She was 8 years old. During the day she attended school, a new school where she had met new teachers and was likely making new friends. Who knows what thoughts were in her mind that day? Perhaps looking forward to playing with her one year old sister, getting a snack, watching cartoons, thinking about the homework she had to do, or perhaps even thinking of the gifts she would ask for, for Christmas. Just a day like any other.
She and her parents had moved to the area just 6 months before. But she had made it through that scary first day when she didn’t know anyone, and probably was settling in to the new routines by now.
If asked she probably would tell you that she trusted her parents. And could probably tell you that she was proud of both of them, they were both in the profession of helping people- her mother Dianne Crouse, 36, was a nurse now working in an ICU and her father Dennis G. Crouse, 50, a former fire chief and reserve deputy, now working as a paramedic manager for the emergency room at the same hospital her mother worked at.
So when she walked into the house after school on Tuesday and saw the blood on the walls, the chair and the stairs- that would have been one of the most frightening things a child would have to face. But when she found her mother stabbed and non-responsive…. so much worse.
She did what her mother would have told her to do. With no adult to do it, she called 911. “This never, ever happens,” she reportedly told dispatchers. Police responded and her 1 year old sister was found upstairs, unharmed.
It must have been a relief to her when her father pulled up to the home. He could hold her, and talk to the police and tell her what happened. He could make it better.
Dennis Crouse did talk to police. And he allegedly confessed to the murder of his wife, the mother of his children. He reportedly told them it was the result of a physical fight between the two of them.
Her father spent a brief amount of time with her and her sister. They were taken away to a safe house, to stay with strangers until the rest of their family could come. Her father was arrested for suspicion of first degree murder. The murder of her mother.
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Not only was her mother dead. But she was left with the shock of finding her mother. She was left with the job of contacting authorities and answering their questions. She was left with the fear of waiting until they arrived. Then when help arrived, it became so much worse.
Di said,
November 30, 2006 at 8:53 pm
That poor child. Another heartbreaking tragedy.
Soobs said,
December 1, 2006 at 12:19 am
This breaks my heart. And it’s ALWAYS so unnecessary.
name withheld for personal reasons said,
December 2, 2006 at 10:32 pm
Yes, it truely breaks my heart to think that those girls no longer have a mother, OR a father anymore, however, I know Denny Crouse, personally. I worked with him for several years at a hospital in Iowa. Dianne also worked there. Her, I didn’t know well, but word goes around fast here. She was NOT the angelic person the media is making her out to be, NOR is Denny the horrible homicidal maniac they’re making him out to be. We’re talking about a man who made a living (and not a very good one, might I add, because medics and firefighters here do not make squat-moneywise) saving people’s lives!!! Now how coldblooded could he really be? No one deserves what happened to Dianne, nor am I in any way condoning what Denny did, but as always there is SO much more to the story than what is being told, which in turn has seriously tarnished any faith I had left in the media.
Victims aren’t always necessarily victims, sometimes they are instigators, and sometimes when they push someone so far, they will get much more than they bargained for. Take that however you wish, but keep that in mind while the media continutes to dish out their convoluted and misconstrued bullshit.
sadsadsad said,
December 3, 2006 at 10:03 am
I personally know both Dianne and Denny. It’s easy to label people, isn’t it? Just depending on whom one is closer to, or knows better, or has established a bond with. True…Dianne was “NOT the angelic person the media is making her out to be”…but she IS an angel now, isn’t she, thanks to the actions of the one person who was her safety net…the one person who loved her beyond words…..the one person whom she handpicked to be the father to their children….the one person whom she loved and trusted more than anyone else. We all have our moments of poor choices, of hurting others through words or actions, of not living by that Golden Rule. BOTH Denny and Dianne had those moments. We are all human, and yes, the media goes overboard all the time on trying to sell their story. I do not place faith in the media. I put my faith in the facts. And the fact is that Dianne was stabbed multiple times and died. The fact is that she was left for her 8 yr old daughter to find. The fact is that an 18 month old was left alone in that house. I now place my faith in the Lord, that He may provide some semblance of security to those innocent children. That He may provide those of us close to this situation with the strength to deal with this loss and tragedy. That he may instill in us the compassion to love and care for others. Most importantly may He grant us the wisdom to support others in stressful or less-than-ideal situations, so that other 8 year old little girls will not have their lives shattered as they walk in and find their moms in pools of blood.
Dianne's Cousin said,
December 4, 2006 at 12:47 am
It does not matter that Dianne might not have been an angel. It does not matter that Dennis spent his life saving others. What matters is that she is dead, dying a horrible death at the hands of the man who was supposed to take care of her and her kids. Poor Roz is going to be traumatized for the rest of her life. The 911 call Roz had to make was heart wrenching to listen to. She thought her mom fell over the baby gate. She didn’t know her mommy was dead. No matter what happened between Dennis and Dianne that terrible day, she did not deserve to die. I am sure there is alot of information that none of us will ever know. She can’t tell us and he probably won’t talk either. I trust that he will get what he deserves. Pray for the families.
anonymous said,
December 4, 2006 at 5:08 am
I knew both Denny & Dianne as well & I cannot believe anyone would have the audacity to curse a murder victim. None of us are perfect or our names would be Jesus Christ. However everyone that knew Dennis Crouse even Diannes family has stated their shock. No one has stated anything except the fact about Dennis & he MURDERED his wife. Another thing I do not like the media either, but if he had left the home, left her , screamed at her, gone to the gym, read a book soooooooooooooo many other options he had, no media would be involved!!!!!
It is people like you who have corrupted our justice system and feel so much anguis for the assailant — PLEAAAASE, whatever . Grow up, face your own demons & start taking responsibility. I doubt you blame yourself for anything in your life but if the end ever comes as Diannes may others seek justice for you & not say you instigated it . Nothing she could have done, screamed, cursed, cheated, debt, etc instgates death you fool
anonymous said,
December 4, 2006 at 5:14 am
Please remove my eamil immediately !!!
Sean said,
December 4, 2006 at 7:26 pm
I grew up with Denny, he was close friends to my step uncle, Willard. Talked to him a couple of years ago. Never, ever, would I have guessed him capable of this. He snapped obviously. No one deserved what happened. Not his wife, not their children. No one. I can only hope now, that the children will pull through OK, and it will take a lot of help from a lot of people. My thoughts, my prayers, are with everyone involved.
notanangeleither said,
December 6, 2006 at 12:42 am
I disagree with with you sadsadsad, There is only one story here. Dianne is dead and Denny killed her.
Not an angel-what does that have to do with anything? I worked with Dianne for 3 years and she was loud, rude at times, like to go out,laughed too loud, but also fun and always smiling, she was human!!! And made her share of mistakes, but she didn’t deserve this, or the girls.. The victim instigated this. ARE YOU NUTS!!!!! Or do you feel it is ok to cause physical pain/death if things aren’t your way.If you are getting mad walk away cool down seek help. Normal people don’t pull out a knife and stab someone multiple times. I hope you never find yourself in a sitiation where you are instigating things or being the one whom is being provoked, because you mught find yourself in the same situation, but I wonder on which end or the knife you will be.
notanangeleither said,
December 6, 2006 at 12:43 am
I disagree with with you sadsadsad, There is only one story here. Dianne is dead and Denny killed her.
Not an angel-what does that have to do with anything? I worked with Dianne for 3 years and she was loud, rude at times, like to go out,laughed too loud, but also fun and always smiling, she was human!!! And made her share of mistakes, but she didn’t deserve this, or the girls.. The victim instigated this. ARE YOU NUTS!!!!! Or do you feel it is ok to cause physical pain/death if things aren’t your way.If you are getting mad walk away cool down seek help. Normal people don’t pull out a knife and stab someone multiple times. I hope you never find yourself in a sitiation where you are instigating things or being the one whom is being provoked, because you mught find yourself in the same situation, but I wonder on which end of the knife you will be.
Sheila said,
December 6, 2006 at 5:56 pm
I live near this family and feel horrible for these kids…I know it seems unimportant in the scheme of things, but does anyone know how long that poor baby was left home alone? I can’t get it out of my head…
Liason said,
December 7, 2006 at 12:16 am
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homesweethome said,
December 7, 2006 at 1:27 am
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Dianne's Cousin said,
December 7, 2006 at 3:11 am
Dianne will be laid to rest on this Friday in her hometown. From what I understand Roz has been enrolled in school again which is the best thing for her. Hopefully she will adjust to her new life and surroundings as well as can be expected but I am sure the horror of finding her mom in a pool of blood will never leave her memory. I am sure she has many questions that will be very hard to answer.
