For no apparent reason

Neil J. Lofquist, 40, is a father. He taught sunday School at the Presbyterian church. Sunday night he offered to put the kids to bed, and his wife, Lisa, went downstairs. Their 6 year old son went to bed. Lofquist then strangled and stabbed 8-year-old daughter, Lauren, in the neck and  drowned her in the toilet.

Lufquist then went downstairs and went to a neighbors, who say he told them that they had called him. They say he appeared confused and disoriented. They told him to go home. Lufquist went home, and showed his wife some minor injuries on his hand, asked her to get a neighbor to babysit Lauren, and she and the son drove him to the hospital for treatment. The neighbor got a call from the mother Lisa, asking her to check on Lauren. The neighbor found Lauren in the bathroom. She says her body was already turning cold and blue when she found her. Lufquist had evidently said some things at the hospital, which made them fear for Lauren.

 “He started making statements about Lauren’s death, and I think it was at that point that Lisa wasn’t quite sure if he was hallucinating or if something indeed happened,” she said

Hospital workers contacted police and asked them to do welfare check of the home. When police arrived, they found the neighbor doing CPR on Lauren.

Lufquist’s mother indicated she had spoken with him the day before, and “everything appeared great”. She indicated there had been no previous history of mental illness.

Department of Children and Family Services indicated they had not had previous contact with the family. One of the neighbors indicated that the family appeared to be happy, another said they appeared  “incredibly loving, very friendly and outgoing”.
. They had been living in the neighborhood about 6 years.

Lufquist has been charged with first degree murder. A psychiatric forensic exam is being requested for Lufquist. No motive is known for the murder.

Again, another family murder. This time a little 8 year old girl. A mother without her little girl. She carried her for 9 months, and raised her for 8 years. In an instant she is gone. All she has left of her are the memories and  the knowlege that she was slain by her husband, the little girl’s father.

A little boy, who will not be able to understand why his father put him to bed, then murdered his sister. He has lost not only his sister, but he has effectively lost  his father also. Nothing is being said about what he heard or saw.

The neighbor will probably always have the picture of what she saw, engraved on her mind. Yet she is thinking of the child’s mother.

The neighborhood is stunned.  The police chief says they are “bewildered”. The EMS staff is getting counseling. Parents are trying to decide how to tell their children. What do you say to an 8 year old playmate, how do you tell them that not only is their playmate dead, but she is dead at her father’s hands?

This family had roots in the community. They were educated, the mother was an occupational therapist and the father had his MBA. He had had two pottery shops, which he closed, and he was currently working in insurance. The family is being described as very close and loving.

No one has any answers and know one knows why.

I don’t care how old your kids are. Give them an extra hug or at least a call tonight.


In court it was said that Lufquist thought his daughter was the devil, and that the world would end if she didn’t die.

Now it is being said that Lufquist had exhibited several incidents of erratic behavior in the neighborhood recently.

If someone in your life starts showing erratic behavior, or sudden rages, or  uncharacteristic behavior please get them to a doctor or hospital. If they refuse to go then get yourself to a place of safety until they can be persauded to go. Not because you don’t love them, but because you do. This is for their benefit as well as yours. Often these problems can be treated with medications. But only a trained professional can evaluate and determine what the problem is and what is needed.


A Grand Jury has returned an indictment which adds two new counts of predatory criminal sexual assault to the murder charges.

Allegedly Lofquist sexually assaulted his daughter in her bedroom before he killed her.


Authorities say that Neil Lofquist attempted suicide on Monday. They state that Lofquist was working on the weight machine, when he climbed to the top of it, then dived off, headfirst into the floor.

Till Death Do Us Part

Steve Huff is interviewing one of the co-author's of a book called Till Death Do Us Part: Love, Marriage, and the Mind of the Killer Spouse. It is co-written by Dr. Robi Ludwig and Matt Birkbeck. As you can see, this book is about some of the issue's dealt with in this blog. I have read one other of Matt Birkbeck's book's and have seen his posts in a forum and participated in a group chat with him. He is a great author. Steve has read the book, and has mentioned the book a couple of times on his blog. According to Steve the book is very readable, and is written to be understood by us "laypersons". He has an interview up with Dr. Ludwig on his blog, and if you are interested in domestic related crimes, I highly reccomend reading the post. Personally, just from the post that Steve put up, it has made my wish list. I will be looking for the book.

