“They had a history of domestic violence”

Emmanuel Allen, 31, and  Vilma Rosario, 39, had been living together for about 3 years. And police say they had been called to the address at least 4 times in the last 3 years for domestic disputes. Last year Allen was arrested for assaulting Rosario. Reportedly Allen had recently undergone domestic violence counseling.

Police were called there again Fri. Allegedly the couple were arguing in the bedroom of the apartment and Allen pulled out a gun and shot Rosario in the head.

At least three of Rosario’s children were in the home at the time and heard the shots. Rosario’s 15 year old daughter fled the home, telling neighbor’s  “Oh God, he killed my mother! Oh God, he killed my mother!”

Rosario’s 16 year old son and 23 year old son entered the bedroom, and have said they saw their mother lying on the floor. They allegedly saw Allen sitting nearby clutching a gun. Allegedly Allen looked at the boys and said “She’s okay. I didn’t mean to do it.”

At that point the older son, 23, allegedly grabbed a “replica sword” and used it on Allen. Allen dropped the gun and the older son turned the sword over to his younger brother, 16, while he picked up the gun and shot Allen. “My mother, she loved us,” the younger son said. “And that bastard took her away. We tried to save her, but we couldn’t.”

Rosario’s 22 year old son said “She was a loving and caring mother until she met that bastard,” “She did everything for us. And he killed her. He was a jealous freak.”

Allegedly the argument was over Allen’s infidelity. According to Allen’s relatives, Allen had a 19 year old girlfriend who is 5 months pregnant.

A neighbor said that Rosario was afraid of Allen, and that he threatened her a lot. She said Rosario would cry and say ‘Why are you doing this to me? I love you.’ Allegedly two weeks earlier Rosario told the neighbor that she wanted out, but that he wasn’t going to let her.

Allen’s relatives say that Allen had already moved out of the apartment and that he had gone back to the home to get his belongings. They say the pregnant girlfriend was a sign that he had already moved on. Allen’s aunt said “They just couldn’t get along,” “They had a history of domestic violence.”

Prosecutors are reviewing the circumstances, and at this point no charges have been filed against Rosario’s sons.

http://www.newsday.com/news/local/newyork/am-dead0723,0,1887854.story?coll=ny-nycnews-headlines

http://www.nydailynews.com/front/story/437474p-368478c.html

http://www.nydailynews.com/front/story/437671p-368727c.html

A lot of times, parents don’t realize what a position they put their children in when they stay with an abusive spouse or partner. The kids want to protect their parent, and many times they can’t. So they suffer. In this case the boys did attempt to protect their mother, and may have done so in the past. But this time they were unablle to save her.

Studies show that in domestic violence cases there is an increased risk of abuse to the children who live in the household. And Rosario’s family has alleged that Allen did attack one of Rosario’s daughters once.

I found it interesting that Rosario’s neighbor says that as recently as two weeks ago that Rosario’s neighbor recalls a conversation where Rosario was reported as saying she wanted out but that Allen wouldn’t let her. And that Allen’s family is saying that he had moved out and moved on. The ending of a relationship doesn’t always end the problems or any controlling behavior that may have been within that relationship.

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Missing from their life

Worried relatives asked police to check on a 31 year old mother of three. Police responded to the home and found her deceased on Saturday. Police are not talking about the murder citing the ongoing investigation. But they said that missing from the home were the woman’s husband, Quincy D. Norton (I have also seen it written as Donald Quincy Norton) and the couple’s three young children. Some reports say the children were abducted at 1:36 pm on Saturday.

An Amber Alert was issued for the children, and they were found later at a relatives home (I have also seen it said that it was a friend’s home). The children were safe, and it was said that Norton had dropped the kids off there sometime earlier. The children are aged 9, 8, and 1 year old. 

Police say that Norton is a person of interest in the case and they would like to talk to him. Norton is believed to be driving a green Honda CRV, with California plates number 4PXB850. He is described as a black male, 6’2″ 230 lbs, with black hair and brown eyes. He is reported to have a tattoo of a panther on his upper right arm and a skull on his upper left arm.

http://www.mercurynews.com/mld/mercurynews/news/15106125.htm

http://cbs5.com/localwire/localfsnews/bcn/2006/07/22/n/HeadlineNews/MURDER-KIDNAPPING/resources_bcn_html

Thankfully the children are safe. I am curious as to how they were able to assign a time to the time the children were abducted and what led relatives to contact police.

It is also curious that they are saying that the children were abducted. Unless a court has assigned custody to one parent, usually either parent is considered to have the right to custody of a child. Between the articles I read, the details that were given differed among the articles, such as times and names.

Three children, now motherless. Unknown what they may have seen or heard, and at least two of the three would be old enough to have some understanding of what was happening. They are old enough that they will retain some memory of having a mother, though the memories may become vague and undifined over time. The baby will grow however, with no memory of her mother. And someday she will learn what happened.

Every time I read one of these, I always wonder. Did the father have any glimmer of understanding of the hell he was putting these children through? Or was he so consumed with his own feelings, that the children never entered his thoughts until it was too late. Or did he even care.

As these children grow, their mother won’t be there for them. She won’t attend school functions and events. She won’t be there for their birthdays, their first dates, she won’t attend them when they are ill. She won’t be there when they marry, have kids, or any other of the milestones expected for a child. And if their father is convicted, he won’t be present either. Likely someone will step in to care for them. But there will always be someone missing in their life.