This funeral will be a hard one and I am sure very tense for some. So many things that everyone doesn’t understand and will never have answers to. Please keep the family in your prayers.
Heather A. said,
December 7, 2006 at 6:01 am
My heart goes out to everyone involved. Not just to Dianne’s family and friends, but also Denny’s and definately those two little girls. Many of us who knew them are struggling just to understand why this happened, and obviously it’s caused some tension between people because of differing opinions…but lets focus on what’s really important here, the kids. I hope Roz will get the support and therapy she will need to get over this traumatic experience. Undoubtedly this will stick with her for her entire life, how could it not? I just pray that the girls will still grow up to live healthy and fullfilling lives even after this tragedy.
Dianne's Cousin said,
December 8, 2006 at 9:44 pm
I attended Dianne’s funeral today. The church was filled with her friends and family and one of her best friends read an awesome eulogy that she had wrote. At times people were laughing and other times crying. It was very touching.
This is my opinion and mine alone but I feel they should have had a closed casket with pictures of the Dianne we all remember as a smiling, vibrant, beautiful woman. The Dianne in the casket did not appear to be her at all. But I guess whatever the family needed to do is how it was done. God rest her wonderful soul.
MGH said,
December 9, 2006 at 12:59 am
It is a tragic thing that happened that is tearing apart the er and the icu in the facility where Diane and Denny used to work. Peole are looking to point fingers and find blame for this event to make sense of people we knew on the peer level how this should had never happen to anyone we knew. But it does and if we all have any type of faith at all in a higher power than ourselves then we will pray for ALL the families involved and not consider ourselves victims due to the loss but blessed to still be on this earth.
Becky J said,
December 10, 2006 at 12:13 am
Well, Name withheld for personal reasons, i also knew dianne, worked with her in the icu, she was a good nurse, worked hard, cared deeply for her patients friends and family, so her personality was boisterous to say the least, she always made us laugh, never did i have a dull shift when working with her, she never in the years i knew her ever did anything intentionally bad to anyone!! Just because she loved life, laughed at things and didnt care what anyone thought about her, that in ur eyes makes her a bad person? or a person who “instigated” her own murder?? Im here to tell you, Name withheld, that your comments made above were done as a name withheld because you are a coward, and because you too are an abuser, no one deserves to be hurt, no one ever asks to be stabbed over 30 times, but an abuser, possibly such as yourself, always seems to be able to, in there mind, justify there actions, like “she should have just kept her mouth shut” or “if she would have done it this way i wouldnt have had to hit her” So my cowardly coworker, i am assuming you still work at the hospital, i dare you, to look at those baby girls of diannes, in the eyes and tell them there mommy instagated her own horrific death, AND, caused Denny to leave a helpless baby upstairs alone for several hours, AND, left a bloody mother on the kitchen floor for the 8 year old to come home to!!!!!! Im not sure who you are, and honestly i hope i never find out, but you can believe the fact that you are just as bad of a person as denny crouse because you justified what he did, and i hope whomever you are in a relationship with figures you out before its too late for her/him, and runs as fast as they can to the nearest police station or domestic shelter because you have proven that you can justify any of your actions regardless of what they are, because obviously only the angelic people deserve to live!!!!!! I, unlike you, am not nameless, as you seen above my name is becky joslin, i can tell you my name because i have nothing to hide from anyone….
Dianne's Cousin said,
December 10, 2006 at 12:49 am
Very well said Becky J. I never met Dennis Crouse but I do know some people who knew him and they didn’t have anything good to say about him. One guy told me that he once beat Denny up for beating his first wife. Everyone who knew Dianne will forever miss her sense of humor and her smile.
Becky J said,
December 10, 2006 at 7:03 am
I have been dwelling on this horrible situation since i heard the news, because i knew Dianne, but also because i was once in an abusive relationship and now consider my self a “survivor” and after several days i have figured out a proper punishment to go along with whatever punishment that the law has to give him, i believe that the prison cell that Denny will soon reside ,God willing, should have that 911 call that Roz placed, piped into it and it should be played over and over and over again, thru his entire prison time!! Anyone else agree? Since poor Roz will have to live with that for the rest of her life, as well should he!!!
Chris said,
December 10, 2006 at 2:35 pm
Wanda,or whichever niece you are of Diannes mom.I wish you would be a little more specific in your name.You are not Diannes only cousin and I really dont want people in my small town to think I’m the cousin making comments about her. Since I am her only cousin on her dads side, people in this town would just assume its me, and I would never post comments about her online. Please use a little discretion in what you write.
Becky J said,
December 10, 2006 at 6:40 pm
Chris, i didnt see anything that “Diannes Cousin” wrote that is bad?? I am very sorry for your loss, and i hope and pray that all of Diannes family and friends are able to come to some sort of peace with this horrible situation, altho i certainly dont know how that will ever happen.
Michael M said,
December 10, 2006 at 8:40 pm
I am so very sorry for the loss of those 2 girls mother.
If she was a friend or relative my heart goes out to you as well. It was said correctly that we should be thinking of the girls, helping that poor little 8 year old cope with what she found when she came home from school.
As for Dennys followers just remember he admitted this terrible deed, thus making it to the all powerful media. If you think you could justify his actions because she was the instigator then you my friend are a truly twisted individual, I hope you seek counseling real soon. I have no need to hind behind an alias, I believe domestic violence is the most passed over crime out there. What happens behind closed doors would make some people sick to their stomachs. Denny did the worst thing a human being could do, MURDER IS MURDER! So step up to the plate, say your name and lets get you some much deserved help. We have facilities ready in our communitty to help you.
Again my thoughts and prayers go to Diannes Family and friends.
Mike Moore
Becky J said,
December 11, 2006 at 4:06 am
Nicely put Mike!! Your Mother did a wonderful job raising you there should be more guys out there like you!!!
Desiree said,
December 11, 2006 at 7:26 pm
Bottom line, the girls come first.
Both are doing great and both will have every need seen to, including therapy. They are currently in a very loving and stable environment. Hopefully everyone will see the right in this and keep them together. I know everyone involved very well - let’s just hope everyone sees the benefit in keeping the girls together in a loving home.
Dianne’s cousin - I understand your thoughts on the closed casket, but at times, especially in a case like this, we all need to come to grips with the violence of the act and recognize as the Pastor spoke about, that domestic violence is all around us. If we had not been able to see her, it would have been hidden. Domestic violence has been hidden too long - never in my life would I have ever thought Dianne would have been a victim of domestic violence.
But truthfully, we will all remember her as the vibrant personality - NOT as the body.
Desiree
homesweethome said,
December 11, 2006 at 7:53 pm
Very well said Desiree. Different people have different feelings about whether or not to have an open casket.
Funerals serve two purposes. Not only as a sign of respect for the deceased, but also as a time for the family to say goodbye. So ultimately, it is whatever the closest family feels is best for them.
Becky J said,
December 11, 2006 at 9:17 pm
Again, well said Desiree, i believe that this awful situation proves that domestic violence happens to even “normal” people, not just the low income, ethnic, or whatever people seem to believe abusers, and the abused should be like, on the outside Dianne and Denny were as normal as they come, above that even, both were in the business of saving lives, raising children, was Diannes top priority. But guess what, it happened, she was murdered in a domestically violent situation, whether this was the first time or millionth time they had a physical fight, it happened!! And im here to tell everyone its not just happening in situations like this, abusers are of every race, sex, religion, economic, and professional background, they can be the drug dealer/user, they can be the pastor at your church, the nurse or doctor caring for you or your loved one, as well the victim could be any of the above as well, and as a survivor i know that you do everything in your power to hide the fact you are being abused, because you already feel bad enuf about yourself you dont want to hear those comments such as “its her own fault for staying” or “she must be stupid to stay with a guy like that” etc, and when you move outside of your surroundings, away from your friends and family its just that much easier to put on the happy face. I am very active in the domestic violence awareness committee at the hospital and have been working closely with the shelter the last several months soon i will be taking the advocate training, my goal is to make everyone aware and hopefully teach people to learn the signs and to stand up and scream it out loud if they suspect anything like that from even a stranger to them, and i am also going to try and teach those closest to the situations some sensitivity to the issue such as the law enforcement officials etc. The day of Diannes funeral it became even more apparent to me that i also could have been the one lying there not looking like myself and even tho i knew it the moment i left my situation in 2000 that day really made it more of a reality, and i would hope that my family would have left my casket open as well for people to see what a horrible problem this is and to hopefully make a few people realize before it was too late. I think because of the person that Dianne was she wanted the same, she would want people to learn from her situation. If there is anything that i can do or say to help those girls stay together i will be there.
notanangeleither said,
December 12, 2006 at 2:50 am
Please let me correct my post I was addressing “name withheld for personal reasons”, whom used to be Jane, not sadsadsad.I am sorry for the mistake, I was angry at the terrible idea that someone could instigate their own death. Jane, I have seen your posts on the the article on the other site http://www.eastvalleytribune.com/index.php?sty=79786 and you are just as wrong there as you are here. I have copied you words here.
jane 2 quote:
Thank you to those of you who are calling out the media and the other judgemental people! How dare you people pass judgement on someone when all you know is what the media has spewed out. I also knew Denny, I work out at TRMC and worked with him for several years. I also knew how Dianne was, and she was NOT this angelic person the media is making her out to be, and neither is Denny a horrible cold blooded killer. For Christ’s Sake, the man is an EMT and a firefighter, he spent his life SAVING LIVES. Obviously there is SO much more to the story. You can NOT believe everything the media tells you, I don’t even necesarrily believe that Denny confessed. The media miscontrues and convilutes everything to make it look better in print, so who’s to say that they didn’t make that little bit up??? Something absolutely mind blowing must have happened in order for someone like Denny to do anything like that.
