Newlyweds?

Twenty four year old Christa Ann Alexander was pregnant, the baby was reportedly due in Dec. Reports indicates that she was newly married to Couty Alexander, 23 (I’ve also seen his age reported as 22)  that they married in Mar.
Couty Alexander had recently completed emergency medical technican school and began working as a EMT. Both Couty and Christa were reported as active members of a church, Couty Alexander had served as a missionary both in the US and abroad. They have been described as a quiet couple, and it has been said that Christa rarely ventured out without her husband.
Sat. nite/Sun AM Couty Alexander reported to his job and served out his shift. At 5:51 am, after he returned home he called 911 and reported that he had just arrived home and found his wife dead. Neighbors have told media the home appeared to have been ransacked. Police have said that it appeared that Christa Alexander may have been shot.
By Sun. evening, Couty Alexander had been arrested for the murder of his wife.
Police say that Couty Alexander had told them that he found Christa dead when he arrived home from work, but they say that he later told told them she was dead before he had left to go to work. He allegedly told them that she was gathering clothing from the closet when he fired a shot and hit her in the head. Police charged Alexander with 2nd degree murder. Police say they have recovered the murder weapon.
By Monday charges had been upgraded. In addition to the 2nd degree murder charge, Alexander has also been charged with  1st degree feticide for the death of the unborn child. He was also charged with obstruction of justice, that charge is for allegedly attempting to stage the crime scene as a burglary.
Police say Alexander has confessed to the shooting. I have not seen any reports indicating a motive.
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Newly married, adjusting to being two is stressful. A new job is stressful. Wife with hormone’s surging also a stressor. Life priorities changing from individual thinking to family thinking- also stressful. Thoughts of increases in bills due to the addition of a new, dependent life, becoming a new parent- also stressful. Yet many couples have started this way and made it through.
As I said, no one has yet mentioned why he allegedly shot her, but when I think of the stressors, when I think of what happens in a DV murder, and I think of her getting clothing from the closet I wonder. Had there been an argument, the kind of argument where one party says “I am leaving”? Many couples have that kind of argument at least once. Sometimes it lasts, sometimes it doesn’t. But if that is what it was, Christa won’t be coming back, because her opportunity to think through an argument, her right to make a decision about her life was taken from her. And in the process of taking Christa’s life, her child also lost it’s right to a life, it’s right to grow up and make it’s own life decisions.

31 Comments

  1. Ms. Brown said,

    July 1, 2008 at 2:37 pm

    If you had only knew Christa you would have come to very different conclusions at the end of your article.

  2. Erin said,

    July 1, 2008 at 5:38 pm

    No, Christa would not have been getting clothes to leave him. And they would not have fought. Christa wouldn’t fight with anyone much less Couty. Christa was an angel. She was the nearest thing to perfect I have ever met. I will miss her more than words can say.

  3. Jessica said,

    July 1, 2008 at 6:16 pm

    We believe you all are not giving Christa enough credit. Obviously there’s things that none of us will ever know, but it was Couty’s decision to pull the trigger. He didn’t even give her a chance to fight for her life. She was the closest thing to angel, but you will never have the privilege to know that because her life was taken away from her. We will always love her, but its a comfort to know she with her Savior that she so passionately loved.

  4. sharon said,

    July 1, 2008 at 7:31 pm

    I’ve known the Alexander family all my life. They are very respected and admired by many. I’m still trying to “come to grips” with what Couty has done.
    He would have been the last person I would have ever expected to do something like this. Christa was a beautiful girl, inside and out. Two innocent lives lost by one selfish act. What kind of man shoots his newly-wed pregnant wife in the back of the head? I’m waiting to see what Couty has to say for himself, and may justice be served.

  5. Paula said,

    July 2, 2008 at 1:16 am

    Christa would not have been packing to leave. She was probably doing what she’s done for years, using her Saturday afternoon getting clothes ready for Sunday. Whatever happened, Christa didn’t provoke or participate in an argument, of that I am sure because I knew her. She would have taken other measures to get help, if it were needed, before she “packed up and left”. She was sweetness and kindness itself. No, something was going on with Couty and he is the responsible one. Whatever his motive, it was a senseless and tragic end to two beautiful lives.

  6. Mary said,

    July 2, 2008 at 2:26 am

    Maybe he is bipolar and that is yet to be discovered. Statistics show his age is the prime age when it surfaces. Stress will bring it out if he has inherited bipolar. I speak from experience as this happened in my family.

