Tattoo or Not Tattoo

Hillary Snyder and her unnamed boyfriend discussed her getting a tattoo. The boyfriend allegedly wanted her to get a tattoo like his. But Snyder said no.

One night she took a pain pill and a sleeping pill. She awoke to a peculiar pain to her ankle. Guess what she found there? A five pointed star, just like her boyfriend’s.

Angry at her boyfriend, Snyder called police. And police call it domestic assault. Snyder however has declined to press charges. In her words, ”I mean it’s not like he beat me up. There were no bruises or blood or anything. I’m just not going to see him again.” and ”At least he didn’t flub it up.”

As of the date the article was written, no charges had been filed.

http://www.suntimes.com/output/news/cst-nws-tat10.html

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/tm_objectid=17538683&method=full&siteid=94762&headline=tattooed-as-i-slept–name_page.html

Let’s see, she says no and he didn’t beat her up for it. He merely waits until she is well under the influence of a chemical agent, then makes a permanent change to her body, which causes some pain, and risks a chance of infection.

And even though it was against her express wishes, she got one anyway. And with no input as to design I might add. Wonder if she would have been more upset if she had woken to find his name tattooed somewhere?

She says she is not going to see him again. But at least she has a permanent reminder of him.

(As to her comment that there was no blood? When you get a tattoo, it does bleed a little, he must have cleaned it up).

Some may view this as a relatively harmless prank. Well let’s take a look at that. It is permanent. Yes, there are expensive surgical techniques that can remove the tatoo- but they also carry their own risks of infection and scarring. She said no, and boyfriend didn’t force her- but he waited until he felt she was in a position not to object, then he did it anyway. Not to himself, but to her. He gave himself the right to make decisions over her body, while still giving her the risks. And beyond the psysical aspect of the tattoo, there is now a connection between the two. They have matching tattoos, and that is a  connection she was not willing to commit to.

A sign of undying love or a sign of an attempt to control? Harmless prank or domestic assault?

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3 Comments

  1. Vidalia11 said,

    August 14, 2006 at 6:01 pm

    *I* don’t think it’s a harmless prank at all. But to a person who is extremely immature, and operating at an adolescent level, it probably seemed “funny”.

  2. Diane said,

    August 14, 2006 at 6:40 pm

    Drawing a “mono-brow” on a sleeping person with a washable marker can be considered a “harmless prank”. (And yes…definitely an adolescent prank at that.) Permanently tatooing a passed out person, and using god only knows what kind of needles to do so…is not.

  3. soobs said,

    August 16, 2006 at 2:13 pm

    True. It’s a definite sign of control. IMO, of course.


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