Victims aren’t always necessarily victims, sometimes they are instigators, and sometimes when they push someone so far, they will get much more than they bargained for. In this case, I think EVERYONE involved here was a victim…both Dianne AND Denny and especially those two beautiful little girls.
You make me sick to think that someone deserved to die.
RNINAZ said,
December 12, 2006 at 4:57 pm
Work just does not seem like work when there is a smiling, christmas singing, bouncy, energetic, smart young lady bouncing in our unit until today. Diane was a strong peer and a kind woman. When not discussing patient care it was sharing information about kids, Finding a new dentist or fun activities on days off. We had 2 patients in the same day have a birthday in our small ICU here, and only one patients was Dianes, she made sure both patients had some kind of “cardiac” delight from the cafeteria. She belted out happy birthday song not once but twice and then followed to one patient “I hope you have a good imagination to eat this as this is a cardiac diet”…As peers and woman we as staff would sit around and shoot the shit. She never complained one bit. I only new of Denny, and only spoke to him if I initiated it. He would come to the unit to “check” on Diane. We the nurses, would order sandwiches from a popular place a few times a week, Diane was always included yet said no and had lunch with Denny. He is strange in a controlling was as he would call on the phone and aks for Diane and when asked who could I say was calling?…Silence….just get Diane.
We as staff as woman as friends miss her. I can’t even imagine what the family and close friends are going through.
Diane’s sister is comming this weekend to pack up her home and bring the contents back to Iowa if anyone wants to help please contact admin at MGH. God Bless all of you.
Carissa said,
December 12, 2006 at 9:52 pm
I just wanted to say I’m very sorry for what happened to Diane. Roz was in our Brownie troop and for the little time we knew Diane we could see she was a very spunky person. She was alway very energetic and happy. I wish all her family well and if anyone can talk to Roz please tell her the Brownies miss her very much! The girls all went to Build-a-Bear and made a bear for Roz and one for her baby sister. Each girl put a heart in the bear to let her know how much they love and miss her. Please let me know if they don’t get them, it was very important to us and the only person we knew how to get ahold of was the case worker.
Thanks
Desiree said,
December 13, 2006 at 3:21 pm
Carissa,
I’ll put a post here when I hear the girls recieve the bears - and I’ll make sure Roz’s family tells her the Brownie’s miss her. I do know she’s excited to be back in Iowa with her friends there, but it will warm her to know she’s missed in Arizona too.
Desiree
Carissa said,
December 13, 2006 at 4:44 pm
Thanks Desiree!! We all really appreciate it!
Carissa
L.Anderson said,
December 14, 2006 at 3:26 am
As I was reading all the comments Domestic Violence happens every where and anywhere. Beck you are correct it can happen to anyone! It doesn’t matter whether you are a male or female, rich or poor or what race you are. ” IT HAPPENS EVERYWHERE”. Working in the law enforcement field I am able to see all types of domestic situations. No one ever deserves to be hit or killed no matter who provoked the situation. But as you know the mind works very mysteriously and everyone doesn’t think or do the same. Unfortunately sometimes when you are in a heated situation it is not always easy to walk away. But again no one deserves to die!
Everyone who trys to say “Dianne wasn’t a perfect angel” If everyone remembers the “Scott Peterson” story the media made Lacy out to be a “perfect angel”. Unfortunately she wasn’t the perfect angel either. There is no such thing as a perfect angel. But the # 1 fact is they didn’t deserve what happened to them. So it is irrelevant to say the deceased wasn’t a perfect angel cause they are not here to defend themselves!
The fact is when a person makes the wrong choice to hit or kill, there are consequences that the person will have to pay.
So all of you who thought they knew Dennis, just remember all of us who may think we know someone and would never believe that they could do something that horrific, well none of us knows what happens behind closed doors. Anyone can be that model citizen out in public but a monster behind those closed doors! Never should anyone condone any abuse or murder NO MATTER WHAT!
The saddest part of all of this, is when a child has to come home and see their parent laying in pool of blood and doesn’t understand why. Those memories will be with them forever! And for the “abuser” to leave that image for a child is unacceptable and unexcusable.
For the comment made below from name unknown:
“Victims aren’t always necessarily victims, sometimes they are instigators, and sometimes when they push someone so far, they will get much more than they bargained for. Take that however you wish!”
In most domestic situations if a person (male or female) are in an ongoing abusive situation most victims are not the instigators because they are afraid of the abuser. And the “instigator” is the “abuser” because they are the ones who are jealous or maybe insecure. A “victim” is a “victim” no matter if they were the instigator or not. And still doesn’t make it right to hurt or kill someone! But I will agree that when someone (who is the instigator) pushes someone so far they don’t realize what could happen to them. But I see that in more of a non domestic situation. But how long does it take for someone to break before a bad situation happens tho?
jutta said,
December 17, 2006 at 5:15 am
I finally am writing this reply because when I first read what Dennys’ coworker said about people not knowing Dianne, and then going on to defend dennys’ actions, i was too heartsick and I was grieving for my friend who had to die a horrible death at the hands of her husband. I find it utterly contemptable that anyone would condone Dennys’ actions or that anyone would even try to explain away his actions and make it appear Diannes’ fault. Oh, let me see–she wanted to get beat up and stabbed that horrible day-huh? Dianne wanted to lie on the floor all day and have her daughter find her, and she wanted to have her other daughter who was onlt 18 months old to be alone all day in the house with her body ? What world is he living on? At least I have the guts to write my name to the comment, I think I know who you are anyway and so do some others. I worked with Dianne and I considered her a very good nurse, she knew her stuff, she helped save many lives, she was a very responsible nurse. when we did work together she always would help the other nurses if she had time and she didn’t expect anything in return. She was a very caring person, a very vibrant, fun and energetic person. She said what she meant and she stood by what she said. She did not take any guff.I was proud to be considered a friend by her. I too am a person who means what she says and I do not “just let it go” to “keep the peace”, so I guess when I do meet my maker, I will have some creep like the jerk who wrote about Dianne, they will also write the same about me. What a sorry individual you are, and obviosly you aren’t very smart to write those horrible things about a murdered woman. God forgive you for the crap you wrote. I miss Dianne, I didn’t want her to move. We are all human and I still considered her a much better person than most. I pray everyday for her and her family and also all her friends who miss her and are grieving just as I am. Jutta
Rita Petersen said,
December 17, 2006 at 2:08 pm
I am writing to comment about my friend Dianne. Dianne and I worked together for several years - quite a few years ago. She was a nurse in a Public Health Department in which I am a secretary. She is truly one of the most wonderful people I have ever met. She was silly and funny and loved life. She also loved people - young and old. I was older than her -much older, but still we became friends right away. She worked in our office about 3 years and then left our office to move back to the area where her family lived. We have kept in contact and have remained friends ever since. She is still my dear friend. She was a wonderful person, caring friend, awesome nurse, great daughter and sister and above all the best mother a child could have. She laughed alot - I can still her laugh - it was a laugh that made everyone else laugh also. Angelic? What is angelic? Is it perfect? Who is? Everyone if they think hard enough- can find things that they have done that may be a little less than angelic. Dianne - yes one of those. She loved to have fun - maybe once in awhile a little too loud may a little too much fun- but was always having fun - she would never hurt anyone else. She stood her ground when she was right on things and did not back down when she knew she was right. She would not lay a mean hand on anyone. She was a good person - she was my friend - I miss her so much it is hard to describe. The lives of anyone who knew her will never be the same. I cannot describe the feeling I have inside about the horror of the way she died. It is truly unthinkable. My heart breaks for her beautiful daughters. Her funeral was a nice funeral. The church lit up with Christmas lights - a lot of lights - like she would have liked and also adorned with many, many Poinsetta plants as well as other plants.
