested for it, is to cause domestic violence!

In the Middle of the Night

Stephanie Elizondro, 21, and her 13 year old sister heard their parents arguing. Then about 3:30 am they heard gunshots.

Then their mother’s boyfriend Guadalupe Vega Cisneros, 41, came after them with the gun. Both were hit with gunshots. Cisneros then fled the home.

The girls called 911. In the home their mother Nidia Arias-Acuna, 41, was dead from gunshot wounds. The girls have told police that though they heard the shots, they did not see the shooting.

Both girls were taken to the hospital, both are expected to recover from their injuries.  

Police are searching for Guadalupe Vega Cisneros. He may be driving a 2003 Ford F-150 with Georgia tags.

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Check on the residents calls

Police get those calls from time to time. Some relative or close friend cannot make contact with someone over a period of time, they may contact police and ask them to check the home.

When police  arrive, they may be greeted politely, with simles and thanked for checking and sent on their way. Or they may be greeted with frowns and/or curses. But the worst of all are when they don’t receive a response.


Saturday police were asked to check a residence. When they arrived there was no response at the door. So they forced entry.

Inside the home they found Gary Keith Goodmon, 50, and his wife Lorrein Rachel Goodmon, 40, both dead from gunshot wounds to the head.

Police believe the husband shot the wife, then turned the gun on himself.

The couple were thought to be planning to get a divorce. And reportedly they had a history of domestic disputes.

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The coroner believes that Lorrein Goodmon may have been dead for 36 to 48 hours before the bodies were found. Gary Goodmon was thought to have been dead 12 to 24 hrs. The coroner believes that Lorrein Goodmon may have been sleeping prior to her death.