A long hard path

Police say that Richard Thompson, 42, seemed calm when he called in to 911 about 6:30 am on Aug. 18. They say he spoke in a monotone when he told them that he and his wife had gotten into a fight. He also allegedly told them that his wife was cheating on him and that she had said she was going to leave him. And reportedly he also said that he had choked her and that she was dead. He also told them that he had tried to revive her, but couldn’t bring her back. While talking on the phone with dispatchers, allegedly a woman pulled up to pick up Wendy Thompson, 40, and take her to work. Thompson allegedly took time out from his conversation with dispatchers to tell the woman that his wife wouldn’t be going to work that day. Reportedly Thompson also told dispatchers that he and his wife had been together since the eighth grade and they had two sons together ages 18 and 21.

The coroner has said that Wendy Thompson was most likely dead for at least 5 hours before the 911 call. That she probably died between 9 pm on the 17 th and 1 am on the 18 th. They have reported she was strangled with hands and a belt. Reportedly Thompson told police that he and his wife had had consenual sex before her death, but police indicated in court documents that they may have evidence of rape. And Thompson told police that he called his brother and confessed to him before calling 911. But police are not saying what else he did in that 5 hours.

Reportedly court records show that in 2002 Thompson pled guilty to domestic violence against Wendy Thompson and spent 30 days in jail. The family has said that she had been dominated by her husband for years. But they say that she loved him and wanted to work it out with him. And they believe that in some weird way he loved her too.

Thompson has been charged with domestic violence and murder, and the investigation is continuing.

http://www.morningjournal.com/site/news.cfm?newsid=17087779&BRD=1699&PAG=461&dept_id=46371&rfi=6

http://www.chroniclet.com/Daily%20Pages/082506local4.html

http://www.chroniclet.com/Daily%20Pages/081906head11.html

Doctors will tell you that holding on to bitterness and anger will harm you physically. Psychiatrists will tell you that it will harm your mental health. And the Bible says that you must learn to forgive. And this family says they want to forgive. But right now they have many emotions to go through. Shock, anger, grief, loss, and probably some confusion.

After all, the man who killed Wendy Thompson wasn’t a stranger. He was the man their sister was married to. The man their sister forgave. The father of their nephews. And a man who had been a part of their family for years.

From what I read I believe this family will forgive him eventually. But it can be a long hard road to forgiveness, and a lot of emotions to go through first.

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3 Comments

  1. Vidalia11 said,

    August 25, 2006 at 4:10 pm

    It’s also possible that the family intensely disliked this guy, and won’t forgive him.

  2. Vidalia11 said,

    August 25, 2006 at 4:12 pm

    Ok, I just read the article where the family forgives him. Maybe this was part of the problem…way too much tolerance.

  3. silverside said,

    September 8, 2006 at 6:37 pm

    Actually, abusers and their allies tend to be very manipulative about the “forgiveness” thing. If the victim holds the abuser responsible for his actions, she’s presumably being “vindictive” and “uncooperative.” People who know anything about DV know that victims should never be pressured into “forgiveness.” If anything, DV victims already experience too much pressure to blame themselves for the abuser’s actions (“If only you didn’t get dinner on the table late!”), so requiring forgiveness on demand is just a different part of the same continuum.


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