I just don’t understand sometimes

David Connors Rust, 56, apoligised to his wife and family in court yesterday. He was convicted of molested his daughter’s 11 year old friend who had stayed overnight at his home. He was sentenced to 25 years in prison.

It seems that David Rust violated his own codes. He had evidently written a “code of conduct” for pedofiles and put it on the internet. On his own code of conduct was the rule that you don’t molest family or close friends. Yet he broke his own rule, when he touched his daughter’s friend. He has not been charged, but allegedly he has admitted to some people that he had also molested his daughter.

After the 11 year old girl told her mother what happened, Rust was confronted, and he said that he “loved her” but not “in a bad way”.

The day before the trial began, Rust pleaded guilty to 10 misdemeanor counts of possession of child pornography.

During the trial, Rust’s wife pleaded for lienency for her husband, and she stated that he had also been abused as a child. She asked for treatment for him.      

I want to quote the judge:

        Superior Court Judge Runston G. Maino said Wednesday that he believes Rust poses an “extreme danger to society” and is “extraordinarily dangerous.”

“One of the most disturbing things about this case is Mr. Rust’s mental makeup,” Maino said. “Mr. Rust believes sexual contact with children is not necessarily bad.”
http://www.nctimes.com/articles/2006/02/24/news/coastal/21_21_102_22_06.txt

He touched her. He didn’t rape her, he didn’t hurt her. At least not visibly. But it must have disturbed her, because she told her mother. I have seen others like this who say they have never hurt a child. I have even seen them say the child consented. A child cannot consent. Period. No matter if the child consents, no matter if even the parents consent, it is illegal to touch a child. There is a reason for this law. This event has become one of her childhood memories. It will have some effect on how she views authority figues in the future, it may affect future relationships with men, and it will affect her relationships with her own children. The scars are there, they just won’t be visible.

A child, most often wants to “mind” adults, wants do as asked because they want their parents to love them, and wants their friend’s parents to like them. A touch like this is confusing, and they often don’t have the skills and experience to know what to do when it happens. When he allowed the child to stay in his home, Rust put himself in a position of a temporary parental role with the child, and that by its very nature doesn’t allow the child to refuse his advances. Most of us tell our kids to mind the adults, right?

Yet the touch was disturbing enough for the girl to tell her mother. That in itself tells us that it made her uncomfortable. And by his own “code of conduct” Rust admitted that he had some idea that it was wrong. He had written that family members and close friends should be left alone. I am not sure what his reasoning was that it was ok for other kids, just not kids who were close to him.

The part that just amazes me, is the mother. She asks for lienency for him. He has allegedly admitted to some that he has molested her daughter. I don’t know at what point she became aware of that. But she wants him back in her home?

I just don’t understand sometimes.

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3 Comments

  1. thpunishrr said,

    February 24, 2006 at 3:07 pm

    I don’t get it either.

    It seems that some of these people can really get a hold of a person, mentally.

    Oh, and a code of conduct for pedophiles? What a joke!

  2. L. said,

    February 24, 2006 at 6:20 pm

    Too bad the “code” doesn’t start with:
    “place bullet in gun, hold gun up to head tighly, pull trigger firmly”

  3. February 24, 2006 at 7:02 pm

    LOL, you say it so elequently.


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