This one is bad, and will probably get worse

This one is so bad, I don’t even know how to write it. Randall (Randy) Balch, 33, walked into the police station yesterday to report the woman he lived with was dead, and where she could be found. No information as to the woman’s idenity or cause of death has been released as yet, they are pending notification of relatives and the results of the autopsy. No charges have been filed against Balch in regards to the death as yet, as the cause of the death will likely have an affect on that.

Balch has been arrested though and charges filed against him. When police went to the home to look for the body, they found a teenage girl who had lived in the home with Balch and the woman. After an interview with her, police filed charges of first-degree sodomy, sexual abuse and unlawful imprisonment. The victim in those charges was the teen.

http://www.kentucky.com/mld/kentucky/14114261.htm

I cannot even fathom what led up to this tragedy. I cannot fathom what this child has gone through. I don’t how long whatever happened went on, and I can only begin to imagine the horror that she went through, or what happened with the woman who died. Likely more info will become available today. All I know is that whatever I am able to imagine in this one, probably doesn’t even touch what this child has gone through.

The woman who died was Balch’s 50 year old girlfriend. The teen who also lived in the home was also injured.

http://www.lex18.com/Global/story.asp?S=4641064&nav=EQlp

The teen is 14 years old, and the physical injuries she recieved were minor.

http://www.kentucky.com/mld/kentucky/news/local/14115815.htm

Possibly there was someone else injured, two people with minor injuries?  The 50 year old woman was shot.

http://www.wkyt.com/Global/story.asp?S=4641076&nav=4CAL

It’s no one else’s business

So many times I have seen or heard this. That when a couple fights, it is their business and that as long as they stay together, they should be left alone. That as long as they choose to stay in an abusive relationship, that it isn;t anyone else’s business. To some extent, this is true. Just like with an addict, until the person involved makes that decision to stop, the abused person won’t be able to leave that relationship. No matter about the arrests, the abuse, the arguments. No matter the offers of intervention, until the victim makes the decision to leave, and to stay gone,, the victim will keep going badk. That doesn’t mean the offers of intervention should stop. That just means to aknowlege that the victim has to make that committment themselves.

But I am also not saying to ignore it. Because domestic violence does reach out and touch the extended community in so many ways, it cannot just be ignored.

Sometimes the way domestic violence affects the community is very insidious. But sometimes it  is more overt.

Police responding to a domestic dispute found a woman who said that her finance 46-year-old Thomas Merchant was inside the mobile home threatening to burn it. As the mobile home was in a park, that required that several homes nearby be evacuated for their safety. For 4 hours police were tied up trying to talk to Merchant to get him to surrender. When he didn’t do so, they subdued him with tear gas and arrested him. Gasoline as well as several weapons were found in the home after the arrest.

http://www.wtkr.com/Global/story.asp?S=4644660&nav=ZolHbyvj

Had Merchant started a fire, not only would the mobile home he was in have burned, police and fire department would have been tied up for longer, neighbors required to have been out of their homes for longer, but their homes could possibly have been in danger also as fire spreads. If Merchant had fired a weapon, people in surrounding homes could have been endangered as the walls of a mobile home are not going to stop a bullet.

Domestic violence is not a couple’s problem. It is a community’s problem.

Sometimes there seems to be no explanation

 Karen Lindsey, 53, died of repeated stabbing on Wed. No, it wasn’t her husband or her boyfriend. The person who has been arrested for the murder is Karmen Lindsey, 21, her daughter. Authorities were notified by her father and the victim’s husband Dean Lindsey. A knife was recovered at the scene. There is no indications at this point that drugs or alcohol were involved in the murder. Police have not released a motive for the murder. There is also no indications of past incidents involving the family.

Karmen Lindsey was arrested, then was taken to the hospital shortly after her arrest. Reportedly she was bleeding from the struggle. She was returned to the jail where she is being held.

http://www.grandforks.com/mld/grandforks/news/14108455.htm

Articles like these, always make me wonder if there isn’t some mental health history going on here. 21 is about the age when a lot of mental illnesses will manifest themselves, or will worsen. It is also about the age where a young person who may have had a previous history, might try to experiment with what life without meds might be like. And as young adults, they can stop or change their mental health treatment without their parents approval.

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Thanks to the Lindsey Family we have an update on the case.

Karmen Lindsey pleaded guilty to class AA murder via a plea agreement and was sentenced to 40 years in prison, with 20 years of the sentence suspended and she also gets credit for time served.

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