Recommended Reading

In new relationships as well as in friendships you usually only see what the other person wants you to see. You will typically see a nice, normal person. It is only after time that the person’s true personality will start to slip out. And when abusive behaviors will sometimes begin to show.

So learn to recognize the signs. And if you start seeing them at home, start educating yourself about your options.

From the Domestic Violence Intervention program out of Iowa, we get the following:

  • Physical Violence … hitting, slapping, kicking, pushing, choking
  • Sexual Violence … rape, unwanted touching, sexual humiliation
  • Emotional/Verbal Abuse … name calling, put-downs, public humiliation, yelling, degrading statements, mind games
  • Intimidation and Threats … using past violence or threats of violence to ensure obedience, displaying weapons to instill fear, destroying her property or abusing her pets
  • Isolation … cutting off from friends or family, resources that may help, controlling where she goes, who she sees and information available to her, using jealousy to justify actions
  • Threatening Children and Loved Ones … Instilling fear through threats to loved ones

Domestic violence is about control

Battering is a choice and solely the responsibility of the batterer

Both articles are well worth a read now and then. And for additional articles, The Punisherr Report has some interesting reading on the signs of the following:

Characteristics of a Pedophile

Signs of a Psychopath

Signs of Deceit



  1. thpunishrr said,

    February 23, 2006 at 10:46 pm

    Thanks HSH.

    Wonderful post. People need to be educated. I’ve studied all these things in college about ten years ago but still want to learn more and re-learn what has been taught.

    I wish everyone knew all the signs and acted accordingly.

  2. February 24, 2006 at 3:18 am

    Each of us, in our own way can help people find out.
    Thank you for allowing my to post this.

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