Lock them away

Before a child is born, you have a lot of thoughts about the child. What will it look like, who will it resemble, what kind of personality will it have.

But when you find out that the child has some mental challenges, that must be quite a shock. Still parent must do what they have to do with the child and then go on. I have also heard parents with a special child say there are special rewards for having a challenged child. There is a bond there that is unlike what they have with their other children. Something that is special.

But it didn't work that way in this family.

Jan. 31, an officer was asked to check on an 18 year old mentally challenged person. I have read both that the school asked them to check and that the girl called police.

When police arrived, they knocked at the door and got no response. They went to the school the next day and interviewed the girl who is not being named. She explained that she was at home when police arrived, but that she couldn't come to the door, as she was locked in her room.

On April 13, police again went to the home while the rest of the family was away at a younger daughter's softball game. They talked with the girl through a second story window and she said she was again locked in her room.

Police then obtained a search warrant and entered the home and entered the girl's bedroom. They say the room was cluttered and had a foul odor. She had a box filled with paper to use as a bathroom. There was no bed in the room, only blankets and a pillow on the floor.

In interviews with the girl, she has indicated that she was locked in her room for varying lengths of time, the most was one day and she was without food or water. She has told them that she often went without food, and was often not permitted to eat with the family.

There was a neighbor who sometimes fed her. They put a bag of food on a stick and held it up to the 2nd story window.

The mother and stepfather George Shaak Jr., 51, and Susan Shaak, 42, have been charged with various charges of child abuse including endangering the welfare of a child and false imprisonment. The girl is now in the custody of an agency who works with the mentally retarded. The younger siblings did not appear to have been harmed.

http://www.pennlive.com/news/patriotnews/index.ssf?/base/news/11479433706300.xml&coll=1

http://www.ldnews.com/news/ci_3832664

Did this couple not think of what the isolation would do to the girl? Locked away in a room with no way to amuse herself, not even a bed to lie on? What if there had been a fire or other catastrophe in the home?

And it wasn't as if they couldn't take the girl with them. They were going to a family oriented event, their child's softball game.

No I am not in favor of locking anyone up because they have some type of challenge in their lives. If we started locking people up because they have flaws, I don't know that anyone would be loose. All persons have value (well most of them). Yes, the child may have presented some challenges to the parents. But in different ways, all kids present their own form of challenge. Not a reason to lock them up.

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Men get abused too

Remember that old saying about a woman scorned? Actually, in any relationship if a partner begins to suspect that the other partner is cheating, bad things will happen.

Monica Randall, 40, suspected her husband of cheating. They had been married for 40 years. The bad thing is, she is said to have bipolar disorder. Her husband denies being unfaithful.

Howard Randall allegedly was sleeping when his wife attacked him. She grabbed him in a private area and squeezed. Her fingernails tore at him, until a portion of his anatomy was detached.

Police and paramedics found him bleeding profusely and rushed him to the hospital, where he was listed in critical condition. During surgery doctors were able to reattach the body part, and his condition was upgraded. He is now out of the hospital.

Monica at first was facing attempted murder charges, but the prosecution is now asking for a psychiatic evaluation before proceeding.

Neighbors say there have been problems between the couple in the past and that Howard has thrown her out of the house, but he has let her come back.

http://abclocal.go.com/wpvi/story?section=local&id=4179853

http://abclocal.go.com/ktrk/story?section=nation_world&id=4181174

During a relationship, and especially after some type of committment has been made both sexes seem to feel that they own their partners anatomy. And I confess, I have joked that if my partner was ever to cheat I would do this very thing! But he did, and I didn't!

Seriously, the man could have died from his injury. And even though it may feel like you own your partner's anatomy, in truth it is theirs. And so is the choice on how they use it.

That is not a reason to kill or maim them. And though I too have been guilty of joking about it…… doing it is not a joke. It is spousal abuse. And unfaithfulness is not a reason for spousal abuse- no matter whether the abuse is on a man or a woman.

Now to make the story more interesting, the man says he wasn't unfaithful. And he wouldn't be the first spouse who was abused by a jealous partner, even when he/she wasn't unfaithful.