It doesn’t happen in every home

It doesn't happen in every home. But it can happen in any home, reguardless of the financial status, educational status, or community status. Domestic violence or child abuse can even be happening in homes where you think they are "good" people.

Rich Tylski and his wife took their adopted daughter to the hospital in Mar. and said that she had fallen down the stairs about 8 hours earlier. Doctors there allegedly found extensive bruising and six or seven healing fractures in the child's hands.

Reportedly, Tylski and his wife Jane hit the girl with a belt, slammed her head on a table, and broke bones in her hands and feet.

Tylski is a former NFL lineman who had played with the Jacksonville Jaguars.

Tylski reportedly was has written on an internet site called All Pro Dad which can be found here: http://72.14.203.104/search?q=cache:kAfrm3n0mMUJ:allprodad.com/tylski.asp+All+Pro+Dad+Rich+Tylski&hl=en&gl=us&ct=clnk&cd=1

The site promotes the importance of a father in a child's life and promoting active fatherhood. Tylski wrote of the importance of his family in his life, and of how they come first.

The explanation for the article, talks about his three boys.

 http://www.ksat.com/sports/8882543/detail.html

I haven't seen anything yet that indicates the age of the child. And I don't know when that article was written or when the child was adopted. So I don't have any way of gauging the significance of the fact that the little girl was not mentioned.

I will say however, that no matter how nice the parents or what good parents they seem to be. If a child gives you and indication that they may have been abused, or if the explanation for their injuries do not seem to match well with the injuries, please make a report. If the case is investigated and nothing is found- if the injuries keep appearing- keep making reports. If it turns out that there is no problems, then nothing is lost by the report. But if there is abuse, then you could be responsible for improving the welfare of the child.

April is Child Abuse Awareness Month.

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14 Comments

  1. Lucy McCook said,

    July 18, 2006 at 6:44 pm

    I hope that you will continue to follow this story. The Tylski’s, local media and officials have done an excellent job of keeping it out of the spotlight. This would be easier to except if it were for the benefit of the child, but it isn’t, it is because of who the parents are.
    The child is doing very well, inspite of the abuse inflicted on her. She is in a wonderful home being loved and cared for not only by the immediate family, but many extended family members and friends. The hope by all is that this will be a permanent situation and as her therapy progresses there will be a positive future for her.
    The Tylski’s refuse to take responsibilty for the abuse and continue to make absurd excuses for the injuries inflicted on this child. We can only hope that justice will prevail and they will be held accountable. As for the neighbors, teachers and medical professionals who overlooked the obvious signs of abuse, we wonder how they justify the coverup they helped perpetuate. If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it’s probably a duck..if a child misses a lot of school and shows up with unexplained injuries (i.e. broken bones and cuts and bruises) it probably needs to be reported for investigation.
    Our family loves this child and wants to protect her while she overcomes her trauma and developes into a well adjusted, successful person. This is nothing more that what every child is entitled to. One of the greatest anomolies that we must explain to her is that as a productive citizen, you must be accountable to yourself and society. The question will always be, is this the case for the Tylski’s?
    Please keep this child in your thoughts and continue to herald the facts about domestic violence.

  2. July 18, 2006 at 7:43 pm

    My source for information is the media, so when the media dries up, then so do the posts and updates on a paticular story. Because they are dealing with juvenile issues, and family law a lot of the information is not covered in the media, unless there is a criminal case. And even then, it may not recieve as much coverage as it should. Please feel free to post any updates you should find on this though.
    My best wishes for the child. I hope she continues doing well, and grows up healthy and happy.