Two so similiar

Generations of abuse

Many people have them. Pictures of three generations of their family. Grandparent, parent, and one or more children of some age. A way to capture an instant of a family relationship, a memory to cherish, to store away and save for future generations.

But sadly, not all memories of a family are so happy. This is about one of those families. Police recently recovered over 8,ooo images of child pornography from one two family household's computer. They also suspect generations of sexual abuse of the children.

Kids who grow up being sexually abused, often are conditioned that this is normal, and is what is expected from the world. They may grow up to become abusers, or learn to ignore abuse of their children. They may participate in it.

In this home a 56 year old man, his 26 year old son, and a 73 year old man have been arrested. Their names are being withheld, in order to provide as much protection for the children as possible. The 56 year old is carged with first and second degree sexual assault, child sexually abusive activity and using a computer to commit a crime. The 26 year old is charged with first and second degree sexual assault, and attempted first degree sexual assault. The 73 year old man is charged with child sexually abusive activity and using a computer to commit a crime.

The children range in age from 9 months to 8 years of age. Normally, if one parent in the home is determined not to have been aware of the crime, or had made some definate attempt to stop the crime, authorities will try to keep as much of the family relationship together as possible. Therefore, I think it is significant that authorities are already moving to have parental rights terminated.

Police were first made aware of the possibilities of this crime, when alerted by a school official. Police do not think any of the pictures of the children made it onto the internet. They believe the abuse may date back as far as Dec. 2003.


Can I say this is generational abuse? Nope. But I can say if it isn't, it certainly seems headed that way.

Phyllis Gayle Riedle, 48, is the second person to be arrested in a child pornography case, the sheriff described as "worse than anything" he has come across in his police career. She has also been charged with aggravated sexual assault of a child.

The sheriff stated she has admitted to assaulting an 18 month old baby. Police also found nude pictures of the toddler's 7 year old cousin, taken while she was sleeping. Riedle was babysitting for them the night the assault happened. The parents of the children have been talked to about the findings and they have been advised to take their children to the doctor for exams.

Her brother Kevin Reidle, 41, was arrested in March, and the photos of the seven year old were found during the investigation into his child pornography case. He has been charged with possession and promotion of child pornography. Prior to his arrest, authorities had been trying to track his whereabouts for a year and a half. The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children had been recieving tips about his whereabouts from all over the country. He was a truckdriver, therefore was seen in numerous places.

About the porn, authorities say they have found "several thousands" of photos and "hundreds" of videos, ranging from a few seconds to 30 minutes in length. The children ranged from toddlers to teenagers. Authorities believe one of the photos found on the computer may be related to the recent shutdown of a child pornography site, that involved people from around the world.

Now why would I call this a possible generational abuse? Kevin and Phyllis are brother and sister. They lived together. They have admitted a sexual relationship between the two of them.

Phyllis's two children, a 14 year old daughter and a 12 year old son lived with them. Pictures of at least one of them were found on the computer. The children have been removed from the home.

The investigation is continuing, and authorities are still trying to identify some victims. They say more charges could be filed, and if the photo found is connected to the closed website, that could also result in federal charges.

Walker is asking parents of children who have had any contact with the Riedles to call him or Neagle at the sheriff’s office at (940) 627-5971.

In the first story, authorities are already saying it is generational. And those children were young, the oldest was 8. Can you imagine the life they have led at the whims of men in the household? They had no say over what was happening to them, what was happening to their bodies. To them this was what happens in life. It is "normal". This is how they were being taught to relate to people around them. So what will happen when they grow up and have children of their own? Thank goodness they are young, they may have a chance at learning that other people don't treat children this way. They may have a chance to learn what "normal" really is. But again, you can't unring a bell. What has happened to them will be with them the rest of their life. You can't see their scars. But they will be there.

In the second story, to me it was a shocker. Brother and sister not only cooperating in a pornography crime, but living together, and admitting to a sexual relationship. The teen years are such impressionable years. They are starting to feel their hormones, they have learned what they know about relationships from their mother and their uncle. To them, this is "normal". Authorities are saying more charges are possible. I have a feeling they may possibly find more, as they talk to the kids, but that is just a guess.

Now I have to admit. I normally either find my own stories in news sites or I write about stories sent to me about crimes committed in a home. But this time I "cheated". I picked up these stories at Lost In Lima, Ohio I knew when I read them, I just had to write about them. So ya'all help me show Lost in Lima how much we appreciate it, and pop over there too, will ya?