The violence in her life

Michelle Dieterle, 27, had a male friend over last night. And about 4:30 am they were woken up. Dieterle’s estranged husband Ryan J. Dieterle, 27, showed up.

He told the boyfriend to leave, and the boyfriend left to find a phone and call 911. There was no sign of forced entry at the apartment. The other man called 911 and told them that he feared that Ryan might hurt the victim.

When police arrived, they found Michelle Dieterle dead from stab wounds. Ryan Dieterle was in the apartment, and he also had wounds to his neck. The other man was outside the apartment. Police believe that Dieterle killed his wife and that he received cuts to his neck and hands during the struggle. Dieterle was taken to the hospital for the wounds to his neck.

According to court records, Ryan Dieterle has been charged with domestic violence twice in the past. Once in 1998 and once in May 2006. In 1998 he was acquitted, and a temporary protection order was granted with the one from May.

Dieterle was the mother of two children, but they weren’t at home last night.

Dieterle has been charged with the violation of a temporary protection order and the case remains under investigation.

This was not Michelle Dieterle’s first brush with violence. Besides the domestic violence charges against her ex-husband, police say that in Dec. 2005, Michelle Dieterl had parked her car about 7:45 am at the Job and Family Services where she was employed. She got out of the car and went to pay for parking. She told police that a man with a shotgun then forced her back into her car. He made her drive to an ATM and withdraw some cash. Then allegedly he raped her.

The alleged assailant is still in jail. As she was the witness for the kidnapping and rape, this could put that case in jeopardy. Police do not believe the two crimes are related.

There isn’t much being said about her children. I don’t know where they were that night, or where they are now. And I don’t know if they were his kids or how old they are. They might regret not being there that night, but I am so glad they weren’t.

That is a lot of violence for one person to live through. And finally the ex-husband made sure she didn’t live through it. If police are correct and he received the cuts to his neck from a struggle with her, then she put up quite a fight. And a woman who has survived this much violence, must have been willing to fight for her life. It is sad that she didn’t win this time too.

You are going to get sick of hearing me say this. If there is domestic violence in your home, you need a safety plan. And if you have come to the point of filing for a protection order, you need  to take steps to protect yourself. First of all would be to get yourself to a place of safety. Ad remain there until he is either in jail or at least has gone to trial. You may not feel that your partner or ex-partner would ever go this far. But you may only have one chance to find out. Many times we hear of the friends and neighbors describing the assailants as being nice. But if he/she is willing to violate a protective order, then it is very possible, even likely he/she will do violence again. Don’t take that chance.


Dieterle was treated and released from the hospital and taken to the jail for the charges of aggravated burglarly and violation of a protection order charges. They are now saying that his neck wounds were self inflicted.

Ryan Dieterle apparently let himself into the apartment.

Murder charges have not been filed against him as yet, but the investigation is continuing.

Prosecutor also says that they will be going forward on the rape case against Tyrone Franklin, the man accused of raping Michelle Dieterle in Dec. He says they have enough DNA evidence to go forward with the case, and will treat it as though they were prosecuting a murder. In a murder, the victim is not present for the trial.


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Ryan and Michelle Dieterle had only been married since May of last year.


Ryan Dieterle has been indicted for murder in the death of Michelle Dieterle and is facing the death penalty.

Allegedly, Dieterle climbed three balconies to reach her third story apartment. Once there he allegedly raped her then stabbed her to death.

Tyronne Franklin, the man charged with raping Michelle Dieterle in a December attack, is in court today on a competency hearing.



  1. Anonymous said,

    June 30, 2006 at 5:16 pm

  2. Michelle's Father said,

    July 15, 2006 at 5:50 pm

    Michelle’s life was far too brief for what she had to offer this world. Although I don’t understand why, God called her home to be with him. I miss her more than words could ever convey, but know that she is in Heaven with Jesus and will never suffer again. I know we will be reunited someday, and I draw comfort from that. For anyone out there going through abuse, please leave before it is too late. Once started, it is rare that it will ever stop. Michelle said she did not want to ruin Ryans life by pressing charges, you see what it got her.

  3. July 15, 2006 at 6:56 pm

    Wise words, Michelle’s Father. She seemed to be a girl to be proud of as I know you are. I am deeply sorry for your loss.