  3. Lucy McCook said,

    June 6, 2007 at 6:37 pm

    On January 11, 2007, the second adoption for this child was finalized. She officially joined my son and daughter-in-law, their 5 yr.old adopted daughter, and a multitude of extended family. I am the new proud grandmother. Once the adoption was final we could begin to make appearances at pre-trial hearings. It is amazing the attention the judge will give when you show up wearing a button declaring “Justice for J____!” The up and down of this is that the judge, after 10 months of allowing one delay after another, recused himself because of his personal relationship with the Tylski’s attorney. What an outrage!!! However, the new judge is not inclined to drag his feet and has set trial for Sept. 24, 2007. We are having a difficult time with the fact that this child, after all she has endured, must publicly confront the Tylski’s in open court. Prior to this testimony being given, she will subjected to a deposition by the Tylski’s attorney who has a reputation of being brutal with the victims. I have been appalled to find that she is not allowed to have any family member present, no legal representation, her guardian ad litem and therapist can’t accompany her because they are potential witnesses. The best the prosecution can do is to have a kindly second chair attorney be her advocate. Her new mom and dad have been torn by inflicting this emotional trauma on her, but she is determined to provide truthful testimony. She is such a wonderful child and braver than most adults. Hopefully by the end of Sept. the Tylski’s will have a new address in a Florida correctional facility!!!

  4. June 6, 2007 at 7:51 pm

    Lucy, thank you so much for the update. I am glad to know that she is now with a family who is happy and proud of her. And she does sound like a child to be very proud of.
    Sometimes our justice system is so unfair to the victims. She should be allowed to have an advocate with her. The second chair advocate, will she be able to spend any time with them in advance in order to get to know them a little?
    When you see her again, give her an extra hug from me. You don’t have to tell her where it came from, but just let her know that she is entitled to and deserves the hug.

  5. Lucy McCook said,

    October 5, 2007 at 2:46 am

    The trial of the Tylski’s has been re-scheduled again. Now our precious girl has to continue to have the memories of these beasts until at least February 4, 2008 (almost 2 years since the final injury). The really disheartening part is it probably won’t happen then as there will be another new judge assigned before then. She was totally prepared for the trial in September and was devasted to learn of another delay. She continues to thrive and is an amazing big sister. It truely is sad that as the victim of this crime, she has no rights. The Tylski’s and their high priced attorneys can drag this on forever. I am saddened to think that she may never have the closure she so deserves. It does strengthen her to know that she is sent hugs and wishes by people who don’t know her, but believe her anyway. Please continue keep her in your thoughts.

  6. October 5, 2007 at 6:00 pm

    The attorney is hoping that the more distant the injuries, the more details she is likely to forget. But one advantage for her side is that the delays have given her time to gain more maturity before she has to face them again. Just don’t give up on the system. Eventually the court will have to hear the case, just to get it off the books.
    Tell her that I still think of her and that my wish for her is that she will grow up strong and happy. And that she can be safe and happy, there are bad people in the world- but there are a lot more good people.
    I don’t know how she is adjusting or what her level of fear is, but I know that sometimes kids do remain afraid- both in court and out. I wonder if you have heard of Bikers Against Child Abuse (BACA)? Here is a link to them if you ever find a need.
    http://www.bacainternational.org/Internet/AboutBACA.aspx

  7. Lucy McCook said,

    February 11, 2008 at 2:47 pm

    I gave the BACA information to my daughter-in-law and we are waiting for the right time to involve them.

    Since my last post, our girl gave a 2 hr. deposition with the Tylskis’ attorneys and blew their socks off. One of the attorneys was there for nothing but intimidation purposes. I was worried unneccesarily. We had met as a family the week prior to the depo and she was instructed to tell the truth, if she didn’t remember..it’s o.k. to say so and if she didn’t understand the questions..say so. I took it a step further and reminded her that these people were not her friends and although we would not allow them to hurt her, they were not going to be nice. She found a strength that almost became defiant. Answering questions with clarity and unwavering truthfulness. I had never heard the horrible things that were done to her and it was very difficult for me and her new mom to stand outside and listen. These people are bigger monsters than I ever imagined. After it was over, she skipped to the car like the weight of the world had been lifted from her small shoulders.

    Shortly after the 1st of the year, a person who was living in the Tylski home and was scheduled to testify on their behalf was depositioned by the prosecution. At last someone else had the courage to tell the truth and corroborated much of our girls testimony with amazing detail. There has been a flurry of activity and the Tylskis came very close to a plea. However, they wanted to dictate the terms which were unacceptable to everyone, especially their victim. The trial has now been delayed to the end of May and we will all be surprised if it happens then. With any luck someone else who knows the truth will come forward. I do find it humorous that the Tylskis have delayed the prosecution for almost 2 years now and things are more solidly against them now than ever before. Our girl is more adamant than ever that regardless of the outcome, she wants her opportunity to face them in court. And to think, she is only 8 years old!