  7. craig said,

    July 2, 2008 at 2:44 am

    i pray they dont pull that stupid insanity deal with this killer. He knew what he was doing. what this really boils down to is SPRITUAL WARFAR!!! stay prayed up people. the end is near.

  8. A friend of both families! said,

    July 2, 2008 at 4:16 am

    Some of you bloggers out there need to be very careful just how you say things, and the attitudes behind it!! I am very aquanted with both families, and I know that the baker family would not approve of some of the hateful comments that are being posted all over the internet!!!!! Though justice must be served, God’s love and yes even forgiveness MUST be upheld!! Keep in mind all of you that love to quickly cast your stones, no one in this world is exempt from doing such a thing! Spiritual Warfare is a very accurate statement, and we all face it on a daily basis! Give place to Satan’s lies, and even you will do things that you never dreamed you would do. I know and love the Baker family, and yes though no one is perfect Christa was a sweetheart and a jewel!! I also know and love the Alexander family, and can only imagine just how hard this must be for them!! So when you write a blog, don’t forget that every word you say can help or seriously hurt both families. If both of these families can forgive and still love, some of you Christians out there should learn from their example. I make no excuses for Couty, and I will never understand what he was thinking. As I said before, justice must be served, but God’s love and yes even forgiveness MUST be upheld!! If you can’t do that, then you need to check up on your own relationship with the Lord. God always hates the sin, but Loves the sinner. If not, we would all be doomed for hell; even if lying was the only thing we were guilty of!!! So, when blogging about all of this remember Christa and her family, but also keep in mind another Godly family the Alexanders. These two families love each other and are working together to encourage each other in the Lord. If you don’t believe me, just ask anyone who TRULY knows both families!!!! That’s all I’ve got for now, but don’t forget to watch what you say and how you say it!!!

  9. July 2, 2008 at 5:26 am

    You are right, I didn’t know Christa. I didn’t know that she would never leave. What I was going by is a common scenario in domestic violence murders is when one party says they are leaving and the other party is determined to stop them one way or another. When I read that she was getting something out of the closet, that led me to wonder. Thank you for pointing out my error.

  10. A friend who loved them dearly said,

    July 2, 2008 at 8:07 pm

    Christa was the sweetest person I have ever met, she loved the Lord and everyone else around her. The blogs and news stories I have seen have been terrible, how can you know Christa was leaving her husband. We need to respect her family and the Alexander family and not speculate, what people are doing is gossiping and that is a sin. Words can hurt more than anything, they can hurt the family so much, the phrase “sticks and stones may brake my bones but words will never hurt me” is so untrue the tongue is full of deadly poisen. Please watch what you say for the sake of the family. Love them, and pray for them if you want to help, not gossip and speculate.

  11. Tammy New York said,

    July 2, 2008 at 8:57 pm

    I didn’t know Christy or Couty.But i do know that Christy is in heaven with our Lord .Im sure shes soooo happy,But missed by all who knew her.Couty has a kind face.I will pray the Lord God will comfort and keep him in His hour of need.Im sure christy would want all to pray for her husdband.May Our Lord comfort both familys,and All who know them both,(keep the faith,)(Were not in charge).God is. With love and prayers ,Tammy

  12. Tammy New York said,

    July 2, 2008 at 9:05 pm

    Sorry,for the miss spelling of Christa

  13. Carol said said,

    July 4, 2008 at 3:17 am

    Apparently Couty has been pretending to be a “nice” person all this time. A nice person does not kill anyone, especially his pregnant wife! Was he also pretending to be a Christian? Does he not have any empathy for others?

  14. Jerry said,

    July 4, 2008 at 5:53 am

    Seems to me, Christa being a newly wed, would have waited till her husband Couty left for his 12 hour shift to get clothes ready to wear to church for Sundays morning.

    I surely would not speculate on what took place prior to her getting those clothes out of the closet and Couty shooting her in the back of the head, but surely what ever it was it was not normal for a newly wed couple having just married this past March and him fixing to go on a 12 hour shift at work. I know that in my 1st few “years” of marriage, I working on my 40th year, my wife did take care of such a things as that after I left for work and still does.

    And it would not be the least bit shameful for her to have been getting clothes from the closet to leave if she was in fear for her and her baby’s life.

    Hopefully Couty will open up and we will learn a bit about what took place.

    But the main thing at present time is prayers for family and friends and not do to much speculating.

