A ‘Mother’?

Lee Giles, 61, was a police officer who retired in 2000. He has been arrested on charges of 22 counts of child rape (10 counts first degree and 10 counts second degree) and possession of child pornography. He has pleaded not guilty to the crimes. Police arrested him on a tip from an 18 year old boy, who had recently moved in with his father. The boy told his father that Giles had raped him from the time he was 9 years old until he was 14.

Prior to arresting Giles, a search warrant was served on his property. Police collected two van loads of evidence from Giles’ home, including a computer hard drive and other evidence.

The boy has alleged that he came in contact with with Giles when his mother, now 46, was dating Giles. And the boy also alleges that his ‘mother’ was aware of….and particpated in some of the assaults against her son and others. The boy has stated that “he was made to perform sex acts with his mother”  She has also been accused of participating in the production of sex tapes of children being assaulted, including her own son. The ‘mother’ has been arrested and charged with 2 counts of child molestation and 3 counts of child rape. She has been put on suicide watch.

Giles had no history of accusations of sexual misconduct while he was a police officer, from 1970 until he retired in 2000. Though the current allegations indicate some of these crimes took place while he was still working as a police officer.

The boys mother however, had been a civilian employee of the police department, a crime prevention specialist. However, she was fired in 1999 following an investigation that she had pornography on her work computer.

Two other victims of the couple have now stepped forward. One child was 10 years old and the other was 3 or 4 years old (I have also seen the girls ages reported as age 4 and 8 ). Police warn there may be other victims. The investigation is continuing.

http://news.bellinghamherald.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060803/NEWS09/60803006

http://www.kirotv.com/news/9625949/detail.html

http://www.kirotv.com/news/9628833/detail.html

http://www.komotv.com/stories/44769.htm

http://www.kirotv.com/news/9625949/detail.html

I have tried to understand it. How can any adult look at a child and see a sexual attraction? I have accepted that I will never understand it. But how can any woman, carry a child in her body, care for that child as an infant. See them grow, see their dependence on the woman, see their trust in the mother……then give that child over to a man that is allegedly the mother’s boyfriend to assault? How can a woman, even claim a man who assaults children as a boyfriend? Let alone particpate in his crimes? Let alone allow him to assault her own child, even to participating in it?

I not only do not understand. I am angry. Very angry. Angry enough that I am having difficulty writing this. A child is not a sexual toy. A child is not to be used as a means of holding onto a boyfriend. They are not physically, developmentally, or emotionally ready for a sexual relationship. A sexual relationship requires knowlege that a child does not have. Knowlege like sexual orientation, responsibility, sexual diseases and prevention. Knowlege like responsibilty and decision making. Things that a child is not mentally, physically or emotionally ready for.

9 years old. Given to the boyfriend as a sexual toy. Used as a toy by a parent. Abused. Exploited. And a record made of the abuses on video tape.

This is not a mother. I even hate to call her a woman. This is a woman who abused and exploited the trust and love of a child. If these allegations are proved out in court, this is not a woman who failed to protect her child from a predator. This is a woman who became a predator. A predator of other children as well as the child she gave birth to.

The investigation is ongoing and police believes there may be other victims. I urge anyone who knows Giles, or thinks they know the mother to talk to their children. Even if they think there was no opportunity for their child to be preyed upon, talk to them. Find out what they know about Giles and the woman. And use that opportunity to talk to them about predators.

This boy has not been named, because he is a victim of sexual assault. The woman has not been named, not for her protection- but as a protection for the boy. He can recover from what happened to him as a child. He will go on with his life. But one thing that cannot be done, is to remove the scars from what happened to him. Those are the kind of memories he will have for a lifetime. No, he won’t think of them every day. But he will think of them often. They might come in dreams, they might come at odd moments in his life. They won’t be happy memories. They will affect his ability to trust. They will affect his relationships with others. With love and support, he can recover.

His father is the one he told. His father is the one to go to police. It sounds as though his father is coming through for him. That will help a lot in his recovery. I hope he is also getting counseling. I wish this boy the best. And I wish this boy the knowlege that he can be a survivor.

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In 1980 William Lee Giles was referred to a psychologist for several instances of “odd” behavior. The girlfriend’s name is Maureen Wear and the two girls who came forward with allegations of abuse are related to Giles.

http://www.thenewstribune.com/news/local/story/6021010p-5287268c.html

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3 Comments

  1. soobs said,

    August 6, 2006 at 10:00 pm

    Home, anger doesn’t begin to cover my feelings of this “person” who gave birth to this child. I’m disgusted, angry, and want her to suffer emotional and physcial pain. More than Giles, too. 😦

  2. August 7, 2006 at 3:10 am

    I could barely write this one. Writing about children is always hard for me, but this one got me.

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