Mental Abuse

This one is a bit different. Most of the time I write about physical violence. Many times that violence comes during a separation or breakup. All too often it ends in death. But physical violence is not the only type of violence. There is also harassment, mental abuse and risky behaviors.

Shawn Bauer and his girlfriend were breaking up. And as so often happens, custody of their child came into dispute.

Evidently Shawn Bauer decided to get creative. According to reports he decided to make a MySpace page in the name of his ex-girlfriend. And for the photos to be used on the page, he chose intimate photos he had of the ex-girlfriend. Very intimate, nude photos. And according to reports he encouraged men to call her.

The ex-girlfriend began receiving unsolicted telephone calls from men she didn’t know. So she contacted police. She told them she did not have an internet connection and she did not have a web page. While the officer was speaking with her, she got another telephone call from a man in another state.

The man said he had received a message from who he thought was the woman, and the message gave him the woman’s telephone number.

The woman told police she suspected her ex-boyfriend and said he had nude photos of her.

Police traced the webpage to the IP provider. Then traced it back to Shawn Bauer. Shawn Bauer has been charged with felony identity theft and two misdemeanor charges related to the creation of the webpage. He was given bond and scheduled for trial. If convicted he is facing up to 6 years in prison and fines up to $10,000. When officers talked with Bauer, he allegedly admitted he had made the webpage. But he told officers he had thrown the photos away and did not intend to bother the woman again.

Oh, the ex-girlfriend also went to court. She told the court she was being harassed and filed for a restraining order.

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IMO, very dumb move as well as risky. No, he didn’t touch her. He thankfully did not use physical violence. But he put not only her, but the child at risk.

How? If the men who saw the MySpace page were able to trace the phone number, they may have come across the woman’s address. You never know just what kind of people are viewing webpages. If the men who saw the webpage were criminal or unstable, then they may have tried a physical visit, and her consent may not have been one of their concerns. If the child happened to be there, so what.

Mental abuse. Knowing that strangers of all types had seen intimate pictures of her, that they not only saw the pictures but had her phone number, must have been not only humiliating but also frightening.

The custody dispute…..this will most likely be brought up as will the restraining order it brought about.

He says he won’t bother her again, he threw away the photos. But once they go on the net, they are out there. How many people copied and saved them? Often the webpages are saved to the archives. There are some very talented people out there who are excellent at retrieving things like archived webpages, I have seen it. Once online, they are out there and available. It is not as easy as throwing away a print picture.

Often the internet is thought of as anonymous. Let me tell you, it isn’t. Even though no names are used, what is online can very often be traced. Law enforcement can trace almost anything, but even lay people can trace a lot. Nothing is truly ‘anonymous’.

Crossposted at CrimeNe.ws.com

And since he had his own MySpace, Bauer has also found a place of dis/’honor’  at MyCrimeSpace where Trench has a few choice words to say about Bauer’s personal MySpace page.

While Out On Bond

On Dec. 22, Jeffrey Smith, 42, allegedly assaulted his wife Carolyn Smith, 48.

Carolyn Smith moved to her sister’s home for protection. She took out a restraining order on Jeffrey Smith.

Jeffrey Smith was arrested. He paid a $25,000 bond and was out of jail.

Allegedly Jeffrey Smith went to the home on Friday night. He shot the sister in the driveway and Carolyn Smith was found dead from a gunshot wound to the head. She was also found outside the home.

The sister was transported to the hospital in serious condition. She is expected to recover.

The couple’s two young children are now in protective custody. Unconfirmed reports say they are two boys ages 10 and 15.

Police began looking for Jeffrey Smith. They found him on Saturday. Like his wife, he had a gunshot wound to the head, but apparently self-inflicted.

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I cannot stress enough. If you have need to take out a protection/restraining order you need to move to a place of safety. Unless the relatives home has alarms and bars on the windows and the spouse or intimate partner doesn’t know where the relative lives, then it probably isn’t safe enough.

You cannot rely on the spouse or partner to obey a court restraining order, and being with another person will not stop someone who is determined to kill. For the best chance of safety, consider going to a shelter until things have settled down some.

Preparing for New Year’s

Fabian Gomez, 22, told police he had stopped after work to have a beer before heading home on Thursday. When he arrived at home he says he was cleaning his gun, and he had a new box of shells he had purchased to shoot off on New Year’s Day.

In the home were his 8 month pregnant girlfriend Jennifer Montejano, 25, and her three young children. Allegedly an argument developed between the couple.

Acccording to Gomez, he came out of the bedroom holding the gun and while he was gesturing the weapon discharged. The bullet struck Jennifer Montejano in the face, just beside her nose.

Montejano was taken to the hospital in a comatose condition and an emergency cesarean section was done to deliver the baby. The 5 pound 9 ounce baby girl is reported to be in stable condition.

Fabian Gomez allegedly tol police an initial story that the bullet that struck his girlfriend came through an open window in the second floor apartment. But after police found a handgun that appeared to have been recently discharged, he allegedly admitting to firing the shot and said it was an accident.

Jennifer Montejano’s other three children are now being cared for by family members.

Fabian Gomez has been charged with preliminary charges of aggravated battery, criminal recklessness, and simple battery.

Jennifer Montejano remains in critical condition.

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What a way for a baby to be born. Instead of adoring parents, there is concern over whether her mother will recover. And if she recovers, will she be able to care for an infant as well as her other three children? I am not seeing any indication in the articles as to whether Fabian Gomez is the father to the baby or any of the other children.        

With three young children in the apartment and an admission of handling a weapon after he had had ‘a beer’ I am truly surprised that he was not charged with child endangerment.  

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Baby is reported to be in good condition, but Jennifer Montejano continues in critical condition.

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An anonymous reader just reminded me that I was remiss in something. The first rule of safety, one that even I know but didn’t remember……is that you should never clean a loaded gun. Before cleaning all weapons they should be emptied and checked before you begin cleaning. And that in order to clean most weapons properly…. you do need to break them down so that they can be cleaned properly. Once emptied and broken down then they of course would be inoperable.

I have learned to shoot a weapon, but don’t have a lot of experience with them. But I remember very well being taught that no gun is empty unless it is broken down and checked to make sure there  are no bullets in it.

Thank you my anonymous reader for the timely reminder.

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Jennifer Montenjano (some articles say  Montejano) passed away from her injuries. Prosecutors are awaiting the results of the autopsy before determining whether new charges will be filed.

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Jennifer Montenjano never got to see the face of her youngest child. The baby will never see her mother. Altogether 4 children have lost the mother they loved.

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The new baby has been named Jennifer and is reported to be doing well. Prosecutors are now saying they are waiting for a police report before filing additional charges. Family is reported to be requesting a murder charge.

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Thanks to AlwaysInFlyoverCountry we have an update.

Fabian Gomez has been charged with murder, aggravated battery, battery and criminal recklessness. His trial is due to begin Oct. 22.

The baby is in the custody of Jennifer’s mother.

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