AboutDenny Crouse - I did not know him really - my husband and I had seen him only a few times. At their wedding and at a going away party when they moved to Ariz and a couple of other times. I have nothing to say about him as I don’t know him - only in my mind what I now think that he must have been. The papers and his family make him out to be some great person. Supposedly he did all these great things for his Iowa community, blah, blah, blah. Obviously he had done well for himself, he seemed well to do. But then all that does not matter now. As I have commented to other friends of Diannes - whatever he did that was good no longer matters. Anything that was ever good has been wiped away by his last unbelievable and unforgivable act of murderous horror that he committed on his wife, and the unforgivable act of leaving a helpless child alone in a house with a dead mother as well as allowing an 8yr old to come home to find this. What good is a man like this - no good. This horrific murderous crime is the only thing he will ever be remembered for.
Desiree said,
December 17, 2006 at 8:38 pm
In reading these posts, it has in a weird way helped me come to grips with what happened to Dianne. I guess I’m starting to deal with it — I didn’t really have a chance when it first happened. And while I consider myself to be an educated person I have had my eyes opened in a very new way to the violence that happens around us every day - in the very homes all around us.
Yesterday as I did errands and was caught up in a guilt trip that Dianne won’t be doing these kinds of things again I heard on the news about the horrific events in Kansas City. I shook as a listened and wondered at the lunacy in someone’s mind. Then, I thanked God Denny left that house. If he had waited, the ending could have been even worse - at this point, nothing seems incomprehensible.
And that will be Dianne’s ultimate revenge - her 2 beautiful girls will live vibrant lives for her.
Desiree
Friend of Roz said,
December 18, 2006 at 4:18 am
I am roslyn’s friend and she was in my class. Our class really misses her and so does our brownie girl scout group. I hope we can talk to her again someday and I wish her a merry christmas.
When my daughter asked what I was reading, I explained it was people telling how they knew Dianne & Roslyn and she wanted to write how much she missed Roslyn. I was Roslyn’s Brownie leader here in Arizona. All the girls had met both Dianne & Denny picking up & dropping off Roslyn. It was difficult for them to understand what happened and that they couldn’t say goodbye to Roslyn. Dianne would stay for 20 minutes or so after meetings to talk & get involved with the girls. She helped teach them Chinese Jump Rope just the week before. I saw a mom who loved her daughter very much. My heart goes out to Roslyn & her sister. Roslyn has a special place in the hearts of the girls in my troop. We wish her the best in life and won’t forget her.
Sr. M Barb said,
December 19, 2006 at 6:22 am
What ever has been said,has been said.Worked with Diane for a long time enjoyed her smile and her laughter,considered her a friend.Visited at her home to see the new baby and Roz danced for me.I felt Diane had finally found hapiness.When I heard the news of her death was stunned beyond comprehension.My prayers are with her family and of course those two beautiful girls All of her friends will forever miss her. Barb (the old one) I admired her for her free spirit.
Laurie Adam said,
December 21, 2006 at 8:19 pm
Oh MY!
I have not even read half of what has been written here but I am seeing RED after reading the one referring to Diane as an instigator getting more than she bargained for.
There is NO EXCUSE under the law, except self defence and in some cases insanity, for murder. There is NO excuse morally or ethically for murder of one’s own wife and mother of one’s child, except under the same circumstances mentioned above.
Domestic abuse is rampant, many men and women are living in the situation and for a lot of complicated reasons they put up with it and don’t leave at the first sign of it. The law does not protect those who are being abused, it protects the abuser. I know this from personal experience. If small things that occur are reported, the law’s words often are….”well, we can’t do anything because no one was really hurt.” So I guess the theory is that they would rather wait until someone gets hurt…or WORSE…before they will take any action. It makes it real tough for anyone to get away and feel safe…ever! The abusers don’t like not having control over the one they abused, and they often continue to try to make their lives miserable.
My heart goes out to the eight year old and her little sister, and to Diane’s friends and family. I am sure there was plenty of “stuff” that went on , that she put up with, leading up to this incident. My heart does NOT go out to Mr. Crouse, no matter how many lives he saved or what kind of good citizen he may have proven himself to be in the past. There were plenty of other options for him to choose were he not happy with Diane. If he was such a neat and together guy he could have pursued one of those. Whoever wrote that makes me sick…you probably believe O.J. Simpson is an innocent man too.
Laurie Adam said,
December 21, 2006 at 8:35 pm
In addition, I would like to add, that I know firsthand that these people (domestic abusers) are PROS at presenting one facade to the public and being the complete opposite behind closed doors. I understand that it is hard for those who only see the public persona of these men and women to get this all reconciled in their minds, it is a lot to get one’s brain around, but it is the absolute TRUTH. We NEVER know what is goiong on between two people behind closed doors. I know I have gone on a soapbox here, but one last comment. ANY of you reading this who suspect abuse going on anywhere with any friend or relative, reach out to that person. You may get rebuffed. A good idea might be to have the local numbers for domestic abuse assistance with you when you present the subject. At least mention it. The way I look at it is at least you have done SOMETHING, even if they blow you off. And personally I would rather risk getting blown off and know that I at least tried to help than to feel guilty if something awful would eventually happen. We all need to examine those little mental “I shoulds” and “I ought to’s.” Ask ourselves the best and worst outcomes of the situation if we were or were not to follow up on the “should” or the”ought to.” Helping someone get out of an abusive situation would be a wonderful legacy for Diane, her family and friends. This problem is rampant in our society and takes a terrible toll on the physical and emotional well being of many….the victim him or her self and it has a ripple effect spreading to all who touch their lives.
Becky J said,
December 22, 2006 at 3:45 pm
You are SOOOOOO right Laurie, i’ve been pushing that down peoples throats now for a long time, that they should start getting involved in domestic violence!! All it takes is to open up the lines of communication to that victim, even if you get blown off the first time i can almost guarantee that when the victim feels ready to leave the people that she blew off how ever long ago will be the first people she/he thinks of, and will either come to you or pull out that pamphlet/phone number or whatever you gave her and begin the journey to becomming a survivor! As im sure everyone has read my many “soapboxes” i too am a survivor, and the people i went to first were the ones who approached me when they realized what a bad situation i was in. So all of you survivors, friends of current victims, and even strangers of victims, stand up, be bold, go to that person who is being abused and let them know you care and are ready to help when they are ready to be helped! Knowing Dianne and what kind of person she was, she would definatly want something good to come of her very horrible situation. I can also promise you that even if you feel bad for being blown off or ignored, that will be NOTHING compared to how you would feel for NOT getting involved.
Laurie Adam said,
December 23, 2006 at 3:15 pm
I fear that the memory and impact of Diane and her tragic end is waning a bit with the hustle and bustle of the holidays. I just would like to reinforce with everyone again…and Becky I would like to talk to you more….one of the best things to do in Diane’s memory is reach out to someone who is a vicitim or to anyone you even have a slight suspicion about their being a victim…I bet you are right. Read about domestic abuse and become knowledgable. Because of the abuser/victim complicated dynamics these situations tend to be among the best hidden and easily ignored social ills in this country.
I wish good things for Diane’s daughters and her family this holiday season. I am happy the girls are with Gail, if you can’t have your mom, who better to be with than her sister? I know she will do a fine job under these tough sircumstances. I bet the little girls have a lot of their mom in them and with the help of friends and family they will weather this tragedy.
Again, to all who read, in Diane’s memory, I implore you to reach out to any suspected abuse victim. Please understand you may be rebuffed. The situation may be denied. But if we all sit back and do NOTHING when and where will the next Diane-like tragedy occur? And there is a LOT of misery leading up to those kind of tragedies.
One more thing. I do have a heart, and I realize this must have had a terrible impact on Denny Crouse’s family. This has to be a difficult holiday season for all of them too, and I sympathize with them there. The abusers are after all just human beings, but they are human beings with BIG problems that impact a LOT of innocent people. I guess one other thing I would ask in Diane’s is that as well as reaching out to abuse victims, perhaps offer help to abuser’s or suspected abuser’s you might know. Anything we can do to prevent even one black eye, cruel words and name calling, someone living an intimidated life will be well worth it.