  8. February 11, 2008 at 9:35 pm

    Lucy, I am glad she is handling it all so well. Such a strong capable girl will grow to be a strong capable woman. I am glad she has such a loving family to help her along the way. Trial delays happen a lot. And while the wait may be frustrating at times, it also means that she has more time to grow, to build her strength and to be loved before she has to get onto the witness stand.

  9. Lucy McCook said,

    March 18, 2008 at 2:27 pm

    The trial has been set for the 5th time. Jury selection is scheduled to begain on June 2nd. Trial is expected to last the week. Pray that justice will be served.

  10. March 18, 2008 at 5:26 pm

    Lucy, justice is slow. But by being through the judge and the prosecutor hope the case and the judgement will stand against any possible appeal. I know waiting is hard, but when it finally goes to trial you want it to stick. Be assured it will eventually get to court.

  11. Lucy McCook said,

    May 23, 2008 at 1:12 pm

    Yesterday the Tylskis entered guilty pleas in this case. The plea arrangement puts Rich in pre-trial intervention and requires anger management, parenting classes, community service. Jane gets anger management, parenting classes, community service, 2 years probation and they have to establish a 12,500 educational trust fund for Jane. They both admitted in the record to the abuse. Do we think the sentencing fits the crime? NO! We were up against a judge who said in court he sees nothing wrong with spanking a child with a belt and this was after he had viewed all the evidence and knew this case was about much more than spanking. We have never wanted vengence, just Justice of Janie. I think today we can say she has her justice.

  12. May 23, 2008 at 5:19 pm

    Lucy, I take the plea means that your girl didn’t have to testify? That is a good thing, because no matter how prepared she was it would still have been hard.

    No, they aren’t going to serve time. But many good things were accomplished. The classes are too late to help her. But maybe they will help the Tylski’s other children. And no doubt this family will suffer from the public embarrassment of admitting they abused a child. And they will have people watching over their shoulders for some time. So maybe not prison, but they didn’t get off lightly.

    Plus, your girl is assured of the funds needed for a college education- not a small thing. I’m actually happy to see that, as courts often don’t do that. And now she really can say that that part of her life is behind her. A part of her past and it is over. Yes, it may still affect her life. But with love and encouragement she can move past it, and it can finally be over.

    I hope she is continuing to do well and that she can now go forward in her life with a lighter heart, now that this is no longer hanging over her.

  13. Lucy McCook said,

    May 25, 2008 at 3:18 am

    Thank you for your good wishes. Our girl is doing great. She has accepted the plea and is certainly moving on. Some things came to light that brought about the plea..Jane Tylski’s brother and his son were living with the Tylskis. The child had provided confirmation of most of the things our girl said and that put them in the negotiating mood. After seeing how this child was treated by the Tylskis and his own father, the prosecutor was reluctant to put him through the ordeal of testifying against Jane. We are all deeply concerned about what is happening to this child, especially since the Tylski fan club continues to vehemently accusing our girl of all kinds of evilness. Please pray for this young man. He lost his biological mother at an early age. His dad remarried a lovely lady who encouraged the child to tell the truth and now it is my understanding that she is out and the child is being blamed for the outcome of this case. Thank you again for all of your concern and for providing this forum to tell our girls story. Her life has just begun and she will do great things. Her new mom’s quote at the sentencing was, “the Tylskis loss is our gain. Janie is a vital part of our family and we could not imagine life without her.” We all feel that way.

  14. May 26, 2008 at 3:53 am

    Lucy, what happened to her in her early life will be something major to overcome. But from the way you have talked about her, the way your family has talked in the media, I can tell- she has a good chance that she will overcome this because she is going to get the love and support she needs. Thank you for letting me know what was happening, and for being the type of person who will be an excellent Grandmother for this child. From here on out, you have a chance to be a family with only a family’s “normal” worries. Best wishes to all of you.


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