Babies cry

On Fri. they took the infant Elijah Llanos to the doctor for being “cranky” and having “bumps” on his stomach. The doctor wrote perscriptions, but the baby continued to cry during the night.

On Sat. Irma Llanos, 18, had to go to school so she left her 4 month old and her 18 month old with the oldest child’s father, Cano Lopez. Lopez evidently had been the one to get up with the baby at 2:30 am. Llanos left for school 7:30 am. The baby woke again about 8:00 am. Lopez fed the baby, but it was awake again about 10, crying. Lopez states that he just wanted some sleep. He had been up with the baby the night before. He shook 4 month old Elijah, until he didn’t whimper any more then laid him back down. He states that he cleaned the apartment and didn’t check on him until about 4 when he noticed that the baby’s lips were blue and his body limp. He called a neighbor who performed CPR and called an ambulance. Elijah died about 2:30 pm on Sun. when they took him off life support. Elijah died of bleeding on the brain as a result of shaking.

Lopez is in jail, facing 1st degree murder and is being held without bond.

 There is one quote I wish to include from the article:

Elsa Pena, the apartment manager, said she often spoke with them since they moved into the complex in November. “I can say that I really believe it was an accident,” Pena said. “They are hardworking, honest people.”,0,6108934.story?coll=sfla-news-palm

Caring for one infant is hard. Two babies would be even harder. And a sick baby can be very difficult. Sometimes you just have to call a friend, a relative, a neighbor. Sometimes you just have to walk away for a few minutes. Sometimes you have to tough it out. A baby cries because that is the only way they have to communicate. And though the cries can be piercing, they don’t cry to get back at you. They cry because they need something or because they don’t feel well and sometimes they just cry. If he had called someone, they might have offered the idea of putting the baby in a swing or in their infant seat and sitting it on the dryer. They might have offered the idea of removing the babys diaper. They may have come up with a suggestion that may have worked. Or just talking to someone may have helped.

Instead, there is a mother who has lost a child. An 18 month old child who has lost a sibling they won’t even remember and who’s father is facing a trial and prison. A father who won’t be available to his child. Somewhere out there, there may be a father who cared about his son (the article doesn’t say) and there are grandparents who have lost a grandson. Likely Lopez has relatives who will worry about him. And a 4 month old who will never see his first Easter, his first birthday or the first day of school.


Getting old is not easy

They were growing older, he had had a stroke. Sara Jane Gulbrandsen, 62, was under stress, she said she hadn’t slept in weeks. She says there was no one to help. He had 19 Doctor’s appts. in 3 weeks. She says her husband of 29 years,Rudolph Gulbrandsen, 79,asked her to kill him.  Dec. 17, 2005 she did. She didn’t have a gun, so she hit him over the head with a crowbar. Then she slashed her wrists and throat. She told investigators that she didn’t want to live without her husband.

She was reportedly a nice lady, active in the quilting club and a volunteer at the local library. Before she retired she was a math teacher. Friends and neighbors attended her hearing.

After her arrest she spent 6 weeks in the psychiatric hospital. She has been charged with 2 nd degree murder. Her attorney pled not guilty for her, and has indicated that he may be presenting a psychiatric defense.

I really don’t know what to say, I want to think there must have been help out there for her- but sadly I don’t believe that. Getting old and unfirm…….. not an easy job.

This is off topic, but……….

This is off topic for this blog, but I love it! I encourage everyone to check out Mrs. E’s Writing’s for Feb. 19 th.