Rita Petersen said,
December 23, 2006 at 11:43 pm
I believe that the memory of Dianne and what happened to her will never wane. She will be remembered always by those that knew her. I was on the phone earlier this week with another of her friends. We were talking about how she absolutely loved Christmas. Her flair for decorating for Christmas was just awesome! I remember being at her house last year - it was so beautiful - her Christmas tree, many outdoor lights, candy canes everywhere. Roz loved every bit of it as much as her mother did (Cecelia was still a little small to appreciate it - but she would have this year). I pray that her children, her sisters, her dad are doing okay. I also pray that somehow Dianne can know all the love and compassion that has been shown for her and her family. All these messages - she certainly was a loved person.
Becky J said,
December 24, 2006 at 9:44 am
I would be happy to talk to you more Laurie, my email is bush_rn2002@yahoo.com feel free to contact me at any time, i also have a myspace page its http://www.myspace.com/bush_rn2006. I wish to everyone a very MERRY CHRISTMAS, espically to Dianne’s family, i hope they can have a little peace and joy, i pray for them every day.
Trying2BNeutral said,
December 29, 2006 at 3:15 am
I just recently discovered this blog site and was genuinely surprised at the callous tone some people have expressed towards Dianne. I was somewhat acquainted with Dianne, but also knew Denny through my husband, who did consider him a friend. As some people on this website have pointed out, Denny did have some qualities that appealed to certain types of people. And others have made quite a big deal about his contributions to the community through his work. Which makes his incredibly irresponsible actions even more inexcusable. Yes, Denny saved lives through his paramedic work. But where was his compassion when it came to saving his own wife’s life? He had the knowledge, skills, and insight to possibly alter the outcome of this tragic event and simply chose not to. There has been much focused placed on Dianne’s “behavior and reputation” and some have even gone so far as to call her an instigator. This is unacceptable and referred to as “victim blaming,” which is a re-victimization of the victim and a common response by uninformed people in Domestic Violence situations. It is never okay to engage in and simply allows the abuser to escape accountability. The focus should NOT be on what the victim did, rather the focus should be on what the perpetrator did to the victim. It is interesting that individuals on this blog say they don’t condone Denny’s actions, yet are unable to realize that by rationalizing, misconstruing,blaming and making excuses they are supporting and condoning actions that are morally corrupt.
Becky J said,
December 29, 2006 at 9:07 am
AMEN!!!!!
natalie said,
January 11, 2007 at 10:09 am
Laurie wrote that unless it was “self defense” nobody has the right to murder another!!! Does she know that it wasn’t ! I worked with denny before he moved and he told us about a incident where Dianne had pulled a knife on him and that it frightened him! Do we know that that again was not the case! I am not saying Dianne deserved what happened and I am not saying that what he did was right, because it wasn’t. I truly don’t believe that Denny was in the right frame of mind at the time of the incident or after, I don’t think Denny consciously left the baby home alone or thought about Roz coming home, I think he was in shock!!! I know that is no excuse to do that or to leave that for an 8 yr old to find but it is what it is !!! I just feel that all the speculation and pointing fingers needs to stop! Diannes gone and hopefully Denny will get everything he deserve’s but all the writing and arguing CAN NEVER bring dianne back . Its horrible , its a great loss but what needs to happen now is all this energy needs to be redirected towards those children left behind, and all the negativity that surrounds it . The girls should not be witheld from Dennys family as they have been, they should be allowed contact with them, it is not Dennys families fault what happened, just as it is not Dianne’s families fault for not being able to see the “monster she was married too” as some of you repeatly point out. These girls need to be surrounded by as much love as possible regardless of which side of the family!
Becky J said,
January 12, 2007 at 3:57 am
Natalie, im sorry you feel as you do, but people heal from these things in there own way, and i think its a lot healthier to get on here and voice an opinion than holding it all inside to fester and then really say something that is inappropriate, you are right saying dianne didnt deserve what she got, no one deserves an ending like she got regardless of the situation, and unfortunatly if she did that too him a long time ago maybe they shouldve seeked counseling or figured out healthier ways to outlet there anger, abuse is wrong regardless of who is the abuser and who is the abused, no one knows and probably never will know the exact happenings of that day except for those two, and as far as the girls being kept from dennys family that really needs to be at there aunts discretion maybe she feels it would be too much for roz to handle right now, and im sure eventually things will work out how they are supposed to, those girls deserve the best and will need so much more emotional support than that of children with a mother and a father, so right now i believe there aunt knows whats best.
Barbara B said,
January 13, 2007 at 3:40 am
I somehow happened upon this URL\website\story. It got me thinking… I normally would just read and not “say” anything but this is WAY too important of a subject, so I must say something…
As a PRIOR victim of physical abuse, that much that is said here on this site is true. I say “PRIOR” very proudly because I did finally find the courage to leave my abusive relationship. What made me leave my marriage? Two things… I first asked myself 1) Do you want your son to continue to see this abuse and possibly grow up to be the same way? (As many of us victims know, abuse can be “inherited” if seen often enough). And then my question #2 to myself… 2) when my son leaves this house when he is older, how happy will I be living with just my abuser?
Once I honestly answered those two questions, I had my answer. I shortly thereafter filed for divorce and moved out of state. The moving out of State part was partly for fear of my life and partly because knew I would get harassment from him that I could not endure (and already started to get) from my Ex.
Happy to say, my son is now a very well-adjusted young adult. I taught him, throughout all his younger years, even through the abuse, to be compassionate and well thoughtful as far as others went. I am very proud of him. I think in just the last year or so I have finally let the fear subside that he would grow up an abuser.
“THEY” are everywhere. As several have stated here, but I want to repeat…domestics abuse does NOT discriminate against race, economic power, or any other factor. It is ALL around us.
I have finally found the courage, in just the last few years, to talk about this. To start being my open to my family, my friends, and my VERY loving (and supportive) 2nd husband. The fear, and abuse, is ALL around us. You DO NOT have to look far…
God, please “bless” these children…
homesweethome said,
January 13, 2007 at 5:05 am
Barbara B. thank you for stepping forward and for giving a voice to your experience. I kind of have a motto= It is up to those who have gone before to teach the ones coming behind them. That is true for raising children and for those have survived abuse.
It is possible to survive, and to go forward. But it takes courage. I am glad you had the courage and I am glad you survived. You have a lot to contribute and I thank you for doing so.
Becky J said,
January 16, 2007 at 1:21 pm
Denny was arraigned awhile ago and rumor has it around our town that he pleaded not guilty, does anyone out there know what is going on? when is trial date,etc i havnt noticed any updates lately so if anyone can send me a link or some info that would be great. Thanks
Family of Roslyn said,
January 17, 2007 at 9:11 pm
Denny is not Roslyn’s Dad! She has a dad in Iowa that lives 5 minutes away from her and sees her periodically. Roslyn should never see anyone from his family again.
Desiree said,
January 18, 2007 at 3:31 am
Carrisa & Friend of Roz’s
Both girls recieved your thoughtful gifts, Roz truly loves her bear (especially the outfit!) and her sister carries her rabbit everywhere.
Roz says hello, she misses her Brownie troup but she’s enjoying school in Iowa too. Tell everyone in the troup hello from her.
Desiree
homesweethome said,
January 18, 2007 at 5:25 am
Family of Roslyn, frequently when there is a steparent involved, the title of stepdad gets shortened to dad. I know at times that may be painful, and especially in this situation. I do thank you for straightening that out for me though.
Becky J said,
January 22, 2007 at 1:23 am
Has anyone heard anything new yet?
Family of Roslyn said,
January 22, 2007 at 2:56 am
I’ve been searching the internet for it daily and I cannot find anything.
homesweethome said,
January 22, 2007 at 3:24 am
Pinal County has public access to court records here
http://www.supreme.state.az.us/publicaccess/notification/search.asp
Enter his name click go- then on the next page find his name and click details
Becky J said,
January 22, 2007 at 9:39 am
Thank you, i went there and it looks like nothing new yet.
Trying2BNeutral said,
January 25, 2007 at 2:16 am
As a concerned citizen, I fully support Rosalyn’s family’s decision not to allow Denny or his family any type of visitation with the girls. As previously mentioned, we were aquainted with Dianne, but also with Denny. Some of our friends still maintain contact with members of Denny’s family, and we are just appalled at their attitude towards Dianne and their annoying ability to make excuses for Denny’s horrendous behavior. And the notion of self defense or Denny “snapping” as some people have imlpied is simply ridiculous. Denny gave up his right to see his girls when he murdered their mother.