    Jerry

  15. A Dear Friend said,

    July 5, 2008 at 1:32 pm

    To all those who post:
    I would like to encourage you to have a forgiving spirit. I am 22 and have been friends with both of them since I was 12 years old. (Including going on mission trips with both of them.) While we are all suffering a great loss please remember that no matter what happened or why it happened the Lord has taken Christa home and He is willing to forgive Couty.
    Think about Jesus when he was being crucified…He cried out “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” He forgave us when we were responsible for his death. Christa would have us forgive Couty. If the family can forgive their son-in-law for the death of their daughter, can’t you.
    Instead of accusing try praying for Couty and both families. (Prayer helps your heart be willing to forgive.)

  16. A realistic person said,

    July 5, 2008 at 7:15 pm

    Let’s all think rationally here please. How many times have you heard that family members and friends are shocked to here that someone they knew committed a violent crime? How many times have you heard, “But he was a such a good person”, or “He was a christian”, or “He came from such a good family”. Actually, none of this matters. Couty should be treated no different than any other hardened criminal (if he is found guilty). What’s the difference between his and Scott Peterson’s crimes? Were you praying for Peterson’s forgiveness as well? Probably not. Also, this was not God’s plan. God planned for Christa to have a baby and have many more wonderful years of life. Couty interfered with God’s plan by choosing evil with his own free will. Please get your head out of the clouds. Christa’s parents are in such a state of grief and shock. What they feel and actually say probably don’t match up. It’s way to soon to expect anyone to forgive Couty, much less her family. I’m not saying forgiveness isn’t possible one day, but let the parents grieve and yes… be angry. What’s wrong with that? It hasn’t even been a week! This was their precious little girl, their only daughter.

  17. Rebecca said,

    July 6, 2008 at 8:31 pm

    I knew Christa and Couty,I was just at S.M.I.T.E. She would not be mad at couty, but would pray and love him just the same. We need to praying that if Couty is not saved (which I believe he is) he would become saved. I pray that he would search his soul and become right with God. I FORGIVE him , but that is because I have the grace and mercy of God. And “RATIONAL” Jesus Christ was not mad at Couty he forgave his sin 2000 years ago on an old rugged cross. We too must be like Jesus. If for one moment you have hated someone you have done the same as Couty yet you too were forgive. The Bible says if your brother needs forgiveness forgive them 70 times 7. It doesn’t say just for small things like backbiting or stealing, BUT TO FORGIVE THEM for ALL the wrong. Though it may be hard it can be done.

  18. A Dear Friend said,

    July 7, 2008 at 1:19 am

    I didn’t mean that I did not think justice should be served. I believe he is responsible and needs to pay the consequences, but let me assure you it is possible to forgive him. I have. (If you have not spoken to or seen the Baker family I see how it could be possible to think that they are just in so much shock that they don’t know what they are saying…But the Baker family has truly FORGIVEN him!)
    I believe not knowing the families maybe to you makes this seem irrational but when you have the faith that these families have it does not seem irrational for this to be the case.
    Might I add that when I say I was a friend of theirs I’m not talking a casual acquaintance but a very close friend. Both of them were members of my wedding party…(before they were married) And although both of them were and continue to be friends of mine, I find comfort in knowing Christa is in such a wonderful place…and I have found it quite easy to forgive Couty because the Lord has given me the grace to handle this situation.

  19. someone who knew him said,

    July 7, 2008 at 5:23 pm

    goodness.
    i think it has been established that christa was an amazing person who came from a very good family, and couty too, in his time, was a very good person who came from a very good family. but everyone here is still human. still flesh and blood, and yet while they are saved christians, they still sin, just as every other person in the world. it blows my mind how people in this world seem to think that just because a person is a christian, they are not entitled to do wrong. wow people.. wake up.
    look at your own lives. there you will find enough of your own sin to occupy your time. we all have plenty we need to deal with in our own lives.
    i know killing your wife isn’t your normal everyday sin, but God has forgiven couty, and christa’s family has publicly forgiven couty as well. so why not just pray for the families to heal instead of everyone twisting and turning things, and adding opinions and taking out facts. it’s an awful thing. christa and her baby are with God, and couty is going to be punished for his crime. now let’s shut up and let the families heal.

