Has there been violence in your relationship? Control issues? Have you found yourself saying things that may be construed as abusive? Name calling or putting someone down? Shouting and/or cursing? Threats or intimidation? Hitting, slapping or pushing? Jealousy or suspicion in the relationship? Throwing things or causing property damage? Do you find yourself trying to keep your spouse or partner from going around others because they try to talk her into leaving because of your behavior?
Maybe you regret things after the argument is over. Maybe you have even scared yourself a couple of times. Maybe you are afraid that your behavior is going to cause you to lose your relationship. Maybe you fear going to jail or prison. Maybe you even fear you will go too far one day.
You may have been raised in an environment where domestic violence was a part of your parents or guardians relationship. You may have had an abusive childhood. Maybe you think it is because of outside stressors- job, financial, other people, your partner, your children, alcohol/drugs or other causes. What causes it does not matter as much as what you do about it.
You have a choice. You can continue as you are and risk everything- your spouse or partner, your children, even your freedom. Or you can choose to ask for help.
Once violence has entered the relationship, it is almost impossible to stop on your own. It is possible to stop, but almost all need help. On the left is a new category. Abuse Treatment. I will be adding links as I find them. But you can call your local domestic violence agency and ask for help in finding a treatment program in your area. Or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or
TTY 1-800-787-3224 and see if they can help you find a treatment program in your area. It is your choice- risk it all, or get help. Everyone needs a little help sometime. Make the call, your spouse or partner will thank you, your children will thank you. Do it for them, and do it for yourself.
Please don’t end up with me writing about you someday.
To my readers, if you know of any good treatment programs please post them here or email me and I will add them to the links.