He won the argument (But lost the war)

Hubert Anderson, 56, got into an argument Sunday with his ex-wife Delores Anderson, 49. Connie Almond, 45, was Delores's roommate and she was present at the time. At some point Hubert shot Anderson and then turned the gun on the roommate, Almond. He shot at her three times. Delores was killed and Almond was wounded. Then he took off. Almond was treated and released at a hospital.

A manhunt ensued, and they found him at a friend's home. There a standoff occurred. It ended when Hubert fatally shot himself.

http://www.wwaytv3.com/Global/story.asp?S=4753521&nav=menu70_2

http://www.wral.com/news/8581343/detail.html

I understand that arguments can and do occur before, during and after a marriage. And I understand that an argument can often begin an adrenaline rush, triggering the fight or flight instincts. By the time they reach adulthood most people have learned to exercise some control over that instinct. Hubert evidently wanted to win the argument very badly. In shooting Delores, he got the last word. I guess you could say he "won". But winning an argument through violence, starts a war. With forensics, witnesses, police, prosecutors, it is like starting a war that very few people win. Hubert "won". But when faced with what he had done, and with the police at his door, he knew he wasn't going  to win the war. So he decided not to fight. Guess he lost the war, huh?

They need to develop classes on how to argue without violence. They should be mandatory.

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2 Comments

  1. bingskee said,

    April 14, 2006 at 2:04 pm

    hi, this is a very interesting blog. it is such a necessity to have venues like this to discuss domestic violence. this is really helpful, not that i am a victim but that i know of some who are victims.

    keep up the good work!

  2. April 14, 2006 at 3:31 pm

    Thank you. On behalf of your friends who may be possible victims, there are some helpful links about domestic violence on the left.


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