In addition, we also have links with Law Enforcement in the community. And from what I understand Dianne and her family had good reason to be suspicious of Denny. As did Law Enforcement officials in AZ. It would be vulgar and disrespectful to divulge any of those details now and I’m sure once the trial starts, they will come out. In the meantime, we will pray for both these little girls and be inspired by Rosalyn’s tremendous courage and resilience.
Desiree said,
January 27, 2007 at 10:32 pm
Thanks for your comments Trying2BNeutral but I did want to clarify that Dianne’s family has allowed visits from Denny’s family to see the girls. They don’t hold it agaist his family members for what Denny did and wouldn’t aim to keep them out of the girls’ lives - that is unless it was upsetting in any way to them, which it hasn’t been.
Carissa said,
January 30, 2007 at 5:10 pm
Thanks for the update Desiree, I’m going to print out your response and read it to the girls at their next meeting they will be soo excited. I’m glad they both love their gifts. If there is any way we can get an address to send letters could you e-mail me? carissa@mfsrealestate.com If not I understand. Thanks!
Natalie said,
February 9, 2007 at 9:09 am
I guess everyone is forgetting that there are two little girls involved …not just ROZ…, and maybe Roz doesnt need to see Dennys family but what about Cecelia, Denny is her father and his children are her Brother and Sisters just as equally as ROZ is !!!!
Chuck P said,
March 21, 2007 at 1:37 am
The Dianne’s family is quite capable of desiding what is best for the girl!
Chuck
(Edited per HSH)
A Red Rock Neighbor said,
March 30, 2007 at 4:39 am
I frequent this site often to “check in” on the girls. I worry that they will come across it someday in a “Google” search as I did, and be saddend by such harsh remarks. I am a neighbor of the Crouse’s, and neighbors talk. We talk about how sad and devistating this was to our beautiful block, what’s happening with the case, how the girls may be fairing, and what’s happening with the house. I drive by their house at least 4 or more time per day for school drops, groceries, or play dates, etc. We are reminded daily, albeit several times daily of what happened there.
I have had the opportunity to meet Gail and her husband, and they are amazing loving, people! I have also met Denny’s son and some other family members as well, all of which have been very polite. We have offered to bring down dinner, drinks, we have offered and helped all of them with moving personal possesions out of the home. We know this is hard for everyone and we try to take care of and respect those family members and friends no matter who they may be. We also do weeding, mowing, door hanger clearing, and watching out for the home. We will never know all of the details, and quite frankly I am not so sure we care to, so we talk about hope in that everyone will recover in their own way, and turn anger and bitterness into something helpful, positive if you will.
Most of all we talk about missing our neighbors, and wish love, health and happiness to their precious children and all the wonderful things the future
holds for them! Thank you for your time.
homesweethome said,
March 30, 2007 at 5:35 am
Red Rock Neighbor, thank you for your input. You sound like you have a very nice neighborhood to live in. Though I know that you will never forget, hopefully at some point someone will move into the home and the neighborhood will be able to accept a new identity for it.
After a loss like this, many potent emotions like shock, fear and anger run high and many people feel the need to express those emotions. As time passes, they are better able to cope with those feelings.
KITABUG said,
June 15, 2007 at 3:14 pm
I DID NOT KNOW EITHER ON OF THESE PEOPLE, BUT WHAT I DO KNOW IS THAT IT IS TIME TO START HEALING. FOR THE PERSON WHO MADE THE COMMENT ABOUT DIANE NOT BEING AN ANGEL, THAT IS NOT THE POINT RIGHT IS RIGHT AND WRONG IS WRONG. EVERY COUPLE HAS THERE PROBLEMS, SO JUST BECAUSE THEY ARGUED OR EVEN IF SHE STARTED THE ARGUMENTS, THAT JUSTIFIED HIM KILLING HER? GET REAL AND THINK BEFORE YOU GO AND SLANDER SOMEONE, ESPECIALLY SOMEONE WHO IS DECEASED. ANOTHER QUESTION IS HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT WENT ON WHERE YOU THERE? HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT HE SAID WAS THE TRUTH? DON’T SEE THINGS ONE SIDED AND IF YOU DON’T REALLY KNOW DON’T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL
Makayla said,
June 30, 2007 at 12:12 pm
I can’t be bothered with anything these days, but shrug. I just don’t have anything to say recently. I haven’t gotten much done recently. Nothing seems worth thinking about.
Iowa Gal said,
August 17, 2007 at 11:06 pm
Are there any updates about this case?
A Red Rock Trail Neighbor said,
August 22, 2007 at 4:20 pm
I was wondering myself. Looks like it is going to a jury trail within the next few months. The house went for auction on the steps of the FLorence courthouse mid-July… I don’t know what it went for. All we see now is a lockbox on the door. A neighbor and myself continue to keep the grounds trimmed and well kept.
If anyone else knows anything that would be great. How are the girls???
becky j said,
August 27, 2007 at 4:50 am
From what i understand his trial begins in January, over a year after he murdered her. Rumor has it that he is pleading insanity or something like that claiming that he doesnt remember what happened for 2wks prior to killing her. Also i hear the girls are doing well.
Iowa Gal said,
September 11, 2007 at 1:59 am
I figured he would plead insanity. That is so lame. If he couldn’t remember anything for two weeks prior to murdering her, how could he perform his job as a paramedic manager? I pray that justice will prevail in this case and he will get what he deserves.
BSernel said,
September 12, 2007 at 5:17 am
Sept.11,2007 Sr.Mary Barb still misses Diane’s smile and free spirit. I know she’s watching over her girls from HEAVEN.
Beth Lenning said,
November 5, 2007 at 5:04 am
Has anyone heard anything new or when his trial will be?
homesweethome said,
November 5, 2007 at 10:24 am
I just did a couple of searches and don’t see anything after the arrest. A comment from Becky J indicates the trial is scheduled for Jan.
Jenny said,
November 12, 2007 at 7:09 pm
http://www.supreme.state.az.us/publicaccess/notification/search.asp
It will go to jury trial on January 23, 2008. This is the web site that I found
this information on, it is the online court records for Arizona.
homesweethome said,
November 13, 2007 at 12:02 am
Thanks Jenny, that’s a big help.
becky j said,
November 18, 2007 at 2:50 am
The anniversary date of this tragedy is comming upon us, the first year those girls will be without there mother on Thanksgiving, How much has the baby grown and changed? And Roz??? she will be a young lady soon, how sad is it that this happened to her and to her family and those two beautiful innocent children. We miss Dianne a lot, i hope she is resting in peace and i hope that justice will be served come Jan 23rd. My thoughts and prayers are with the girls and the rest of diannes family during this holiday season and throughout the rest of the year.
Jenny said,
November 20, 2007 at 4:21 pm
I would also like to send my thoughts and prayers to Dianne’s beautiful little girls, Dianne’s family and Dianne’s 3 best friends, Desiree, Liz and Jennifer.
You are all thought of quite often. It’s so hard to believe that Dianne is gone.
I have thought of Dianne many times in the last year, maybe even more so now that she’s gone than when she was here. She is missed by so many people. Dianne was really a good person who loved with her heart, she was
always there for her friends and family. For those of you in the family and her best friends that will be attending the trial….peace be with you….may you have the strength to listen, attend, and may justice prevail!!!
Iowa Gal said,
January 24, 2008 at 9:37 pm
Head lines on the local paper read:
Trial postponed. Is anyone surprised about that? I am not. And for medical reasons. Of course. How disappointing for the families and friends of Dianne. He’s guilty. He admitted it so why should it be so drawn out. Just sentence him to life in prison with no possibilty of parole. EVER!!!! But I know that’s not the way the system works. I am not aware if Arizona has the death penalty or not. But even then, the accused can live for many years on death row. I pray that this trial gets done and over with soon so her family can have the closure that they need.
Othogal said,
January 25, 2008 at 5:25 am
wow, Iowa Gal, maybe there should be a trial before they “just sentence him and let him stay in prison the rest of his life without the possiblility of parole.” And if you did some research, yes, Arizona is a capital punishment state. The accused, not yet convicted had a heart prodedure awhile back, so there is a medical reason. I am in agreement that the family, both families, need closure on this.
homesweethome said,
January 25, 2008 at 6:38 am
Othogal, what type of heart procedure did he have done? When was it? My father had several done and they aren’t fun. I believe after his graft he was back at work in about 8 weeks- his angiograms were a little less than two weeks off. He worked construction and was older too so they gave him a little more time off. I bet he was glad for the extra time before trial. I wish that Dianne had had some warning and extra time so that she could say the things she had wanted to say to people, do the last things that she had wanted to do and actually prepare for what was happening to her.
