We remember the big stories

We remember the big stories. The ones about murder, rape, torture, and horrific abuse. But the little stories also get my attention.

Both Jeremy Robinson, 31, and and his girlfriend, Nicky N. Graham, 21, were arrested on misdemeanor charges of domestic battery on Feb. 15.

According the criminal complaint, Robinson says the arguement began when he recieved his copy of the Sports Illustrated magazine in the mail.

According to Graham, the argument began over the fact that Robinson wouldn’t get a job.

According to the report, Robinson’s shirt was torn and he had scratches on his chest. Graham admits to tearing his shirt and making the scratches. She says she did that, because his hands  were around her neck. She also alleges that Robinson pushed her against a wall.

When the officer asked Graham who the agressor was, she reportedly said both of them were.


This case will get argued out in court. And no matter what the charges, neither party will win. Both will now have a police record for violence.

But I would like to point out, that if Robinson did indeed put his hands around Graham’s neck, I can only think of one reason he would do so. For just the fleeting instant, I believe that he thought of doing serious harm. Yes, he stopped….this time. But unfortunately domestic violence tends to escalate over time. I hope that both Graham and Robinson think of that if they should ever consider getting back together. The charges could be much more serious the next time.



Pregnancy in a relationship often brings up a mixed bag of feelings. Fear, contentment,  hope, uncertainty, hesitancy, elation, responsibility, protectiveness, happiness, fatigue and a desire to flee are often somewhere in the mix in some degree.

It reminds me of a commercial I once saw, selling pregnancy tests. It showed a couple who were evidently waiting on the results of a home test. They were talking to each other about all the reasons that they wanted the baby. How they were ready, they would make it financially, it was time and they went on and on. You could just tell that they were trying to talk themselves into being happy about it.

Then they check the result and it was negative. Both take a deep breath, then look at each other. Both finally realized that each was relieved it was negative. Happy ending.

Unfortunately, life is not like TV. People don’t always get what they really wanted, and sometimes there aren’t any happy endings.

Amelia Sookdeo, 17, was reported missing by her mother on Feb. 25th after she had left the house by climbing out a window, without her parents knowlege.

Later that same day, the fire department was called to extinguish a car fire and noticed a small fire along side the road a short distance away from where the car was supposed to be.  The fire was on the body of a female who was burned beyond recognition. Duct tape and gloves were found at the scene. The remains were later identified as Amelia Sookdeo.

An investigation led the police to her ex boyfriend, Dane Abdool, 20, but he denied any involvment. Police confronted him with inconsistencies in his story. With the fact that tire marks found at the scene matched his vehicle.

Finally he confessed to investigators that he had met his ex girlfriend that night after she sneaked out of the window. He picked her up and took her to his apartment and then they left. While they were out, they began arguing. He drove to the scene, forced her to get out of the car, threw gasoline on her, lit it, and burned her alive. The gloves found at the scene matched gloves that Abdool would have had access to at his job.

But I think the most horrible part of this is the reason for the argument. Abdool told police that he and Sookdeo were arguing over her possible pregnancy and he was just trying to scare her. After the autopsy, the medical exaiminer reported there was no signs of pregnancy.


Maybe I wonder too much. I wonder if he normally carried his work gloves, duct tape and gasoline in his vehicle. I wonder just where they had to go, that meant they left the apartment, which conveniently made the murder scene somewhere else. And I wonder how do you grab gasoline, pour it on someone you had been intimate with, hold a source of ignition to it, and then walk away while she burns to death. And how you can then say later that you only meant to scare her.

The number one cause of death of a pregnant woman is homicide. He didn’t even wait to see if she was really pregnant.


This case is now in trial. The defense is stating that the death is accidental and the defendant was only trying to scare Amelia Sookdeo. Also that Abdool:

“He’s an adult by number but . . . the decisions he made weren’t very adult-like,” she said. “They weren’t good decisions.”