Disabled spouse

James Foraker's wife was disabled and in a wheelchair. She is partially paralyzed and only has the use of one arm.

Tuesday one of her relatives contacted police. She had been bathing her one year old daughter when her 6 year old child told her that Foraker was holding his hand over his wife's mouth and nose. The relative went to the room and tried to talk to the victim. She noticed that the victim's face was red. But Foraker wouldn't allow her to talk to the victim, and forced her out of the room.

Later she walked by their bedroom and allegedly saw Foraker with a pillow over his wife's face. His wife appeared blue and was gasping for air.

The relative tried to call police on her cell phone, but Foraker allegedly grabbed it from her, so she ran to a neighbor's home and used their phone.

During the police investigation of the allegations, they determined that on Sat. Foraker had also been seen placing his hands over the mouth and nose of the relatives 1 year old daughter.

Foraker was arrested and has been charged with attempted first degree murder, third degree assault, two counts of endangering the welfare of a child and offensive touching.

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Remember in the marriage vows, that little line that says for "better or worse"?

Now I know that having a disabled spouse must be beyond difficult. Besides the physical care that would be required, there would be a financial burden for medical care and special equipment and etc. But there is also emotional pain of seeing the person you presumably once loved, confined to a wheelchair with problem after problem after complication.

And there would be a physical deprivation as the spouse would no longer be able to share physical satisfaction as usual in a marriage. So I can understand there would be a lot of difficulties that I can only imagine.

But in this country, there are options. There is divorce, abandonment, and everything in between. Yes,family and friends may be displeased if these would occur, but eventually the spouse would live down most of the disapproval and be able to pick up a different life. It happens, and most people know that a disabled spouse would be something almost unbearable.

But this guy evidently wasn't satisfied with just walking away from it all. He evidently wanted the whole thing to go away- permanently. But life doesn't work that way. Killing someone (or attempting to kill someone) doesn't make the problems go away. It just gives a whole new set of problems.
Instead of a carefree life, away from the difficulties of a disabled spouse, he is looking at jail time. 

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Kids get involved

Dewawn Matthews heard shouting outside and went out onto his porch to see what was going on. It was his mother and her ex boyfriend, arguing.

Dewawn's mother attempted to shoot the ex boyfriend. But someone grabbed her, and when the gun fired the bullet struck 12 year old Dewawn Matthews instead.

Dewawn Matthews was admitted to the hospital in critical condition, but doctors have said his condition has now stabilized.

http://www.wbir.com/news/regional/story.aspx?storyid=34827&provider=rss

Too many times kids get involved. No, his mother didn't intend to shoot him. Likely she will say that it was the fault of whoever grabbed her. But anytime you introduce a weapon into an argument you increase the danger to yourself and everyone around you. Even people who were not involved. In this case her 12 year old son. She pulled the trigger, her son was shot.