An Argument

Police were called to a residence about 7 pm on Sunday due to a report of domestic assault.

A woman alleged that James Walter Wiklanski ripped the phone out of the wall during an argument, as she dialed 911. She also told police that during the assault, Wiklanski choked her twice and pounded her head on the floor. She also said that he threatened to kill her and he told her he wasn’t going to leave until he “got some”. The unnamed woman had injuries to her throat, back and foot.

Wiklanski was arrested and has been charged with assault with intent to commit great bodily harm less than murder, assault with intent to commit sexual penetration, assault with intent to commit sexual contact and cutting a telephone line. He has been given a $25,000 cash or surety bond, but remains in jail at this time.

Every domestic violence incident does not end in a murder. Many leave their victims alive, but emotionally devastated. Many times the victims are very fearful. They know that the abuser will not only be angry about the original argument, but now will be angry about the arrest. If he/she gets out of jail, they could be at risk again.

Many times the abuser doesn’t see it as the person trying to defend his/herself by calling police for assistance, they see it as a personal assault on themselves. They see it as the victims fault.

What they don’t seem to see is that they are not only causing problems in their victims life, they are causing problems in their own life.

The sad thing is that there is help out there if they want it. The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 works with abuse victims. But they also work with abusers, to assist them in finding programs to help. They may include individual counseling, group counseling, or domestic violence intervention treatment programs. Another resource is to call the county mental health and counseling center and request information as to what is available in your area. There is also help for any alcohol or drug abuse problems that might contribute to the domestic violence problems.

It can hard to admit a problem with domestic violence. It can be even harder to actually enter a program for treatment. But it sure is easier to enter a program than to go too far one time and end up in a divorce or being charged with domestic violence. Or murder. Don’t wait until it is too late.

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