  4. Michelle's mom said,

    August 7, 2006 at 1:06 pm

    The last six months of Michelle’s life were more than anyone should ever have to experience. Michelle was starting to get her life back in order when that animal took it from her. She had told me just a few weeks before her death that she was going to make the song, “Not Ready to Make Nice” her theme song. She was a very strong woman and for that I’m a very proud mother. She told me that she was going to take her life back this summer. She was going to focus her energy on going to the gym, her work and school, and her daughters. She was such a good mom. Her girls say thank you and please, they think that shutup and stupid are bad words, and she worked very hard to keep them innocent. She wouldn’t let them watch any movie with a higher rating than PG and that was debatable. I repeatedly told her how proud I was of her and now, when I look back, I’m glad she knew that. I miss Michelle very much and I miss our conversations. She would call me once every week or two and we would talk for hours at a time. There wasn’t anything she wouldn’t share with me. Honestly, there were some things she would tell me that most mother’s wouldn’t want to hear, but I’m thankful that she knew she could come to me and trust me with those things. I was very proud of Michelle. She was going to school to be a criminal psychologist and I know that if she would have been allowed to reach that goal, she would have been the best in her field. She had a lot on her plate but she balanced it all very well. I’ve had a lot of people tell me that she is in a better place and that she isn’t hurting anymore, and I know that’s true, but it doesn’t make any of this any better. She was such a strong woman that she would have come away from the rape and kidnapping in December even stronger. She was planning on using that incident in her life to help counsel other women which speaks of her compassion for others. She was a kind considerate woman with a mind of her own. She was the kind of person that if you didn’t want to know what she thought, then it was best not to ask her, because you would certainly hear what she had to say. She didn’t hold back on her thoughts and I admired her for that. I will miss her laughter, her sense of humor, her love of music and dancing, and especially her love of life. She was an awesome person and a joy to have in my life. We had a very special relationship and I will miss that more than words can ever say. I know she is with me in spirit but, honestly, I would much rather have her with me physically. As for her children, I’m so thankful they were with me when this happened and I’m also thankful that they aren’t his children.

  5. August 7, 2006 at 5:35 pm

    Michelle’s Mom, that is a beautiful testament to her. Though I didn’t know her, I could tell from what I read that she was a strong good woman. But your words tell me so much more. I am sorry that she is gone, sorry not only for you but for the world- because she was one that would have worked to make it a better place. There is nothing I can say that will help you, and I know that. All I can tell you, is that you will survive this, though I know there are probably times when you think you won’t. Losing her doesn’t get better, but it does get bearable as you learn to live without her.
    I know you feel that you have totally lost her. But you have a lot of her with you. You have your memories of her, you have her accomplishments, and you have her children. Not enough I know. But better than never having known her at all. Michelle’s mother, I sense that Michelle got a lot of her strength from her parents. Your telling her how proud you were of her, is likely what gave her the strength to try to escape her situation. And thankfully, she did and she was able to move on to some semblance of a better life, before he got to her again. Some women are never able to accomplish that. But at least she had that for a short time.
    Michelle’s mother, I wish you and her father the best. And my thoughts are with you. I know you love her kids, and I know that at times even that may be bittersweet as you look at them and see her in them. But eventually, that will be your greatest comfort, your way of staying connnected to her. I wish all of you the best that is left.

  6. Friend said,

    September 13, 2006 at 1:23 pm

    There really hasn’t been a day that has gone by that I haven’t thought about Michelle several times, and replayed our conversations back over and over, to try and figure out where it is that everything went so wrong. She was my best friend for over half of my life. I guess I just want everyone to know what an impact she had on people’s lives, and I loved her so much. She was the one friend who knew everything about me and I knew everything about her. I always called her when I had a problem, and she would call me when she had one, the funny thing is that I always knew what her response would be, but I needed to hear it anyways. Michelle is a big part of who I am as a person, and it is definitely hard to know how to deal with her not being here anymore. She was a very strong person, more so than I am at times, which is why I always needed her as a friend. The thing is, that we never imagined in our worst nightmares that this selfish, imature, poor excuse of a human being would ever be capable of even coming close to what he did. My advise to anyone who has dealt with any degree of domestic violence is to take it very seriously and eliminate that person from your life. Michelle took the legal steps to do that, but the unfortunate thing is, that in these situations you can not count on the justice system to protect you, because they will not be there around the clock, and as we all tragically found out, it takes only a few minutes to commit such a violent crime. Michelle and her mother was there for me when my mother passed away in 1995, and I will always be thankful for that, it is really horrendous to think of what her girls,parents, brother and the rest of her family are having to deal with aside from the thought of what she had to endure.

  7. Cheyenne said,

    May 4, 2009 at 11:46 am

    I was 8 when it happened. I’m 11 now. Stop violence!! It shouldn’t have happened to my mom!! She was a good person!! If you know someone who’s being hurt, help them!!

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