2 Confessions

Melissa Kost, 26, pled guilty to killing her father Thursday. A sentencing date has not been set yet, but she is facing 20 to 40 years in prison on a 3rd degree murder charge. Melissa is the second person to say that she murdered him. Initially, her mother confessed she killed him.

Here is Melissa's story. Her mother, Elsie Kost, 62, says that she confessed to the murder because she thought that was the right thing to do. She says she feels responsible for what happened. Because although her husband Edward Kost, 60, was drunkenly abusive toward both herself and her children, she stayed with him. She states the abuse was both mental and physical.

Melissa says that on Nov. 1, 04 her father came home drunk as often happened, and what started as an argument became physical.  She went to her room, until her mother came home, and Edward became violent toward her mother. Melissa told that her father pulled out a gun and she wrestled it from him. Edward then threatened to finish it another way and turned and left the house. Melissa followed him, outside and shot him.

After 5 days, Melissa and her mother went to the police station where Elsie confessed to killing her husband Edward. She stated she then took his body to a nearby cistern and threw him in. Investigators doubted the story, as they didn't feel that Elsie was capable of getting his body to the well on her own. Finally Melissa confessed to being in the home at the time of the murder, and by separating them, police were able get the full story. Melissa is pleading to the 3rd degree murder charge and Elsie Kost (Melissa's mother), Jennifer Dougherty (31, Melissa's sister) and James Nicgorski (40, Melissa's boyfriend) pleaded guilty to hindering apprehension for their role in the coverup.


Melissa's mother made the statement that stood out the most for me, and I am going to end with it as I could not have said it any diferently. The quote is taken from the above article:

"I volunteered to say I did it, because in a way I helped to load the gun … by my making the wrong decisions," Elsie Kost said. "I was from the old school, where you were married for life."

What Melissa did was wrong, and she should be judged and punished for it. Yes, she lived a lifetime of abuse and as a child she had no choice about it. However, she was now an adult, she had choices about being in the home. She made that choice, just like she made the choice to use the gun. And just like her mother, she will pay dearly for those choices. But I can't help but wonder if she stayed to help protect her mother?

But think of the possibilities if her mother had decided to leave years before.


  1. Kristin said,

    May 12, 2006 at 1:33 pm

    I just wanted to let you know that Melissa was sentenced yesterday to the minimum of 5 years in a state prison. I just wanted to ask you to keep her in your prayers, along with her 10 year old daughter and the rest of her family. The women of the Kost family were tortured for over 20 years by Ed. The abuse was unstoppable until the day he died. I pray that when Missy comes home from jail, that the family can truly begin to heal and start their lives over. Thank you….

  2. May 12, 2006 at 1:39 pm

    Kristin, thank you for the update. I hope that Melissa is able to make use of some of the psychological and educational opportunities that may be available in the state prison. What happened over the years was traumatic, as is the death of her father and her subsequent incarceration. If she were able to access some of the opportunities available to her in the prison, hopefully she could come out stronger than when she went in.
    My hopes and prayers are with the family, and with their recovery.

  3. Melinda said,

    March 7, 2010 at 9:50 pm

    My family was friends with the Kost’s when I was in my early teens. I just recently learned of this and have thought of nothing else since. I hope that the family is doing better now and wish that this never had to have happened.

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