Shelly Knudson said,
January 28, 2008 at 10:09 pm
Othogal- what type of “closure” can anyone expect with this situation. Justice is what is needed and that can only happen in a courtroom. I do have sympathy for Dianne and her family, I also have sympathy for the relatives of Mr. Crouse. What I don’t have is understanding of our legal system. It has been way too long for the truth to be told, that is what we need. To try and make sense of this is impossible but the story needs to be told. I hope that Mr. Crouse is well enough to get up on the stand and tell the truth.
jutta said,
January 29, 2008 at 2:17 am
I REALLY CANNOT UNDERSTAND HOW ANYONE CAN CONDONE A PERSON KILLING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING. NOW OTHOGAL, I WOULD LOVE TO SEE DENNY CROUSE GET THE DEATH PENALTY, AT LEAST HE IS STILL ALIVE AND WALKING AND TALKING, WE WHO LOVED AND MISS DIANNE KNOW THAT SHE CAN’T WALK OR TALK TO US ANYMORE. NO MATTER HOW MAD A PERSON GETS, THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO KILL THEM, AND IF ANYONE BELIEVES THEY DO HAVE THAT RIGHT THEN YOU NEED TO GET SOME HELP. I STILL CANNOT BELIEVE THAT SHE IS GONE, AND I CANNOT IMAGINE THE PAIN OF HER CHILDREN, ESPECIALLY HER ELDEST, WHO DENNY HAD NO FEELING FOR, OTHERWISE HE WOULD NOT HAVE LET HER COME HOME AND FIND HER MOM DEAD, WITH ALL THE BLOOD EVERYWHERE AND HER BABY SISTER UPSTAIRS IN BED ALL DAY. WHAT KIND OF PERSON DOES THAT? I DON’T FEEL SORRY FOR HIM, HE DIDN’T FEEL SORRY FOR DIANNE OR HER KIDS, HE JUST THOUGHT OF HIMSELF. SO HE HAD A PROCEDURE DONE, SO WHAT? YOU SOW WHAT YOU REAP. AT LEAST DENNY IS ALIVE AND HAS TIME ON HIS HANDS. WHAT ABOUT DIANNE? GOD BLESS HER FAMILY AND I PRAY THAT GOD WILL PROTECT THEM THROUGH THE TRIAL AND AFTER.
Becky J said,
January 29, 2008 at 11:25 am
from what i understand he had heart bypass surgery, and as a nurse i know that he is capabale of sitting in a court room after bypass surgery, they arent asking him to do any sort of strenuous activity, just sit there, yep itll be stressfull on him, but thats life, he chose his destiny, i think its horrible that they are postponing this trial, unless his surgery was less than a week ago there is no reason he cant sit there and recieve his punishment.
Becky J said,
January 30, 2008 at 4:29 am
I just read the paper and Dennys trial has been reschedualed for May 20th!!!! What a bunch of crap…..4 months to bring him to justice, he admitted to doing it……….I take care of older sicker patients EVERYDAY that have had that same procedure done and they only wait 6 weeks post op to go back to work, but are up walking around continuously the DAY OF SURGERY!!! 4 months to make her family and friends wait for some sort of closure….if there ever can be any in this situation……..I feel so bad for her sister and those innocent little girls…..their mother layed alone and bled to death and this *#@^ is laying up in a cell with TV and cable and 3 meals a day sucking the taxpayers dry……..sounds to me like he is crying victim, when the real victims here are dianne and her kids and family…Hell he is even getting away without having to pay child support to that baby.
homesweethome said,
January 30, 2008 at 4:53 am
BeckyJ, it is understandable that you are upset. And I agree that IMO he is most likely ready for trial. But you also have to look at it from the judge’s perspective. If the judge forced the trial despite the defense’s request for a continuance due to medical reasons, then if he is found guilty you can be sure that the defense will ask for an appeal.
If the defense makes a convincing case that the medical condition prevented Dennis from understanding or cooperating in his own defense, then the defense will most likely win that appeal. Even something as simple as pain meds or adjusting to new meds will be looked at on appeal. IMO the judge is excercising prudence, he wants to make sure that if there is a conviction that it will stand up to an appeal.
It has been a year and two months since Dianne’s death and I agree it is a long time to wait for justice. But it isn’t uncommon for a murder trial to be a year or more after the crime.
Take what comfort you can in the fact that the case isn’t unsolved, the trial will happen eventually. It is a delay not a dismissal. And I take it that he didn’t get bond in all this time? So even without a verdict, he is still incarcerated. I know that by now all are probably wanting to get this over with so that they can do their best to move on. But it is important to do it in a way that will stick.
Becky J said,
January 31, 2008 at 6:14 am
Very true, HSH, i never thought of it that way. The last thing her family needs is the case to be messed up for such a silly reason….they have definatly had enough to deal with.
su said,
February 9, 2008 at 2:18 am
I think you all have too much time on your hands, and should leave the convictions to the courts. You dont know the story, so give it a break. Your all talking about Dianes family, but there are more people involved ..there is also Dennis’s family…there are more victims , this is just not one sided,but you all make it that way. Leave the convictions to the courts and look for the skeletons in your own closet.
su said,
February 9, 2008 at 2:26 am
I am truely sorry about the death of this woman….and no one deserves to be killed…but there is also Dennis’s family that has to live with this terrible thing . ….everyone that has been touched by this terrible thing is suffering…especially the children..so lets all make it as easy as possible and pray for all concerned
homesweethome said,
February 9, 2008 at 2:53 am
Su, no one is trying to be the court here. But people do have the right to their opinions on what happened. And I believe that there are some friends and relatives who have lost someone they are close that may have some anger and should have a right to express their anger.
I can agree that this would be hard on his family. They love him and probably would like to support him. I believe that you can love your kids, but still not love everything they do. But if you want to be angry because people talk about what happened, then for that look to the person who caused it…. and it wasn’t anyone here.
Iowa Gal said,
February 9, 2008 at 11:49 pm
To Su:
How do you know that none of us know the story? Guilty by his own confession. It is what it is. And it was horribly wrong no matter how you look at it. I do have some sympathy for his family. I am sure they are suffering too. I do have faith that justice will prevail here.
Dianne's friend forever said,
February 12, 2008 at 5:21 am
To SU: Your comments are very cruel at this point in time. Why are you even reading this website. I can’t wait for the trial to be over with and the truth comes out… What will your comment be then. Go find another website to vent your feelings. What is your connection with Mr. Crouse anyway?”
Dianne's friend forever said,
February 12, 2008 at 6:56 pm
This is for SU, I just read your comment again and I am more upset than ever. You stated “I am truely sorry about the death of this woman.”
“This woman” was Dianne Crouse, and her death was a murder…..
So please think about what you say.
Iowa Gal said,
February 13, 2008 at 12:47 am
Very well said, Dianne’s friend forever.I don’t see how anyone can ANY sympathy for Dennis Crouse. His family, yes, but not him!
Another of Dianne's Friends forever said,
February 20, 2008 at 12:42 am
Dianne was my dear friend - and I think of her often and still miss her very much. I have a comment for SU:
There is some sympathy to be held for Mr Crouse’s family - it’s too bad others can see that. Denny Crouse obviously had no caring or feelings about his own family. If he had had any feelings for anyone of his family members maybe he would have thought of the repercussion they would have to deal with at his horrible action of cold blooded murder. I have met this man - his cold nature - he cares nothing for anyone but himself. The sooner justice is done the better!
Desiree said,
February 20, 2008 at 5:10 pm
Another thought onto all this…the main reason Denny isn’t having his trial sooner truly IS because of our justice system - basically, it’s a low case on the totem pole. When you have someone who has admitted guilt, let’s be serious, as a strung out and overworked prosecutor, you’re going to have to bump up murder cases that are unsolved and whose family is nearby lobbying to have justice. It’s not to say Dianne’s family hasn’t been lobbying to get this done, it’s just that they aren’t there physically and prosecutors are only human.
I recently read something about how spouses who commit murder in the U.S. almost never get the death penalty - in fact, most receive little (if any) jail time. HSH, I would be interested if you know any statistics about this and if it’s true.
Honestly, I don’t know where I am on the death penalty. As much as I want Dianne avenged, I’m not sure if I’m in favor of the death penalty - perhaps it just perpetuates violence. Also, I don’t know if I could send a little girl’s father to death, even if he did kill her mother; in a way, I think it’s his responsibility to explain what he did to Dianne when she is older.
