Domestic Violence

I ran across an article today about the statistics on domestic violence. So today, instead of writing about individual crimes, I am going to try to look at those statistics.

Nearly one third of American women report having been physically or sexually abused by a boyfriend or husband.

That means that out of every 10 women you know, about 3 would have experienced some type of abuse from a husband or boyfriend.

In a national survey of 6000 American families, 50 percent who reported frequent abuse by the men, also reported frequent abuse of the children in the household. As many as 10,000,000 (10 million) children witness some sort of domestic violence  annually.

40% of girls ages 14-17, report knowing someone who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.

30% of Americans report that they are aware of a woman who has been beaten by a husband or boyfriend in the last year.

Women are less likely to be a victim of violent crime overall, but they are 5-8 times more likely to be made a victim of domestic partner abuse.

The health related costs of rape, assault, stalking and homicide by husbands and boyfriends exceed $5,800, 000,000 (5.8 billion) each year. Nearly $4,100,000,000 (4.1 billion) goes to direct health care services (physical and mental health care) and nearly $1,800,000,000 (1.8 billion) goes for loss of productivity and lost wages.

I am just one individual what can I do about it?

There are things you can do. You can learn more about the signs and symptoms of domestic violence and child abuse. 

You can become aware of the resources for abused persons in your area, and you can reach out to them, offer whatever assistance you can. Many take donations, many need volunteers.

Speak out against domestic violence.

Become aware of your states laws, let your government legislators know when you think a law needs to be strengthened or changed, be alert for new legislation being considered and let your lawmakers know your opinion of it.

And most of all, be alert to your friends and family employees and others around you, and their situations. Domestic violence used to be thought of as a couple's problem. But when you look at the numbers, when you see the costs, when you look at the number of children involved- you see a different story.

Just think of the children who grow up seeing and experiencing violence in the home. To many of them, violence is normal. Violence is what to expect. They learn that violence is acceptable.

I have just posted a new bookmark on domestic violence.

It is called the 'Domestic Violence Awareness Handbook'. It covers ways that you as an individual can help, both in helping  a friend or relative and in the domestic violence problem as a whole. Very imformative and it has several good ideas.


  1. Magnolia said,

    April 23, 2006 at 10:27 pm

    OMG THANK YOU !!!! I didn’t know where else to post this…I have been trying so hard since she posted on my blog yesterday and I’m feeling pretty beat up…but dammit, I’ve still got a fight left in these old bones. I asked Brian to help, and he tried..hell, they won’t even listen to him. I am not prepared to give up,tho. Your post there touched me very deeply…one of those “that’s what I should have said ” things.Thank you again. God Bless you and yours.

  2. April 23, 2006 at 10:46 pm

    YW. I had to speak out too. Though like you said, she won’t listen. She likely has been so indoctrinated, that she doesn’t know any other way. You mentioned reaching out to parents or authorities- I hope you are doing so.

    For any one who is curious, what we are referring to is a blog by a person who asserts they are a 16 year old girl. And she is blogging about the right for children to have sex. Several have left comments for her, both in support of her blog, and against. Guess which side I was on? I asked her to read on some survivor sites, and learn the stories of survivors- and to then take another look at her post. I also gave some examples that I have learned of, either personally or through media articles of the problems with children having sex with adults.
    As she gets older, she may learn from what is happening with her and the affect it has on her life. And maybe she won’t. All we can do is try.

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