First, I want to be clear. There are no criminal charges filed against the adult in this story. However, police are requesting them.
I don’t think that it is any suprise that kids argue on the playground. Sometimes they even fight. Usually, if they are caught fighting, they get punished.
15-year-old D’Angelo Carr and his 13 year old friend Kenneth London were at the basketball court. They were friends, but there had been some problems recently. At the basketball court there was allegedly a scuffle between them. According to articles, Carr threw a basketball at one of the brothers and hit him in the face. Carr and London began to fight, until someone broke it up. And reportedly the 13 year old boy, London,went to call his mother and returned with her. Allegedly, according to the mother, Carr mentioned getting a gun. Her words at her son’s hearing:
“I told my son you cannot continue to run from bullies,” Onyebuagu said. “You have to stand up for yourself if you want them to leave you alone.”
“I don’t feel like I encouraged the second fight,” Onyebuagu said. “I told my son to stand up for himself and stop running. That was not an intention for anything to go wrong.”
Reportedly Tianna Onyebuagu accompanied him back to the basketball court where she ordered her son to stand up for himself. During the second fistfight, London allegedly picked up a rock and hit Carr in the head. By the next morning Carr was pronounced dead at the hospital, from severe trauma to the head.
London is now in juvenile detention where he is being held to face a charge of criminal homicide. Police are asking the district attorney general to file charges against the mother for her role in the fight.
Carr was seen falling to the ground by his younger sister, who then proceeded to shove and punch London. She told the court when she turned back around, Onyebuagu was performing CPR on her brother.
A memorial was held at the church that Carr had attended. I especially want to quote the minister’s words from the above link:
“Violence leads to despair,” Baggett said. “You need to walk away from this saying, what can we do differently? How can we affect change so we don’t lose another young person?”
“We need to rise up,” Baggett said. “We need to take our schools back, our playgrounds back and our basketball courts back.”
There is problem with violence in many schools. Kids are often cruel, and awkward in their relationships with their peers. They haven’t yet learned the importance of making a stand for themselves somewhere between running and fighting. Many young boys are already under pressure to show how “manly” they are, and they haven’t yet learned that it takes more guts to laugh at person who is picking on them or to walk away than it does to fight. And when you get two angry kids fighting, anything can happen. Too often some type of weapon comes into the fight.
Now when you get a younger boy being egged on by his mother and an older boy, that certainly puts him under a lot of pressure. The first fight was wrong. But after the first fight, he did as I would suggest a kid to do- tell a responsible adult. So he tried.
She is not the only parent that I have heard of to counsel a child to “stand up”. And likely she thought that by being present she could control what occurred. But when you get two angry kids in a circle of other kids, esp. with a parent encouraging it, they just try harder to “win”. And they will do whatever they think they have to ensure that. Any nearby gun, knife or rock will do. “Control” soon becomes “uncontrollable”.
Will charges be filed against her? Time will tell. Did she take the right action? Ask her son- he’s in juvie waiting to find out if he is going to be transferred to the adult court. Ask D’Angelo Carrs parents. They can probably be found at the graveyard.
The District Attorney hasn’t decided about filing charges. The case may go to a Grand Jury, so that evidence and witnesses can be considered to determine if a crime has been committed.
Kenneth London found guilty of criminally negligent homicide
Tianna Onyebuagu was indited by the Grand Jury for her role in the death of D’Angelo Carr. She is charged with contributing to the delinquency of a minor.