Breaking up is hard to do

Violet Karagiannis, 54, had had a 2 year relationship with Ali Ceber, 43,  but she broke it off two or three months ago. Allegedly Ceber had difficulty with letting go of the relationship, reportedly he called her incessantly. Despite this, Karagiannis had not sought an order of protection.

Sun. night, Karagiannis had gone to a nightclub with friends. Allegedly Ceber approached her at the club and an argument ensued. Reportedly Karagiannis told him to "leave her alone."

After Karagiannis left the club, she went out to eat with her friends. Allegedly Ceber went to her home, and used a key to enter, a key that he had kept from the previous relationship. There he waited for her to arrive, and when she arrived he reportedly attacked her with kitchen knives. Reportedly she was stabbed about 20 times.

Ceber then left the home, went to a nearby parking lot where he found local police officers. He approached them and allegedly "blurts out that he had a fight with his girlfriend, that he thinks he hurt her, he killed her" Police then went to her home, where they found Karagiannis, and she was pronounced dead at the scene.

Ceber has been charged with 2 nd degree murder and first degree burglary.,0,7678248.story?coll=ny-linews-headlines

When I was younger, I used to think that an ex boyfriend who continued to call and try to get back together was a sign of their devotion. It seemed flattering. I now know this is not a sign of love or devotion. It is a sign of obsession. And obsessions are dangerous in that if you don't cooperate, you can be in danger. It is also an indication of a need for control. To the other person, the relationship is not over until they say it is over.


Friends have stated that Ceber was stalking Karagiannis. They state that Ceber would  call her cell phone incessantly, alternately leaving threatening messages then adoring messages. They state that he often appeared uninvited at her home, her place of employment and other places he thought she might be. They have stated that two weeks previously the couple had argued and "He waved a knife at her and told her he was going to cut out her tongue and knock out her beautiful teeth."

At the arraignment, prosecutors stated that while Ceber was at the home he cut the phone lines so that Karagiannis could not call for assistance.,0,7743785.story?coll=sns-ap-nationworld-headlines

The more I read about this case, the more I wonder why Ceber was only charged with 2 nd degree murder and 1 st degree burglary. He entered her home, he waited for her, he used a kitchen knife to kill her in the bedroom, and he cut her phone lines. And this was all done after he entered her home illegally and as a part of a stalking pattern. Looks like first degree to me. Of course I am not a prosecutor.



  1. Harding said,

    May 30, 2006 at 8:36 pm

    Hi Home,

    I thought you might be interested in this press release from Canada Newswire:


  2. May 30, 2006 at 10:02 pm

    Thank you, I am interested in it. It is long past due. I wish they were doing something like this in the US. But now that Canada is taking the lead, maybe that will stir things up here. Let me know if you see results of the study will you?

  3. Harding said,

    May 31, 2006 at 3:18 am

    I’ll be sure to do a post on the result. I’ll let you know.

  4. June 1, 2006 at 5:18 am

    Canada is starting to do quite a bit to bring domestic violence to the forefront. I just found an article about 18 artists who are having a gallery art show/fundraiser to help fund a domestic violence program to teach teens about domestic violence.

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