  20. Just a thought said,

    July 8, 2008 at 8:10 am

    I do not know either family. I am a friend of a friend of the sister-in-law, whom I have been briefly acquaninted with. I would just like to say (since very few, if any have so far), lets keep the Alexander family in mind. Couty was one of 14 children is it? So that is fifteen people that end up being on the blame end of this because of association. People are talking about Christa, and the Baker family, and Couty, but what about the Alexander family. They have lost a daughter-in-law, and possibly a son. They are not guilty of Couty’s sin, and yet they are overlooked and somewhat associated with the deed of their son/brother. Remember to pray for that family and those fifteen innocent people that are struggling and suffering just as much as the Baker family

  21. DV Advocate said,

    July 9, 2008 at 4:14 am

    Domestic Violence homicides are complicated for all of the reasons posted above. The victim of homicide loves the person who kills them and extended family may never know the struggles that were taking place in the relationship. One of the leading causes of death for pregnant women is homicide and almost always the death is caused by the significant other. Abuse survivors often report that the first incident of physical violence occured when they were pregnant (and at their most vulnerable). There is NO EXCUSE for domestic violence. We as a society are failing to protect our most vulnerable citizens and Christa will never know the joy of being a mother. Her child will never draw a breath…at the hands of her father. Until we as a society take a stand against violence (towards anyone) there will continue to be tragedies like this. I challenge churches to become educated about domestic violence and how prevelent it is, rather than turn a blind eye and a “forgiving” cheek. Victims need resources and safety nets and the ability to leave if that is the choice that they make (Understand that leaving is the most dangerous time and it was not unreasonable for the blogger to question that in her post). Remember Christa and her child and honor their memory by educating yourself and supporting safe families. If you need help call the Nation Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

  22. Praying4all said,

    July 9, 2008 at 4:52 am

    It’s surely a confusing, hurtful situation. But if we call ourselves the church Jesus Christ, we will begin to pray up and not so much speak up. I think it’s healing for those close to be able to blog and talk out their feelings. But there are two precious tender families in a raw state of pain right now over this. And bitterness or rage or ugliness of any kind is rubbing salt into their fresh wounds right now. Grace and mercy Lord Jesus, that’s what we need from Heaven. Surround these beautiful families and hurt friends and relatives with Your amazing love…..Your unfailing love.

  23. July 9, 2008 at 3:19 pm

    I agree that it is a confusing and hurtful situation for all. And that bitterness and rage is hurtful for all. But I am sorry, I do disagree with the idea that this is not the time to speak up. Now is exactly the time to speak up. Because domestic violence thrives where it isn’t discussed.

    Domestic violence is a problem in many households, and sometimes they don’t go to this extreme. Sometimes it isn’t murder, but instead is violence that is ongoing. And it happens even in Christian households. It does need to be discussed.

    Forgiveness I do believe in, but acceptance I don’t. When violence is happening, forgive the actions but don’t stay to allow it to happen again. Staying in a violent home is like handing the keys to your car to an alcoholic- you know that sooner or later they are going to drive it while drinking. And at some point, they will very possibly have a bad accident.

    During a marriage, both sides say their vows before God. Both vow to love and cherish the other. But when violence happens, one party breaks that vow. Forgive it, yes. But stay to let it happen again, no.

    Couty broke his marriage vow and committed violence on his wife and unborn child. Does he deserve forgiveness? Yes. But we do not have to accept what he did as God’s will. God gave each of us the freedom to make choices. Couty’s decision was his choice, not God’s. God will accept Christa and the baby into his kingdom with open arms. But I do believe even He would weep at how they came to be there. Because they left this earth when one of his other children chose to break His commandments. He will be the one to pass the final judgement on Couty, and we do need to forgive him while he is here. But that doesn’t mean we have to accept that his actions are ok.

  24. Trey said,

    July 18, 2008 at 1:00 am

    I would like to share a few thoughts. I find it interesting that people will think and write things like “he could never have done that.” The truth is that we can all be deceived and only the Lord knows out true heart. The wife and fellow church members of the confessed BTK killer had no idea that he was a madman. Just because you know and love someone does not mean that you know anything about what they did when you were not there to witness it. Poeple who usually make good choices sometimes make horrible choices. When you make statements about what someone did or did not do when you were not there to witness it, you are engaging in gossip yourself.

