“Marital Duties”

Believe it or not, marital duties aren't mandatory. A wife still maintains the right to say yes or no to sex. At times, some men seem to have some difficulty with that idea.

This is one of those occasions where the identity of the suspect is being withheld, in order to protect the victim. As a result of that, instead of names I will just be using husband and wife.

Wife has reported to police that in the past she has wakened about 30 times to find that her husband was having sex with her. She alleges that she is an  "an extremely hard sleeper," and that he sometimes had to pull her out of bed to wake her up in the morning, according to the affidavit.

She alleges that she has confronted husband several times and told him that she felt that was rape and that she wanted it to stop. Wife has told police that on Mar. 7th, she awoke in the middle of the night to find husband having sex with her again "without her knowlege or permission". Allegedly it was especially troublesome, because their child was in the bed with them.

At some point, she told husband she was leaving and he attempted to stop her. Husband allegedlly grabbed her by the wrists and pushed her down the stairs of their home. Husband was arrested for harrassment charges as a result of these actions.

While incarcerated, wife confronted husband about the fact that he had sex with her while she was asleep, and husband told her he "was sick". He admitted he was wrong and apoligized. Sexual assault charges have been filed. Husband has also admitted to police that on Mar. 4, he took pictures of his wife while she was nude and asleep.



I may have been reading true crime too long. I am actually wondering about whether this guy may have the fetish known as necrophilia, an erotic attraction to dead bodies or sexual contact with corpse's. Or maybe not, maybe he is just one of those men that seem to feel that after a woman says "I do" that it is their devine right, anytime and anywhere they please. Even after marriage, a wife retains the right to consent to or refuse to have sex. And they are protected by law.



  1. anonomous said,

    March 5, 2008 at 3:57 am

    do i have grounds for a divorce because my wife refuses to have sex with me.

  2. March 5, 2008 at 4:25 am

    I don’t know. There could be many reasons why a wife might not want sex. Best advice I could give you would be to suggest that the two of you consult a marital counselor and failing that if you wished you could consult an attorney.

  3. kookimebux said,

    February 1, 2009 at 6:43 pm

    Hello. And Bye. 🙂

  4. YOUNG_LAW said,

    March 24, 2009 at 10:05 am

    yes u do have grounds despite homesweethomes opinion sex is considered a marital duty a law written in a time where womens rights where still disregarded but even still to this day that law still stands and has remained unaltered for example if your wife were to get in an accident in which it was innapropriate to take part in sex for her own medical benefit when she seeks a settlement from the alleged responsible party you as her husband are entitled to receive settlement decided on the basis that she is unable to peform her MARITAL DUTIES and you are physically and mentally suffering the same prinicipal applies to divorce your lack of sexual intamicy from your wife has caused stress in your life and entitles you to amends and grounds for divorce you feel slighted in you marriage by the lack of passion and cannot continue to live your life trying to maintain a marriage in which your wife puts no effort into and does not look out for your wants and needs but unfortunatley most judges will reccomend counseling before they consider taking legal action on as said above

  5. August 4, 2010 at 2:36 am

    This a little bit funny. I found your site via search engine a few moment ago, and luckily, this is the only information I was looking for the last hours. The first step, when you suspect that there is a problem, is that you set up a meeting with the principal and your child’s teacher.

  6. john smith said,

    December 12, 2010 at 9:30 pm

    Marital Duty? Of course sex is a marital duty of a solid, Christian marriage. If a wife refuses intimate contact with her husband for no other reason that she “doesn’t feel like it”, or “I just don’t feel attracted to him any more”, then said person needs to WORK. WORK in a sincere way to restore sexual health in the marriage. Too many people (women as a general rule but some men are in this position), sign up for a LIFETIME commitment to an individual, then expect to reap the rewards of marriage – a house, food, clothing, social or economic status, cars, children – and give nothing in return.

    No, it is not a marital duty in the above mentioned sicko who raped his wife in her sleep – this is a sick individual who should be incarcerated in a mental health facility until he’s well – but it is a marital duty nonetheless when the husband or wife is devoted and sincere in the marriage.

    Denying sexual intimacy to a spouse for whatever reason then requiring him to maintain fidelity is cruel and a sickness unto itself.

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