Soup doesn’t cure everything

Narcisco Bismark Murillo and his girlfriend lived together with her 4 year old son. And Murillo was angry. He was arguing with his girlfriend about going out without telling him. During the argument evidently things got out of control.

Murillo picked up a bowl of steaming soup and threw it at the girlfriend, causing burns to the right side of her face. Very probably it wasn't intentional. But some of that hot, steaming soup also struck the 4 year old leaving burns on the side of his face and his left arm.

Too many times, the real victims of domestic violence are the children. Whether it is directly as in this case or indirectly, just by observation- kids in the household are involved. It affects the way they perceive the world around them and their place in that world.

They grow up expecting that they will be involved in violence, and they learn to cope by a number of ways. Sometimes they learn to shrink away, try to hide themselves from the world by being too quiet, being unnoticable. Sometimes they will begin to act out, and try to be the one to strike the first blow- to hurt before they get hurt.

In this case, there is an indication in the article that there was no attempt to get the boy medical assistance. But there wasn't an explanation for that. But many times this is the reaction. If medical treatment for an injury is sought, then there is a good chance there will be an investigation. So sometimes the response is to let the child suffer.



  1. April 29, 2006 at 5:39 pm

    Very Sad!! Yeah, unfortunately medical treatment is not sought, due to the reason you stated. The real numbers of children abused intentionally or unintentionally….are probably astronomical.

  2. April 29, 2006 at 7:15 pm

    A lot of attention is paid to the murders and other tragic results of violence in the home. But the day to day events leave scars, both internal and external, and sometimes unnoticed. Those scars shape what a person becomes, and how they react to others. So is it any suprise when the world seems to go crazy as these kids grow up and go out into the world? To may of them, this is “normal”. This is what to expect. And they sometimes will set out to hurt first, before they get hurt. Many times, they are suprised that people get upset about the violence they then inflict. After all, this is “normal”.

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