Teen Conflicts

Evalicia Rivera, 16, and her stepfather Victor Vasquez, 44, seem to have had a complicated relationship.

There are reports that the two verbally argued frequently. And one allegation that Evalicia had complained of being slapped in the face.

According to reports Evalicia wanted more freedom to socialize. There may have been problems over a boyfriend. Evalicia was the oldest of the three children in the household. It appears she was well liked.

According to the landlord "She was a pretty girl and she used to attract a lot of boys,”  “So, the boys used to come through and he would keep running them out. There was an incident last year when they called the police and they came to the house because he came home and found a boy in the house."

According to a friend "She'd chill with us everyday, come outside, chill with us on the porch, but she'd only chill with us because her father, her stepfather, kept [inaudible] and stuff,” “Like, 'Get in the house!' She'd have to fight to get outside, fight to do everything."

Victor Vasquez has variously been described as a good father, an overprotective stepfather, a good man trying to do the right thing, and quiet and gentle. It was said that he didn't drink and that he had no history of violence.

Neighbors report there were loud voices coming from the home on Thurs. morning. One article says that around 4:30 pm a relative went to the home. They found Evalicia Rivera in her bedroom, dead from more than 10 stab wounds. Victor Vasquez was found hanging in a closet. Police believe they may have died around 3:45 pm. Another article says that the uncle went to the home around 3:45 pm and that the time of death will be determined by medical examiner. It is believed that Vasquez stabbed Rivera and then hung himself in the closet.

Police say there was no history of domestic violence in the home. And there was no suicide  note. They also say the mother was not in the house at the time of the murders.

http://www.wnbc.com/news/9379510/detail.html

http://www.newsday.com/news/local/wire/newyork/ny-bc-ny–stabbing-hanging0615jun15,0,3763296.story?coll=ny-region-apnewyork

http://www.ny1.com/ny1/content/index.jsp?stid=1&aid=60260

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/06/16/nyregion/16dead.html

Teens….. From the time they hit puberty (and sometimes before) they constantly struggle for independence from their parents. The older they get, the more convinced they are that they know what is best for them. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy teens as they have a fresh outlook on life and are so energetic and passionate. But their experience with life is limited and they are still learning how to deal with problems effectively.  

Parents struggle to keep them on task as far as school, family obligations, and a certain code of behavior. Life with a teen can be traumatic.

Disputes occur over how much time should be for socialization, choices of friends, and what activities are appropriate. Often the kids want more freedom than parents are ready to give them.

Two more years and she would have been old enough to go out on her own. About 4 more years and she would probably have started to mature a little. She will never have a chance to do that.

Was he overprotective or a good father? Was she a tad wild, or just needing a teen's freedom? Really only the ones who were there regularly would be in a position to judge that. And even then, it can be biased by the age group you belong to.

A wife and two other children, grieving and facing the loss of the father (or at least the father figure) and the sister/daughter.

And a neighborhood that seems to be polarizing over the same issues that a family with teens faces. It seemed to be the younger ones that described him as an overprotective stepfather, and the adults who described him as a good man.

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12 Comments

  1. diana lorena bedoya vasquez said,

    June 29, 2006 at 12:35 am

    por favor ayundenme a conocer mas sobre este caso que aunque es insolito debe tener un porque. cualquier ayuda que me puedan brindar o informacion que me puedan dar a conocer se lo agradecere hoy y siempre.porfavor enviemen informacion a mi correo.

  2. diana lorena bedoya vasquez said,

    June 29, 2006 at 12:36 am

    mi correo es osis3@hotmail.com , mil gracias por su ayuda, Dios les vendiga.

  3. Steve said,

    June 29, 2006 at 3:03 am

    She wants to know more about the case and if you have more information can you send it to the email she used when she logged in and commented above.

  4. Steve said,

    June 29, 2006 at 3:04 am

    Thanks a million for your help and she added her email in the second comment.

  5. June 29, 2006 at 3:05 am

    Great Steve, thanks.

  6. Steve said,

    June 29, 2006 at 3:07 am

    Actually mil is only a thousand thanks, very respectful commenter.

  7. Steve said,

    June 29, 2006 at 3:30 am

    Such a pretty girl. very tragic story.

  8. June 29, 2006 at 3:32 am

    diana lorena bedoya vasquez, I am sorry but I posted almost everything that I had found. I just did another check to see if I had missed anything, and I don’t see any new news items.
    I am not good at searching out forums, but I tried and didn’t see where it was being discussed anywhere.
    Unless something changes or something new happens, it is not likely to be in the news again.

  9. othneil said,

    February 20, 2007 at 1:07 am

    she was loved by all of us in school we still miss her and talk about her RIPmama

  10. Hypactiv3ny said,

    March 24, 2007 at 10:02 pm

    you are still in our thoughts, 4ever we love u n we hope to God your in a better place…RIP Evalicia you will always be missed mama

  11. CRYSTAL said,

    May 12, 2007 at 8:55 pm

    I KNOW HOW U GUYS FEEL THAT WAS MY CUZIN THAT DIED WE WAS CLOSE VERY CLOSE WE EVEN HAD THE SAME BIRTHDAY I WILL MISS HER ALOT … RIP MAMA I MISS U ALOT

  12. ♥ ANGELICA THE SISTER OF EVALICIA ♥ said,

    November 24, 2008 at 3:31 am

    THIS IS EVALICIA SISTER ANGELICA (15) YEARS OLD KNOW I MISS HER ALOT WITH ALL MY HEART YEAH I WONDER DAY BY DAY WHT HAPPEN 2 HER BUT YET U WOULD NEVER FIND ANSWER 4 THE SIMPLE FACT THT HARDLY ANYONE KNOWZ WHT HAPPEN. WHT THIZ PEOPLE ARE WRITTING IN THIZ ARTICLE ARE MOSTLY ARE NOT EVEN TRUE THTZ THE REASON WHY WHEN I KEEP LOOKIN AT THEM I SEE AND GET MAD THT SUM OF THEM ARENT TRUE
    RiP ali i luvz u and miss u with all my heart
    mamita u alwayz in my heart no matter wht any one got 2 say about u
    luvz u muahz kisses


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