I say this as one of Dianne’s best friends - the tragedy of her death has made me look at many things in a different light. There is not a day that has passed since her death that I don’t talk to her or consider what she would be doing if she were alive - or, what she wants me to do to bring this to closure.
SU - in response to your Feb. 9th post: none of us have too much time on our hands, Dianne’s death and the repercussions for her loved ones is not something we think about because we have idle time, we think about it and discuss it at length with passion is because we need to - this is not a train wreck that we crane our necks to watch as we speed by - we’re in it.
homesweethome said,
February 20, 2008 at 6:32 pm
Desiree, I don’t know the statistics on the death penalty and DV. If you need to know the answer, you might try making contact with the domestic violence hotline their website is http://www.ndvh.org/. I have covered some cases on here that prosecutors have made capital cases and some have resulted in the death penalty. Sometimes the family has requested the death penalty not be an issue and that is often done for the children’s sake.
I believe the victim’s family should have input when it comes to the question of death penalty.
Margaret said,
March 21, 2008 at 4:14 am
Family and Friends of Dianne-
I live in Queen Creek Arizona where the murder of Dianne took place. I was moved by Dianne’s story from the moment I heard the news reports. I am a survivor of domestic violence both as a child and then later as a wife. I am blessed to be alive today. I have decided to try to turn this tragedy of Dianne’s murder into good for others. I am in the process of opening a domestic violence shelter in Queen Creek. I am ashamed to say that our community currently has NO safe place, NO shelters for women and their children to go if they are threatened by domestic violence. Maybe Dianne, Roz, and the baby would have left if they had had a safe place to go…we will never know.
I am writing hoping someone will get word of the shelter to Dianne’s family. I would like to open this facility in her memory. Another of my hearts desires is for Roz to know that a safe place has been built in her Mothers memory that may save another little girl or boy from having to have to go thru what she did. Thank you everyone.
Iowa Gal said,
March 22, 2008 at 10:07 pm
What a wonderful gesture. Good luck in your mission.
Desiree said,
March 26, 2008 at 9:28 pm
Margaret,
Thank you so much for what you’re doing - this means alot to me directly as one of Dianne’s best friends and I know it will mean a lot to her family; including Roz. Rest assured they will know and if possible, perhaps we can all meet and discuss ways we can help. For example, I’m happy to have a fundraiser or some sort of a “supplies drive” for whatever you need: blankets, beds, televisions, kitchen materials, etc…
You can contact me directly anytime at desireesorensongroves@yahoo.com
Thanks,
Desiree
notenough time said,
May 8, 2008 at 1:31 pm
I just wanted to say Im disappointed with the outcome of this.20 years is not enough time for a murdering sick pervert like that.I hope his fellow inmates make him feel welcome…..everyday for the rest of his sick perverted life……then I hope he rots in hell. To all dennys fans……how do you feel to have supported some murdering sicko like that.
Desiree said,
May 8, 2008 at 1:48 pm
Not enough time,
Many people may not be aware that Denny pleaded guilty to 2nd degree murder yesterday and is looking at between 16-20 years. However, he agreed to this plea so that his “dirty secret” would not be revealed. You see, as part of his plea agreement, a Grand Jury (who was going to begin deliberations on his child pornography charges today) will now not go forward.
Denny killed Dianne because she had found out about the child pornography and threated to leave him and/or let his “secret” be known to the world - but he wouldn’t have that. He killed her to silence her and she died to protect her little girls.
I have to agree and ask those who have supported Denny all this time - did you know who you were defending?
su said,
May 9, 2008 at 4:07 am
Well….to all that have condemed me on here..and telling me to take a hike..I am Denny’s oldest sister…and I meant no disrespect..but what right do you have to judge anyone..n one of us were there..Until you get the whole story and not what you read in the media..maybe you should pray about it..I dont know what happend there and no one does that is on here…give it a rest and if Denny did do it, he will have to answer to God for it, not one of you who have condemed..Thank you
anonymous said,
May 9, 2008 at 4:31 am
Does anyone really know the WHOLE story? I don’t think they do even the people close to both Dianne and Denny. There are some of you that attack SU and other’s because they are not blind to the fact that there are two sides to every story. For those of us who have known Denny his whole life and those that have known Dianne be open to the fact that there are always secrets. I, in no way condone what Denny allegedly, did so do not misunderstand me.
No one mentions the fact that there was a similar crime in a nearby neighborhood that matches this crime almost to the T. No one mentions that he was married for 25 years with 2 other children and there was no violence or sexual misconduct. No one mentions how or where this “guilty little secret” was discovered. No one mentions that there was no weapon found. Is everyone so quick to make a conclusion that they ignore facts. Cold hard facts!
You all mention the death penalty. You can all make that decision? You are no more God than Denny. You all are closed minded and putting the knife in his hands and make him out to be playing God but NONE of you know what happened and NONE of you ever will so you have no right to judge.
He was processed through the justice system and a jury made of people just like yourselves decided that 16 - 20 was his punishment. The man is 51 years old and has failing health do you ever think he will actually see the light of day again?
There is mention that Roz is not Denny’s and that she should never see his family again. He was her dad even if he isn’t her father. But her sister is his and they need to support each other more now than ever and to create a wedge and a separation like that is damaging. And the people saying it are the ones causing the damage now.
He did something extremely wrong IF he did it. God and Denny and Dianne know and that is it, unless there was someone else. I pray that he didn’t do it and I pray for Dianne and the kids involved and not only the two she had.
Desiree said,
May 9, 2008 at 1:29 pm
Anonymous,
Denny CONFESSED to 2nd degree murder.
He ADMITTED that he did it.
No jury heard the details, it was a plea bargain.
The sentencing is up to a judge.
And yes, Denny is 51 and has had health issues. However, Dianne was 36 when she was indisputably killed by him. I am actually not a proponent of the death penalty but I cannot feel sorry for him being in jail.
Su,
Actually, next to Dianne’s children, I feel the most sorry for your family. You are not guilty by association and I can understand your need to continue to believe in him. However, you must also understand our need to ensure the blame is not continued to be placed on the victim, Dianne. It is unfair, unjust and ultimately exceedingly hurtful to the very children everyone wishes to protect.
Connie said,
May 9, 2008 at 9:00 pm
Desiree - I have a question for you. When did the child pornography charge come about, I never heard anything about this before I read it here. Also
do you know how Dianne found out about this? Since Denny has pleaded guilty to 2nd degree murder does this mean there will be no trial and it’s all over on the court side of view??
jutta said,
May 10, 2008 at 3:32 pm
I need to say that I think Sue needs to stay off this site if she can’t handle the whole truth. Denny admitted to the Sheriff that he killed Dianne the day Dianne was found stabbed to death in her home. She was found beaten and bloodied by her daughter Roz who is not Dennys’ daughter. Roz came home from school and found her mother. She made the 911 call by herself while her dead mother was on the floor and her baby sister of 18 months was upstairs in her crib. Dianne had been dead for about 8 hours. Denny admitted to second degree murder which I think is wrong- the idiot should get the death penalty. So Sue, who are you trying to kid? We know Dennis killed her he admitted it not just once but often, where have you been? Who are we to judge? As far ass I know if a person kills another in this the U.S.A. there are repercussions and one of them is the Death Penalty. That is the law of the land. So tell me again why Dennis should not be considered guilty when he himself said the day of the MURDER - THAT HE KILLED DIANNE!! He had no thought to anyone else but himself. Not for his 18 month old daughter upstairs in her crib- who he left in the house all day with her dead mother, or the then 8 year old step daughter Roz who came home from school to find her mother dead. He had no thoughts for anyone - even you Su so what does that tell you? HE MURDERED MY FRIEND, I STILL MISS HER, I CAN’T TALK TO HER ANYMORE BUT YOU CAN STILL TALK TO DENNIS. THAT IS NOT FAIR. THE KILLER GETS TO LIVE, THE VICTIM DIES AND HAS TO BE JUDGED BY THE KILLERS FAMILY AND FRIENDS. I pray for Dianne every day and I ask God to care for her family and to guide them. God Bless Them. JUTTA
Iowa Gal said,
May 10, 2008 at 11:11 pm
Where is the justice in him getting to plead 2nd degree murder? That is just a bunch of BS!!! As Jutta said, Dennis still gets to live and have some semblence of a life. I am wondering that even though he plead guilty to 2nd degree murder, does the judge still get to decide what his penalty will be or does he have to sentence him to whatever that charge calls for? We all know what he deserves. It is what it is:COLD BLOODED MURDER and for that he should receive the harshest sentence.
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