Love is not always eternal

Claire Cucchiari-Loring, 22, had been dating Robert Jerrell Williams, 26, for about 5 years.  And several months ago she had moved into his apartment with him. Several weeks ago the relationship reportedly ran into some type of problems and she moved out and moved back home.

Family has said she was afraid of Williams. And at least one news report has said that he held her against her will one night recently.

So when she and some friends decided to go out together on Friday night, they chose a restaurant out of the area. As Claire Cucchiari-Loring left the restaurant about 8:40 pm to go to her car, witnesses say that Williams was there waiting on her. According to a police spokesman “He was waiting for her,” “and when she got near her car, that’s when he got out and approached her.”

Allegedly Williams pulled a handgun, the two exchanged a few words, and he pulled the trigger- shooting three times. Two of the shots hit Claire Cucchiari-Loring in the torso, one shot hit a nearby restaurant wall. Reportedly Williams then fired a fourth time, this time shooting himself.

Williams was pronounced dead at the scene, and Claire Cucchiari-Loring was taken to a hospital, where she was later pronounced deceased.

There are a lot of favorable adjectives being used about Claire Cucchiari-Loring, words like  independent, hardworking, selfless and funny, and an outstanding student at her college. But more than any others, all mention talent. She was taking music in college and one of her music professors probably gave her the highest compliment when he said she “had a beautiful, natural voice, a wonderful gift.”

Williams had no criminal history above traffic tickets. And police say they are not aware of any restraining orders. But they are trying to determine how Williams knew she would be at that restaurant that night.                                                            

Books, poetry, music, movies and theatre have popularized the theory that ‘true love’ is eternal, lasting even after death. Even going so far as to insinuate that true lovers will be together in the hereafter.

However, there is nothing in true love that would allow for murder, and most religions say that both murder and suicide are major sins, which could preclude the victim and the murderer from even being in the same hereafter.

Murder/suicide is not an indication of true love. True lovers want their other halves to live on, until it is their natural time to go, they want them to be happy and healthy even if they cannot be together for a time. And true love takes two,  if one is being forced against their will- that is not love.


 Claire Cucchiari-Loring had moved back home just two weeks prior to the shooting. Reportedly on Dec. 6 th, Claire Cucchiari-Loring has stated that she was at the apartment with Williams and he showed her a gun. Allegedly he threatened to kill her and himself. He held her at the apartment from about 10 PM on Wednesday to about 1 PM on Thursday.

She went to police at 7 PM on Thursday, and filed a report but did not want to prosecute. She did request a protective order.

She had petitioned the court for a restraining order, and it was granted about noon on Friday. Police recieved the order about 5 PM, but did not have a chance to serve it before the shooting occurred.


  1. David said,

    December 13, 2006 at 5:15 am

    I knew Claire and went to school with her.Thank you for including this story on your site.It may save a life.I met her family yesterday at the memorial service we had for her at school,and I only wish their precious daughter was still with them.We had a great talent stolen from us,and I’m still having a hard time dealing with it.Even as we speak,her blood is still on the ground where she was murdered.Why didn’t this fool just shoot himself and call hit a day?

    Rest In Peace Claire-we love you.

  2. David said,

    December 13, 2006 at 5:33 am

    That should be call it a day.Sorry.

  3. Michelle said,

    October 17, 2007 at 1:58 pm

    Claire is missed everyday by her friends, family, and community. She was beyond gifted in so many areas that at times it was unfair. Claire was always there for others and her unique way of doing things and loving others was something that I’ll never forget. This November 9th, 2007 we will be hosting an event called, “Her Melody Lingers On” to help raise funds for her memorial scholarship at ODU. It will be from 7 until 11 at 3900 Bonney Road of Virginia Beach and admission is free.

  4. Alexis Moore said,

    October 17, 2007 at 5:57 pm

    October is domestic violence awareness month. Two survivors of violent crime have taken action and they have pledged to make a difference by providing victim support services and facilitating new public awareness and educational campaigns nationwide.

    Communities with the greatest success in lowering rates of domestic violence are those in which the various public and private agencies work together in a collective effort to tackle the problem.

    Survivors In Action is developing programs “designed by victims for victims” which is a unique and a very different approach for victim support services.

    Victims are also provided with no-cost one on one support and assistance that is desperately needed to help fill in the gaps missed by the present victim service programs. As crime victim resources are often inadequate and there are many victims who feel abandoned by the support services presently available, Survivors In Action’s objective is to help change that.

    Victims, their friends and family members are encouraged to contact Alexis Moore the President and founder of Survivors In Action for further information. Alexis may be reached by e-mail at

  5. Emily said,

    November 15, 2007 at 7:32 pm

    Claire was the ultimate example of a strong independent woman. She idolized Xena! And yet even she became a casualty of domestic violence. If our amazing, kick ass Claire can become a statistic then so can any woman. Please watch out for your friends, stand up for yourselves, leave your partner at the first sign of abuse and raise your sons to be good men. Only as a collective communty can we fight domestic abuse.

  6. Jay said,

    January 25, 2010 at 5:47 am

    My freshman year at ODU, I met Claire and had the pleasure of singing with her. We weren’t that close and we didn’t even hang together outside of school, but I know she is truly missed. She was a beautiful, charming, hilarious and talented woman. May God watch over her family and grant her eternal peace in heaven. I miss ya Claire!

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