    Trey

  25. Went to SMITE w/ them said,

    July 22, 2008 at 7:26 pm

    I’ve known them both and it is very unbelieveable. I am a very different person with a different view of the world since my days of being around them, but in everything I have seen I could have never imagined anything like this happening. The main thing that comes to my mind, and I hope this doesn’t come across as rude, but I wonder if Couty may have suffered a culture shock when he went into Paramedic school. Lots of people who are fundementalist keep the world at such a distance that I worry for children who know nothing but homeschool, church, and church camp. I wonder if he met some of these “worldly” people and just did not know how to deal with all these new people with different ideals and morals than his own. I am not trying to pass judgment because I know nothing about the situation or make anyone feel like I am blaming homeschooling, church, or church camps. I just wonder if Couty was put into a new world that he didn’t quite understand and was caught up into something he eventually lost control of. I think highly of both families and hope that my insight and curiosity does not cause any harm to them.

  26. a coworker of Couty's said,

    December 2, 2008 at 12:30 am

    I had met couty once a very brief encounter when I was just starting at work about a week before this terrible event. About a month afterwards I found out that Couty had been having a relaitionship with his partner at work, this had been going on for some time. In my line of work, EMS, we’re usually with our partners more than at home and sometimes the bonds that are created with the amount of time spent together and the tragedies that we experience together are overpowering and come to the point where they supercede any relaitionship outside of work. i heard that christa found out about this relaitionship and was leaving. this would account for her gathering clothes.

  27. Person that went to there church. said,

    April 8, 2009 at 5:19 pm

    Just to let all you rude people know to shut your mouth.You know nothing about either one of them if you sit here and write these horrible things.Couty was my junior class teacher at church for 3 YEARS!My feeling toward his whole family is love and comfort.He was a good man that walked with the Lord.I remember him being engaged thne married cristia thrilled him so.Lst time i talked to her was three days before the murder and nothing was wrong with there marriage.

  28. A realistic person said,

    July 1, 2009 at 5:48 am

    Person that went to there (their) church,

    Yea, Couty was a real neat guy. HA! He was such a good man that he had an affair and then shot his pregnant wife in the back of the head. No one really gives a flip if he was your junior class teacher at church. At least you are smart enough to use the verb “WAS” a good man and not “IS” a good man. I think you’re the one that is rude… and not very bright.

  29. Christie said,

    December 21, 2009 at 5:54 am

    I’ve known this family since I was a child, and I’ve got the inside scoop, you might say. Christa was actually going to go over to her parents’ house on Sunday afternoon, spending the day there, and spending the night. On Monday she and her mother were going to can things together.

  30. Knew Christa said,

    November 16, 2010 at 5:29 pm

    Wow, time has passed….

    We all need to remember that spiritual warfare is REAL!
    Did Couty USED to be a Christian…perhaps,but somewhere along the way,he allowed things into his life that got ahold of his mind emotions heart spirit etc…
    When you start playing with demonic stuff (like I heard he may have), you allow those things to take over YOU.
    The first mistake was getting married…
    He was already emotionally envolved with a girl at work when he got married to Christa.
    But I believe that he and her had been pressured their whole lives about getting married, having babies, marrying who your parents want you to etc… that he couldnt stand under that pressure.
    He couldnt back out of the marriage or get divorced because of shame to his family and church. Is divorce wrong…? Yes, would it be better thatn murdering 2 people? YES! please…
    The second straw was his affair-
    Even though he loved Christa, he didnt love her enough or God enough to get away from THAT girl…who by the way is a (Tramp) Trust me I know!
    If she ever reads this, I hope that the guilt and shame that she feels will make her crumble to her knees with the need for forgivness from Jesus.

    To the person who started this blog…
    Dont ever use stress as an excuse for MURDER.
    Are we not suppost to be LIKE Jesus?
    If Jesus got stressed would be kill his mom, siblings or the person aggervating him?
    You need to realize that The devil is out there to steal kill and destroy. That is what this boils down to. That is what this is.
    Christa was innocent in all ways.
    There is NOTHING she could have done to deserve death. Not even leaving if thats what she was doing. I dont think she would have, but I can understand if she needed to get away after finding out her husband was a cheating scum bag… Should we work those issues out? Yes, but it doesent mean she had to just sit there and say OK HONEY its ok if you wanna sleep with another woman…I’ll just wait at home for you :)
    No, Couty was wrong,it was an evil act and deserves justice. He needs forgivness from Jesus and then to spend every last waking and sleeping moment in a dark cold cell asking for Gods mercy!

  31. Knew Christa said,

    November 16, 2010 at 5:33 pm

    are you fairly sure that she knew about the affair?


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